u/2500mg

any single 20-somethings in philly actually want to stay single?

hey! i’m 23f living in the city and honestly just looking for my people. i feel like i’m constantly losing friends to the "partnered life" and it’s getting a little lonely being the only one not centering my world around a relationship (although love is beautiful..). i've been in that loop before but i am determined to stay evolved and detached from it!

i’ve tried friend apps but it’s mostly people looking for friends "outside their marriage" or just talking about their boyfriends. i’m looking for friendships that focus on self-love and just vibing in the city without the romance pressure.

if you’re in your 20s, live in philly, and are on that same mindset, hit me up! or if you know where the single and happy about it (and sober) crowds hang out, drop a comment.

I recently broke my OMAD (One Meal A Day) streak for a hangout, and it’s been a week long struggle to get back into the rhythm. I’m frustrated because the friend I was with knows I’m doing OMAD, but she didn't seem to take it seriously.

For context, we both struggle with weight, though she is in a higher BMI category and taller than me. My current weight is actually her goal weight, so she doesn't always see why I’m being so strict. We had agreed beforehand to eat before meeting up and just focus on walking and chatting.

While we were out with a third friend (who doesn't have weight issues), she spotted a dessert place and insisted we go in. I didn't want to make a scene or seem "unhealthy" by refusing, so I gave in. Once inside, she made a "joke" that was actually pretty pointed: "I better not be the only one filling up my cup." I felt pressured to eat just so she wouldn't feel alone in her choice. I didn't fill mine all the way, but I still felt upset with myself afterwards.

I understand she probably just didn't want to feel judged or alone, but it feels like self-sabotage like she wanted to take me down with her. It’s hard to stay disciplined when the people who know your goals don't respect the boundaries you've set.

Has anyone else dealt with "toxic" sabotage from friends who are also on a weight loss journey? How do you bring this up without sounding like you're judging their choices?

Lol i know this isn't really related to bipolar but Her new album is helping me cope.. "maggots for brains" when she says My day was so mundane i don't think i left the house, I'm a zombie in my body (depression) "my way" and here's the part where the girl gets pissed and the girl is me (irritability) "the cure" ~kinda how medication or love isn't the cure-all.

Just last year I was (hypomanic but) making a new friend quite literally every week! Now I'm stabilized/slightly depressed and it seems like every time I meet someone I just want them to back off. Or I'm very particular with who i connect with. And maybe that's for the better because hypomanic me would think anyone and EVERYONE is a friend. I just feel so negative realizing my current friends and new friends don't particularly feel like what I need.

I've been joining random group events in my city (been stable-ish for a while, a tad depressed) and I noticed 1:1 I typically do well in communication, but when I'm in a structured group setting I can hardly talk! I think it's overwhelm of perception since people can have a hive-mind? Either way, I end up wanting to make up lies/get reactions/speak limited. I wish I can be myself but it feels like I don't even know how to act accordingly!

Please tell me someone else understands. In hypomania I get so excited to create new friendships that I don't understand it is shallow to have so many friends rather than a select few and now that I'm depressed I generally don't want to see my friends. I only get excitement over meeting new ones. Yet I crave a stable balanced friendship I just feel like everyone I meet doesn't align. I guess friendships are still relationships so I have to go through the process of meeting and dating but man it is exhausting!

Hi! Looking for someone to have me over tonight and we can have sex and then cuddle while watching tv or listening to music. Wholesome post, please be clean and have condom! Please send me a message if this sounds fun!

i'm so happy i cut out a lot of food noise, surprisingly i still have energy to walk 6-8k steps, i do get headaches, i do sort of cheat by having a coffee (iced shaken espresso 90cal) and a tea (0-100cal depending on how im feeling or need some honey), then i have a hearty dinner! but feeling my stomach growl felt amazing it felt like my body was truly cleaning itself. if anyone else wants to share what day of omad they are please lets chat here!

It's been 7 months of depression and slowly but surely I'm starting to realize that each and every person I've been close to I've noticed theres a reason why I don't want to be around them anymore. It can be the slightest things, it makes me sad to think I don't want to be around anyone anymore when that's all I wanted growing up. I spent my day alone today, Talking to strangers helps but it's so isolating knowing I can't have the closeness other people have.

i have this reoccurring dream where the setting feels like i'm in highschool because im surrounded by friends and aquaintances i know from highschool but the age could be college. anyways everytime i'm in a stressful/isolating experience there's a guy that's apparently my boyfriend who randomly saves me from it and it's happened twice but he's a soccer coach and he takes breaks and suddenly he's here to save me. last scene was we were cuddling in his apartment and he had 2 roomates and i was trying to decipher who they were but i had no clue.