u/Competitive_Emu_3247

Hello.. I have been using the 2-step method to cover my greys for a couple of years now, and I mostly like the results.. The only issue I have is that, when I wash out the indigo step, I notice a lot more shedding than usual, my thoery is that it's because both henna and indigo are extremely drying, and there is probably a lot of hair that get broken and shed during the application and the washing process (i.e. it's more mechanical shedding than anything)..

So, I thought maybe adding aloe vera powder to the mix, in both the 1st henna or the 2nd indigo step, would make the mix more slippery and therefore washes out of the hair more easily, hence reducing the shedding..

Has anyone ever tried this? Does it affect the colour outcome at all?

I (40F) decided to go no contact with most of my family and I don't know how to feel about this..ecided 6 months ago to go NC with the majority of my family members (except one of my brothers, with whom I'm low-contact)..

A bit of background: I moved out from my family's house when I was 24 years old, prompted by what I later realized was a very toxic environment.. My father was a very volatile, emotionally unregulated person which caused a lot of verbal, emotional and even physical abuse, and growing up everyone walked on eggshells aroubd him for fear of him exploding at any moment.. He thankfully died 12 years ago.. My mother, on the other hand, has been for my whole life just.. not there at all. I can't find another way of describing her other than "emotionally stupid", her and I never really got along..

2 years ago, due to job-related reasons, I had to move back to my family's house to live with my mother, and I lived there for 1.5 years.. Being away from that place for so many year, I had gained a sense of peace and tranquility that I thought living with her would be fine, "Surely I can handle it now" I told myself.

However, living in close proximity to her and dealing with her day in and day out, as well as observing her behaviour with me and even with other people, was a nightmare: she's just not a pleasant person to be around at all.. The other realisation I came to as a result of living with her was that she's been a bad mother to me by choice, because I saw her have better relationships with my siblings (very unhealthy co-dependent relationships in my opinion but still, she never even tried to have a relationship with me).. There were many other heavier realisations that came out of my stay in that house, but I think I better save those for therapy so that the post doesn't become too long..

So, as soon as I moved out again, I decided to go NC with her.. She had already caused a lot of bad blood between me and my other siblings, so I was already almost NC with them too, except for 1 brother, as I mentioned earlier..

Even though I feel a lot more peaceful and like a huge weight is lifted, it still stings when I see friends and people around me supported by their families and I'm not, or when I see how families pass down all kinds of capital (social, financial...etc) to their children, when I never had any kind of capital or support from mine.. I'm, as expected (!), single as well, so life feels incredibly difficult when you feel that you just have to do everything and take care of all aspects of your life alone..

It makes me sad and heavy-hearted, and I don't know how to get over that or how to build my life in a way so that the lack of family support won't have a massive impact. Any thoughts?

... on both the Ultimatum and LIB, I feel like they handpick women who lack self-respect and are mostly desperate to get married.. And just to be clear, there is nothing wrong with *wanting* marriage, it's the *desperation* that would blind you to how toxic and dysfunctional the man you're dying to marry actually is..

So, I feel like the casting of those 2 shows is often done intentionally to highlight how desperate women can be to get married.. Combine that with also selecting trash men, and what you get is basically a humiliation ritual for women..

Don't get me wrong, I'm not absolving those women for putting themselves in this position to begin with.. There's a conversation to be had about the lack of self-awareness and self-respect that would lead a woman to behaving in such a way.. But I think Netflix is, for some reason, making a point of highlighting this behaviour and of painting women in a certain way. What do you guys think?

Hi.. I'm looking for reasonably priced reformer Pilates classes near the city centre.. Any recommendations?

So let me get this straight: Jebin and Alex got kicked off the show for a note where he cussed her, and Vanessa Lachey was very pretend-angry that Alex got spoken to that way.. However, when that dipshit with the insane vocal fry (can't even remember his name) yells at his "ex" to shut the fuck up, or laughs with his friends about gangbanging his current partner in the trial marriage, that's perfectly OK?!

How did production not step in and kick that guy off the show? Or at least, they should have separated him from Hayley for her own safety.. Or are we waiting for him to actually SA someone for real?!

It's fucking infuriating how such deep contempt and disrespect towards women is being so normalised on TV.. I'm shaking with anger as I write this

I just don't get all the hesitations after the reveal.. He seemed all in on Carolina when they were in the pods.. Did I miss something?

To me personally, men like Augustin are my biggest pet peeve: the guy who shows up as "sensitive" and can't stop crying in the beginning of the relationship, only to realise later that sensitivity actually means caring about his own feelings and putting them as a priority over anything else, even if it means hurting your partner..

What do you guys think? Do you think they will make it to the altar?

I have been on a hunt, but unfortunately I haven't found "the one" yet.. My skin is very sensitive and acne-prone, so chemical screens don't work for me 😭

Hi there..

I will be turning 40 in a couple of months.. Life at the moment is not bad per se, but it feels... meh. I'm stuck in the middle of a graduate degree that's taking waaay longer than I anticipated, with everything that comes with it like living a student life still, tight budget... etc. I also have been trying to settle into a new city that I moved to only 3 months ago, and have been dealing with a lot of family drama lately... Chronically single, of course, in spite of my yearning for partnership and companion..

Overall, life has just been A LOT, and I have been feeling mildly depressed and like I don't really have much appetite for anything, aside from what sustains my life, such as mechanically eating, sleeping and working on my degree..

Now, I know 40 is a big milestone.. it will only happen once, and I'm afraid if I don't celebrate it, I may regret it later.. However, I can not for the life of me bring myself to want to celebrate it or plan anything for it.. In fact, I wish there was a button I could push to make the time stop.. this looming birthday is nothing but a reminder that I'm nowhere near where I wanted to be at this point of my life..

What would be your advice to me? Did anybody feel the same way when they turned 40? And how did you deal with it?

Hi.. I'm looking for an Android free app that could allow me to try what different hair styles would look like on me.. I feel.kinda bored of how my hair looks and would love to do some kind of hair makeover

I haven't been strictly following the news for the past couple of weeks due to work overload, but I'm noticing that all of a sudden, most stocks I'm investing in are down.. Is there a reason for that? Did something happen that's causing this?

I'm a total newbie to personal finance and would like to open a lifetime ISA account.. I heard moneybox is the best platform for this, but I would like to know more about any fine print or hidden fees before I go ahead with opening the account.. I mainly would like to know:

1. Which LISA account would be better (cash versus stocks and shares)?

2. What are the fees for each of those types?

3. If I choose to open a cash LISA for now, can I later on switch to a Stocks and Shares one?

4. Are there any other platforms aside from moneybox that you'd recommend?

I got the RMS powder blush after a long period of hesitation (it's not exactly cheap, and the swatches online seem vastly different for the same shade).

Anyway, I got the shade Hanky Panky.. Ever since I got I think I tried wearing it about 10 times, each time with a different technique to try to get it to work: with or without foundation underneath it, on top of cream blush or on its own, two different brushes... Nothing works! No matter what I do, it ALWAYS ends up looking patchy and uneven and weird.. I never had that issue with any base make-up item I ever owned..

The formula also has this weird characteristic where, because it's very dry and doesn't pick up easily on the brush, you end up either picking up way too little, or you try hard so you puck up too much.. And when you apply it to your face, it either doesn't show up at all or, after building it a couple of times, your cheeks suddenly are super red! It's hard to explain, but it's very strange to me..

Am I missing something? Am I doing something wrong? For those who own this blush and love it: how did you get it to work?