For those who come from ethnicities that speak a language other than English, do people sometimes express shock that you speak perfectly good English?

I know my voice does not match my face, but they often seemed genuinely surprised when I speak. Are people confused when they hear you speak?

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 4 days ago
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I didn't know the lead singer of Blondie-Debby Harry was adopted. Even with her fame her bio mom didn't want a relationship.

Harry was born Angela Trimble on July 1, 1945, ^([3]) At the age of three months, she was adopted and renamed Deborah Ann Harry by Catherine (née Peters) and Richard Harry,^([4])  She is of Scottish ancestry and her biological parents' surnames were Trimble and Mackenzie.^([6]) Harry learned of her adoption at four years old. At first, she decided against locating her birth parents,^([7]) but nonetheless, in the late 1980s,^([8]) located her birth mother, a concert pianist, who chose not to establish a relationship with Harry

u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 9 days ago

Minor problems with door and gas tank door

I have a '26 ranger and I have two minor problems. The door to the gas tank pops open sometimes. That was a constant problem on my 2019 ranger, and it happens to a lesser degree with the new truck. The passenger door behind the drivers side also has not been shutting completely. I have to slam it. I will be driving and the light comes on and I pull over and have to push the door all the way shut. My local dealer says that it would be 6-10 days before they could get to it. I can not be without a vehicle for that long. They told me they only do loaners to people who bought the vehicle from them.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 18 days ago

Debating retiring this year.

I qualify for retirement this year. It won't pay much. As a working Texas teacher, I make around $84K. In retirement I will make half that. Teaching isn't getting easier. Should I start looking at state jobs while I am 53 and still have a shot at getting a new job. Or should I teach until I am old and gray and risk being too old to find a new job? Security vs risk. Potential happiness and change vs. familiarity and all the crap that goes with teaching.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 20 days ago

what is your greatest hurdle as a transracial adoptee? Is it the same as when you were a kid?

When I was a kid, it was being seen with my white family and being embarrassed.

Today it is native language. I could improve my Spanish, but I will still not sound like a native speaker and that will out me as an adoptee. I feel like this has kept me from being accepted on quite a few occasions.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 20 days ago

How many years/ age do you plan on teaching?

I can retire this year if I want. I have been counting down the last few years. But last year, I had a great bunch of kids and admin left me alone. If I can get that again this year, and next then I will likely stay 2 more years. I have 28 years this year and I will be 53 in September. I will have all new admin this year and that is usually what wears me out, not the kids. I also know if I am going to switch careers, I should not wait until I am too old. I also know the state seems to be trying to destroy public schools.

So how long do you plan on staying in education?

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 20 days ago
▲ 44 r/Adopted

Do you ever wonder how your life would have been different if you would have been born into a typical middle-class family who supported, loved, and kept you?

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 20 days ago

Why are many of our parents racist or seem oblivious to racism? Why did they adopt us if they see us as an inferior race?

Most of us are minorities raised by Anglos. Is it saviorism? I was told that not white was inferior. I grew up hating being brown and hating myself because I wasn't white.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 30 days ago

I really appreciate this site.

Growing up in small town Texas there were no other transracial adoptees. I felt all the things that other transracial adoptees feel. The problem was that I did not know it. I thought there was something wrong with me and that I was alone. The internet did not exist when I was young like it does now. Last year at the age of 51, I discovered that there are many like me. People who were raised in a culture that rejected them and were born from another culture in which they did not fit in. I learned that I was not alone. Thank you for sharing and being a member of this community and letting me know that I am not alone.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 1 month ago

Will the US always be a circumcising place or will they be like Australia and begin to abandon this terrible practice?

I don't see it slowing down here in Texas. It seems to be ingrained in the culture. Nobody wants to admit that unnecessary and brutal act was inflicted on them. Also, the US Medical community is all about money so they will continue to push it in order to make a dollar.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 1 month ago

Worried about medication and side effects.

I am diabetic and the doctor prescribed farxiga. One of the side effects is balanitis/yeast infections in uncircumcised men. Years ago my A1C got to 14 and I got a yeast infection for the first and only time. My diabetes is getting bad again. Should I risk it and take this medication? or can do something to prevent this side effect?

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 1 month ago

For those born in a foreign country and adopted in the US, what aided you the most in finding your birth parents?

I was born in Mexico and adopted in the US. I have done the Ancestry DNA test. Those who were successful, what helped you the most?

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 1 month ago

What is a good place to buy and sell sporting goods such as revolver grips other than eBay?

ebay takes too big of a bite from any profit The last two times I sold grips or knives they took almost 20%

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 2 months ago

If you were once embarrassed or ashamed of being uncircumcised what changed how you feel?

For me, it was being with women in college and realizing they really don't care. Also by having sex, I realized that the foreskin plays a role.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 2 months ago

Ethnic food that is native to your culture that you are biologically from-Did you adoptive parents try to expose you to it?

Do you like the food that is native to your biological culture? Did your adoptive parents try to expose you to it? I was adopted from foster care as a toddler. I am of Mexican descent, and my foster parents were Mexican descent. The papers that my adoptive parents received said that I loved Spanish rice. So, they bought canned Spanish rice from Van de Camp and I hated it. They thought my foster parents lied about what I liked. I grew up eating a beans and cornbread made by a white woman of German descent with no flavor. I hated beans. My white adoptive parents hated spicy and the food was bland.

I married a Mexican woman, and I love charro beans and Jalapeno cornbread. Homemade Spanish rice is awesome and not like in a can and I love it. My adoptive parents did not understand.

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u/Ambitious-Client-220 — 2 months ago