u/Competitive-Ear-6693

I'm so embarrassed 😭😭😭

I'm not intimate with anyone and never have been, but I've always wonderd this. Maybe someone else can answer also how often they wear liners? Bc I wear them every day also I guess like yk um like when you'd take ur undergarments off and stuff to like do stuff with someone.. would they notice? Would they find it weird? Where would u out ur underwear. What do u do with the liner 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I'm so sorry guys please don't think I'm weird. Oh btw I'm female (but queer) and 15 years old. And... maybe I'm asking this bc I might have a crush on a girl and first I don't even know if many females wear liners all the time and also the main question in the title.. um also btw by liners I mean like for discharge..

Thank you 😭🙏😭

Edit: thank u guys for being so kind and helpful I'm genuinely Abt to cry lmao tysmmm

i am like 99% im omnifluidflux (im talking about attraction, not gender) BUT I CANT FIND A FLAGGGGGG ToT so please if anyone could find or make one i would appreciate u sooooooooooo much im genuinely dying

I'm tired shaving and I really admire women who don't shave but I just don't have the confidence 😞 and I'm on highschool and.. yeah well u get it. Women who don't shave just look so majestic and rebellious and ugh idk

I'm only 15 and I officially left Christianity on January 14th and I wanna burn my Bible but my mom might get mad even tho she's ok with me not being Christian. Maybe I should just draw the pride flag all over it instead? Wait maybe I'll do that instead lol

Also! There's no flair option for sex-oscillating 😞

It's already been proven that this has no correlation but I recently came out to my mom that I'm omnisexual and a few days ago she was saying it might be because I used to watch lesbian porn when I was younger. I can see why she thought that bc I had doubts about it too, but it honestly made me feel invalidated and also when I came out to her I knew she was gonna bring it up sooner or later.

So I go to a standard state (public) secondary school in New Zealand. It is completely NON-RELIGIOUS. However, at today's Year 10 assembly, the staff unexpectedly started the session with a likely Christian prayer. It ended with a distinct "Amen," which left me and my close friends feeling incredibly confused and uncomfortable (except for my sister, who is Christian).

After the assembly, my Muslim friend, my agnostic friend, and I were talking about it, and we all felt really weirded out by it.

Our school normally avoids this kind of religious instruction. They pride themselves on being inclusive of all backgrounds and identities. We usually open assemblies with the traditional karakia "Whakataka te Hau" ("Whakataka te hau ki te uru, whakataka te hau ki te tonga..."). I fully participate in that because it is a secular cultural ritual about clearing weather, finding focus, and bringing people together—it has absolutely nothing to do with a god.

Has any other NZ public school student experienced this recently? Is this becoming a regular thing now, or did my school just completely mess up the Ministry guidelines? Not everyone at school is religious, and I thought public schools were supposed to remain strictly secular.

Edit: Thanks for all the comments and the legal breakdowns. To clarify a few things being debated: our school regularly uses secular karakia (like Whakataka te Hau) which doesn't mention a god and is purely about clearing the mind and gathering together. We all happily participate in that.

What happened at this assembly was entirely different—it was an adult-led Christian style blessing that wrapped up with a formal 'Amen.' Whether or not they tried to sneakily swap out the word 'God' for general values, using a distinct religious closing at a mandatory assembly without giving anyone a heads-up or an option to opt out definitely feels like a breach of the secular guidelines

So I go to a standard state (public) secondary school in New Zealand. It is completely NON-RELIGIOUS. However, at today's Year 10 assembly, the staff unexpectedly started the session with a probably Christian prayer. It ended with a distinct "Amen," which left me and my close friends feeling incredibly confused and uncomfortable (except for my sister, who is Christian).

After the assembly, my Muslim friend, my agnostic friend, and I were talking about it, and we all felt really weirded out by it.

Our school normally avoids this kind of religious instruction. They pride themselves on being inclusive of all backgrounds and identities. We usually open assemblies with the traditional karakia "Whakataka te Hau" ("Whakataka te hau ki te uru, whakataka te hau ki te tonga..."). I fully participate in that because it is a secular cultural ritual about clearing weather, finding focus, and bringing people together—it has absolutely nothing to do with a god.

Has any other NZ public school student experienced this recently? Is this becoming a regular thing now, or did my school just completely mess up the Ministry guidelines? Not everyone at school is religious, and I thought public schools were supposed to remain strictly secular.

Edit I'm lowky getting slimed in r/newzealand

Idk why but I always felt that words like cunt (in the context of like a baddie or smt), baddie, girlhood and stuff were just for cis women, like it just felt like it belongs to them, and then one day I came across a video where a nonbinary person said they felt cunty and I jist felt super happy bc I wanna be a baddie but that makes me feel cis. This is a useless rant but those types of girlhood things made me feel unseen or too cis and hetero.

So I officially came out to my mom, and I am currently sitting in my room experiencing the most insane emotional whiplash ever.

For context, I’m omnisexual, demisexual, genderfaerflux, gendervague (they/she), and an agnostic atheist. A few days ago, my mom and I had a conversation where she basically said she doesn't care if we're gay as long as we're healthy, and she even said I didn't have to go to church anymore (just me, since my siblings are still Christian). But during that same conversation, she randomly made a joke like, "if ur lesbian or something I'll actually kick u out, I don't want u in my house." Her tone was super serious and me and my twin sister were both like wtf that's not ok, but then she claimed she was just joking. Because of the other stuff she said though, I still thought she was in a much softer place than she used to be.

I spent forever writing this super detailed coming-out script explaining my identity, how my neurodivergence connects to my gender, and setting boundaries about religion. I sent it on Friday morning right as I was waiting at my bus stop, totally forgetting that she actually had work that day and that the text stressed her out while she was there.

Then today (Saturday), everything exploded. I was just sitting on the couch when she walked up to me, and the second I saw her face, I knew it was bad. She looked at me with pure disgust. Because of that joke she made the other day, I was a little worried. She started saying I was "confused" and using religious guilt trips about how this is what happens when you walk away from God. My little sister was in the same room the whole time just on her laptop playing games, and my fraternal twin sister—who is also queer—was also in the room when it happened.

Later on, my little sister told me she didn't feel bad for me, she only felt bad for mom. Then my twin sister started tone-policing me in our group chat, telling me I was being "mean" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to our mom while she was literally invalidating my existence. It sucked because she is queer too and was right there in the room, but she still turned on me in the chat. I felt pathetic, shaking and crying in my room, totally regretting that I ever said anything.

But then a few hours later, my mom called me back upstairs to talk again. It turns out she actually spent that time self-reflecting. She completely turned things around, apologized, and said she realized she was wrong. She connected it to her own childhood trauma about being forced to go to a mosque when she didn't want to, and said she realized religion is personal and she won't force the church rule on me anymore. She even said that knowing I’m LGBT makes her think completely differently about the whole queer community now, and she wants to rebuild our relationship.

Honestly, I'm glad it ended on a good note, but the emotional hangover is destroying me. My brain keeps replaying that first look of absolute disgust she gave me on the couch, and I keep crying thinking about it. She wouldn't have said those things or looked at me like that if she didn't mean it in the moment. It’s like I can’t just accept the apology yet.

Has anyone else experienced a parent completely flipping scripts like this in a matter of hours? How do you cope with the trauma of the bad reaction when they’re suddenly trying to be supportive now?

So I officially came out to my mom, and I am currently sitting in my room experiencing the most insane emotional whiplash ever.

For context, I’m omnisexual, demisexual, genderfaerflux, gendervague (they/she), and an agnostic atheist. A few days ago, my mom and I had a conversation where she basically said she doesn't care if we're gay as long as we're healthy, and she even said I didn't have to go to church anymore (just me, since my siblings are still Christian). But during that same conversation, she randomly made a joke like, "if ur lesbian or something I'll actually kick u out, I don't want u in my house." Her tone was super serious and me and my twin sister were both like wtf that's not ok, but then she claimed she was just joking. Because of the other stuff she said though, I still thought she was in a much softer place than she used to be.

I spent forever writing this super detailed coming-out script explaining my identity, how my neurodivergence connects to my gender, and setting boundaries about religion. I sent it on Friday morning right as I was waiting at my bus stop, totally forgetting that she actually had work that day and that the text stressed her out while she was there.

Then today (Saturday), everything exploded. I was just sitting on the couch when she walked up to me, and the second I saw her face, I knew it was bad. She looked at me with pure disgust. Because of that joke she made the other day, I was a little worried. She started saying I was "confused" and using religious guilt trips about how this is what happens when you walk away from God. My little sister was in the same room the whole time just on her laptop playing games, and my fraternal twin sister—who is also queer—was also in the room when it happened.

Later on, my little sister told me she didn't feel bad for me, she only felt bad for mom. Then my twin sister started tone-policing me in our group chat, telling me I was being "mean" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to our mom while she was literally invalidating my existence. It sucked because she is queer too and was right there in the room, but she still turned on me in the chat. I felt pathetic, shaking and crying in my room, totally regretting that I ever said anything.

But then a few hours later, my mom called me back upstairs to talk again. It turns out she actually spent that time self-reflecting. She completely turned things around, apologized, and said she realized she was wrong. She connected it to her own childhood trauma about being forced to go to a mosque when she didn't want to, and said she realized religion is personal and she won't force the church rule on me anymore. She even said that knowing I’m LGBT makes her think completely differently about the whole queer community now, and she wants to rebuild our relationship.

Honestly, I'm glad it ended on a good note, but the emotional hangover is destroying me. My brain keeps replaying that first look of absolute disgust she gave me on the couch, and I keep crying thinking about it. She wouldn't have said those things or looked at me like that if she didn't mean it in the moment. It’s like I can’t just accept the apology yet.

Has anyone else experienced a parent completely flipping scripts like this in a matter of hours? How do you cope with the trauma of the bad reaction when they’re suddenly trying to be supportive now?

So I officially came out to my mom, and I am currently sitting in my room experiencing the most insane emotional whiplash ever.

For context, I’m omnisexual, demisexual, genderfaerflux, gendervague (they/she), and an agnostic atheist. A few days ago, my mom and I had a conversation where she basically said she doesn't care if we're gay as long as we're healthy, and she even said I didn't have to go to church anymore (just me, since my siblings are still Christian). But during that same conversation, she randomly made a joke like, "if ur lesbian or something I'll actually kick u out, I don't want u in my house." Her tone was super serious and me and my twin sister were both like wtf that's not ok, but then she claimed she was just joking. Because of the other stuff she said though, I still thought she was in a much softer place than she used to be.

I spent forever writing this super detailed coming-out script explaining my identity, how my neurodivergence connects to my gender, and setting boundaries about religion. I sent it on Friday morning right as I was waiting at my bus stop, totally forgetting that she actually had work that day and that the text stressed her out while she was there.

Then today (Saturday), everything exploded. I was just sitting on the couch when she walked up to me, and the second I saw her face, I knew it was bad. She looked at me with pure disgust. Because of that joke she made the other day, I was a little worried. She started saying I was "confused" and using religious guilt trips about how this is what happens when you walk away from God. My little sister was in the same room the whole time just on her laptop playing games, and my fraternal twin sister—who is also queer—was also in the room when it happened.

Later on, my little sister told me she didn't feel bad for me, she only felt bad for mom. Then my twin sister started tone-policing me in our group chat, telling me I was being "mean" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to our mom while she was literally invalidating my existence. It sucked because she is queer too and was right there in the room, but she still turned on me in the chat. I felt pathetic, shaking and crying in my room, totally regretting that I ever said anything.

But then a few hours later, my mom called me back upstairs to talk again. It turns out she actually spent that time self-reflecting. She completely turned things around, apologized, and said she realized she was wrong. She connected it to her own childhood trauma about being forced to go to a mosque when she didn't want to, and said she realized religion is personal and she won't force the church rule on me anymore. She even said that knowing I’m LGBT makes her think completely differently about the whole queer community now, and she wants to rebuild our relationship.

Honestly, I'm glad it ended on a good note, but the emotional hangover is destroying me. My brain keeps replaying that first look of absolute disgust she gave me on the couch, and I keep crying thinking about it. She wouldn't have said those things or looked at me like that if she didn't mean it in the moment. It’s like I can’t just accept the apology yet.

Has anyone else experienced a parent completely flipping scripts like this in a matter of hours? How do you cope with the trauma of the bad reaction when they’re suddenly trying to be supportive now?

So I officially came out to my mom, and I am currently sitting in my room experiencing the most insane emotional whiplash ever.

For context, I’m omnisexual, demisexual, genderfaerflux, gendervague (they/she), and an agnostic atheist. A few days ago, my mom and I had a conversation where she basically said she doesn't care if we're gay as long as we're healthy, and she even said I didn't have to go to church anymore (just me, since my siblings are still Christian). But during that same conversation, she randomly made a joke like, "if ur lesbian or something I'll actually kick u out, I don't want u in my house." Her tone was super serious and me and my twin sister were both like wtf that's not ok, but then she claimed she was just joking. Because of the other stuff she said though, I still thought she was in a much softer place than she used to be.

I spent forever writing this super detailed coming-out script explaining my identity, how my neurodivergence connects to my gender, and setting boundaries about religion. I sent it on Friday morning right as I was waiting at my bus stop, totally forgetting that she actually had work that day and that the text stressed her out while she was there.

Then today (Saturday), everything exploded. I was just sitting on the couch when she walked up to me, and the second I saw her face, I knew it was bad. She looked at me with pure disgust. Because of that joke she made the other day, I was a little worried. She started saying I was "confused" and using religious guilt trips about how this is what happens when you walk away from God. My little sister was in the same room the whole time just on her laptop playing games, and my fraternal twin sister—who is also queer—was also in the room when it happened.

Later on, my little sister told me she didn't feel bad for me, she only felt bad for mom. Then my twin sister started tone-policing me in our group chat, telling me I was being "mean" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to our mom while she was literally invalidating my existence. It sucked because she is queer too and was right there in the room, but she still turned on me in the chat. I felt pathetic, shaking and crying in my room, totally regretting that I ever said anything.

But then a few hours later, my mom called me back upstairs to talk again. It turns out she actually spent that time self-reflecting. She completely turned things around, apologized, and said she realized she was wrong. She connected it to her own childhood trauma about being forced to go to a mosque when she didn't want to, and said she realized religion is personal and she won't force the church rule on me anymore. She even said that knowing I’m LGBT makes her think completely differently about the whole queer community now, and she wants to rebuild our relationship.

Honestly, I'm glad it ended on a good note, but the emotional hangover is destroying me. My brain keeps replaying that first look of absolute disgust she gave me on the couch, and I keep crying thinking about it. She wouldn't have said those things or looked at me like that if she didn't mean it in the moment. It’s like I can’t just accept the apology yet.

Has anyone else experienced a parent completely flipping scripts like this in a matter of hours? How do you cope with the trauma of the bad reaction when they’re suddenly trying to be supportive now?