r/RS4Dykes

ended up spending most of my summer home in NYC fretting over a bisexual girl that was so stupidly stereotypical. She broke up from a very passionate relationship with a dude from her college who objectively treated her like shit like two months before I met her but she talked about him incessantly. i got set up with her through a mutual friend (who's taste in people I normally really trust) and we went out for basically all of June and July, it was the closest I've gotten to love even though she treated me pretty poorly.

Like I said she would constantly talk about her ex boyfriend (like even detailed how good their sex was like wtf gross), i, in hindsight, paid for way too much of her shit, she so clearly liked my male friends more than me (there was a time I was begging her to come to a party with me and she wouldn't, but when our male mutual friend messaged her she showed up like straight away), and the one time we had sex it was so awful and selfish that it's become a joke between me and my friends.

She finally broke it off with me in late July and I was so crushed, but then it was like "holy fucking shit I dodged a bullet". I realized that she was so male centered and for her I was basically the sweet lesbian that she dated for a little while after the boyfriend she actually cared about. She really wants to be friends and I'm almost inclined to accept it bc she needs female friends.

Is dating bisexual women always this bad?

Anyway I took the breakup pretty hard and randomly decided to follow a hot Slavic futch I went on a date with a year ago and I can't believe it, we are actually going on a date tomorrow!!!!! maybe things will work out if I quit artsy metrosexuals.

and are you more butch or femme? as a young lesbian (like when i was 11), i was very set on adopting a kid, but even then my identity was never focused around one day being a mother. the older i get, the more i want a kid, but adoption doesn't really seem feasible now due to the wait and the costs involved. i can't get my mind around carrying a child myself though personally, it's always been too body-horror-y for me. my personal autonomy is very important to me. i'm more femme so i've run into more of an expectation that i would be the one carrying the child. i went on a few dates with a futch/butch a while back though who was very open to carrying a kid, which was surprising to me. but my friend's butch wife is very averse to carrying a kid because it would cause gender dysphoria for her. is there a correlation between wanting a kid (and wanting/being willing to carrying a child specifically) and butch or femme-ness?

straight people have more of a "path" or relationship ladder than we do. a number of my (older) straight friends are getting married and it's making me feel weird because i know that, if i were straight (especially being raised in a very religious background), that i'd be married by now. i also don't love how some straight people use the institution of marriage to delegitimize lesbian relationships either. a lesbian couple that's been together for 5 years is absolutely more serious than a married straight couple that's known each other for a year. nonetheless, part of me feels like i'm falling behind when my friends are getting married and i'm still single.

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title. I'm writing theology thesis proposals and have thought that, in the alternate timeline, I would be a chaste repressed gay seminarian studying for the priesthood rather than an overworked mostly atheistic grad student. Perhaps I would have a fellow closeted lesbian ordinand that I drew close too but ultimately did not pursue for my love of God. I have been told twice that I bring to mind the hot priest from fleabag.

For me, it somehow managed to be both boring and annoying. My friends loved it, said they cried multiple times, so I kept quiet. But this is my truth — I have written it, people will see it and now I can be free.

Anyone have experience/opinions with lesbian age gaps? Not just talking a few years either lol... Got a number/been chatting w a woman about a decade or two older than me, we’ve only had a few conversations so it’s not like it’s going anywhere imminently, I think it’s just made me generally curious. Anyone w thoughts or experiences to share abt lesbian relationships w significant age gaps?

There's a dead link in the main RS sub for an RS lesbian server. Was curious if there's an active one. If not then would people be interested in starting one?

Specifically painters, sculptor etc etc

i have absolutely no game but im hot. what can i do? there is a flinta cruising night at my local gay bar but i dont know what is expected of me or how to approach anyone. any pointers for me?

i have wasted many years as a serial monogamist, now is my time to shine

Every lez ik is too poor for any and I would never ask because it's obviously evil but I'm super curious if not needing to cater to men romantically/sexually would affect this

If she was more my type it would have been incredibly endearing

I don’t know why I sometimes like seeing guys penetrate women in porn, like it isn’t because of the women’s reactions. First I thought it was the penetration part, but I definitely like seeing the dick move and contracts etc during which a strapon doesn’t? And I feel like when women penetrate with a strapon they aren’t doing the thing men’s butt do while penetrating. I also get turned on by the moans and face of the guy in pleasure and the body hair?
And I masturbate to him doing it idk.

But boobs is just instant to me and how a woman looks.

I am unsure if I am a homosexual or not. I know I get romantic crushes on guys and not women

Ps. Only reason why this is graphic is because I don’t see naked man = aroused , it is like in movement like I wrote earlier , while with women it is different

Most serious to least serious

Dating a visibly trans/enby person -> dating women -> dating only cis men