u/EnvironmentalWeb3179

So my gf’s ex was being a bitch to me, and she went to talk to her in dm without me knowing, i told her the way she talked is disrespectfull and thah her ex will get a weird impression from her, and eventuallly the ex pointed out that shes being weirdly talktative to her etc, the ex even said she feels bad for me, im pissed that my gf continuesly gives her ex interested vibes, cuz shes not even self aware about it and ill forever hate that trait about her cuz its harming me, but its impossible to even help her realize, and she blames me for this aswell

Struggling between sx8,6 and maybe even 4 or 2.

Im a esfp, fevl or fvel.

I relate in every way to 8, but i am not independant, i rely on my closest person, i am clingy, im needy and need constant reassurance. The rest, controll, dominant, «weak fear» i relate to, got conduct disorder

6 is relatable too, im a anxious person, overanalyze anything, i got ocd and anxiety which plays a part here ig, i will sitt on a problem for a long time n hold grudges, vengefull, but i improvise

4 is very relatable, im competetive, the stereotypical bpd girl, but i do not care abt being unique, i belive i am, what othwrs think idk, i wanna be seen as normal

2, i rely on people, so much, could be mh, idk, but relationships drives me, like dating, im selfish tho, dont have empathy, dont care about many people, js my fav

Overall my biggest need in life is safety and being able to trust something sm that my mind shuts up

My biggest fear is dying, anywhere anytime, and people abondoning me and being alone

I belive 1 e, and not 3v for this person, which can fit?

What type do I seem like?

Personal concepts

1. What is beauty? What is love?

   ⁃ beauty is looks, colors, aestethics, a pretty room, or town, not sure what to say beauty is everything you look for.

   ⁃ love is love i dont know how to answer that, love is family, partner, your favorite game and hobby, animals

2. What are your most important values?

   ⁃ my important values are intelligence, being funny, quick thinking .

3. Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?

   ⁃ im not religious or spiritual, i dont really care about any of this.

4. Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?

   ⁃ im not educated about war and stuff, but to me, power is controll, power is something most people want to feel secured and confident.

Interests
5. What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?

⁃	Ive had long convos about typology with my online friend. I can talk long about gossip, complaining etc, my interests are editing especially, and gaming. I like gaming because i like competetive games, the feeling. And i like editing because i can make a edit just the way i want to and its catchy and fun. I also like watching tv shows for the usuall reasons 

6. Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?

   ⁃ im not interested in talking about health tbh, im focused on my body yes, i pay attention to its looks and health.

7. What do you think of daily chores?

   ⁃ i dont have daily chores, i just do what i want

8. Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.

   ⁃ im OBSESSED with the girl next door, CHLOE- I love interstellar, teen beach movie, the core . 2012. Tangled.

   ⁃ I like movies with disasters, and i love movies with dramatic love, like a crazy girl etc.

9. What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?

   ⁃ i can cry if im angry because the anger is so strong, or if im like faced with my emotions here and there, i usually dont cry. I can cry for a good movie/ show.

   ⁃ i smile when i do things i like at times, or when i get gifts, funny jokes etc

10. Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?

    ⁃ i feel that way around my partner, my room, or with people similar to me.

Evaluation & Behaviour
11. What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?

⁃	id say people see my weakness as lack of impulse controll, i can be direct or uncaring, and unwilling to listen to people

⁃	what i dislike about myself is that i can be stubborn or hold grudges alot

12. What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?

    ⁃ Strenghts people have seen in me is- that i can improvise very well, easily come up with solutions, smart, funny, confident

    ⁃ what i like about myself is my confidence and ability to adapt to most things even at anxious times.

13. In what areas of your life would you like help?

    ⁃ id like help in impulse controll, controlling my anger or help to controll my future as i dont think of the future at times.

14. Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.

    ⁃ When ive been stuck inna bad cycle, its usually something that makes me irritated and impatient, my reactions can be avoidant or unstable emotions

People & Interactions
15. What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?

⁃	qualitys i like in people, is someone who is fun, confident, jokes around but can still be kind with me at least.

⁃	i dislike people who is dumb, slow, confusing and to much morals that goes against my «fun»

⁃	typed i get along with is usually someone who is similar to me.

16. How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?

    ⁃ i care alot about this, im very like focused on having a partner as its loving and fun

    ⁃ qualitys i look for- confidence, somewhat dominant, funny, attractive, obsessive

17. If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?

    ⁃ if i raised a child id be concerned how they turned out, id hate to get a child who ends up just arguing etc (which is hypocritical because i was like that lol) , id be worried that they got hurt? Idk, i havent been child focused really, i dont see myself as stable enough for responsebility,

18. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?

    ⁃ inward id be like «thats kinda dumb»

    ⁃ Outward id be like «alr lets move on»

19. Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.

    ⁃ i see people as idk, 80/20, a few is chill, rest ignorant, i dont know.
    ⁃ A social problem can be that people jugde so damn soon.

20. How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?

    ⁃ i choose my friend based on how similar they are to me, if they are, we are vibing asf, if not, i cant be bothered to try.

    ⁃ i behave like myself around my closests, w «decent» friends i can hold back.

21. How do you behave around strangers?

    ⁃ i nod a smile if i get eye contact , idk i dont really do anything with stranges , i just see randoms outside

Is there anyone whos well educated in both mbti, ennea, socionics py etc, who could help figuring that stuff out

Im trynna help my friend type through mbti and socionics and she seems to be enfj, so which socionics type are possible for that one?

Since allison is my fav character and she shouldve just ended up w scott, i wish since they already took crystal back to play marie (i think) with the beast and stuff, that they just made allison the beast or something so she would be back and stay the rest of the show, considering crystal was already back

Spesifically sx6 vs sx4, Im Wondering if i may be a e6, but im not like the typical sp or so 6, just sx, but also sx4

Whats some differences?

Im rewatching teenwolf for the 20th time , liam and hayden is still my 2nd fav couple after scallison, i wonder why everyone hates layden? And why people prefer liam with theo.

Im typing as esfp esi fevl- 468, but wondering if 6 may be my core type? Can someone differate them?

I relate to sx4 because im very competetive, agressive, wanna be special etc, but i also have bpd and npd

For 6 i have anxiety, but i avoid anxiety, like i hide, i seek peoples help etc, safety is supee important to me

Wondering if theres anyone here who could try help typing me, someone good preferably, i think my own opinion of myself can be wrong at times and id like some insight.

So im trynna type my girlfriends sister, and the sisters boyfriend, ill refer to them as she and he.

She is 25 years , she loves collecting figues, driving alone scares her, she loves gaming, sims etc, and has alot og hyper fixations coming and going.

Positive traits- she is’ great at getting facts for her interests, she is a sweet person, takes pride in her owned items

Negative- she’ll treat her lil sis as air when her bf is around, she lives with her sister(my partner) who has to do all the chores, spend most money, she generally treats my partner unfair but shes «aloud» since she has asperger.

HE is hard to read, sat in a 1 h trip with him today and he didnt say a word or look at anyone, just watched the road, 0 emotional expressions, he also has aspd diagnosis, ive heard hes kind, but playfull? He slaps and jokes with HER infront of family members (rhey dont like seeing it) so lack of filter ig, he seems like a kind guy, but from my pov he cares little about alot of stuff, hes around 28 i belive.

If SHE wants something, she wont stop crying or complaining untill it goes her way otherwise shes confused and hurt

From my typing i type HER as intp, for him ive considered a thinking type aswell possibly intj? But im looking for input

He is generally a guy who likes using his senses, he works out, plays games, hes a casual chill guy, but kinder then most, has morals but also humor, hes not a logical type that way, he finds a laugh in most things, doesnt take things to serious , doesnt get offended / mad easily

As a kid he was joking around even more, always messing, didnt get to mad , didnt take things serious (except school and stuff ofc)

Strenghts- he does great in school, and has a great life, he doesnt take things to heart, hes very kind and respectfull

Weakness- he takes things w a laugh, as a kid he could rage bait alot

Im his aunt, and we have been bestfriends for life

Any input is great! I belive he ISNT a high si user, hes chill about most thinks.

Ive had my partner for 1.5 years, great person, but does not understand me at all, i get easily triggered and they cannot understand, im left with tons of black/white thinking and detached feelings in arguments, happends alot, i do my best but my partner tends to say «u always do-« if i do smth once, i get them but i feel to strong

I cant imagine being okay without them, but is that the love or attachment?, this person is so nice, sweet, caring and stuff, and we have fun and comfort, but i get scared sometimes that i stay in these emotions because of attachment and not because its true love

I get typed 6 but also 4 , i wonder whats some clear differences.