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Day by day my respect towards people who showed up in the kitchen for every meal is growing!
▲ 100 r/tamilfoodies

Day by day my respect towards people who showed up in the kitchen for every meal is growing!

One hour in the morning and I'm sorted for the day 🙂‍↔️This should ideally take only 30-45 mins. All of these are easy ones. I either just chop, boil and mix it. Or soak them. That's it.

Day by day my respect towards mothers is growing 😭 These wonder women were preparing EVERY SINGLE DAY! Sila Working women vela mudichutu night vandhu dinner prepare panranga. Working women kind of have a life outside the home. But for homemakers, veetlaye irundhu mind evlo gaanda irukum?

I mean howwww.

The first thing after I come home I go to the fridge and get this soaked oats. Which is just what I already got it ready in the morning.

But in our households did we have this space? No! Sooda dhan saapduvom, idhula complaint vere panuvom. Epdi dhan night vela la mudichutu vandhu, chapathi maavu/dosa maavu la munadiye plan pani Adhuku oru side dish ready Pani. Apram night paathram la wash panitu..No freaking way 🫠

I'm not even able to feel grateful because not everyone got this space that I have. I slightly have control over things I do. But for the ones who didn't had a choice? I can't imagine 🫠

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 2 days ago
▲ 34 r/tamilfoodies

Indhe salad eh poi sandhega pattene 😤❤️

Indhe salad dappa la podrapo ore doubt. Ayo idhu paaka Nallave ilaye, chicken sakkaiya Iruka pogudhu iniku avlo dhan nu sogama kelambitu irundhen.

Apram office ku vantu saapudren, it was heavenly! The dressing of the salad+ boiling veggies elevated the taste🥹

Onion Tomato Cucumber add panna maranten, but I don't think so I'll need that. I loved this one version!! Around 25-30grams protein this is

Dressing

- Hung curd

- Pepper

- Garlic

- Salt

Salad

- 100 grams of chicken breast

- sweet corn

- carrot

- capsicum.

Ivanga elarayum idly cooker la boil panne for 10-12 mins (salt add panala, enaku epdi add pananum therila since I've placed them all on idly plate I was wondering epdi da salt poduvanga)

Then only realised the salt from the dressing is sufficient and chicken got blended well with the pepper and salt from the salad.

I'm the happiest😤❤️

For the ones struggling with junk especially the fried rice gang. This is for you! I've been there, and this recipe is helping.

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 3 days ago
▲ 93 r/tamilfoodies

Week 1: Update

Although I have been doing this for a while now. Posting here on this sub is making me feel more accountable. Post podala na threaten la panranga bha 🤣

Going forward I'll just post one weekly update maybe. I don't wanna bombard 😚

There were a few who asked how I'm planning my food. I just wanted to add a few generic pointers.

- My breakfast and dinner are mostly the same.

For breakfast I have salads (protein variant and dressing matum change aagum)

For this I batch veggies for 3-4 days.

- For dinner I have my protein oats soaked in milk. Dessert mari Irukum.

- Lunch, here I take Amma's help. I mostly do only the veggies/rice. I'll leave the curry part to her.

If you're starting something similar just start with one meal. That's how I started. And batching veggies gave me a sense of confidence in my own self. It feels good when you plan things ahead.

I'm still konjundu struggling with junk. Daily enathayavadhu oru vaai saaptudren. Adhu matum overcome panten na chinraasa kaila pidika mudiyadhu.

So yeah that's about it. See you next week!

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 4 days ago
▲ 47 r/tamilfoodies

Week 2 Prep: Salad prep for the next 3-4 days 🙂‍↔️

Starting meal prep for salads. Yogurt dappa verum dappa dhan🤣 it's on a different vessel still settling.

Daily protein matum ananiku boil/cook panna poren!

Let's see how this goes 🥶 Outsourcing lunch prep to amma I'll probably just help her with chopping 😚 Dinner I'll have my soaked protein oats.

Pona vaaram nalla pochu. Indhe vaaram enna panren papom🫠

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 4 days ago
▲ 3 r/WeightLossAdvice

F28: Have been obese all my life and I have zero will to lose weight. I'm tired of myself.

F28

I'll be brutally honest.

I genuinely cannot lose weight. I'm not able to. I weigh 110 kgs. I was atleast at 90kgs and I looked decent chubby. But last 1 year due to personal family issues I gave zero fs about my health

I cannot say I'm addicted to junk but I do eat something every single day. That one bite of junk makes me feel safe. I actually don't even like the taste.. but I should have atleast one bite daily. This way I've randomly started having biriyani and fried rice while I won't even be enjoying it deep down. I loveee home made food. I make them, I eat that too.

I'm having zero will while lately I've started feeling tired. I have thought and convinced about myself in every possible way but you know deep down that desire and WILL should be there right?

There isn't one!

I'm tired of me. What a lazy ass I am. I do focus on mindful eating I love meal prep. But you know your body and mind everything has given up and you just do things for the sake of it right? That's where I am

I'm single. I couldn't get into a relationship. Men I like didn't like me (obviously) now I have a few rishtas who are genuinely interested but I don't have the energy.I have to get married atleast in a year or two although I have zero interest to get married.

I feel lost. I've tried everything. I just cannot do anything about it.

I've even thought my future kids will need me, I might die out of cancer if I continue doing this. I've literally self-threatened myself.

But nothing worked. I've been to therapy too once. They said childhood trauma. But how long I can stick to childhood trauma? It's me.. I'm the problem. No childhood trauma could be blamed. I'm indisciplined..

I'm otherwise happy about everything in life. I'm creative, I love my job. I'm actually happy. But this health part bothers me. I went from wearing 2xl to now wearing 4xl and 5xl

I feel terrible but I'm doing nothing about it.

I just wanted to honestly write about this somewhere and leave it here. I don't even know why I'm writing.

Has anyone been in my place? Have you cracked this?

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u/ConsistentAct3961 — 4 days ago
▲ 9 r/AskIndianWoman

F28-: Have been obese all my life and I have zero will to lose weight.

I'll be brutally honest.

I genuinely cannot lose weight. I'm not able to. I weigh 110 kgs. I was atleast at 90kgs and I looked decent chubby. But last 1 year due to personal family issues I gave zero fs about my health

I cannot say I'm addicted to junk but I do eat something every single day. That one bite of junk makes me feel safe. I actually don't even like the taste.. but I should have atleast one bite daily. This way I've randomly started having biriyani and fried rice while I won't even be enjoying it deep down. I loveee home made food. I make them, I eat that too.

I'm having zero will while lately I've started feeling tired. I have thought and convinced about myself in every possible way but you know deep down that desire and WILL should be there right?

There isn't one!

I'm tired of me. What a lazy ass I am. I do focus on mindful eating I love meal prep. But you know your body and mind everything has given up and you just do things for the sake of it right? That's where I am

I'm single. I have to get married atleast in a year or two although I have zero interest to get married.

I feel lost. I've tried everything. I just cannot do anything about it.

I've even thought my future kids will need me, I might die out of cancer if I continue doing this. I've literally self-threatened myself.

But nothing worked. I've been to therapy too once. They said childhood trauma. But how long I can stick to childhood trauma?

I'm otherwise happy about everything in life. I'm creative, I love my job. I'm actually happy. But this health part bothers me. I went from wearing 2xl to now wearing 4xl and 5xl

I feel terrible but I'm doing nothing about it.

I just wanted to honestly write about this somewhere and leave it here. I don't even know why I'm writing.

Has anyone been in my place? Have you cracked this?

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u/ConsistentAct3961 — 4 days ago
▲ 28 r/tamilfoodies

Day 5

Yes that's MAIDAAAA Chapathiii

I wanted junk todayyy

- Curryleaves, Nellikai, Buttermilk

- Maida Chapathi, Egg, yesterday curry.

- Sprouts paneer salad.

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 6 days ago
▲ 19 r/chennaicity

It all started with a wooden scale on December 31st 2025.

I'd just gone in for chart paper at a stationery shop. But a wooden scale stopped me, it reminded me of someone from my childhood who isn't in my life anymore.

Then a Hero pen, a moodi pota eraser. Then a lead pencil and a lead box. Each thing had a person or memory tagged to it, and I walked out with a full cover of things I loved as a kid.

It's not that my parents never got me things. If I asked for one, they'd get me two. But sometimes you know your homes don't have the bandwidth for everything. For instance emotional safety. So I never really had the headspace to ask myself what I liked. That was life until Appa passed, almost 7 years ago now. (I've made peace with every bit of this side, it's not that I regret or carry grudges)

The past 7 years went into making myself self-sufficient. I'm finally slowly getting there.

And the first thing I've been buying myself now that I'm out of survival mode and self sufficient are these cutesy stationeries. Cute lunch boxes. A kiddish water bottle. A fun case for my wired earphones. None of it planned, I see them, I grab them! I was not even intentional.

I was surprised how I didn't had an urge to upgrade my gadgets or buy outfits or travel. I kept coming back to things my childhood self would have picked but she didn't.

Turns out when you want things in life one needs to feel safe in their body first, and probably it was limited as I was growing up. So the wanting just waited all the while (which I was not aware of).

Now that I have slack in life, it walked right back in, exactly as it left. At almost 28.

I wish I could bring this energy to other parts of life. Meaning, to pause and reflect what I really want deep down and not doing things for the sake of it. Because end of the day or eventually our body keeps pulling us towards things we deeply want. And I'm glad I'm becoming that person finally. I hope I keep listening to them but above that I hope I create a safer headspace to allow those thoughts to arrive at ease.

Looking back, I've come a long way. And it looks like I've just started :)

P.S: Soft toys, I see you watching me. I'm coming 🙂‍↔️

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 7 days ago
▲ 81 r/tamilfoodies

Thanni bottle, buttermilk bag la Iruku🙂‍↔️

Avasaram Avasaram today 🙂‍↔️

No protein because it's Ammavasi aaaaahhhhhh

Mutta vekkra edathula saamiku padacha banana kuduthutanga frans!

Iniku namma cutting packing matum dhan 😌

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 8 days ago
▲ 40 r/tamilfoodies

Life lately 🥳

Took so long to get here 😤

So this is my default,

Morning: Salad+ Buttermilk

Lunch: Rice/Chapathi+ one veggie+ 2 eggs

Dinner: Overnight oats.

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 10 days ago
▲ 27 r/tamilfoodies

Then: Cothas' Cold Coffee Now: This Urundai😤❤️

Enoda niece indhe urundai eh mochak mochak nu saaptutu irundha

Enada avlo nalla Irukuma nu onnu vaangi saapten paarunga 😤

IT'S BOMB!!!!!

Koochame illama avaluku vechirundha dappa la irundhu 3 Karuppu Ulundhu Urundai Saapten.

It's super addictive Good Lord!

The texture of the sweet is a niceeee fineeeeely powdered stuff of all the ingredients. Ulla eranguradhe therila.

Ipo dhan Cothas Cold Coffee Addiction la irundhu overcome pantu varathukula ipo indhe urundai😤

Aana idhu nalla Iruku idhu 😤❤️

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 11 days ago
▲ 5 r/TamilTwenties

Do you grieve the love you never got to give?

We talk a lot about the pain of not being loved.

I don't think we talk enough about the pain of having so much love to give... and nowhere for it to go.

It is not because nobody exists.

It is also not because you're asking for something back.

But life, timing, circumstances, or reality simply won't let you.

I've been trying to understand this feeling.

A few days ago, a junior at work asked me,

"What's the next milestone you're looking forward to?"

Without thinking, I replied,

"I haven't seen my niece in seven or eight months. I think I just want to see her."

The moment I said it out loud, it felt heavy.

(Due to few reasons, the dynamics is messed up. So I don't get to interact with her often.)

I didn't even realize how much I had missed her.

Later that day, I found out I'd actually be meeting her next week.

I expected to feel excited.

Instead, I felt... afraid.

Because I know how deeply I love her.

I know how much affection I naturally want to pour into her.

And I also know I don't get to see her often. I don't get to be part of her everyday life. I can't love her in all the ways I wish I could.

That realization hurt more than missing her.

It's like standing in front of a full reservoir, knowing you can only let out a cup.

I've felt something similar in another part of my life too.

I don't know how to name this relationship.

It's where you genuinely want to give someone your time, your care, your encouragement, your presence... simply because loving them feels natural.

Again it's not because you expect them to return it.

And not because you're trying to earn anything.

You just... want to give.

But you stop yourself.

Because you fear it would overwhelm them.

Because the relationship doesn't allow it.

Maybe the timing is wrong.

Maybe because you know your love has nowhere appropriate to land.

It's such a strange kind of grief.

You're not mourning what you lost.

You're mourning what never got the chance to exist.

And somehow that hurts too.

I've spent most of my life feeling loved. I've been on the receiving side. I've never really felt deprived of receiving love.

This is different.

This is the ache of carrying something beautiful inside you... and realizing you can't always offer it the way your heart wants to.

I don't know what this feeling is called.

It's not the pain of not being loved.

The pain of not being able to love and give the way you want to :')

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u/ConsistentAct3961 — 19 days ago
▲ 9 r/chennaicity

Do you grieve the love you never got to give?

We talk a lot about the pain of not being loved.

I don't think we talk enough about the pain of having so much love to give... and nowhere for it to go.

It is not because nobody exists.

It is also not because you're asking for something back.

But life, timing, circumstances, or reality simply won't let you.

I've been trying to understand this feeling.

A few days ago, a junior at work asked me,

"What's the next milestone you're looking forward to?"

Without thinking, I replied,

"I haven't seen my niece in seven or eight months. I think I just want to see her."

The moment I said it out loud, it felt heavy.

(Due to few reasons, the dynamics is messed up. So I don't get to interact with her often.)

I didn't even realize how much I had missed her.

Later that day, I found out I'd actually be meeting her next week.

I expected to feel excited.

Instead, I felt... afraid.

Because I know how deeply I love her.

I know how much affection I naturally want to pour into her.

And I also know I don't get to see her often. I don't get to be part of her everyday life. I can't love her in all the ways I wish I could.

That realization hurt more than missing her.

It's like standing in front of a full reservoir, knowing you can only let out a cup.

I've felt something similar in another part of my life too.

I don't know how to name this relationship.

It's where you genuinely want to give someone your time, your care, your encouragement, your presence... simply because loving them feels natural.

Again it's not because you expect them to return it.

And not because you're trying to earn anything.

You just... want to give.

But you stop yourself.

Because you fear it would overwhelm them.

Because the relationship doesn't allow it.

Maybe the timing is wrong.

Maybe because you know your love has nowhere appropriate to land.

It's such a strange kind of grief.

You're not mourning what you lost.

You're mourning what never got the chance to exist.

And somehow that hurts too.

I've spent most of my life feeling loved. I've been on the receiving side. I've never really felt deprived of receiving love.

This is different.

This is the ache of carrying something beautiful inside you... and realizing you can't always offer it the way your heart wants to.

I don't know what this feeling is called.

It's not the pain of not being loved.

The pain of not being able to love and give the way you want to :')

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u/ConsistentAct3961 — 19 days ago
▲ 31 r/tamilfoodies

3 months, 3k people and 300+ posts ❤️🌼

Thank you everyone ❤️

Would love to know what else we could start doing!

Drop your ideas in the comments :)

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 19 days ago
▲ 18 r/tamilfoodies

Paneer Stuffed Chapathi - Non aesthetic version 😂

Also, Instamart la "Noice" Malai Paneer nalla Iruku! Super soft and affordable pricing.

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 19 days ago
▲ 278 r/chennaicity

Another day, another traffic moment that made my day :)

I noticed a man riding a two-wheeler with his little kid standing in the usual spot in front of him.

The child looked around 4 years old.

The first thing I noticed was the kid was wearing a proper helmet.

Then I noticed something even better.

The dad had one of those child safety harnesses that secured the kid to him, adding another layer of protection instead of just relying on the child to hold on.

It was such a small thing, but it made me smile.The helmet and the harness together probably cost around ₹3,000–4,000.

Compared to everything else we spend money on for kids usually, that's such a small yet thoughtful investment for a child's safety.

The parent has taken one step further, a thought went behind the kid's safety and he figured it out! It felt good to witness that amongst that annoying morning traffic :)

I know no safety measure can eliminate all risk on Indian roads, but seeing someone think a step ahead instead of doing the bare minimum genuinely made my day.

I hope this becomes more common.

(This image is AI-generated. Low-key proud that I managed to recreate exactly what I saw, hehe)

u/ConsistentAct3961 — 22 days ago