u/Bandito21Dema

I can't get myself to do anything for my career. Networking, applying, anything. I can study but that's it.

Negative reenforcement doesn't work because everything in my life is negative so it doesn't bother me when I don't succeed.

Positive reenforcement doesn't work because I settle too easily and won't use one small success to get more successes. And the possibility of good things doesn't help because I don't believe it will happen anyway.

I do have the fear of wasting my life, but from the past 4 years, it seems even that isn't enough. The possibility of money doesn't help either because the only thing that would change is now I pay for stuff myself.

I've tried using brute force, but it doesn't help either, I just waste time until I run out of time.

I tried taking antidepressants, it didn't even touch this issue so I stopped. Also tried breaking it down into little tasks. Again, I just procrastinate and ignore it.

If you own/operate an apartment building, and you don't pay the 10k or so to have a water softener installed, you should be fined heavily. I'd argue something like a thousand dollars per unit, per month.

I live in an area with very hard water, I tried everything. Filters, special shampoo, rinsing with vingear. None of it works. I haven't taken a shower in my apartment in 10 months. I have to go to the gym.

It is outrageous and ridiculous that you can charge $1,800 for an apartment, and no one can use their own bathroom.

I'm currently trying to download my resume from my Google Drive. Save as > save as pdf > download takes me to a 404 error screen that says I don't have access to this page.

I tried sharing it with my alt email, as well as emailing it to myself and it still gives the same error.

I get these black hairs on my stomach, but when I try to pull them out, they stretch and snap, and leave behind red marks. I have one mark that's been there for two weeks now.

Hi, slightly freaking out and desperately need advice. I washed my hair Saturday. My appointment was supposed to be today, but got pushed back to tomorrow.

My hair is currently fairly greasy, and I've never been instructed on how long to not wash for anything other than scalp bleaching.

Should I wash it, but very lightly?

I have noticed this as a continuing issue in my interactions with new people I want to like me.

I will say something related to the conversation that in the moment, I think makes me sound cool, but later on I realize is just pure bragging with no relevance or usefulness.

Real example from today: I was talking about a very famous band I listen to and said my mom has a friend who knows the guitarist and gies to parties at his house.

This might be a bad or mild example, but I notice it happens in almost every conversation I have with a potential new friend.

I tend to speak impulsively, so that is definitely a contributing factor. Any advice is appreciated.

I'm looking to get a job at a music venue in NYC and have decided to take the "reaching out" approach. My issue I've run into has been no information regarding how you apply to these places, to the point I'm not even sure how the people working there got in.

I've searched the venues on LinkedIn, no hiring or general managers come up. There's no application link on their websites, only an info email address.

Do I message the promoters for the venue? Ask the current employees how they got there? Email the info address?

How are you actually thinking of interesting things to ask?

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I have stood awkwardly next to people I want to talk to for 10 minutes because I couldn't think of a single thing to say.

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I've read all the advice and suggestions, and none of it seems feasible for the situations I find myself in.

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So, out of the blue, no common interests, how do you figure out what to say?

We've been friends for 4 years, and we met on Bumble, so he always wanted a relationship, I just wanted a friend. I've had depression for years, but I always thought I was hiding it well.

Recently, I had an unrelated one night stand and had to cut off that relationship after three weeks because we didn't have anything in common.

The story I told about this to my best friend involved me saying I'm a bad person, after it was over I wanted to keep talking but realized I would only be doing it for the attention, and overall was really horrific to hear if you love the person.

He sent me a long paragraph about how he loved me, he always left a light on for me, my story stung, and my self-loathing hurts the people around me.

Then he unfriended me on Snapchat where we talk. This was 3 days ago, and I feel like I've been hit by a truck. How can I fix this? I wrote a letter apologizing for everything and I'm going to overnight it to him. But I think this is it.

TL;DR I told my best friend (who had been in love with me but thought he moved on) a self depreciating story about how I had a one night stand and broke the guy's heart. My friend told me my self-loathing hurts those around me and unfriended me. That was 3 days ago.