u/Careful-Support-3402

A cousin of mine was in a bad marriage. And we brought her to our home from her in laws this past week.

She's all over the house, sleeping where she wants, doing what she wants, laughing and chilling with my mom.

The irony? My sister and I havent had a proper conversation with our mother for weeks now. Weeks.

I moved out last year, i came home for two months and mom and i had a fight maybe week 2 of me coming here.

I leave in 10 days. And that conflict still lingers.

It just feels weird, when I had just one meal throughout the day and it was fine. Will i could hear her repeatedly insisting that my cousin should eat more, have this have that.

The thing i hate most about this? I don't mind the neglect or coldness to me as much. I have a loving partner i will go to in 10 days.

My sister will stay back, in a home were she barely has family.

I want to help her get a therapist, but i dont know how to introduce it organically so its not weird.

I myself will get therapy, because being with my partner these past four months have made me realised how much my family's dysfunctionality has built behaviors in me i hate.

Hey all, i am trying to understand what it want and could help a few personal prespectives that would help me in introspection.

Women who chose to be childless, what were your reasons behind it, and have you made a decision set in stone or left it open to change?

I am thinking of what i want and wanted to know how the journey was for others.

EDIT - I am sorry, i meant childfree That was ignorant on my part.

Hellooooooooooo all

I am SUPER FREAKING EXCITED and i dont even have an itinerary or proper plans yet.

I have wanted to visit ever since i was a kid.

My questions -

Will the monsoon mess up my plans to travel?

Hows the overall internal connectivity?

My queries -

If I go for a week my plan is - kochi ---> munnar ----> allepey ---> kochi

If I go for 2 weeks i dont know what else to add and in what order,

I could add, varkala, vagamon toward the bottom

Or kannur thrissur wayanad towards the top

AHH I JUST WANT MY ITINERARY TO BE DIVERSE,

Like for example if A and B have the same kind of culture i dont want to visit both A & B, just any of the two.

Like I am assuming north and south kerala will have some cultural differences so i want a nice mix of everything

Also in terms of like landscape, i want it to be backwaters, beaches and forests

Tl:Dr- I WANT AN AMAZINGLY WELL THOUGHT OUT KERALA ITINERARY FOR A 2 WEEK VISIT.

My cousin is being abused in riyadh by her husband and we want to make sure the abuse helpline works.

And what to do.

Please help, her life may be at risk.

My cousin (indian) got married to a guy (indian) and they moved to riyadh.

Noe he is not letting her go out or meet any relatives and is abusing her.

She is being physically and mentally abused by the guy and his mother.

I wanted to know how can we help her.

I am a very far related cousin of hers and her father and mother are in india and can't come to Riyadh because of Hajj season.

Any legal advice will be appreciated.

Hi all, I dont know arabic so typing this in english.

My cousin (indian) got married to a guy in riyadh (guy is also indian) and he is not letting her go out or meet any relatives and is abusing her.

She is being physically and mentally abused by the guy and his mother.

I wanted to know how can we help her.

I am a very far related cousin of hers and her father and mother are in india and can't come to riyadh because of Hajj season.

Any legal advice will be appreciated.

Hi all, I dont know arabic so typing this in english.

My cousin (indian) got married to a guy in riyadh (guy is also indian) and he is not letting her go out or meet any relatives and is abusing her.

She is being physically and mentally abused by the guy and his mother.

I wanted to know how can we help her.

I am a very far related cousin of hers and her father and mother are in india and can't come to riyadh because of Hajj season.

Any legal advice will be appreciated.

I dont know if its karma farming or people are just dense

I keep seeing this posts about...i am so alone, no friends, dont know where to find friends, how to meet people yaaaa blah blah yada yada yada

Bro just literally google communities in hyderabad

Hyderabad literally has such a huge population of young corporates there always a gazillion events happening

There's run clubs, community clubs, only women's clubs, clubs for clubs and what not lol

Anything you can think of, hyderabad PROBABLY HAS A COMMUNITY/CLUB for it and that's is honestly AMAZINGGGG

the city has a lot to offer, you just gotta use your internet better to find out!

Hi all, so I came across this brand called arva health, thats all about knowing your body and fertility

And it got me curious, to assess my fertility and keep track of it too

So I wanted to know if any of you do that? Like have regular checkups of some sort or take services of companies like this to track and maintain your reproductive health??

For context - I am 27F and I have grown up hearing how reproductive health decline after 30s blah blah blah

Not that I want children right now...its just one of those things that worry you randomly, like the Bermuda triangle lol

Hey I came across an al Jazeera news video about kashmiri youth in indian occupied parts struggling with addiction.

Are there organizations working to elevate this?

A very similar thing had been happening in keralam, that my friends based there talked about, a particular community was targeted and youth were given access to dangerous stuff.

I am just disgusted at how low people in power can fall in order to topple down a society.

As the title say, I need a very flowy red/maroon anarkali that is party wear and looks premium

If yall have bought any can you please share links?

I keep coming across IG stores, but I don't trust them 😭

Hi all, so I work in social media and my screen time is bonkers because of work plus doomscrolling.

So i want to separate my work from my leisure and I want to have a dumb phone for regular use.

I was checking out the Nokia 2660 flip phone, but came across reviews saying its trash.

I just need to be able to access WhatsApp. Thats my online internet requirement from the phone.

Any reccos and suggestions.

P.S. I would love for it to be a flip phone, but others also welcome.

Health and fitness cause getting it on is basically cardio. lol

I recently became active like roughly a year and I have never finished, neither alone nor with a partner

I wanted to know if its a learning curve? Is finishing on our own easier than with a partner

Is it easier just by ourselves or does a toy drassssstically help

And if a toy does help, im looking for suggestions cause ya girl wants TO FEEL IT TF

Hi all, i wanted to go somewhere in june and already took my leave from work but haven't sorted out where to go.

I want to do a domestic trip and preferably last week of june.

I am so overwhelmed with all the options available, meghalaya was where i wanted to go but turns out it isnt a good time cause monsoon hits.

Kerala it seems would be too hot.

And i dont want to go to shimla, manali, kasol and dehradun

Any advice is MOST WELCOME 😭

I came across Teach to elicit via Instagram last year and back then i was working with a different non profit.

I had the opportunity to talk to people in their team, and I really love the work they have been doing.

It was my first time coming across an organization focused on the themes that they focus on, and it was quite an insightful conversation with them and exploring their work.

It just hit me right now that i should maybe post about it in this sub, because they do onboard fellows and someone here might like to join.

I myself have been tempted to join but my family scenario doesnt really enable that 😭

Anyways hope this is allowed and just to make it clear I AM NOT ASSOCIATED TO THEM.

i just felt like it deserved a shoutout.

I respect everyone's food choices, i am just curious.

I am genuinely curious, because I understand if people are vegetarian for religious reasons. Or if they are vegan because that's what they have choosen.

What I am curious about are people that are simply just vegetarians, despite not being religious or practicing, sometimes even atheists for that matter. And neither do they have the vegan stance cause dairy is okay.

Then what makes you want to be vegetarian?

P.S. again just to be clear, I am genuinely JUST CURIOUS, and i do not at all want to offend anyone.

My mom died when I was 10. She was very sick, always in the hospital. Us three siblings grew up around grandparents, family friends and my dad who was struggling to work, make my mom better and also care for three children.

A year after she died, my dad remarried, primarily because he wanted us to have a mother figure inour lives.

It was hard, she did everything to win us over, and everyone around us made sure they instilled in our mind that she was a 'step' parent and evil.

Those first few years were hard because of it. We eventually understood as we grew older how we were being manipulated.

But somehow, a bond never developed.

We dont talk, my family doesn't talk. Like i see families sitting around talking about things, sharing stories, just yk family. Mine isnt that.

We just....coexist. with a few jokes,and this and that spritzed in between.

Like I said, cause we were manipulated as kids, we did pull off shit that hurt our mother.

The thing is she never forgets.

My siblings and my dad - we forget instantly. If someone does us wrong, we might react but then a week later, we dont remember or really care.

My mom on the other hand, she remembers everything and it hurts her. Something I did as a 12 year old haunts her still, although now I am a married 27 year old.

And she is very specific. If a thing needs to be done in a way, it needs to be done that way and that way only. Even if it can be done a different way, IT needs to be done the way she said.

And that's always caused a lot of friction.

And we don't resolve things, if this friction or something else creates a fight, we dont ever resolve it.

We go quiet, so days, weeks until somehow things just move on to normal. No acknowledgement, no resolution, nothing ever.

And some time passes and back we are again another conflict for another reason - BUT the previous one always gets dragged back in. She always brings it up.

And she always drags dad in, it xoukd be a small thing that happened. She will scream, scold, argue.

And then the moment my dad gets back from work, everything will be narrated and the blaming starts and it keeps going on and on and on.

My parents are in their 60s. My mom always seems to turns to the fact that she gave up so much to be there for us and we agree. She did and she could have chosen not to.

But these fights, these tensions escalate now, and there seems to be no end.

I feel I might lose one of them, they are both weak, hypertensive and old. And I dont know how much more of this continous conflict they can endure.