[PA] Landlord receiving mail and packages to our address as an excuse to “keep an eye” on the house
I’ve been renting a house for over 3 years. The landlord has used this address for her mail (and her dead husband’s) the entire time despite living an hour away. It caused some issues at the beginning of the lease because she never mentioned it prior to us moving in, and is now becoming an issue again. I’m wondering if we have any kind of legal recourse or just need to deal with it and plan to move at the end of our lease.
She was using it as an excuse to come up into the property and walk around the yard and occasionally even looked in the windows if the curtains were open. She made it clear she has no intention of changing her mailing address, and that she likes to have a reason to “come by and keep an eye on the place”. A few months in, after several calls/texts from her about not liking how we had the yard set up, questioning things she had seen in our trash, comments on our furniture layout, etc., I put my foot down about the lease agreements. Basically the notice she’s supposed to give in writing that she’d be entering the property, and that outside of the obvious regarding damage, we don’t have to get her approval for how we set up the house/yard. I also involved the leasing agency she had used while trying to get it rented who also reiterated the rules she’s supposed to follow.
She continued to use the mailbox, with the agreement that she would inform me if she intended to come onto the property beyond that. It’s been mostly smooth other than her occasionally being borderline accusatory when she was expecting some mail item that wasn’t delivered, and some of our mail being taken by her because she’ll grab everything from the box without going through it.
Fast forward to the past two weeks, and she’s had multiple larger packages delivered here. The first I assumed was a mistake, and USPS had sat it on the mailbox so I left it alone. Apparently it got taken, so I ended up with multiple calls and texts from her about where it was. There’s been several more, all to the front door now, including two delivered today. I’m super uncomfortable with this for numerous reasons. I refuse to bring them inside because I am not taking responsibility for them. Nor do I want to have to chase her down about collecting them. I also don’t like the idea of her having multiple excuses to come right up to my front door and living room window. Our house is raised up considerably from the road and our driveway is long so the curtains and windows are usually open, and she’s obviously proven in the past to be nosy and invasive.
I reached out to her to ask if she could make sure packages are being addressed to her correctly so as to not be left on our door, and her response was that it’s not a big deal for us to have her come by to collect them without notice unless we’re hiding something and don’t want her to find out, and that we shouldn’t need 48 hours to “prepare” for her to be on the property if we’re actually taking care of it. I told her I just don’t like feeling like we’re constantly being randomly checked up on, especially this far in. We’ve never paid rent late, she has commented on how clean and well taken care of the house is every time she comes for an inspection, and we’ve only ever reached out for one repair. As well as us not making a big deal over things in the lease she hasn’t kept up with (like snow removal that we’ve had to pay for all three winters so far even though it’s supposed to be included in our rent).
Are our hands just tied on this? I don’t want to move our kids away from this neighborhood because we love it and our neighbors, but this doesn’t feel sustainable or fair. I really hope there’s something we can do because we’re locked in for another 9 months on this lease and it’s going to be miserable if it keeps up.