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Hi everyone,

Same question as above. I am a woman interested in the Coptic Orthodox Church but I have heard you can't marry outside the Oriental orthodox church. So then say you are not a Copt how can you date to marry other Copts/Oriental orthodox men? How does dating work in the church ( North America and Canada)?

Edit: To clarify I am thinking I may convert down the line, but as a non-copt I do wonder how then dating and marriage may be for me/ or even not be for me. As i do wonder if Copts would be open to date a south Asian ( I am aware of Malankara orthodox) but I am referring to Coptic members which are more common where I am at. Also how does dating even work out?

Hi everyone,

I don't understand the Sheldon hate...yes he can be a bit abrasive at times coz he doesn't understand a lot of social behaviour yet he really cares for his family and is willing to get over his phobia (dog scene) and even give up his dream for a computer when he feels it affects his family.

He genuinely cares for missy when she is upset and running away. A lot of his mistakes or humour in the show are his lack of social awareness, not him being malicious.

Mary does all the chores and takes care of 3 kids one being like Sheldon. George isn't a terrible dad but we see him eating and drinking almost always without consideration of his health. George has some really warm moments with his family and Sheldon but he rarely is proactive. Even for the dad daughter date with Missy, it was Mary who convinced him to do so.

I don't think Mary ever on purpose ignores Georgie or Missy. She tries many times to bond with Missy especially as a girls day out or making a Barbie trophy etc.. I know everyone hates Mary for being a Christian. Mary knows Missy's first day at school, even the gossip between Heather M and Heather B. she is excited with Brenda about how Missy is popular. She hangs up Missy's coloring page when she gets an A even when Sheldon has written and published a huge paper the same day.

Tbh it's coz Mary loved Sheldon this way, Sheldon became something. Had Mary neglected him or treated him with mediocrity, he would never have the confidence to be anything as he would be constantly ridiculed. I am aware of the times she didn't wanna send him to college but other than that with computer and all Mary literally was the driving force for his success.

Tbh I know a lot of this is scripted and people are interested for 15 mins of fame, but I still wonder how do people who are messy like Sophie and Pedro and Colt get multiple dates and different men/women interested in them? Sophie is fake and full of plastic surgery whereas Vanja atleast is a self made and somewhat kind woman, why can't she find a good man? I am so confused because even in real-life really messy people find dates.

Same question as title? I am asking this purely out of curiosity lol.

So I know a couple in my family who is 60 years old, they have been married for like 25 -26 years. One night wife found 2 images of a woman on husbands personal google drive. The images one was a rajasthani dress, and another of the woman's wedding dress (pretty old). The woman would be idk 50ish years old. The wife got angry and asked and husband said he doesnt remember where he got those images from (seems a lie). On a lot of discussion, he stated that he downloaded images from fb, they are two different woman. One of thwe woman is whom he currently works with (she is also widow of his co-worker, and her son also works with them). He said its friendly and formal/work relationship and denied any allegations of an affair. But he doesn't really save images of his own family so saving these two pictures on his drive is suspicious. Also the both woman seem the same, aka woman's wedding pic seems to be her younger picture. He says they are separate. He felt guilty and also apologized calling this his foolishnesss and mistake, but again denied any affair.

Coincidenlty, the woman's current Whatsapp dp is the same rajasthani dress pic and she hasnt updated her fb since a while. Hence, the whole explanation of him downloading years ago from Facebook and forgetting is less plausible. He also would not have screenshot the DP on his phone, as WhatsApp doesnt allow it (unless he used a computer but he isnt very tech savvy). The woman also somehow has his wife's number and keeps viewing her whatsapp statuses immediately.

On finding the photo wife called the number of the dp, and the woman's son picked up the phone and said he didn't even know the wife (maybe mother/woman operating the phone as it seems to be a work phone). He also got mad on any allegations of the wife asking how these pictures came to her husbands phone (as she thinks most likely the woman sent those pics on whatsapp). In the past the wife has seen them talk on the same number (husband and the woman many times). She has checked their chats and hasn't found anything except good morning messages from the husband to the woman, woman didn't respond in any messages (unless he deleted it), but recently all the messages were deleted.

Wife is confused. Did the woman send those pics and is stalking the wife, as she is interested in the husband or did he download from somewhere? Either way it is the husbands fault for saving them as it crosses a boundary- but do you think as he says he downloaded it out of curiosity/liking and forgot/had no bad intention or does he have crush/romantic intent??

Is the woman also really interested or is the husband just being a creep by somehow getting the pictures?

Also for context husband isn't too tech savvy and has a habit of lying to wife/evasive nature. He also lives in another city for work and travels back and forth home. He knows this family (woman's husband was coworker, since a while).

He denies all affair but did feel guilty, especially as his daughter came to know and questioned him. He doesn't give a clear answer due to his nature. Wife is though very hurt as they have been married so long, and she is especially wants to know if it is likely curiosity/validation seeking behaviour that made husband save the pics or if he has a crush. She is especially worried as she plans to visit her children abroad for a year, and now doubts if the husband is/will cheat.

Context: He is usually evasive for the smallest things , conflict- avoidant, and likes to delete forwards/images in whatsapp as he thinks it will fill his phone. These two images were in his drive and not gallery (is that more sus).

Wife has 3 main questions:

1.) Is this as he says stupid aesthetic attraction to the dress/image and less mindful saving and then realizing its foolish/bad as he likes validation from her.

OR

2.) Does he have a crush/emotional cheating?

3.) Did woman/co-worker send those pics as she is interested in him and so stalking wife's whatsapp statuses or did he download from somewhere (as stated he isn't the most tech savvy)

So I know a couple in my family who is 60 years old, they have been married for like 25 -26 years. One night wife found 2 images of a woman on husbands personal google drive. The images one was a rajasthani dress, and another of the woman's wedding dress (pretty old). The woman would be idk 50ish years old. The wife got angry and asked and husband said he doesnt remember where he got those images from (seems a lie). On a lot of discussion, he stated that he downloaded images from fb, they are two different woman. One of thwe woman is whom he currently works with (she is also widow of his co-worker, and her son also works with them). He said its friendly and formal/work relationship and denied any allegations of an affair. But he doesn't really save images of his own family so saving these two pictures on his drive is suspicious. Also the both woman seem the same, aka woman's wedding pic seems to be her younger picture. He says they are separate. He felt guilty and also apologized calling this his foolishnesss and mistake, but again denied any affair.

Coincidenlty, the woman's current Whatsapp dp is the same rajasthani dress pic and she hasnt updated her fb since a while. Hence, the whole explanation of him downloading years ago from Facebook and forgetting is less plausible. He also would not have screenshot the DP on his phone, as WhatsApp doesnt allow it (unless he used a computer but he isnt very tech savvy). The woman also somehow has his wife's number and keeps viewing her whatsapp statuses immediately.

On finding the photo wife called the number of the dp, and the woman's son picked up the phone and said he didn't even know the wife (maybe mother/woman operating the phone as it seems to be a work phone). He also got mad on any allegations of the wife asking how these pictures came to her husbands phone (as she thinks most likely the woman sent those pics on whatsapp). In the past the wife has seen them talk on the same number (husband and the woman many times). She has checked their chats and hasn't found anything except good morning messages from the husband to the woman, woman didn't respond in any messages (unless he deleted it), but recently all the messages were deleted.

Wife is confused. Did the woman send those pics and is stalking the wife, as she is interested in the husband or did he download from somewhere? Either way it is the husbands fault for saving them as it crosses a boundary- but do you think as he says he downloaded it out of curiosity/liking and forgot/had no bad intention or does he have crush/romantic intent??

Is the woman also really interested or is the husband just being a creep by somehow getting the pictures?

Also for context husband isn't too tech savvy and has a habit of lying to wife/evasive nature. He also lives in another city for work and travels back and forth home. He knows this family (woman's husband was coworker, since a while).

He denies all affair but did feel guilty, especially as his daughter came to know and questioned him. He doesn't give a clear answer due to his nature. Wife is though very hurt as they have been married so long, and she is especially wants to know if it is likely curiosity/validation seeking behaviour that made husband save the pics or if he has a crush. She is especially worried as she plans to visit her children abroad for a year, and now doubts if the husband is/will cheat.

Context: He is usually evasive for the smallest things , conflict- avoidant, and likes to delete forwards/images in whatsapp as he thinks it will fill his phone. These two images were in his drive and not gallery (is that more sus).

Wife has 3 main questions:

1.) Is this as he says stupid aesthetic attraction to the dress/image and less mindful saving and then realizing its foolish/bad as he likes validation from her.

OR

2.) Does he have a crush/emotional cheating?

3.) Did woman/co-worker send those pics as she is interested in him and so stalking wife's whatsapp statuses or did he download from somewhere (as stated he isn't the most tech savvy)

So I know a couple in my family who is 60 years old, they have been married for like 25 -26 years. One night wife found 2 images of a woman on husbands personal google drive. The images one was a rajasthani dress, and another of the woman's wedding dress (pretty old). The woman would be idk 50ish years old. The wife got angry and asked and husband said he doesnt remember where he got those images from (seems a lie). On a lot of discussion, he stated that he downloaded images from fb, they are two different woman. One of thwe woman is whom he currently works with (she is also widow of his co-worker, and her son also works with them). He said its friendly and formal/work relationship and denied any allegations of an affair. But he doesn't really save images of his own family so saving these two pictures on his drive is suspicious. Also the both woman seem the same, aka woman's wedding pic seems to be her younger picture. He says they are separate. He felt guilty and also apologized calling this his foolishnesss and mistake, but again denied any affair.

Coincidenlty, the woman's current Whatsapp dp is the same rajasthani dress pic and she hasnt updated her fb since a while. Hence, the whole explanation of him downloading years ago from Facebook and forgetting is less plausible. He also would not have screenshot the DP on his phone, as WhatsApp doesnt allow it (unless he used a computer but he isnt very tech savvy). The woman also somehow has his wife's number and keeps viewing her whatsapp statuses immediately.

On finding the photo wife called the number of the dp, and the woman's son picked up the phone and said he didn't even know the wife (maybe mother/woman operating the phone as it seems to be a work phone). He also got mad on any allegations of the wife asking how these pictures came to her husbands phone (as she thinks most likely the woman sent those pics on whatsapp). In the past the wife has seen them talk on the same number (husband and the woman many times). She has checked their chats and hasn't found anything except good morning messages from the husband to the woman, woman didn't respond in any messages (unless he deleted it).

Wife is confused. Did the woman send those pics and is stalking the wife, as she is interested in the husband or did he download from somewhere? Either way it is the husbands fault for saving them as it crosses a boundary- but do you think as he says he downloaded it out of curiosity/liking and forgot/had no bad intention or does he have crush/romantic intent??

Is the woman also really interested or is the husband just being a creep by somehow getting the pictures?

Also for context husband isn't too tech savvy and has a habit of lying to wife/evasive nature. He also lives in another city for work and travels back and forth home. He knows this family (woman's husband was coworker, since a while).

He denies all affair but did feel guilty, especially as his daughter came to know and questioned him. He doesn't give a clear answer due to his nature. Wife is though very hurt as they have been married so long, and she is especially wants to know if it is likely curiosity/validation seeking behaviour that made husband save the pics or if he has a crush. She is especially worried as she plans to visit her children abroad for a year, and now doubts if the husband is/will cheat.

Context: He is usually evasive for the smallest things , conflict- avoidant, and likes to delete forwards/images in whatsapp as he thinks it will fill his phone. These two images were in his drive and not gallery (is that more sus).

Wife has 3 main questions:

1.) Is this as he says stupid aesthetic attraction to the dress/image and less mindful saving and then realizing its foolish/bad as he likes validation from her.

OR

2.) Does he have a crush/emotional cheating?

3.) Did woman/co-worker send those pics as she is interested in him and so stalking wife's whatsapp statuses or did he download from somewhere (as stated he isn't the most tech savvy)

Same as above. I would love to know any differences in practice/doctrine and community. How open is the Syrian orthodox church to inquirers and how large of a population are they in Canada?

Same as title

As the title suggests, I have been exploring both of these traditions. I feel beauty in the community and tradition of the Coptic Orthodox Church but a lot of the saint veneration, fasts, and rituals seem hard. I was extremely interested in the Eucharist but I find it hard as everyone uses the same spoon.

In Pentecostal Church I feel I am free from rituals and obligations but yet I am looking for the full true faith and so I am open to traditions like orthodoxy if they are the true full ( as full as we can achieve) faith.

I loved the sense of community in Copts I right now lack such community myself. Yet I have heard on Reddit how other ethnicities are not readily accepted at times and marriage would be a concern too as I am not a copt by ethnicity.

Tbh if I ever convert it would be for God alone and not men or fear of men. But I am confused on if this exploration is any good or not.

Hi everyone,

Same question as above

Hi everyone,

I am a 24F with PCOS. I had last hair removal - Alma soprano ice and after 4 sessions I was almost hairless and had to shave every like two months. Then it started getting bad with more hair growing like a beard and then even getting darker and stiffer. I have now after almost a year gone to get it done at another technician but same machine. My hair wasn't fully shaved as my skin is sensitive a bit with ingrowns. I got the laser and this new technician said not to shave jn between and exfoliate every other day after fifth day. Usually I would see an effect right away but this time I see zero results it's been day 4. In the past after laser my skin would be glowing and hair growth extremely slow. Right now it's growing at a regular pace. Did my technician do something wrong. I have an event in 2 days and so I think I will need to shave even when she said no ( in the past ast I was told I could shave between sessions easily). Her appointment was also way quicker than the ones I got before

Should I go to another technician? What's going on?

Hi,

So I made a post discusing how I felt guilty for not dating men who were greenish flags who had other flaws or were not really attractive to me.

I got a tonne of negative comments and down votes with many even saying I will regret this when I buy my first cat? Why do men think they are God's gift to women and that having cats is so embarrassing?

Hi everyone,

This is by no means a troll post. I genuinely sometimes feel bad or guilty rejecting men who are seemingly good but aren't the one for me. Most men I have talked to are all Christian, love God, have a stable career or on path to good stability ( can get a good job/ buy a house). Come from nice families and don't have any significant behavioral issues. Half had only one sexual partner because they were unsaved or fell into temptation and the others are virgins. These men are into me and kind overall. Most don't even drink let alone smoke, or drink occasionally only. All of these men wanted marriage and were dating intentionally (not touchy feely to any woman or crass flirting ever) That being said there were some flaws like some still were honest they watched p#rn, or they gossiped to me about drama in their extended family. They were honest of their flaws and accepted them as flaws. Hence, as you can see none of these guys were perfect, but also no one is perfect. But those issues were significant to me.

One guy was a complete green flag, I am someone who is very picky yet I couldn't find a single flaw lol. He was definitely the kind of guy who could lead a home, yet I was not physically attracted to him and we even discussed it. Also he was less emotional/romantic and so there was an emotional mismatch. I feel maybe he would have been less generous and kind too or maybe just had good boundaries. Either way he was very kind and just in my experience with him overall. Yet I couldn't work it out with him due to lack of attraction. My family was sad/mad when I ended talking to him. Similarly none of the other men were bad looking and they were into me, yet I didn't feel an attraction strong enough for me to feel that they could be the one lol.

The way I would think is, if there was an apocalypse and I had to marry to survive. I would marry one of these and we could make it work. But in a world of choice and growth, I genuinely feel God has a better match out for me with whom I will feel at home with.

I make sure to not lead someone on too long and as soon as I feel that I can't ...I end it...yet idk why I feel bad at times lol. I also don't go on in-person dates with these men and end it after a few weeks of talking as I feel I have decided and going in person would be more of a time-pass on my end (like going because I am lonely, bored and the other guy is decent) and leading them on. I know God has someone out there for me so I shouldn't operate with scarcity mindset and accept someone who isn't ideal for me.

What have your experiences been?

Follow up, on my last post. I am curious to know what other women think. I usually ask this question very early during courtship like day 1-2 lol. And I lean towards a no, if I sense there is consistent struggle.

Hi everyone,

I know this has been a problem within our Christian communities and church that a lot of men struggle with lust.I know we all have our own struggles and none are perfect.

That being said I do want my spouse to not consume such material especially when we are dating or married. I am quite open in asking this early on, as why continue when we have different values. Men I talk to have been honest that it's been a minor struggle like 1-2 times a week. While I appreciate their honesty, I still feel weird lol. But again I know perfection doesn't exist.

Should it be wise to see if there is improvement and accountability or best not to override values. I usually ask this within the few initial conversations lol to not waste time.

Edit: to simplify I wanted to ask if I should even date men who struggle. As of now I think I will not marry a man who watches it, am ready to date one who struggles with it minimally only if he is actively trying to combat it.

Edit 2: Thank you for your comments. I do agree it's a sad addiction that has penetrated into our church. That being said in purely my own personal opinion I don't think women should be accountability partners and try to fix this issue in men. I do think men seeking marriage should actively work on this or have worked on this just as they work in other areas (same is true for women. Who struggle). I think if not victorious when dating then this can creep into marriage and that's cheating.

Edit 3: I missed some DMS in my spam chat box, feel free to send them again, as I saw some questions in them.

Hi everyone,

I have been trying to explore Coptic Orthodoxy and learn about the beliefs and traditions. Based on this I came to know that Coptic Orthodox do not allow women who are menstruating to take communion. I saw this as a statement by the pope Shenouda as well. I feel this is a hard stop and concerning as Jesus himself didn't stop the women with the issue of blood and rather even appreciated her faith. Moreover purity laws have been done with in the new testament. This to me is counter to the nature of Christ and God taught in the Bible and hence I would like to learn your opinion if I am mistaken somewhere?