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When people say that phrase, they usually refer to one of two things: PCOS/PMOS that was “caused” by birth control (which is a myth), or the temporary wonky-ness of their period after they stop taking birth control. I’m referring to the later. Like genuinely where do people find the audacity to refer to their very normal, very temporary post birth control adjustment period by the same name as a condition that is chronic, permanent, and ruins lives? My PMOS insulin resistance made my diabetes so hard to manage that I was having near daily breakdowns, stfu about your “pill-induced PCOS” 🤬

I have been T1D for 11 years, and I have been on the same insurance plan for longer than that. TODAY, COMPLETELY BY ACCIDENT while on the phone with CVS Caremark for something unrelated, I found out that my insurance plan has what they call a “diabetes bundle”. Basically when I order and pay for a diabetes supply (anything from pump supplies or CGM to test strips or syringes) if I order and pay for two more diabetes supplies within the following 14 days, I get those two items COMPLETELY COVERED, AKA FREE!!!
On one hand, this is incredibly useful and I’m very happy to have this knowledge and will definitely be more strategic about when I fill my prescriptions. On the other hand, while maybe this benefit was added barely a year ago, maybe it was added two years ago or three or five or it’s been there the entire goddamn time. I only started noticing how sometimes my prescriptions would “randomly” be $0 late last year, but since some of my prescriptions are on the newer side (the G7, G7-compatible Omnipods, the G7 15 day) and therefor have a new schedule than before, it’s entirely possible that they just didn’t align right to be eligible before recently.
I couldn’t find online any details about this benefit, because finding details about your insurance benefits without talking to them yourself is almost impossible, so I don’t know when this began, but if my core/most expensive supplies (Dexcom, Omnipod, insulin) have been costing $1584 a year when they could have been costing $528 a year for any length of time, I think I would lose it, so I’m a little grateful I don’t know how long this benefit has been there.

I understand that it can be annoying to grind for Whitestone when you need it if you don’t have enough in storage, but please, for the love of god, fix the Ore Compass so that large Whitestone doesn’t ping it. It is so incredibly frustrating to be in the Elderwoods or the Royal Highlands and be trying to find large amounts of regular ore or rare ore and run to where the compass is indicating, just for it to be a large Whitestone. It’s literally called the Ore Compass.

I’ve had intolerable side effects from each one I’ve tried. First Zoloft, which gave me bad nausea that didn’t go away after being on it for a month and could not be treated with Zofran (I tried, it didn’t help), then Lexapro, same thing. Then Wellbutrin, which didn’t allow me to get anymore than 6 hours of sleep, waking up at least once in the middle of the night to completely ruin the quality of the little hours I did get, and it also gave me GERD. Then Remeron, which made me gain 3 whole pounds in only one week, and also fucked up my stomach for reasons I can’t explain because Google says it doesn’t do that, but my stomach problems stopped once the drowsiness from the tail end of the meds did. I’m now trying Trintellix, and am starting to lose hope, even though I can’t afford to, because the actual feeling that antidepressants give me is not something I could ever go without now that I’ve experienced it.

edit: I should mention that I have like moderate ish depression, more in the “I feel so empty and listless and can’t bring myself to muster up hope for the future but keep reluctantly pushing on anyways” than something else or more extreme. Antidepressants brought me back to life and near completely cut out the passive suicidal thoughts. Sorry, should have clarified that earlier

I hate how no matter where my goalposts are for my success on a GLP-1, everyone around me has a very specific idea of what about my journey and progress is good and what I should be celebrating. I’m a Type 1 Diabetic with PMOS/PCOS, and the insulin resistance that that causes makes my blood sugar incredibly hard to manage.
Before starting Mounjaro, every day was a constant fight to keep my blood sugar stable, and I was having near daily breakdowns over how stressed and burnt out I was. When my continuous glucose monitor or insulin pump would expire, I would just lay in bed, on my phone, procrastinating for hours before finally forcing myself to put a new one on while crying the whole time; I was in a really bad place mentally.
Now, I’ve been on Mounjaro for about 6 months, and I finally feel like I can breathe. My insulin resistance is lower than it has been in years, and my A1c (3 month average blood sugar) is lower than it’s ever been in all of my 11 years of being a diabetic. I’m so happy and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. Oh, and also I’ve lost some weight in the literal sense; whatever.
Unfortunately, whenever I tell someone in my life about this, weight always comes up and the difference in their reaction to the above details verses the weight loss makes me so upset. Dramatic improvement of my mental health? A polite and mildly congratulatory “good for you”. Lost X amount of pounds? They act like I won the fucking lottery. It makes me want to scream every time it happens. I can’t wear my favorite pajama set anymore because it was already loose when I got it, and that is more worth celebrating than the fact that I finally have hope for my health and future again? Fuck that. Fuck this awful culture we live in.

I’m sure the answer is no, but I was looking at the City Hall store and my game was lagging hard, and the next thing I knew, all of my Killima Coins were gone and I had a Roli Voucher I never wanted in my inventory. Is there any way this could be undone?

I am chronically ill and have medications of various types that I pick up/have delivered regularly, but the price changes strangely. If I go to pick up X medication, one time it might be $66, the time after that it might be $0, and then the next time after that it might be $66 again. I can’t find any rhyme or reason to it; sometimes I will pick up two prescriptions at once and one will be the usual price, while the other costs nothing. This happens for all of my meds, from the ones that cost $7 after insurance to the ones that cost $200 after insurance. This has been happening for a while, and I’m so confused by the prices flipping around, but I’m scared to call my insurance and ask, just to risk having to pay the normal price every time. I’m here posting this because when I google it, I only see constants: meeting my out of pocket deductible (I have not, and that wouldn’t explain the randomness of the prices anyways), there’s something about the specific drug that makes insurance not charge you for it (again, I do still get charged for all of my prescriptions 2/3rds of the time, and that couldn’t possibly be true for all 15 of my prescriptions anyways), something something Medicare (nope, private insurance), or a change in my coverage/my plan/the medication itself (which would be a one-time thing, not the constant back and forth of the prices that I’m seeing). I’m just so baffled at how and why this is happening.

I made another post about my struggles with game performance, lagging, etc. that got taken down because it “violated rule 7”, so I will be more clear. What settings do YOU, AS A MEMBER OF THIS COMMUNITY, READING THIS POST like to use to help with game performance? This is NOT a post asking for any sort of technical support, or anything that submitting a ticket to Palia support could help me with, even if I could get a helpful response within the next month (I know they’re under a lot of stress but good god). This is a COMMUNITY DISCUSSION of our EXPERIENCES and PREFERENCES when it comes to playing Palia day in and day out.

Such a small thing, but please change the quest Hexomancy 101 to specify that you have to “Craft any Elderwood relic to Tier IV” since getting my Eloine’s Blessing to not just tier IV but tier V apparently doesn’t count.

The Wiki says it uses any red meat, my game says it needs Jaackcat meat, but it also has the little “ready to craft” icon on it, even though I don’t have any Jaackcat meat. What is the truth?

This is kinda hard to explain, but I’ll try my best and I’m happy to answer any clarifying questions. So, my mom set up an Apple account for me ages ago with the intention of eventually being able to split all of my everything from her account. She uses family sharing in her Apple account and when I look at my account in the settings app, her account is under Media & Purchases and I can’t view it without signing into her Apple account. When I go into the App Store, hers is listed as the apple account. However, underneath where her account is listed in the App Store, my Game Center account is listed. I am 100% sure that that Game Center account is linked to *my* Apple account, and that her account has its own, separate Game Center account that is not the one that I use. When I go into *my* iCloud storage from *my* account, I can see all of my games saved there. It’s also worth noting that when I go into the App Store and click on apps and purchases, it shows two options, “Your Apps” (my mom’s) and “\*my name\*’s Apps) and every app either of us have downloaded shows up in “Your Apps” but “\*my name\*’s Apps” is empty. If I were to change the account under Media & Purchases and in the App Store from hers to my own, while she continued sharing her Apple Arcade subscription through the family share, would my game data be fine (Apple Arcade games or otherwise) since all of my progress is linked to my Game Center account, or would it vanish? I’m very scared for my cumulative 1000 or so hours of gaming.

This is kinda hard to explain, but I’ll try my best and I’m happy to answer any clarifying questions. So, my mom set up an Apple account for me ages ago with the intention of eventually being able to split all of my everything from her account. She uses family sharing in her Apple account and when I look at my account in the settings app, her account is under Media & Purchases and I can’t view it without signing into her Apple account. When I go into the App Store, hers is listed as the apple account. However, underneath where her account is listed in the App Store, my Game Center account is listed. I am 100% sure that that Game Center account is linked to my Apple account, and that her account has its own, separate Game Center account that is not the one that I use. When I go into my iCloud storage from my account, I can see all of my games saved there. It’s also worth noting that when I go into the App Store and click on apps and purchases, it shows two options, “Your Apps” (my mom’s) and “*my name*’s Apps) and every app either of us have downloaded shows up in “Your Apps” but “*my name*’s Apps” is empty. If I were to change the account under Media & Purchases and in the App Store from hers to my own, while she continued sharing her Apple Arcade subscription through the family share, would my game data be fine (Apple Arcade games or otherwise) since all of my progress is linked to my Game Center account, or would it vanish? I’m very scared for my cumulative 1000 or so hours of gaming.

Things that are true about me when I am on my period: I get cramps, I am more emotional and cry easier when I’m watching sad stuff on tv or something, my libido increases (it’s pretty low by default, so that’s instantly noticeable to me), and my insulin resistance increases (this happens because I have PCOS/PMOS, and as a Type 1 Diabetic, I NOTICE that shit because it ruins my blood sugar for a whole week).
Things that will happen to me randomly even though I am on birth control: all of the above^
Every now and then, not necessarily every month (though without BC, I don’t naturally get my period every month anyways) but recurrently nonetheless, I will just suddenly notice that I have all my usual period symptoms, just with less intensity and without the bleeding, but when I google it, I am told that you don’t have any sort of cycle on BC—especially if you skip the placebo week, which I do for my health. My search even led me to posts in this very subreddit from varying years ago that said the same thing, but I just don’t see how that can be universally true when I’m literally experiencing the opposite. I’m on Volnea, which is a lower-dose BC (most BC pills have 0.03mg of ethinyl estradiol, Volnea and all of its variants only have 0.02mg), so that could be a factor? I’m trying to understand and get some answers, and my next gyno appointment is like mid-September, so here I am.

I value convenience almost as much as I value profit, so I have five apple trees with harvest boost, quality boost, and water retain and I use the produce for most major things in the game. My go-to focus food: apple pie; it’s the highest amount of focus you can get for such a simple recipe (and growing the wheat for it in a specific pattern is what gives the harvest boost). The item I always put in my Glow Worm Farms: quality apples; aside from quality rare forageables (or elderflower), quality apples are the only non-cooked, non-processed item that give more than one glow worm (and it also gives a ridiculous amount of QualityUp fertilizer, which is where the quality boost comes from). The item I feed my higher-focus animals (don’t crucify me for this): quality apple jam; it provides 285 focus, which is enough for me to not have to worry about feeding my Ormuu or Goobi for a long time (Congee is good for lower-focus animals, so I grow a mix of rice and wheat for the harvest boost). I know I lose out on a good amount of money by not processing all of the apples, and using some of the little jam I do make to feed my animals instead of selling it, but unlike my Stardew Valley farm (with over a hundred kegs, and about fifty preserve jars and dehydrators each) I’m not very interested in industrialization and capitalistic min-maxing in Palia. Also those preserve jars take so damn long. Anyone else do similar financially inadvisable corner-cutting for the sake of convenience?

A few weeks ago, I was spending hours doing Arcane Labyrinth runs and pushing AFK Stages. If I got bored doing something else, I would open up this game just to try to get a better score in AL while I watched YouTube or something. I loved the story and blew through the whole thing in one play session the second each part was unlocked, because I enjoyed it so much. I was looking forward to Clashfronts and seeing how Supreme League would work. I was ranking higher than ever in Dream Realm, Supreme Arena, and even Primal Lord. Then I just barely didn’t qualify for Supreme League and suddenly I was only voting enough to get the most important rewards. Instead of checking Yaphalla/Puzzle every day to see if there were any better DR teams I could use, I just quickly did my one run for the ranking with the same team I used last time. I’m almost completely ignoring both the regular and Supreme Arena, and haven’t even bothered to update my SA defense. I was using my synergy request every day so that I could keep progressing in AFK Stages, even though I don’t have Gunnar or Alna built. Now the clock is ticking down to the end of the phase, and even though I wanted all the diamonds I could get from progressing another ten levels, now I just collect my three free rewards and move on. I picked an Eironn soul sigil from the Lucky Flip last week, because now I know I won’t be able to build him with the Clashfronts store chests, since I’m only middle of the pack in terms of power in my guild, not good enough to get picked most likely. I genuinely enjoyed Voyage of Wonders, and I’m sad to see it go, but the lack of those rewards will be missed the most. I was excited to see who would be the contact point for the reputation quest, and now we don’t even have them. I saw that the patch notes had been posted, and I always read through all of it carefully, even the parts I don’t care about (Honor Duel), but I barely skimmed the latest patch notes when they came out. I used to log in everyday right at the reset, now I have to set reminders on my phone to do it the next day (reset is at 5pm for me, so while it’s still 24 hours, it’s also two days) and I just quickly do my dailies and log out once I’m done. I miss my love for this game.