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It’s been so tough. I am reading lots of academic information, she’s already getting best therapists and meds and support groups, but like to hear from real life experiences. What is a parent to do.

I am a general SWkr, helping low income clients with all their needs, nothing specific.

After a home visit, clt asked me if I can give her a short 2 min ride to her bank, as she needed money to pay rent the next day and had no one to drive her. It is against company guidelines to have any client in our cars for liability purposes.

The SWkrs side of me says NO, it's beyond boundaries. The religious part of me says, its only 2 min, and it's a safe street with no traffic, no one will know.

I didn't do it.

Another time, a client's cell phone which he uses to contact agencies for help, is broken. I just happen to have an used cell phone at home, no longer need it. Not worth $30. I so much wanted to give him - but company guidelines says no giving to clients, especially cell phones with sensitive data. If I applied for a free phone from goverment, it will take two weeks to arrive and client desperately needs a phone right away. The faith side of me says, give it to him ! No one will know !

I didn't do it.

I come to detest boundaries, I know they keep us and clients safe, but sometimes clients are in such dire needs. If I encountered these clients in my faith group, I would have done both of these things with no issues whatsoever.

I want to serve my agency and my faith at same time, is it possible?

With my anxiety, depression, paranoia - I never appear professional at work. I appear lethargic, appear to not be present, not listening to the topic on hand, not engaging. It's really frustrating that despite meds and being "stable", so many obstacles.

My mother, I (56m), and my daughter (24), all have BP. I noticed that we are all not as mature as our ages. For me, I estimate my maturity age around 30. No matter how much nurturing I receive, I just don't seem to be able to manage emotions enough to act, talk, behave like a mature adult. Some of the things I say and do (don't want to give examples for now, too embarassing) are just not of a professional man would do, at work and at home.

Can anyone relate?

I just moved into 95116 (McKee and King). I think water may be very hard. Does anyone know how hard the water is, and what was done about it? I am about to buy strips to test the water's hardness.

Good: Super intelligent, highly educated, good communicator, professional, creative, personable.

Bad: Emotionally unstable, unreliable, tantrums, manic, unfocused.

Where can I actually contribute to society?

I am in my mid 50s. I just looked a Linkedin about my ex coworkers, many had long successful careers in last few decades, stayed in jobs over 7 years, stayed in same industry, did well for the most part. Me: changed job every 2 years, changed industries, and still at entry level job when I can be considering retirement as I approach age 60. I have no connection to ex colleagues, nothing to be proud of looking back at my career. So sad. So, so sad.

We have a room to rent in a 3 bedroom townhouse in Mountain View,, 5 min from main Google campus, two blocks from Crittenden Middle School. Shared bathroom. Clean and neat house, quiet area, designated private parking spot. Available 9/1/26. $1400 including all utilities. Looking for no smoking, working professional or student or interns.

I want to do more for my clients, but each time I step up, I realize I need more support - which my management and supervision doesn't provide, except for the 1 hour weekly "going over things". So I do the bare minimum to get by, yet these clients can be so much better off if there was more support for them. I want to do more for clients, make their lives better - but the system is limited. Frustrating.

Where to get a 2nd job (part time 10 hours a week) to accumulate 10 extra clinical hours?

Mine was achieve in school despite any emotional toll.

Moving into a 1500sq ft one story house in Northern CA, deciding between the two services.

Really sucks - no matter what job I have - retail jobs, corporate jobs, sales jobs, driving jobs - erratic emotions just do not allow any emotional stability, emotional calmness to be a reliable worker, someone to be trusted, someone to be counted on. Hence, can never get ahead in any job, always at entry level. So damm frustrating.

I am moving to a new house, and the neighbor has a young labrador that barks at any sound, any movement, anything. I don't think they walk the dog much. The dog can bark 10 hours a day as the neighbors are not home.

I bought two ultrasonic bark control deterrent devices, both don't work to stop the barking. I do not want to confront the neighbor yet as we don't know them all, and I don't want to have to call the city to complain

I am moving to a new house, and the neighbor has a young labrador that barks at any sound, any movement, anything. I don't think they walk the dog much. The dog can bark 10 hours a day as the neighbors are not home.

I bought two ultrasonic bark control deterrent devices, both don't work to stop the barking. I do not want to confront the neighbor yet as we don't know them all, and I don't want to have to call the city to complain

I am moving to a house where the coaxial wall outlet is located in a room far away from the center of the house. If I install the router there, the signal will be weak to the rest of the house. I want to move it to center of house so the signal can be strong throughout the house. I also want to rent that room out and the router cannot be there.

No coaxial outlets exist in living room or in any other rooms of the house. So I ran a wire from the exterior connector to the closet near the center of the house, however the closet does not have an electric outlet. I cannot run extension chords there .

I am considering these options:

1. Should I install an electric outlet in the closet, or
2. Install a new coaxial outlet to the living room
3. Install the router in the far away room and use an amplifier

I am an aspiring therapist - thinking of creative ways to serve clients.

I am a generalist social worker, clients are all low income, all races, all issues, mostly medically related, elderly, housing issues, immigration, nothing too acute. My agency is requiring that we document each visit with details - what was the issue, how it was discussed, what were interventions, how to proceed, how client feels about entire situation.

Truth is, most of these clients only needed someone to talk to, to care for, they sit alone all day at home, lonely and isolated. There isn't specific issue to address. Technically I am supposed to suggest termination, but our agency is lacking clients and management seems to be very slow to terminate. These clients do need help, just not the way it is structured.

This is how fast my paranoid mind works:

We are moving to a new house, which has a digital combination lock to the front door. The house is empty ,my wife and I did cleaning in the new house before moving in, and upon exiting, I changed the code using a programming code labeled on the lock on the inside. So there are two codes: one is to lock/unlock the door, the other is a programming code which is on a sticker inside the lock accessible only from inside of house. The programming code is needed to change the lock code.

The next day, my wife goes to the house after work - calling me that new code doesn't work, but we made sure it worked before leaving. I immediately panicked - my paranoid mind conjured this logic : someone who knows the programming code was able to re-program the lock code from the outside (previous tenants, realtors, neighbors, contractors) They let squatters in to the empty house and live there, and I would have to contact police / authorities to remove squatters, which will take months, they can practically live there rent free until I find authorities to remove them - and I would have to pay the mortgage while we cannot live there. I would be out thousands of dollars and embroiled in legal fees and efforts to remove squatters.

My body reacted - immediately I jumped out of my chair at home, ready to go to new house and remove the squatters. It felt SO REAL. I am not able to distinguish reality from my emotions.

Then another thought came to me in my head, wait a minute - your worries never ever materialized all your life, nothing ever happened to what you panic about? Are there real squatters there? Would anyone actually change the lock code? Could it be just that the new lock code didn't work? Would it be better for me to check the code on my next visit?

I called a close friend to confirm my thoughts, he agreed that I do panic to nothing. That all my life, I conjured worst crisis scenarios. I calmed down a bit.

Now 24 hours later, I look back - my entire body, emotions were consumed by that fear - it felt SO REAL. So intense. There was no room for logic or common sense.

This is example of true paranoia. It was not bipolar high or low, just pure paranoia that hijacked my whole body. This has happened many times in my life. During that intense panic, I lose control of all my senses. I imagine worst case scenarios at work, scared I would be fired anytime if I make minor mistake. At home, my children must be kidnapped if they don't return home on time. With my bank, if my password doesn't work, my account must have been hacked.

So tired of this.