u/CaesarsGhostReborn

I’m a second-year teacher.

My first-year job wasn’t renewed simply because the need (TESOL) went away. Now I will teach Spanish at a new school.

However, I’m getting paid less, and instead of 15 minutes away it is 42 minutes from my house. Mentally I’m overloaded and overwhelmed with all the change, and I can’t keep up.

I actually miss my summer job. I worked at a factory and, while I didn’t love every second of it, enjoyed that I didn’t have to think, and that the culture & environment were very positive and helpful.

I’m just so overloaded with new routines, new things to keep track of, more than double the daily drive, and more.

I need to get used to it, but part of me just wishes I weren’t here…

Please forgive me for sounding morose.

I’m feeling overwhelmed.

My last teaching job wasn’t renewed, due to the need for my services diminishing (TESOL).

I found a new teaching job (Spanish) but it pays less & is double my drive.

I struggle with OCD, and thus find an influx of new info overwhelming. The new school has so many new requirements that, on top of teaching a new curriculum, my wife being pregnant with our second child, and more, I just have so little to give.

I’m anxious all the time

I’ve been SLOWLY getting into an exercise routine 3x a week (maybe 2x if the week is too crazy or I feel like my body needs more time to rest). It has helped so much.

While it’s not a fix-it pill, I have noticed it helps my sleep, my anxiety, my ability to relax, and my ability to stop thinking so much.

I think it’s because my workouts are not terribly hard, but they make me push, and make me get out a lot of nervous energy.

On days where I don’t do any kind of movement and I’m just at home sitting a lot, I feel a lot worse. So if I feel like I can’t work out for some reason, but still need to move, I go for a 20 minute to 30 minute walk. It helps so much.

I don’t know what we’re doing wrong.

Our daughter screams at us, hits all the time, and more.

Any time we tell her no, or stop her from doing something she can’t or shouldn’t do, she hits, yells, throws things.

We don’t hit, and rarely raise our voice. We try gentle hands. We try “I won’t let you hit me,” we try removing her from the situation, but it’s not working and we’re at our wit’s end

First time watcher here.

My wife and I have a 2yo daughter, and a son on the way.

Life is very busy, but we try try try to show affection and patience and time to our daughter. But watching them has me worrying that I’ll make my daughter feel like an afterthought, which terrifies me

Again: SPOILERS AHEAD

What do you think about all the character deaths in this show? Thorn, the Riddler, Mad Monk, and others.

I get that this show is “more Batman: the Animated Series than Batman: the Animated Series,” but there’s a part of me that missed the familiarity, arcs, and consistency of Batman: TAS. Villains never really died. They just had stories that kept going on.

That said, I think it’s a bold choice. I see its worth. I even think it makes sense for this universe. But how long can the show go on? Do they have a limited run?

This may seem straightforward but I feel besieged by endless books, podcasts, articles and more about how to raise my child. I feel overloaded.

It seems like everything I hear or read is like “if you do this one thing wrong, your child will become a crushed, anxious mess with bad attachments and trauma!” Except, it’s every book coming across this way.

Basically I just feel like any time I act frustrated, show negative emotion, discipline my child, or otherwise is going to irreversibly scar my child in some way I can’t see, killing their initiative and confidence.

But I’m a flawed father trying my best. I don’t beat my child, I apologize for overeating, I read books to them, I hug them. I just feel so defeated.

Have a wife (pregnant and due in October), and a 2yo daughter.

I am acting too stressed at home lately: sighing all the time when something goes wrong, overreacting when my daughter spills something or pees on floor via “ugh, Sadie…”

I don’t know what to do, I just feel absolutely overwhelmed and I hate the message I’m sending my daughter

Tl;dr daughter hitting; trying not to overreact and spank or aggressively yell; doesn’t quit usually with timeouts or removing from situation.

I have OCD (religious scrupulosity).

I am trying to quit porn both because I don’t like how it makes me feel, and for the sake of my marriage. But I am at my limit.

I sent this to a friend tonight:

“I’m gonna say something extremely selfish: I feel like if I’m not constantly focused on my wife in every possible second then she thinks Im not interested in her. I know it’s because she’s hurting that I’ve struggled with porn for so long, but it just adds more and more pressure to my survival-mode struggle.

I cannot juggle all of this bullshit: “summer job; school job prep; daughter; new son on the way; marriage; don’t look at porn; you’re not acting happy enough to see your wife; why don’t you spend more time with her; why don’t you plan more dates; why aren’t you helping more??????”

Do all of that, and then there’s still some unchecked box of “but you didn’t do this” and it’s like Jesus Christ help me, I’m literally fighting like a fucking dog to do everything that’s being asked of me perfectly so I can be the man I should’ve been years ago. It’s might fault and nobody else’s, I get it. But oh my fucking god, give me the tiniest bit of credit or mercy. It’d have been easier today to have been crushed in an auto accident than be tired at home and hit with “you’re not doing enough.”

I was so fucking mad that I wanted to be a huge asshole to her tonight but didn’t, but I knew she could tell how pissed I was without me saying a word. But that’s not good enough either is it?”

Could use some encouragement.

Nothing is really wrong per se except the usual: working a lot, money tight, daughter (2yo) growing up faster than I like, and noticing the passage of time.

I’m a present father. I have a good relationship with her and my wife.

I’ve also been really working hard on areas I need to improve on, whether that’s being more present, bad habits that hurt my mind or health, etc.

But I’m just feeling exhausted.

We have a second child coming in October. I am working a summer job. And I start my new teaching position in August.

I just feel wrung out, almost emptied of every bit of energy, and also sad at how fast it’s going. I don’t want to miss it

Hey all,

I know this might seem like it doesn’t fit in the parameters of this group, but I didn’t really know where else to ask.

To make a very long story short, I am a dad who is in his 30s, my wife and I have been married for mNy years. We have a daughter who is two years old, and have another child coming in October. We live in a safe, small town. We live in a working/middle-class neighborhood right next to an elementary school, where there is a giant playground that all the kids from the neighborhood play at, including our daughter.

We routinely take our daughter there and take walks around the school area. I’ve noticed though that there’s a lot of kids (ages anywhere from 6 to 17) who hang around there, often without parental supervision.

They often times come right up to us and wanna talk or play games. We engage politely.

But some even follow us back to our house. We always tell them they can’t come inside unless they come with their parents, and they should never go in a stranger’s home without parents or guardians. We also always tell them “make sure your parents always know where you are, and that you always be safe.”

If I’m ever on a walk alone, I do my best to just give a nice nod and keep walking because I don’t want kids thinking that it’s safe to talk to strangers, even though I mean no harm.

But I also don’t want to ignore them.

I try to only go out when I’m with my wife and daughter, but I just don’t want to somehow condition kids to be unsafe, even though my wife and I have nothing but goodwill.

What are some good practices for this?

I think we’ve all thought before: “this is how a good manager should look,” especially when compared to Michael. But he is not.

There’s no question that his hard line on productivity and spending are crucial for a company in crisis, but here’s where he becomes a bad manager.

He personally targets Jim because is he nervous that David Wallace likes him, reads the worst into everything he says or does, and is actively trying to get rid of him, despite Jim having great sales numbers in the midst of a national recession. This isn’t smart management, it’s self-destructive pettiness.

He is right to shut Michael down and hold the line on issues but should not have canceled his party. Why was this a bad move? Michael left and stole many of their clients. Was it worth it? Obviously not.