u/ConsistentAct3961

Who even talks about work on Reddit!?!?

I DO 🙂‍↔️

I'm into content writing and digital marketing. I entered this space in 2021. This was my career transition into the newly emerging startup world back then.

Career shift na enna, startup world na enna, edhuvume theriyama thappi thavari edutha urupadiyana decision. My only goal back then was that, if I'm gonna work full-time in an office space, I'm not going anywhere was my belief.

Coincidentally got into something I love. Writing.

Another skill that I possessed was building connections.

I didn't even realise I was pairing these 2 skills and made a living out of it.

2021-2023 I worked with different startups and founders for content and digital marketing.

By 2023 I wanted to work independently because I thought "Oh I want to make more money yapayapayapa"

Again coincidentally I happened to collaborate with my very dearest friend who happened to be a graphic designer. Someone with a complementary skill that helped us get clients easily. We both indeed had an office space just the two of us for 1.5 years. Then naturally we had different things to focus on so she took leave from our collaboration. (Friends kooda business panna putukum soluvanga but our closing conversation regarding this was the sweetest and we were overwhelmed by gratitude, I got lucky here too😤)

Then I continued working alone from my home for 1.5 years.

But somewhere in these three years I got comfortable. Comfortable in a way that wasn't great.

My mindset wasn't growth-focused, the way I handled money wasn't great, the way I handled people wasn't great either. I met so many people but I don't think I ever really learned what happens in tough times, because I always had an exit. Whenever it got overwhelming, I could just end it. I was quietly avoiding the hard parts.

A month ago a client asked me to join his new company full-time, while still keeping my other projects. It felt like exactly what I needed, but also it made me spiral a little. Is this a downgrade? Did I not "make it" independently because my mindset wasn't right? A whole month of that self-doubt running in the background.

Past week at work is an absolute chaos. Content piling up, everything was priority ,I genuinely didn't know what to pick up first. In the middle of that a colleague asked me for help with something. Normally I'd panic and make a whole scene about having zero bandwidth. Today I just paused, helped her for five minutes, came back to my work. Calm. First time ever.

Stayed back a bit later to finish up. My boss had already left, came back a minute later and said he wanted to talk. He'd noticed me being stressed for 2 days and said something I hadn't heard in a while. He said I don't have a skill problem, I have a structure problem, and that I need to stop questioning whether I'm capable and just sit and figure out the structure.

This is something very normal, I get it. But for someone who was in a space where it's just "deliver the work and get the money," I never had the opportunity to get honest, genuine feedback like this or someone to help me think through things. Clients just say they're happy or unhappy and leave. That's the setting, I'm not blaming it. But in that process I lost that spark, and kept going anyway.

Something about hearing that from a senior I look up to, someone who's seen this way longer than me, just cracked something open. In that moment I saw myself loving my work and my decision all over again. I was smiling the whole drive home on my two-wheeler.

After almost two years of finding it hard to love the version of me at work, and the work itself, today was one of those days that assured me I'm doing the right thing and that the environment around me is helping too. Feeling grateful is an understatement :)

Most of the people working independently/running a business are people like me. Who might sometime be simply running around deadlines and getting the work done. My perspective towards working as a regular full time work itself changed after this phase. Not everything is about money and apparently if you're still young (below 30) one should definitely consider working in an office before wanting to "start a business" or work independently. Ofcourse the rewards and positives seems more from the outside but not everyone is smart enough to get there. So yeah.

Avlo dhan post mudichhh

Idhu varaikum padicheenga na, nandri 🌼✨

For the last three years, I've worked independently from home.

A month ago, I started going to a client's office at least 3-4 times a week.

You'd think the hardest part would be the work? It wasn't.

It was the 25 km ride up and down. I know 25km is nothing but for someone who was comfortably working from home it was a very big deal 😤

Every morning, I'd complain.

"It's too far."

"It's time consuming."

"I'm tired."

"I don't want to wake up this early."

40mins on a two-wheeler in the morning and evening suddenly felt like the biggest inconvenience in my world.

By the second week, I had negotiated with myself.

"Fine put on your headphones. Play a couple of songs."

By the third week, something changed.

I started looking around at people and observing them while waiting in traffic.

(I already wrote a post here about the girl in a sari seated on the pillion wearing cute Kannadi bangles hehe)

Now observing people while waiting is my favourite part. That uncle who waters the plants outside his shop every morning (if I start at 8.30am I'll see this)

Tiny moments that I'd never have noticed if I had stayed inside my room.

Then the next surprising thing was, I stopped wearing my earphones!

The commute became the only part of my day where nobody wanted anything from me.

Then other things like if I start my day just 20 mins before I don't have to stand in the traffic much. And I get to drink Elaneer peacefully because I reach office 30 mins before 😤 (like whaaaaatt, I never imagined I could make it there early, I was late everyday during my 1st week)

I've never cared much about bags. As long as one could fit my laptop and water bottle, I was happy.

Then one super jam packed evening I spotted a girl carrying this beautiful handcrafted backpack with a tiny Lego-style keychain.

For some reason, I couldn't stop thinking about it. I looked for the bag's brand and after going home suddenly bags were the most exciting thing for me 😂

And now..

Thirty days later, I actually look forward to the ride.

Yes, it's hot. Yes, traffic is annoying.

But those forty minutes (x2) have become "me time".

Sometimes the routine we resist the most ends up creating the space we didn't know we needed.

I'm hoping July is where I build on this.

Gym. Better food habits. More consistency.

If the first month taught me anything, it's this:

Not every uncomfortable change is taking something away from you.

Sometimes it's introducing you to a version of yourself you haven't met yet.

Excited for the second half of 2026.

Creeps randomly staring at women is so normalised that most of us don't even react immediately.

The first thing we do is check ourselves.

"Dress okay ah iruka?"

"Did I do something weird?"

Or we just freeze.

Or pretend we didn't notice. Kandukama irukardhu.

What I've noticed is, some men know exactly what they're doing. They know most women won't create a scene, won't confront them, won't say anything. So they continue staring as if it's the most normal thing in the world.

I've been that girl too.

But somewhere after my early 20s, it started bothering me. Why am I the one feeling uncomfortable? Why should I be the one looking away?

So I started doing the opposite.

If they're staring, I stare back.

If they're being extra creepy, I walk up and ask, "Sollunga enna venum?"

Works like magic every single time.

The confidence disappears.

The eyes start wandering.

People always say, "Just avoid it. Don't get involved."

Fair advice.

But my intrusive thoughts say, "No. I should make sure you feel uncomfortable too."

And watching these cowards squirm after acting so brave from a distance gives me a tiny amount of satisfaction.

I was WFH for a couple of years. Only in the last month I've started going regularly to a client's coworking space. Maybe I forgot how common this is.

But I've already seen 2-3 people who were absolute creeps. Pantry la, entrance la, walking past, they'll just keep looking.

Inniku oru colleague oda pesitu irundhen. One guy made both of us, especially her, uncomfortable three different times. This wasn't the first day, it's going on for a while now.

Third time I couldn't help myself.

I just walked up and asked,

"Bro, enna dha bro venum?"

Avan adhuke uncomfortable aitu kelambitaan.

Onume kekala naanu, enna venum keatadhe handle panna mudiyala.

Ivanunga maari aalunga la, naanga bayandhu silent ah irundha adhula ego boost eduthukuraanga nu nenacha veri aagum.

And maybe that's why seeing them get humbled with one simple question gives me an alpa sandhosam.😌

My close friend's 15 year old cousin was missing for 12 days. I posted on a few subs here. There was this person who frequently commented asking about the update. Then we happened to connect over private chat.

At first I thought this was a guy and apparently that person also thought I was a guy. Naanga fulla ve "bro aama bro apdi aachu, thala ipdi aachu" nu edho rendu pasanga pesra mariye oru one week ah pesitu irundhom. This person also knows the missing kid's family years ago but was not aware much about the happenings that's when we started talking to share the updates we know so we were just ranting or updating to eachother until the kid was found.

Nethu paiyan kedachutan update! We were exchanging the story behind it. Oru edathula avanga oru ponnoda per keatu ungaluku ivangala theriyuma nu enaiye ketaanga. Apo dhan enaku strike aache what if this person is a woman. Then I told her, I'm assuming you are a guy and I'm a girl.

She was like ayo Naanum ponnu dhan🤣 the kinda comfort we felt after that!! Omg😭😂The ice broke instantly and that connection hit different. Then we exchanged our names and phone numbers.

Ipo inga oru pause vekren.

Apart from this something else was happening behind this. This weekend is my close high school friend's birthday, she passed away 8 years ago. Nethu avala pathi nenachu oru 2-5 mins yoschutu konjo feel pantu aprama vituten. She was the only female Muslim friend I ever had all these years.

Now coming back to the Reddit story..

Nethu indhe Reddit friend avanga per sonnapo oru nimisham apdiye freeze aiten. It was a Muslim name starting from the same alphabet as my friend and she was also of our age. I was spellbound :') After all these years I'm connecting with someone similar like my friend. Even before we exchanged our numbers and identity we both felt an instant connect. Apram night eh call pani indhe kedacha paiyanoda update la share pantu we had a small intro about eachother. Apo dhan sonnanga indhe mari avanga friend yaaro na indhe reddit post potadhu avanga paathatu ivanga kita solirukanga, avanga reddit download pannadhe enkita indhe kutty paiyana pathi pesa dhan 🥹 she was telling she has no idea about Reddit and stuff and that I'm her first social media friend.✨

Reddit always surprises me. Last week this time I was having a very dirty fight with a Reddit guy I told myself I won't open my DMs every again. On the same day only I happened to talk to her.

Engayo en friend oda cousin tholanju poi andhe process la andhe paiyanum kedachutan random ah inorthangaloda connect aaguradhulam nenaikrapo makes me wonder life has this beautiful way of constantly asking us to look at the brighter side :) This is not just the first time, in my limited time here which is barely 4 months the kind of experiences and people I've been seeing are too beautiful to comprehend.

What a way to start my week!

P.S: Will talk about the missing kid in my next post once the official update is out :) More on that soon.

P.P.S: Idk why this post keeps getting deleted/flagged. Had to keep on reposting

My close friend's 15 year old cousin was missing for 12 days. I posted on a few subs here. There was this person who frequently commented asking about the update. Then we happened to connect over private chat.

At first I thought this was a guy and apparently that person also thought I was a guy. Naanga fulla ve "bro aama bro apdi aachu, thala ipdi aachu" nu edho rendu pasanga pesra mariye oru one week ah pesitu irundhom. This person also knows the missing kid's family years ago but was not aware much about the happenings that's when we started talking to share the updates we know so we were just ranting or updating to eachother until the kid was found.

Nethu paiyan kedachutan update! We were exchanging the story behind it. Oru edathula avanga oru ponnoda per keatu ungaluku ivangala theriyuma nu enaiye ketaanga. Apo dhan enaku strike aache what if this person is a woman. Then I told her, I'm assuming you are a guy and I'm a girl.

She was like ayo Naanum ponnu dhan🤣 the kinda comfort we felt after that!! Omg😭😂The ice broke instantly and that connection hit different. Then we exchanged our names and phone numbers.

Ipo inga oru pause vekren.

Apart from this something else was happening behind this. This weekend is my close high school friend's birthday, she passed away 8 years ago. Nethu avala pathi nenachu oru 2-5 mins yoschutu konjo feel pantu aprama vituten. She was the only female Muslim friend I ever had all these years.

Now coming back to the Reddit story..

Nethu indhe Reddit friend avanga per sonnapo oru nimisham apdiye freeze aiten. It was a Muslim name starting from the same alphabet as my friend and she was also of our age. I was spellbound :') After all these years I'm connecting with someone similar like my friend. Even before we exchanged our numbers and identity we both felt an instant connect. Apram night eh call pani indhe kedacha paiyanoda update la share pantu we had a small intro about eachother. Apo dhan sonnanga indhe mari avanga friend yaaro na indhe reddit post potadhu avanga paathatu ivanga kita solirukanga, avanga reddit download pannadhe enkita indhe kutty paiyana pathi pesa dhan 🥹 she was telling she has no idea about Reddit and stuff and that I'm her first social media friend.✨

Reddit always surprises me. Last week this time I was having a very dirty fight with a Reddit guy I told myself I won't open my DMs every again. On the same day only I happened to talk to her.

Engayo en friend oda cousin tholanju poi andhe process la andhe paiyanum kedachutan random ah inorthangaloda connect aaguradhulam nenaikrapo makes me wonder life has this beautiful way of constantly asking us to look at the brighter side :) This is not just the first time, in my limited time here which is barely 4 months the kind of experiences and people I've been seeing are too beautiful to comprehend.

What a way to start my week!

P.S: Will talk about the missing kid in my next post once the official update is out :) More on that soon.

I was waiting at the signal this morning. I drive a two-wheeler.

Usually, I observe people on two-wheelers. Family ah pona, pinadi irukuravanga (mostly the wife) helmet potrukangala, ethana pasanga vandila poranga, idhula konjam kevalama stalk panitu irupen. 😅

Most of the time, I've never seen the wife wearing a helmet. It makes me a bit concerned both ways. Yen avanga helmet poda maatenkuranga? And why didn't their partner insist on them wearing one? Ippadi la pathutu irupen.

Today, I saw a woman in the pillion seat wearing a saree, seated sideways, wearing a pink helmet. Avanga kai neraiya kannadi bangles. I thought she must be pregnant, but she didn't look that way. Andha pillion seat semma height ah irundhuchu. She had cutely placed both her hands on her husband's shoulders. It was so adorable to watch. The way she was seated holding his shoulder like a kid.

Enoda earphones la vera Kochadaiyan oda "Manamaganin Sathiyam" song poitrundhuchu, and the song was exactly at, "Kanne kaniye, unnai kai vida maaten." ❤️

Summa ve delulu naanu, avlo dhan. Traffic la sirichine irundhen. They were on my route for at least 5–7 minutes, and I was just smiling like an idiot. All the while, she had both her hands on his shoulders. It was... I don't know, so adorable.

What a way to start my Wednesday. ❤️

P.S: Na ponnu daw😂 Paiyan illa apo kooda why would I see a married women

F27

Ranting here right after having a fight with my mum.

From the last 3-6 months she started to look for alliances. I genuinely don't resonate with the arranged marriage setting.

Recently she brought a profile even before I saw his picture I just know it won't workout. I explained to her patiently that I don't resonate with this profile.

But she constantly kept bringing this profile we had 3 big fights in a span of 1 week. Despite all of this she's planned to set a meeting with him and his family next week.

I got so annoyed despite telling her clearly. There's a difference between someone "not interested in marriage" and "not interested in the person" itself.

I clearly told her I don't resonate with this person. How can they force me to meet someone I don't like?

I'm surprised this is happening because she's the coolest Amma ever. I understand as a single parent she's doing her best but how can she force someone I don't even resonate with? I can't believe she's forcing me to meet someone. This is stressing me out. That guy deserves someone who loves him la? Why isn't she thinking that? He's coming with his whole family, why would I want to do this to him?

Now after the fight with her she's like ekedu ketu po na avanga kita solidren meeting cancel nu. But I can't trust her, she did the same thing thrice. I understand as a parent she's doing her duty, but even if I have to meet someone in an arranged marriage setting, avanga kita atleast pesanum thonanum la? Enaku illa soliyum epdi force panalam.

I just wanted to rant this out.