u/Areola-chan

When people say "just drink more water" or "sleep 8hours" it's simply not easy. It wasn't for me for a long time but I faced severe consequences because of that and I still suffer from the lack of those things that I did at 17.

And because of that I kind of forced myself to have this habit of drinking enough water and sleeping more.

I went to therapy to fix the sleeping issue btw so I'm not gonna say "just do it" because I know how difficult it is.

But that aside it truly improved my life. I have been sleeping well for 6 years. I sleep adequately. I wake up feeling fresh and energized. I feel my head empty and ready to take challenges that day. I genuinely feel like I can retain memories.

And drinking water also makes me energized.

I have been so consistent with my routine that I didn't notice how horrible life is when you're dehydrated and not sleeping enough. A few weeks ago I had some work that was quite intense so I was very busy. I didn't drink much water and I hadn't slept more than 4 hours. That's when I felt it.

My body was aching. It was like being dried up from inside. Thoughts were cloudy. I was tired. Hungry even though I just ate. Cranky. Moody.

Maybe not as dramatic as I am typing it but I visibly felt how different it was from my usual days.

So yeah I definitely think you should drink a lot of water and sleep enough but YMMV.

Whenever I am asked, what am I feeling in my body, where, how does it feel and what sensations I notice etc. I imagine a lot. I feel a lot and it visually represents in my mind in certain ways. I find it VERY fun and I enjoy this a lot. But I feel like my words fail me. I want them to SEE what I see.

So would it be rude to draw mid session and show them? It barely takes a minute.

I have been taking 55 g of protein daily as per my weight (45kg) and boy, the farts are really awful. People were not kidding. I don't think it's from my protein powder? I'm taking nakpro impact whey isolate.

My diet mainly consists of eggs, skimmed milk, protein powder, soya chunks and occasional chicken breasts.

Luckily for me I have an insane digestive system. Even on extremely low fibre, with 2.5L daily water intake I have never had constipation.

But this level of insanely smelly farts are embarrassing. Especially as a woman. 😭😭Help.

So I want a phone. My requirements are very specific and personalized. So I wanted direct inputs. They removed it (albeit two days later so thankfully I got some comments helping me out).

And they are like "it has been asked multiple times" and linked a basic generic discussion post from the past. The only requirement that was met was the budget. And not the rest of it.

There should be a way to ban these mods for not having "qUaLiTy sOluTiOns" just like how they remove posts for not being high quality.

And that's not the first time it happened!!

I have 10.8k karma, 2 months old account. Tried from pc, from phone. None of it is working at all. My comments are disappearing the moment I hit post. In the same communities that I used to post before. My last comment is from 5 hours ago.

Please check

1. Budget = >20k
2. Sturdy and durable. (I drop my phone a lot and need something sturdy like redmi phones but I heard the recent series are disappointing in camera quality)
3. Less likely to cause motherboard bricking after update. (MUST)
4. Long battery capacity (optional = fast charging)
5. Good camera quality (A MUST)

It is for daily use. I won't be gaming on this one. As long as Youtube does not lag, I am cool with it. Do not care about processors that much, custom UI, storage size, dual sims, gaming phones etc. Just a phone to exist and take some good selfie/pic with it. Don't even need a good quality video.

Today morning I had a dream. It's bizarre as every other dream of mine is. I don't remember much but there was a guy that I have never met in real life. He was the amalgamation of many people I know in real life. He was very sweet and too excited for some reasons.

There was this moment where I was sitting on his lap? Or he pulled me on his lap and hugged from behind. It may seem weird now that I'm typing but it was genuinely very platonic. The feeling of being hugged felt just nice. It felt like being engulfed by a big soft plushie.

When I woke up, this got me thinking how lonely I have been my whole life. My parents neglected me as a kid and I used to think of it as freedom. While other girls were controlled, I was completely let go of. My parents even encouraged me to seek job and move out.

To the point I used to wish if my mom was more controlling, it would mean she cared about me.

Anyways my parents were not horrible or abusive. But their love was non-existent. It was like living with strangers at all times. I have no sad or happy memories from my childhood.

Similarly in school..in college..in work life. I talk to everyone but hardly anyone knows me or remembers me. I'm just forgetful. I exist in the background. I am nobody's favourite but everyone's go-to if they need help. I may or may not always help. I'm not a people's pleaser. Sometimes I wish I was. Maybe I would have had a few friends.

When my ex manager hugged me on my last day of office, I was like "damn that felt good". I cried because while they were toxic, they were the only group of people I partied with for the first time.

Last year I had a friend who I thought would become my best friend. But she also left. But I miss her hugs and her smiles.

I am always there. Always in parties, in workshops, in webinars, in office talks, in groups, in f2f with someone, I am always doing something yet this feeling of being unimportant and loneliness never goes away.

People think women are always surrounded by attention and they probably never feel lonely. They forget about women like me who exist in the background. Who aren't even seen as women sometimes.

This is not a pity party. I feel better by just typing that I feel so lonely that a dream boy hugging me felt so good. It's just pathetic but it's also liberating for some reason?

FYI it's not like I put on some dress and I went "omg I look so fat in it!" To fish for compliments. It's rather the opposite.

I look average/skinny depending on who's looking (because people have different perceptions of what is fat) and what am I wearing.

And I'm medically, metabolically obese. I had my scans done, dietian also told me the same. It's called sarcopenic obesity.

So I'm working out, doing resistance training and eating more protein.. whenever I talk with other fitness enthusiasts they get really offended for some reason whenever I say "oh yeah as an obese person, I do this and that...."

I don't feel shame in being fat or admitting that I'm fat. I just don't think I need to hate myself in order to change myself. I don't wanna remain fat for many reasons. At the same time I don't hate that I became fat. Things happened. I was uneducated. Now I am not. End of the story.

And people just get so pissed off, it's funny. Some tell me I am not fat when I'm saying that's what my report says LMAO. Some just straight up feel uncomfortable that I'm ok with being fat. That I'm not beating myself over. Some try to make me feel bad by telling how fit they are and I didn't even realise what they were doing until 3 days later I'd be like "oh shit they were flexing on me".

Oh I also had people try to overfeed me because to them I look "fine" and I should just poison myself with carb slops.

I'm 147 cm (4'10ish) and 45 kg (roughly around 97-101 lbs fluctuations)

And I had a DEXA scan done which showed I had 42% of body fat at 25 years old. Luckily my organs are well protected and muscle mass was just barely below minimum threshold but I need to build muscles which I always avoid. 42% was a very scary number.

I'm not skinny but I appear "average" to others. I'm Asian so in our country I am probably chubby or morbidly obese depending on who looks. That's not the point.

Point is even when I clearly mention my weight, height, my bf % people still think I'm lying like how can I be fat at 45 kg?

It feels so frustrating. I don't want to post my pics to prove it because I fear negative comments but if anyone had the slightest knowledge about bodies, they'd know I'm medically obese!!

And I'm not talking about the general population. It happened in the fitness community. Petite doesn't naturally mean skinny. It just means smaller.

Yesterday, I did some basic resistance training but afterwards I started feeling terrible like I felt like puking, I felt tired and I didn't understand why. I clearly mentioned in the post what exercises I did, how many sets and how frequently I work out etc. I mentioned that I didn't do anything too difficult.

You know what mistake I made?

I accidentally posted in a general female fitness sub (I'm a woman) when I was supposed to post it in a petite fitness sub.

I made the mistake of mentioning that I was 147 cm and 45 kg.

That's it.

They started to tell me "EAT MORE". Literally yelling at me to eat. Apparently such "small" body needs more fuel.

Someone even said I'm having a heart attack apparently.

Turns out I just had a gas problem and after I burped I felt better. When I replied the same to someone, they downvoted me. For just saying "thanks it makes sense. I burped and had a protein shake. Now I'm feeling much better"

Y'all...for people who work out regularly, they don't how body works at all, do they? Smaller bodies require less fuel and it's not like I was starving myself. I just work out in the morning with an empty stomach as a habit.

And I'm also not some skinny girl. I'm just average build. You can even check my BMI.

But they thought I was "flexing" my weight when I literally just wanted to provide more context about me.

I'm 147cm, 45kg.

I did a few reps of calf raises, glute bridges, squats and reverse lunges. Took enough time in between to properly breathe and allow myself to relax.

It's morning. I haven't eaten anything. Drank water in between the sets.

But I feel so beyond tired. Puking even. It's not even like I did some heavy exercises.

I have noticed that while mindfulness has some definitions or how to do it, most people have their own variants to it.

So I'm curious, what is mindfulness for you? What are the processes that you do? From start to end. How do you sit, where, or do you even sit at all? Is it an informal mindfulness? Or is it a "proper" one? Do you use the leaves passing by the river analogy for your thoughts or are you more creative?

I have a very healthy menstruation cycle. Happens exactly on the 28th day. No mood swings. No heavy flow. Never missed a single period in my life. My skin stays clear. Periods Lasts 3 days at most and that's all.

I do have period poops at times but that's also manageable.

However...

However on the first day..some months it will pain so much that I feel like screaming out loud. I manage it by walking, doing light strength training or laying down with a hot water bottle. I cannot sit. I would rather die. The pelvic area or butt side hurts like a bitch. Toes curl in pain. It feels like someone is ripping me open from the inside.

It only happens on the first day or second day at most if I'm unlucky. Sometimes it takes only walking and a hot water bottle to fix it so I don't think much. If I'm busy and moving around, pain is not noticeable.

But when it's a really bad cramp, whenever I stand up after peeing, it's SO BAD. The lower abdomen area hurts and right above the butt area/lower back hurts so much and it'll last an hour.

By the second day I'm completely alright most of the time. By the third day I'm doing intense cardio. So I don't understand.

Currently I'm going through this horrible pain after peeing. It has disappeared by now but the pain spiked every time I finished peeing.

I have no UTI fyi. I know because I have had UTIs and my urethra is completely fine. I drink enough water. Maintain my hygiene etc.

I have a very healthy menstruation cycle. Happens exactly on the 28th day. No mood swings. No heavy flow. Never missed a single period in my life. My skin stays clear. Periods Lasts 3 days at most and that's all.

I do have period poops at times but that's also manageable.

However...

However on the first day..some months it will pain so much that I feel like screaming out loud. I manage it by walking, doing light strength training or laying down with a hot water bottle. I cannot sit. I would rather die. The pelvic area or butt side hurts like a bitch. Toes curl in pain. It feels like someone is ripping me open from the inside.

It only happens on the first day or second day at most if I'm unlucky. Sometimes it takes only walking and a hot water bottle to fix it so I don't think much. In two hours I'm completely good to be.

And when it's a bad cramp, if I pee, I may actually die in pain. The lower abdomen area hurts so much and it'll last an hour.

By the second day I'm completely alright most of the time. By the third day I'm doing intense cardio.

So I'm wondering is it normal or is something wrong? If I go to a doctor will they dismiss me because I don't have any issues other than this?

Drinking enough water and sleeping 7-8 hours is freaking worth it.

I cannot tell you how much it sucks to have kidney stones and an annoying UTI. Not having to deal with that anymore and seeing pale yellow pee is absolutely worthy.

And because I have been drinking adequately for several years, I can actually tell the effects in my body when I don't. I feel much tired, my body feels like contracting, body feels hotter, skin looks drier. It's insane once you start noticing these small things.

Similarly for sleeping 7 hours. I can feel how stress-less I am when I wake up. And I'm generally a very anxious person. The amount of stress I have at work should have ended me by now but it's the small habits that I do that kept me sane and sleeping enough is one of them.

The state of being stress free is very telling. The mind feels free, empty and liberated in every sense. I feel energetic in the morning and not lazy, not tired, not upset. I haven't felt that in a year and I really don't want it..ever.

It was never easy for me though. I went to therapy just to fix my sleep schedule and it worked. Here I am 1.5 years later. SO WORTH IT PEOPLE.

Please tell me what else has worked for you?

Something so basic but actually works. Something that people advise often for good and it's OBVIOUS but people still don't do it.

Not from the urethra, not the UTI kind but wherever you feel your period cramps the most. Lower abdomen area,entire pelvic region or thighs or feet.

I'm getting this infuriating amount of pain after peeing. Sure I drank a lot of water so the bladder is completely empty but I don't understand why there's a sudden spike in pain in my cramps that was somewhat tolerable before peeing

Just here to talk.

I terminated my sessions with my therapist due to compatibility issues and I feel really sad. She helped me quite a lot. She felt like a genuine person who truly wanted to help. She would remember things about me and we would sometimes chat about random things.

She helped me open up. I was cold, not keen on sharing emotional parts but she made me feel safe to be vulnerable.

I'll really miss her.

At the same time, the therapy was progressing extremely slowly. Post sessions I often felt helpless and hopeless. I felt scared and I saw the world dark and dull. There were many compatibility issues that I tried communicating but in the end I realised it's better to seek somewhere else.

Is it normal to feel so upset? I saw her for a year weekly and now it's ending.