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Last part is figurative obviously 🙃.
I had beautiful hair to my waist before. It was black and my natural is light brown. I went through a quarter life crisis last year and decided I missed my natural hair. I used ai editing apps to see what my hair would look like grown out and it is absolutely stunning and 10 times better than my long black hair was. I know I could have just dyed it but I really wanted my natural colour precisely. It is light brown with blonde highlights. I just feel like it couldn’t be achieved by a hairdresser the same and I wouldn’t have the same colour as my kids who got my natural colour. We also are not in the financial position to afford to bleach my hair multiple times (what it would of took to remove all the black) + dye it from the bleached colour when it is waist length.

I cut it in October last year to my breasts and he didn’t love it but tolerated it. Last month was when I done the big chop to my chin. Edited to add, the only reason I chopped it more (I didn’t want to) as there was still a lot of black left on the ends so it was a final Cut to get the remaining bit out. His affection seems very performative lately and intimacy he will reject over the stupidest things. Today it was because the house smelled 😂. We were out all day and all the windows were shut. Not sure what a house should smell like in that instinct.

I just don’t know where to go from here? This guy is balding in one part of his head and I have never made him feel less than. At one point he was 117kgs (he is short) and I still made love to him constantly. I just feel so heart broken that I’m finding out after 9 years together and 3 kids how superficial he is. I could have gotten cancer tomorrow and this is how he would have carried on if I needed to have chemo etc. People don’t have to keep the same look as when you first meet them, I’m not sure how that gives people the right to change how they treat you.

For reference, I always tie my hair up anyways so it’s not like it’s in his face this short bob. It’s literally tied up in a bun. I feel heartbroken. We were literally about to move across the country together away from family to have a fresh start with our kids.

I’m less concerned about the 7 year old than the 5 year old. I am starting to learn 6.30-7.30 is too early but if I don’t put them to bed earlier I notice they have eye bags all weak and start being really hyperactive and as I call it, in a “shit starting mood” with each other. Crying and falling asleep on the lounge etc.

I lay with them for about 20-30 mins until I think they’re asleep and then when I get out I find out they were still awake and being silly in their room.

I need to wake up at 6.30 in the mornings and I like them to sleep till 7.30 but once they hear me awake in the house at 6.30 they are up to.

I really don’t know what to do

I know it’s not 1950s anymore but I still think a lot of men would be uncomfortable with it for whatever reason. I’m a photographer (not cars) but would really love to shoot cars and bikes as that is my main hobby outside of work. Especially bikes.

I don’t fell shy approaching women but men I am a little anxious about.

I don’t get paid as it’s just a hobby for me but I’m still nervous about approaching males and asking if they would like to work together. I also think maybe it might come across as flirty idk?

I am working on setting up an automotive page so it is a bit more professional and they can see my work and then message me personally but I’m still getting into it. Any advice to start with. I’m moving to Melbourne soon and buying a better camera so if anyone wants a free photoshoot feel free to drop your @ 😂.

Besides outdoor play and sport?
My kids are 7, 5, 3.

These are the things we have tried so far that failed:
-Sand pit - through sand everywhere over the backyard.
-Slow ride ons or balance bikes. Boring to them.
-Drawing with textas and crayons. Lids get lost. Crayons get broken.
-Imaginative play with dolls or other toys. They also find it boring.
-Blocks and Lego and puzzles are hit and miss but mostly miss.
-Printable work sheets or books they would prefer to rip paper.
-Playdough is a hit at times but we only allow it about once or twice a year as they do start getting destructive with it and throwing it around.
-Library and books. We do books at bed time but theyre not big book people. I will read to them regardless however.
-Cooking and gardening I wouldn’t say is a miss but it’s not something they enjoy or love to do.

Somethings we found a success, some they are growing out of:
-Roller coaster track outside with the little buggy cart
-Any other fast plastic trike that gives them a little adrenaline thrill.
-Water play outside.
-Balls. All kind.
-Park and arcades obviously
-Little hot wheel cars. They yeet them around the house but hey it’s still technically playing.
-Stickers

And that’s all I got for now 😂

I want to try and do a leave art collect activity sometime this week, will let you know how it goes.

I’m studying at university but still trying to decide if this job is for me.

I’m from Aus and typically it’s 4 days on, 4 days off. Sometimes with a break in between before switch to night shift, sometimes not. So it would be Monday Tuesday day shift, then maybe Wednesday Thursday off and then Thursday Friday night shift, and so forth. Sometimes the work is consecutive and no days off in between.

I’m just curious what it’s like in your country. I’m not hired yet so would like to know the worst it can get and see if that actually occurs in my country to see if it’s really for me. If it’s not, I still am enjoying my degree.

Bless you guys for all you do and hopefully I can join soon

Boy mom/dad heavy question but obviously appreciate all responses.
I have girl (7), boy (5) and boy (3).

Our current city we have a lot of similar aged cousins who they see frequently, more girls than boys. 5 girls and 2 boys. I know it’s not a lot of cousins but it’s more than we will have in our new city, which is the title. 12, 10 and their youngest is 5 like my middle child.

We are moving because our city is no longer affordable and we don’t find those cousin/aunty/uncle relationships to be the healthiest influences they should be. Our new city their sons are all really great kids, the parents are really responsible and have their life together (exactly what we want around our kids). But the age gap does worry us a bit. I think growing up I had cousins maybe 5 years older than me and we didn’t really have a relationship. It’s more than 5 years for my younger 2.
I know my kids look up to them a lot and really want to be around them but I’m not sure if they will want to play and hang around them as they get older. They are quite good with younger kids as they obviously have a younger brother but they are starting to get into that pre teen/ teen stage.

Just curious of some stories if your kids play with older kids or not. They will be going to school so obviously making their own friends. But I think it will be nice for our kids to get along as well

Sorry for the longer than necessary post for such a straight forward question 😂

I just bought my car (1 year old) and haven’t tuned it yet. But booked in for next week for stage 1. I’m so excited. I came from an Audi RS3 so I have definitely found the golf to be much slower of course. Not gonna lie I miss the flying feeling

I posted this earlier today and actually meant to post it on here instead.

I’m curious on what everyone has to say in here

I’m sorry I just need to rant. No shit kids need to be parented. If your children are neurodivergent (mine are diagnosed adhd and asd) no they won’t listen or change their behaviour because I take their iPad for 3 months or make them sit in a naughty time out corner for 4-5 minutes. Their brain doesn’t allow them to have cause and reaction or impulse control like neurotypical children. It’s so tiring trying to explain. I still do displicine my kids the same way, I don’t think it’s a “get out of free from trying” card because my children are neurodivergent but in my brain I do know deep down it doesn’t work. I have seen a great difference in them being medicated for their adhd and allowing their autistic differences to thrive. For example, my son has trouble sitting still and sleeping so I let him do lots of physical activity and if he can’t sleep, I allow him to get up and don’t force him and then let him nap. It’s not his fault.

Thank you if you listened. I thought it was hard being adhd and asd myself, having kids who are also adhd and asd is a different ball game 🥲. Especially when you have parents who have NO IDEA trying to give parenting advice.

I’d say majority of riders have tats so I thought someone could point me in the right direction. I’m completely new to Melbourne so not sure where to go. Unfortunately with winter coming I think it’s time to invest some money into some other hobbies temporarily (yes I am a little bitch to ride in the cold).

Located North suburbs (Hume) but happy to ride or drive 🥺

Husband (31m) working, wife (28f) sahm.

So when we first got married my husband was in a job where he done overtime, and it was good to support our first child. We could comfortably afford shopping, take our child out and even used to shout other people a lot. We should have spent a lot of that money saving instead of spending and shouting people etc but I guess being young (early 20s) we didn’t really know any better having no one to teach us. We also rent not own so it’s not like we have any equity from this either.

Of course cost of living has happened. He sometimes gets overtime, but mostly not as his company doesn’t like it $$$. We now have 3 kids later and we were managing okay until cost of living has increased. For example our rent is now 720 a week. Our family car is 14 years old so things need repairing on it. And just of course a whole heap of bills that come with being adults. As well as obviously grocery increase.

I am not a spender at all. I live within my means because I have to. Every time I do take my kids out to do something and pay with our credit card, I feel guilty and of course it is more debt…

I am not in a position to work as I will lose money on childcare and my kids are not all school aged. But am happy to do some part-time work in 2 years when they are all in school to help manage. Updated to add, I do delivery driving when they go to bed but I usually only make $50-$100, which goes back to petrol as well.

Anyways tl;dr, if you’re in a traditional form of marriage, where you both agree for the husband to work and you both agree for the wife to stay home with the kids and most weeks the provider isn’t even working 45 hours and doesn’t want to look at another job, is it rude of the wife to put pressure and start conversations? Wife is NOT spending outside of means. Wife just wants to not stress and be comfortable with regular household bills

Moving from Sydney where it’s not. Funny enough if this is the case, even though Melbourne courses are technically more expensive they actually end up being similar in price because of bike hire. Of course you don’t have to hire one of their bikes but if you have a bigger bike it obviously is harder to pass slow speed stuff without a lot of practice.

Curious about Melbourne. Thank you!

I definitely notice the cultural change. Everyone is very to themselves and very focused on ‘I’. I find there are a lot of middle eastern people who are white washed too which is even more confusing. It is incredibly lonely. Even just small things like greeting friends (I’m female), we don’t kiss on the cheek hello. I’m used to always being close with my friends overseas and always being at each other’s homes and getting to know one another’s families and becoming part of their families.

I don’t know what to achieve from this post but I guess just wanted to see if anyone can relate. I think people who have siblings or cousins local make it helps but I unfortunately don’t

For me, it was when a guy on a r1 came flying past me one day getting ready to take off at a traffic light so fast my whole car shook. I always loved bikes but that was the moment I knew. Instead of doing a boomer angry fist, I found myself wanting to chase him and keep up.