Genuine question because I try… but realistically I forget half the time unless I’m at the beach.
Especially with makeup on or during work days, reapplying perfectly every couple hours feels almost impossible.
Curious what people here actually do in real life vs the ideal dermatologist answer.
so heres the situation. got a new job in north carolina starting august 1st. super excited but also freaking out because i have to sell my place here in pennsylvania before i go.
i knew the house was old (built in 1940s) and needed some love but i took a closer look this weekend and man its worse than i realized. roof has at least two leaks i didnt know about. found some water stains in the attic. electrical panel looks ancient. and the basement has this smell that i think means something is wrong with drainage.
called a couple contractors just to see what id need to fix before listing. one said 15k for roof and electrical minimum. another said 20k once he started looking around. i dont have that kind of money especially with moving costs and a new apartment deposit.
my realtor said i could list as-is but warned it might sit for months or i might get lowballed hard. i cant wait months. i need this done by july.
i looked into those cash buyer companies but im nervous. are they legit? do they actually close fast like they say? has anyone here actually sold a house that needed work to one of those places and not regretted it?
honestly at this point i just want the easiest path. even if i lose some money. the stress of fixing everything or waiting for a regular buyer is killing me.
anyone been through something similar? what did you end up doing?
im running a small business and need a clean custom website with easy contact forms booking options and basic seo so it actually brings in customers. nothing too flashy just something professional that works well on mobile and is simple to update myself.
has anyone used a good agency that delivers quality work without crazy prices or delays? what exact features should i ask about when reaching out
I don't even know how to explain it anymore. I’m not necessarily crying or feeling actively devastated, I’m just completely numb. Every single task, from washing a single dish to answering a text from a friend, feels like trying to run a marathon through waist-deep mud. I spend my whole day at work putting on this fake, high-energy mask so people don't ask questions, but the second I get home, I just collapse into bed and stare at the wall for hours. It feels like I'm watching my life happen from the audience instead of actually living it.
The worst part is the guilt that comes with it. Objectively, my life isn't terrible right now, which just makes me feel like an ungrateful fraud for being this miserable. I don't expect anyone to have some magical cure or advice that fixes everything. I think I just really needed to vent to people who actually understand what it’s like to be completely exhausted by your own existence. If you're struggling to get through the day today too, just know you aren't the only one.
Been watching some field geology videos and noticed everyone does this little tap tap tap before actually grabbing the rock. Is it a safety thing? Checking for something specific? Or just some inherited habit that everyone copies?
Genuinely curious. Looks like a secret handshake but with hammers.
Finished Dostoevsky last month. The whole novel is just one man getting worse because of one choice he made early on. No external villain. Just his own mind turning on him. I liked that the tension came from guilt and paranoia, not from any outside threat.
What is another classic novel where the main character is their own worst enemy and things unravel slowly from a single action?
I came to Greensboro during COVID because remote work made it easy, and everyone online kept saying North Carolina was the perfect balance of affordable and peaceful. Honestly, I don’t know if I got here too late or what, but this has not been the experience people sold me.
The apartment complex I moved into looked nice during the tour, then within months, there were constant car break-ins, random noise every night, and management stopped caring once leases were signed. Meanwhile, rent still kept climbing. I started looking at houses, thinking buying would be smarter, but then mortgage rates shot up, and suddenly even average homes felt impossible.
What’s weird is I don’t even want anything fancy. I don’t care about nightlife or trendy stuff anymore. I just want a clean, quiet place where I’m not stressed every month, wondering what new bill is about to hit me.
Lately, I’ve been looking at Delaware and parts of Pennsylvania because I miss having decent public transit and being able to function without driving everywhere. I used Cardinal Home Buyers recently to figure out my options because I’m honestly getting close to being done with NC completely.
For people who have already left, did moving actually improve your quality of life, or was it just the same problems in a different state?
my hair is naturally fine shoulder length never colored or bleached and it gets oily at the roots but dry at the ends so ive been babying it for years. i finally went to hair salon last week for a scalp treatment plus protein reconstruction and it felt amazing my hair looks shinier and stronger already.
they told me to come back for at least one every month to keep the benefits going. is that actually necessary for fine natural hair or do most people get away with doing it every 6 8 weeks?
Had a homeowner follow me around yesterday telling me I should just tie into an existing wire instead of running a new home run like I planned. Kept saying his buddy who does handyman work said it would be fine. I tried explaining load calculations and he just kept shaking his head like I was the idiot.
Guys, how do you handle customers who watch too many YouTube videos and suddenly think they know more than you do? I don't want to be a jerk but I also don't want to do something unsafe just because they saw a guy on the internet do it once. Tried being patient but man it wears you down after a while.
honestly getting so burnt out opening arxiv lately. feels like every major paper is just "we took a transformer and threw 100k H100s at it" like ok congrats, your autoregressive model can write a decent python script but still completely breaks on basic spatial reasoning
Brute force has just totally overshadowed actual architectural innovation.
Was debugging some awful cuda errors this afternoon and had a stream of the Milken Conference playing on my second monitor. Caught the panel with the ASML and google guys talking about deterministic ai and energy-based models
it just kinda hit me how much I miss when deep learning discussions were about structural constraints and elegant math, rather than just masking hallucinations with an absurd compute budget. the whole probabilistic guessing game is just starting to feel like a massive dead end for real reliability.
idk. maybe im just jaded from staring at loss curves all week.
I’ve had a couple roles over the past few years that only lasted around 6-12 months.
Some were contract, some just didn’t work out.
I’m worried it makes me look unreliable, even though there were valid reasons.
From a recruiter’s perspective, how much of a red flag is this?
A MacBook Pro appeared in my Find My devices list this morning. I have never owned this Mac. I changed my Apple ID password immediately and turned on two factor authentication if it wasn't already on. The Mac is still showing as online. I don't know if someone signed into my account by mistake or if this is related to identity theft. Should I remove the device from my account or leave it there so I can track it? I want to make sure my personal data is safe but I also don't want to accidentally help someone who stole my information. What is the safest thing to do here?
trying to build a business case for leadership to actually invest in a proper enterprise ATS and I need real numbers, not vendor slide decks
so far I've got our current stats: avg time-to-fill 68 days, about 34% candidate drop-off before we even get to interview, onboarding takes roughly 3 weeks of back and forth emails to get someone fully set up. we're also spending probably 15-20 hours per hire on admin tasks that should be automated.
I've been pulling case studies from a few platforms, Page Up talent acquisition software has some interesting ones, Lindt apparently saved $1M in agency spend after implementing their ATS, and another org hit a 50% reduction in time-to-fill. I don't know how directly those translate to a government environment but the directional improvement is hard to ignore.
what I really want to know is: for those who've done this, how long before you actually saw ROI? and how did you frame it to leadership in a way that got budget approved? because "it'll make HR's life easier" is not going to cut it in our environment
I’ve been seeing a lot of buzz about "Grandcations" lately, trips where the grandparents, parents, and kids all travel together. On paper, it sounds like a dream for shared childcare and "bonding," but I’m worried it’s just a recipe for logistics burnout. I’m currently mapping out a trip for a group of six (ranging from age 5 to 65), and I’m struggling with the "pacing" of it all. I’d love to hear your "survival tips" for traveling with three generations. Did you find that staying in one large villa/rental worked better than separate hotel rooms? And honestly... was it actually a vacation for you, or were you just the full-time coordinator?
I’m planning a move to LA in the next couple of months for a new job, and I’m trying to lock in a place early, so I don’t end up overpaying at the last minute. My budget is tight, so I’m mainly looking for a private room under $1300, but from what I see online, it feels harder than expected.
I found roomster while searching, and it looks decent, but I don’t know if it’s actually worth using or if the listings there are up to date. Has anyone here had real success with it in LA recently?
Where are people actually finding rooms in that price range right now? Are facebook groups still the best option, or is there something cheaper or more reliable? Just trying to find the most realistic way to do this.
went camping alone
felt weird at first
too quiet, no people
kept checking my phone even with no signal
after a while it got nice
just sitting there, listening to nature
night was a bit scary
every sound feels louder
I just landed a job in NYC, and I am honestly losing my mind trying to find a roommate who doesn't ghost. I have been looking for a spot in Bushwick or Ridgewood for a June move-in, but every time I find someone who seems chill, they disappear right before we are supposed to tour. It is super frustrating because I have my paperwork and cash ready to go, but I can't keep doing these tours solo if I want to save money on a shared lease.
I found a site called roomster that has a lot of people looking for shares around $1,300 to $1,500. I am not sure if it is worth the time or if there are better, cheaper ways to find reliable people. Let me know if you have used it or if you have a better move for finding someone who is actually serious about signing a lease.
Hey all, I might be moving to Saint Paul for work later this year and trying to get a feel for different areas.
I’m in my late 20s, no kids, and would like somewhere that’s reasonably walkable with a few cafés/bars nearby, but not super chaotic.
Been looking at places like Lowertown and Highland Park, but I don’t really know how they feel day-to-day.
Any areas you’d recommend (or avoid)? And how’s the general vibe compared to Minneapolis?
Had it. Match was mine. Started overthinking every single toss, double faulted twice in a row, and just never recovered mentally. The guy didn't play better in that game. I just handed it to him. Watched myself do it in real time and couldn't stop it
Serve has always been my weakest mental spot but this one stung. How do you guys reset mid-match when your head starts getting in the way?