u/BirdQueenCC

I’ve been on a calorie deficit now for roughly 6 months and at the start I could see changes within my face and neck. I have a high protein diet I walk roughly 10,000 steps a day and I left heavy in the gym. I reduced quite a lot but now I’m not really seeing any changes within my body. I haven’t seen any significant changes I would say I saw my shoulder caps fairly recently roughly 2 months ago but now I am not seen anything and I weigh myself occasionally my weight has not changed whatsoever so I decided to go back on maintenance so it can change my plateu or whatever. But I’m just in this mindset of what do I actually need to do?

I recently got employed (yay!) Currently working full time and I get payed every 13th. My universal credit payment comes every 17th. I will need to report a change on my claim of course but I’m worried I may need to pay the government back. Is this the case, how it works?

I made a few reddits (deleted prob left a few) about my barista crush. Recently I have seen him working and bless him he was not in the mood to speak as I tried initiating a conversation with him but he seemed uncommunicative on these couple occasions. First I asked him if he was working alone and he said unfortunately he was and gave me free coffee that day (last week) and I saw him again a couple days ago, I asked “are you working alone again??” I was surprised but his boss was present I didn’t see her. He said “no, my boss is here” then he asked me what I’d like to order and that was it.

Today I saw him working, he was working alone again. Sorting out the croissants while I was standing there. He finally turned around asking “how long were you standing there for?” With a smile on his face. I then said “a couple seconds” and he then asked “what would you like to order” I said “my usual” and he repeated my usual order… and once he gave me my coffee I asked him “how are you though, are you doing okay?” He literally just nodded and smiled not even answering my question.

My point here is that he doesn’t further communicate in general I realised this recently, he keeps it short and quick which I totally understand, he’s there solely to work and not bother talking to customers. However, I was blindsided by his attraction, now it’s time to move on from crushing on him, my feelings has dissipated due to lack of communication.

I’m a little disappointed because he seems like such a nice guy and I was hoping to get his socials but I suppose he isn’t interested which is okay.

I developed a crush on a personal trainer at the gym. Never interacted with him once until yesterday he was teaching me something since he had some time to spare.

I don’t think it’s possible to even make a move to a personal trainer they probably can’t even share personal information to the public

My so called best friend tends to not like certain posts or my story on instagram? I find it weird because she practically likes everyone else’s but with me she picks and chooses . Like yesterday I posted a video of myself on my private story on insta and she views it on both of her accounts and doesn’t acknowledge it . But then I see she comments on a girls story that she barely talks to saying she’s stunning . I’ve brought it up to her in the past about twice and she says she "doesn’t deep it" but surely it’s intentional after a bit… I’m not completely sure if I’m being sensitive or if it’s weird

My so called best friend tends to not like certain posts or my story on instagram? I find it weird because she practically likes everyone else’s but with me she picks and chooses . Like yesterday I posted a video of myself on my private story on insta and she views it on both of her accounts and doesn’t acknowledge it . But then I see she comments on a girls story that she barely talks to saying she’s stunning . I’ve brought it up to her in the past about twice and she says she "doesn’t deep it" but surely it’s intentional after a bit… I’m not completely sure if I’m being sensitive or if it’s weird

My barista crush is most likely on shift tomorrow morning so I’m going to finally ask for his socials… it’s embarrassing in front of his colleagues but it has to happen. I genuinely cannot stop thinking about him.

Wish me luck. Will keep you guys updated!!

So there’s this barista that I see every few weeks idk if he works part time but we’ve only recently properly interacted, breaking the usual hello how are you to actually having small talk.

A couple days ago he was working alone and I was gonna pay for my coffee but he said “it’s on the house” that genuinely made my day. I can’t stop thinking about him!

Idk what I should do when I next see him. Asking him for his insta is way too early. Idk if he’s just being nice or he likes me back

So this barista I had a crush on for a while or no is just honestly getting more intense. He has given me many kind gestures in the past and his mannerism is very gentle and kind.

Yesterday he was working alone and I asked if he was the only one working and he said to me unfortunately yes, so I said I hope that your day becomes quiet and not too busy and he said I hope so too and after I was looking for a code, discount for my coffee but he insisted and said it’s on the house. I’ve never felt so happy and it literally made my entire day. I was doing a task that required your full attention and focus but unfortunately I didn’t have any of that all I kept thinking about was him and I was performing poorly.

But the next time I will see him is probably in two weeks because I noticed that I don’t see him one week by the week after I see him.

So this barista I had a crush on for a while or no is just honestly getting more intense. He has given me many kind gestures in the past and his mannerism is very gentle and kind.

Yesterday he was working alone and I asked if he was the only one working and he said to me unfortunately yes, so I said I hope that your day becomes quiet and not too busy and he said I hope so too and after I was looking for a code, discount for my coffee but he insisted and said it’s on the house. I’ve never felt so happy and it literally made my entire day. I was doing a task that required your full attention and focus but unfortunately I didn’t have any of that all I kept thinking about was him and I was performing poorly.

But the next time I will see him is probably in two weeks because I noticed that I don’t see him one week by the week after I see him.

He joined the cafe as a barista around 7 months ago. Only recently I started developing a crush on him but now it’s getting more intense.

2 weeks ago, I saw him at the store, he was making coffee for a customer but when he saw me he waved at me whilst using the coffee machine. I raised my voice in excitement seeing him. Of course, the usual hello how are you… then have a nice day. THENN he initiated a small talk, he asked me if I was hot, I said nah this was the only peice of clothing I could find. As it was a heatwave we were experiencing. Anyway that made my day, just that mere moment.

I didn’t see him at all last week unfortunately. However, I saw him today but he was working alone, he looked exhausted bless him. He was serving a customer and I was trying so hard not to smile whilst he was busy making coffee for a customer. He said “next” it was me, I was next to be served. I said my usual order please and he asked how I was, and vice versa. He asked me what I’d like and I said my usual order please and I initiated a conversation, I said “Are you the only one working today” he said “unfortunately yes” I felt bad for him. He was making my coffee and he server it to me but I was busy finding my code for a discount but he said “Don’t worry, it’s on the house” I’ve never felt so much happiness when he gave it to me for free! I legit was over the moon the entire day. Anyway I thanked him and said “I really hope it’ll be quiet today for you” he said “Thanks I hope so too”

I was back to my area but was contemplating on visiting him again to see how he was holding up but maybe that was doing the absolute most so I went home.

He joined the cafe as a barista around 7 months ago. Only recently I started developing a crush on him but now it’s getting more intense.

2 weeks ago, I saw him at the store, he was making coffee for a customer but when he saw me he waved at me whilst using the coffee machine. I raised my voice in excitement seeing him. Of course, the usual hello how are you… then have a nice day. THENN he initiated a small talk, he asked me if I was hot, I said nah this was the only peice of clothing I could find. As it was a heatwave we were experiencing. Anyway that made my day, just that mere moment.

I didn’t see him at all last week unfortunately. However, I saw him today but he was working alone, he looked exhausted bless him. He was serving a customer and I was trying so hard not to smile whilst he was busy making coffee for a customer. He said “next” it was me, I was next to be served. I said my usual order please and he asked how I was, and vice versa. He asked me what I’d like and I said my usual order please and I initiated a conversation, I said “Are you the only one working today” he said “unfortunately yes” I felt bad for him. He was making my coffee and he server it to me but I was busy finding my code for a discount but he said “Don’t worry, it’s on the house” I’ve never felt so much happiness when he gave it to me for free! I legit was over the moon the entire day. Anyway I thanked him and said “I really hope it’ll be quiet today for you” he said “Thanks I hope so too”

I was back to my area but was contemplating on visiting him again to see how he was holding up but maybe that was doing the absolute most so I went home.

He joined the cafe as a barista around 7 months ago. Only recently I started developing a crush on him but now it’s getting more intense.

2 weeks ago, I saw him at the store, he was making coffee for a customer but when he saw me he waved at me whilst using the coffee machine. I raised my voice in excitement seeing him. Of course, the usual hello how are you… then have a nice day. THENN he initiated a small talk, he asked me if I was hot, I said nah this was the only peice of clothing I could find. As it was a heatwave we were experiencing. Anyway that made my day, just that mere moment.

I didn’t see him at all last week unfortunately. However, I saw him today but he was working alone, he looked exhausted bless him. He was serving a customer and I was trying so hard not to smile whilst he was busy making coffee for a customer. He said “next” it was me, I was next to be served. I said my usual order please and he asked how I was, and vice versa. He asked me what I’d like and I said my usual order please and I initiated a conversation, I said “Are you the only one working today” he said “unfortunately yes” I felt bad for him. He was making my coffee and he server it to me but I was busy finding my code for a discount but he said “Don’t worry, it’s on the house” I’ve never felt so much happiness when he gave it to me for free! I legit was over the moon the entire day. Anyway I thanked him and said “I really hope it’ll be quiet today for you” he said “Thanks I hope so too”

I was back to my area but was contemplating on visiting him again to see how he was holding up but maybe that was doing the absolute most so I went home.

So today I had a group interview and I don't know how to feel about it. The first task was an ice breaker which was fine, there really isn't much to say, we all had to tell the interviewer our partners name and a fun fact about them etc which was okay.

We then done a second task which was dressing up a celebrity and we were in a group of 6. I couldn't search up clothing items for our chosen celeb but I was helping out our group and just generally making sure everyone was happy and okay with what their assigned task was within our group. Once the time was up, the interviewer asked who wanted to go first so I put my hand up first and was energetic. I personally don't feel like I exhibited my speech well about what item our celeb has.

The last task was also in a group of 6 and it was a map of a retail store and who would be good at what area. The interviewer asked again, who wanted to go first and I was the first person to put my hand up but I offered my go to someone else just to be kind and considerate. Then my turn comes, I was just answering the question with some enthusiasm and was smiley, she was smiling at me every single time I was answering a question. I shouted ''well done team we did great!'' and clapped, and everyone else in the room started clapping.

The final activity was just general procedures and operations that we should all be informed of. Then she asked us if we had any questions to finish off... I was the only person who had a question. Last thing was a 1-1 interview just to check our availability and flexibility but when she called out my name, I went to her and she complimented me, she was like ''I really like your energy'' I was so happy hearing that from her, and I complimented her hair.

We will receive our feedback and see if we were either successful or failed. I'm trying not to keep my hopes up, keeping my guard up.

So today I had a group interview and I don't know how to feel about it. The first task was an ice breaker which was fine, there really isn't much to say, we all had to tell the interviewer our partners name and a fun fact about them etc which was okay.

We then done a second task which was dressing up a celebrity and we were in a group of 6. I couldn't search up clothing items for our chosen celeb but I was helping out our group and just generally making sure everyone was happy and okay with what their assigned task was within our group. Once the time was up, the interviewer asked who wanted to go first so I put my hand up first and was energetic. I personally don't feel like I exhibited my speech well about what item our celeb has.

The last task was also in a group of 6 and it was a map of a retail store and who would be good at what area. The interviewer asked again, who wanted to go first and I was the first person to put my hand up but I offered my go to someone else just to be kind and considerate. Then my turn comes, I was just answering the question with some enthusiasm and was smiley, she was smiling at me every single time I was answering a question. I shouted ''well done team we did great!'' and clapped, and everyone else in the room started clapping.

The final activity was just general procedures and operations that we should all be informed of. Then she asked us if we had any questions to finish off... I was the only person who had a question. Last thing was a 1-1 interview just to check our availability and flexibility but when she called out my name, I went to her and she complimented me, she was like ''I really like your energy'' I was so happy hearing that from her, and I complimented her hair.

We will receive our feedback and see if we were either successful or failed. I'm trying not to keep my hopes up, keeping my guard up.

Female 24 years old, 5’4 (162cm) currently weighs 59kg.

I’ve been on a calorie deficit now for roughly 6 months properly coupled with walking 10k+ steps a day and having a high protein diet and lifting heavy at the gym.

The first thing I noticed was my face fat loss, underneath my chin and chest area loosing weight. This was pretty early on. I have wide shoulders and my waist has gotten smaller.

I’m now at the phase where I’m starting to see my shoulder caps… but I only see them well when my elbow are leaning forward on a table or when I’m flexing.

Might be a silly question but are my arms just starting to loose fat now?? Also if that’s the case what’s the next area I’d loose fat??

Every other morning I go to my go-to coffee shop, building a relationship with the baristas and of course they know my usual order for roughly a year now.

I believe around 7 months ago a new barista joined and I didn’t think much of him, just grabbing my coffee and getting on with my day. The more I go and order, the more he slowly starts to recognise me as a regular customer, even the other barista informed him what my usual order is.

Just saying my order to him, then the basics like hello, how are you etc. Recently I started developing a crush for him. I noticed that he’s sort of soft with me, maybe I’m delusional but every time I go there his face is radiant and smiling.

A week ago or two (don’t really remember) I was at a drug store and I was about to leave but he walked past and we looked at each other for a few seconds until he took off his headphones and started talking to me. At that moment I was genuinely stunned, I couldn’t get words out of my mouth but he dismissed me saying he’ll see me at the cafe soon. I felt so annoyed at myself because I couldn’t even ask what he was up to and that was a perfect opportunity to kind of get to know him more.

Last week, I saw him at the store, he was making coffee for a customer but when he saw me he waved at me whilst using the coffee machine. I raised my voice in excitement seeing him. Of course, the usual hello how are you… then have a nice day. THENN he initiated a small talk, he asked me if I was hot, I said nah this was the only peice of clothing I could find. As it was a heatwave we were experiencing. Anyway that made my day, just that mere moment.

I’ve been going recently but haven’t seen him just yet, the week did only just start to be fair. However, I wanted to ask you guys… what should I do? How should I make a move at him? I mean I thought about writing a note down and passing it to him but that would be so obvious to his colleagues that I have a solid relationship with. I genuinely can’t think of anything else! Also the coffee shop has no interior, it’s just ordering while standing then you leave, so as you can imagine it’s pretty small.

Almost 4 years of being unemployed every single day applying and being completely burnt out by it. The job market is absolutely terrible and it has deteriorated even more recently. I'm so helpless and hopeless. Each year that goes by I have hope ever so slightly but by the end of the year that hope diminishes.

My family really thinks I don't do anything and I'm lazy, sometimes even making jokes about my unemployment. It's okay to joke but when it's constant it really affects you.

My last option is coming here and venting. I am TIRED! Any hiring managers here or someone who can refer me??? I will literally take anything. NO SCAM PLEASE!

I'm based in London.