u/Asterion__Moloc

Hi, I am a 23 years old guy. I know post like this have to be really repetitive here, but honestly I can't find other spaces that seems to be adequate. I never had a relationship, sex or a kiss, I am not a model and about average I'd say. I have a ton of friends both male and female, which are all in relationships within the group. I am the only guy that never had that and it's getting very hard to ignore.

I have a very low self esteem, I struggle with my face and I fear I have BDD, but objectively I am not attractive and that's for sure. Thos sirely has affected me and becahse of it I cannot even muster the courage to ever ask a girl out. It scares me, all my life I have been the ugly guy of the group, while some friends have women swooning over them.

My personality is fine I guess, nothing ever happened to prove the contrary. At this point tho it's getting really tiring, I am considering to quit the group because anytime I hang out and see my friends with their girlfriends it causes me to feel tightness and pain in my chest, it's genuinely uncomfortable for me to be there. Idk I just feel like I am third wheeling social interactions.

I know women don't owe me anything but at the same time I am wondering what's wrong with me. Am I really that bad? I am starting to see pity in people eyes when I talk about this and I am very discouraged. It's a bad period of my life, it does not feel good.

I have hobbies, university(that's kicking my butt) and enjoyable moments but women looks way too unreachable to me, like I am not enough.

I am demoralized and starting to get resentful. I often interact with women I know and when they talk about their exes to me it bothers me, it's always them complaining about bad things these guys did to them, and of course the dude is always above average looking.

Is that really it? It's just looks? I mean at this point it cannot be anything else, my life experiences have taught me that, I get furious when I hear women say that they find most men their age ugly, as if it should be encouraging, I'd say most of my depression and suicidal tendencies derived from this single phrase.

It sounds like "Why are you sad you piece of shit? Women don't care about men looks" which is false and a lot of women get offended rightly so when someone assumes that.

I am trying to improve myself, lose weight and stuff like that, but honestly when I wake up and look in the mirror I just am not happy, it bothers me. I quit the gym multiple times because I know I will still not like how I look.

I am just feeling so worthless, why can't I do what everyone else is doing easily, why am I so defective that I need whole programs to get better looking to feel like I have a chance with the girls I like. They are always dating people more attractive than me.

I cry sometimes because of this, it does not feel good, I don't care of the "Being single is better" I don't agree, I feel like absolute disposable garbage that exists only when friends want to hang out, when I am home I am alone, always. I would be lying if I said I don't want to have sex, but honestly I believe it isn't something you can criticize about me. Or nevermind sex, just a good long kiss or hug.

I don't even know how you kiss a girl

I am trying, I am 23 years old and I am trying to lose some weight (26 bmi, want to get it to 20). I am trying to improve myself, I also take finasteride for my hair. I have been taking it for 2 months but my issues is there for more than a year.

I just don't get random efections anymore. No more morning woods and I cannot keep an erection if I am standing. I used to watch porn a lot and stopped recently and nothing. I just never feel like even jacking off, if I do it is only because I like the feeling. Idk what to do.

Like, I don't see this advantage in faking confidence or being confident. People do not care if you are not attractive, I've never seen someone average being awarded for being confident. People hate on you more if you are actually, if I ever try to be confident I get put in my place real quick every time. There are things I am silently not allowed to do. If I try to talk to a woman I either get these "what the fuck you want" interactions from them, attractive people I know have women almost salivate even if they tell them "hello". Like what is the point, I see other people being confident while averagish/under average but they almost 100% get memed and shit on for it, no exception.

This whole "If you are confident people treat you better and take you seriously" not really, from my experience. The only thing that got me more respect than anything was losing weight, no pseudo-fake it till you make it worked, because it just does not work. And my confidence at the time did not change either, people just found me more attractive so they respected me more.

I understand that there is this want to help others with this discourse but I honestly believe it's so disingenuous, like I don't have a single story like the ones of reddit of "I am attractive and I can't date because I am insecure while my friend that is ugly can because he has confidence" like stfu, it's not true lol. I'd say any above average person I know had at least 5 relationship and countless hook ups, and I am 23 with most of my friends being the same age.

It literally does not matter, I've never heard of anyone praise others confidence, only looks, nothing else, and it's so unfair how little you can change about it.

I know I don't sound like a ray of sunshine, but honestly I am just tired, attractive people are dating and fucking easily, only average or under average people are having issue. I still need to see in the face someone that is above average and have them say they never had a relationship, it's just not plausible and if they do not for real they can fix that in like 1 week of forcing themselves to go outside. If you tell me you are attractive and cannot date, you are probably not that attractive, the attractive people I know just have to breath outside to have people take interest. The whole "it's your personality or be more confident" sound a lot like cope to me.

Most people that use this mentality go years without anything and then wonder why, because in reality you effectively changed nothing. At this point I can confidently say that looks are like 90% of dating, that who says otherwise is either attractive(while being socially inept, like completely) or lying, and that people that use always this "confidence" argument just don't want to give you real suggestions because you are annoying them and cut to the short method so they don't have to tell you that you are ugly or fat.

Sono un idiota e inizio ora con lo studio. Sono bollito e cucinato ma finché non vedo la bocciatura non mi arrendo. Sono 2 materie da 6 cfu e si va di 10 ore al giorno per il prossimo mese.

In bocca al lupo a voi e non fate come me.

Hello I just started very recently to play, around 2 weeks ago, I know it's super early and should not expect much for a long while, but I seriously feel awkward when I try to practice because I often pick either the right fret or string. Are there any exercises precisely to correct my hand positioning or should I just continue practicing open chords switch? For now I am there. I really want to emphasize on the fact that I know it will take me a lot of time, probably years, I just wanted to know if there were exercises for this.

Hello I started a week ago to self teach myself electric guitar. I got an epiphone sg400 I had gotten like 7 years ago but never actually picked it up to try and play it. I am a bit lost, I am trying to follow the justin course on internet but is that enough? My finger are pretty uncomfortable atm but I guess it's normal.

What should my first priority be? I am able to dedicate to it around 1-2 hrs a day, but I also am trying to play rocksmith 2014 even if most songs feel Impossible. What are your suggestions?

Also if someone could suggest even some more metal related content, that's the type of music I am into honestly, or is it better to go into general rock first?

In my life I watched like 5 anime and honestly they were not that bad either. My issue with that is that I know people that DO watch anime, meaning they watched 30+ anime. None of them is normal, they are all extremely weird and clearly have something for kids.

Hearing them talk about anime makes me almost gag sometimes, of course they follow twitch streamers like Tenshi that does make up to look like a 15-16 years old., or HannaOwo. Idk there always has to be the puberal teen look to what they like.

And I am talking about people 25+.

Honestly I recently started to notice how like 99% of anime media is pedo material or borderline to a point where I WILL JUDGE you if you tell me you watch that stuff.

At this point I can say there are 3 types of anime and manga: the more elaborated ones (berserk, slam dunk, vagabond, aot, vinland.....) and 90% of it is just pedophilic bullshit.

Honestly Idk how a lot of women can watch anime, I looked a bit about this topic on women forums on reddit and a lot agree. At least the world is not completely insane I guess.

I am a dude and sadly I gotta punch my side and say that with women I noticed it's different, they aren't particularly weird with anime. Men are literally scary about it sometimes, I know people that never did anything wrong but I would be afraid about having them close to my sister.

The worst of it all is fandoms tho. There is nothing that is more deranged that some anime fandoms, it's absurd. I know it's unpopular because anime are between the most watched content nowadays, but honestly Idc, I have yet to meet someone into some questionable but very known anime that is not weird to creepy, as I said this affects mostly dudes.

Edit: Also remember that anime is straight up linked with Japanese obsession with underage girls and it clearly shows in their media. Let's pretend not I guess.

Let's act as if adults watching japanese cartoons about teenagers that look like they are 12 years old is fine.

23(M). First year aerospace engineering, due to various reason, mainly me being an idiot, I still need to do all 1st semester exams (calc1, phy1, algebra, chem) and in a month second exam season starts. I did not start, I basically wasted 5 months where I could have done smth but now I am here with 1 month before calc 1 and 5 days after that phy 1 and I know shit. I just won't study, I like the classes but I wasted so much time I give up before even trying now.

I will be 24 in a month and I have nothing ti show for it, failing 1st year like this ruins me and again I am a disappointment to my parents. They do not know because I will probabky end it before telling them this. I guess I will skip the last month of the second semester classes because if I don't I will never have a chance to catch up.

Honestly I am so broken my stupid brain does not even feel that bad, but the situation is really a failure. I woukd need to do 9 exams before october to be on par, which I will never be able to, I hate myself and I failed again, as I always do.

I am almost scared to open a book, I need to get back on integrals but then I remember how much stuff I gotta do and block, wasted a whole exam session where I coukd have done like 2/4 but I did 0 exams and aslo wasted the first 2 months of second semester. I don't know how long I can feel this garbage. I am tired of not being able to be a fucking adult like 18 year olds seem to be. I am almost 24, which people can say whatever but I am old, people always question me on why I started uni at 23, and Idk what I shoukd even say.

I was a failure before and proved agaun I am. I am hopeless. I wanted to do 1 thing properly but I fucking can't and suffer because of it, and I deserve it.

Hello everyone I am a beginner that wanted to learn electric guitar. I have gotten an amplifier but when I plug everything in there is this strong buzzing, still there even if I use headphones in the amp. It's awkward and no matter what I do with the settings of the amp, it's just there. I don't know how to fix this and tried the thing in different sockets, also a wall one, so I suppose grounding should not be the issue? Maybe I'm wrong.

I am an almost 24 years old guy. I believe my lifestyle has got to me and I am starting to have the consequences. I have never gotten that heavy, I am 210 lbs now and I want to drop to 170.

What scares me is that I think I damaged my body irreparably due to all the scarring, but mainly because I am not having erections anymore. Idk if it's stress or sleep but it just won't get hard. I am not in a relationship but my libido is just dead.

My body is so ugly. I have gotten a tattoo this year and loved how it looked until I took a full body picture with it, what tf have I done. My body is so akward, I have skinny arms and legs and at least 80% of the fat in excess I have is in my abdomen and love handles, I lool like a 70 years old man, droopy and flabby.

My legs look almost underdeveloped and it looks like I have tits, people mocked me more than once because of it. My waist is so wide I look like a pear and I hate it so much. I have not fixed it for the past 10 years and I think because of that I made it sure to get loose skin, which to me is the most visually unappealing thing ever. Sometimes I quit dieting because I am afraid of having it.

I am trying again to lose weight but the constant hunger is making me go insane. I drink something like 6 l of water a day to ignore it. Due to my erectile dysfunction I cry because it's my fault I have broken my body and I risk having to take a fking pill for the rest of my adult life.

I already feels so old and I just started college, everybody here is a damn model, both men and women. I am starting to lose hope again because I always fked it up, I don't even believe I will be able to fix this garbage I did this time

Hello I am an absolute beginner with electric guitar and wanted to give RS2014 a try because from what I read around it's the best one to learn. I see on steam where I live it's around 10 euros but I saw there are hundreds of dlc additional content. As an absolute beginner that wants to learn electric are there any that would be considered "mandatory" or anyways very suggested to get?

I was never a particularly attractive guy, I get easily triggered by social interactions, even more if I see myself in pictures. I am 23 and I struggled with image issues since I was 16.

What triggers me the most is having to deal with attractive friends that are always calling themselves ugly in a jokingly manner. It bothers me so much, I look like a hobo compared to them.

I am trying with everything, weightloss, hair meds, skincare routines. Nothing, these people were just blessed and there is nothing I can do to feel better about it, of course I am the only dude in the grp that is still single and never had a relationship ever.

My face does mot represent me, and I am always stunned at how bad I look from the side. I just think that I look so off. There have been times when I thught I looked decent but it went instantly away the moment I was close to even the most average and least "trying to look good" dude I know.

At least twice girls tried to talk to me to get to know my more attractive friends. I feel like a tool. How to stop feeling like this? Sometimes I go from liking to hating my friends for this. How to stop feeling inferior?

I am a 23 years old guy, soon 24. I think I have gotten the situation out of hand and I am starting to have consequences for my bad lifestyle. I reached 210 lbs, I am quite tall at 6'2 but have barely any muscle and I'd say that most of my fat reside in my abdomen.

My bmi looks like it's around 30, even if calculation are more 27, because my legs are skinny still, they honestly look ridiculous. I aim to lose 40-45 pounds in total, but for now I'll aim at 20. I am a bit disgusted with myself and yet I keep fking up. I am tired and it's also a stressing period of college, I realized it probably will take me 1 more year to graduate, but whatever I guess.

In the past I was able to reach 150 lbs which was clearly too low but it still felt insanely much better than this, people often tell me it's not that bad but honestly I was feeling healthier when basically underweight.

My weight is almost, not completely( I still look big in pictures), hidden by clothes. I never take off my shirt even when playing beach volley with friends becahse of shame. I took pictures to start the weightloss and I look like a 50 years old unhealthy guy, flabby and with skinny arms and legs.

People say at least cakves would be bigger by being overweight all my life basically, they are not sadly.

Of course there are exceptions, but it seems like 99 couples out of 100 are not it at all. 10 years ago I never heard people say stuff like "love is not enough" or similar things. I am 23 and now that I wanted to start getting to know people to MAYBE have my first relationship, I also started to see how many relationships are straight up a mess.

I have a group of friends for example that is made of "normal" people, nothing bad. Every single relationship is dysfunctional to a degree. Every guy keeps lusting over also other women they see, exception one guy out of 10. 3 of them got cheated on, 1 of them thrice.

Wherever I look relationships are just business: attractive?money? Also with the girl friends it's a mess, one cheated on her bf, other will always say how to them men are ugly and they wish they were lesbian.

Like damn, I want someone I could be in love with but apparently if you are not above a certain standard it seems like I am asking too much.

At this point I believe that romantic love is an absolute exception and that most people are discarded without ever having a chance at it in the first place.

Tl;dr: I stopped believing in true love because it looks like a privilege of people that are simply luckier than others

I am a first year aerospace engineering student. I am studying for the next exam session but sometimes I just straight up can't.

I kid you not there are days it feels like absolute torture, some days I swear I rather go run a marathon than study for the same time.

Eventually time starts flowing but the first hour or 2 I am really struggling to stay on a book

Aerospace engineering. Need to study calc 1 and phy 1 and have like 40 days, then got 20 days for algebra, then prepare calc 2 and phy 2 for september. I don't think I have have even the physulical time to cover everything and it's my fault.

I am a disappointment

Hello everyone, I am a 24 years old guy and recently I have gotten in what's probably the worst shape I have ever been in my life. I am 6'2 210 lbs with minimal muscle mass. I have never actually trained consistently in my life. I have insanely skinny legs tho and my fat all goes in my abdomen. Barely got calves, even if I thought being overweight would have made them bigger.

I would love to get back in shape, due to my limitation I wanted to know if there was smth I could do at home. I have a pull up bar, some dumbells with adjustable weights and a barbell.

I am not a chef or anything, I am not saying that everyone should be able to prepare michelin star recipes but honestly it's getting really annoying how people say they can't cook as if it's something to be proud of. I am a man and it would be an insane turn off if someone was on about how they can't even prepare some pasta.

Most recipes are straight up easy, people can't admit that they are too lazy to clean 1 pan and 1 plate. I've made any type of food and I am only 23 with 0 professional cooking experience as I am a student in smth completely not related. Never worked in a kitchen. If you use internet and have an attention spam of at least 30 mins you can make SOOO MUCH STUFF.

I live in Italy and everyone is on about how good the food is but I swear out of 100 people only 10 bother to prepare it. Almost nobody makes pizza at home even if it's water and flower. Most people cannot even prepare a plate of pasta that is not with tomato or pesto. It's absurd with how many online resources there are that people will say they can't cook as if it's something you can't learn.

What's even worse is when people mess up insanely easy recipes, I am not saying you cannot mess up from time to time, but the amount of pavement consistency brownies I have eaten. IT'S LITERALLY 5 INGREDIENTS, you wanna tell me you made asphalt because you can't cook?????? You just learn to read, if you follow exactly any recipe on the internet you can learn that, write that down and now VOILA YOU CAN COOK THAT.

There are people on the internet that make videos on any type of food witch such simplicity that it is impossible not to be able to cook, at least a little. I am basically learning this stuff passively. I was looking at a Joshua Weissman video on how to make gyoza, 2 hrs later I was eating them and after 1 single time in which I made them I wrote down the ingredients and now I can make them no problem, 0 difficulty.

Sometimes when I say that I made smth to my friends they are completely flabbergasted, as if you are not supposed to be able to. I can make pizza and have like 5 different recipes that I LITERALLY COPIED and it comes out really good. Saves money as well.

Healthy food is so damn good if you are willing to spend 5 mins prepping stuff, Hell even less, probably closer to 2. I stopped eating chips because I throw chickpeas in the air fryer for like 20, put spices and again it's pretty damn good.

Idk tho is there something a different reason apart from pure, absolute, laziness? I am literally an idiot, it's not like I am "smart" but I can make good food I like that will not have me dead by 40, how is it so hard for everyone to follow a like 5-10 steps recipe. I guess it's also men often, I am a man so don't say I don't understand, having their mommy cook for them because I noticed how in most households the cooking capacity has to reside in just 1 person, which in most cases is the mother. Stop it, grow a spine and learn how to exist ffs.

Hello everyone. I am a 24 years old guy.

I am writing this because I am having a problem with my erections. Around a year ago, maybe 5 or 6 months, I don't remember precisely, my erectioms started to get weaker and I stopped having morning woods and rock hard erections. Honestly I am not an healthy guy, fast food and no sport kind of unhealthy.

I think I have around 40 lbs of fat on me I should not have. With the passing of some months , around a month ago now, I started taking finasteride for my hair loss and I feel like everything is fine. I still have desire and libido, meaning I feel the need to rub one around once a day. The thing is that my erections are like 50-60% max and honestly I am getting a bit worried about it.

If I had to list the possible causes in my case they would be:

-bad diet, being overweight

-porn addiction+ masturbating once a day

-terrible sleep habits (like someday I sleep 3 hours and some 8 hrs)

-improbable but still possible finasteride sides?

-never done kegels (dk if it matters)

-a bit of stress

It may sound like cope but I don't think it has anything to do with finasteride because as I said I've had these issues for a while now, from before I started taking it. If I had to pinpoint those that feel more probable to me they are sleep and porn. I have it twice as hard to finish when I masturbate withkut porn than with and I am often tired.

I am also overweight which surely fucks up blood flow. Do you have any suggestion on how to nip the thing in the bud? Because if possible I wanted to procede in the best way possible because it's starting to worry me.

I mean at some point it gets ridiculous. I don't understand if the number of women that miscalculate penis size is THAT high or what?? 7 inches is already like 3-5% yet 9/10 of women that had sex in her life say they had sex with people that big, like always. It's completely statistically impossible. Is it like a status thing?

I swear all answers to questions about it are like 50-50 of "Bigger than 6 hurts" and "I had 7-8-9 in the past but average is fine" HOW, not meaning how average is fine, but like how are women finding this high amount of people over 95%, is that 1 guy out of 20 really having that much sex to skew the whole thing this much?