u/Extreme_Camp398

I (24, F) and my mom (55, F) don't have a great relationship. She used to verbally and physically abuse me (not SA, "just" to beat me a lot). She was never there for me, for example when I was 12 one of my friend killed himself and when I was crying about it she just gor angry at me. She is also addict to marijuna and has a history of mythomania ( for exemple she lied many times about having life-thretaneing diseases and we found out it was fake)We got estranged during many years (from my 15 to my 21) but I decided to give her another chance when I was 21. Since that we've had some ups and down let's say but now she is threatening me : she wants to kill herself because she is'nt happy with. her situation. She lives in a shared flat and suddenly she wants her own appartment with like separate bedroome, kitchen and living room, with a garden etc the problem is that she doesn't have the money for that (budget of 700 euros in Paris) so when I tried to tell her that it's not possible and that she needs to be more relaistic she said that her life had no sense of and that she was gonna kill herself. She refuses to seek medical help and she refuses to lower her expectations plus she says she wants the new appartment in max 3 months but she doesn't want to be the one too look for it. She says that if she doesn't have her new appartement she will either come live in my flat and that if i don't accept it she will end up in the street and kill herself. I absolutely don't want her to live with me but I also don't want something bad to happen to her.... any advices please ? I'm so sad with this situation, I also suffered from PTSD and depression because of what she made me go trough, I've battled with these two mental health issues for quite a long now and at this points I just want a normal and happy life

I (24, F) and my mom (55, F) don't have a great relationship. She used to verbally and physically abuse me (not SA, "just" to beat me a lot). She was never there for me, for example when I was 12 one of my friend killed himself and when I was crying about it she just gor angry at me. She is also addict to marijuna. She cheated on my dad and left us when I was 10. We stayed in touch but as the beating kept going, we got estranged during many years (from my 15 to my 21) but I decided to give her another chance when I was 21. Since that we've had some ups and down let's say but now she is threatening me : she wants to kill herself because she is'nt happy with. her situation. She lives in a shared flat and suddenly she wants her own appartment with like separate bedroome, kitchen and living room, with a garden etc the problem is that she doesn't have the money for that (budget of 700 euros in Paris) so when I tried to tell her that it's not possible and that she needs to be more relaistic she said that her life had no sense of and that she was gonna kill herself. She refuses to seek medical help and she refuses to lower her expectations plus she says she wants the new appartment in max 3 months but she doesn't want to be the one too look for it. She says that if she doesn't have her new appartement she will either come live in my flat and that if i don't accept it she will end up in the street and kill herself. I absolutely don't want her to live with me but I also don't want something bad to happen to her.... any advices please ? I'm so sad with this situation, I also suffered from PTSD and depression because of what she made me go trough, I've battled with these two mental health issues for quite a long now and at this points I just want a normal and happy life

I (24, F) and my mom (55, F) don't have a great relationship. She used to verbally and physically abuse me (not SA, "just" to beat me a lot). She was never there for me, for example when I was 12 one of my friend killed himself and when I was crying about it she just gor angry at me. She is also addict to marijuna. We got estranged during many years (from my 15 to my 21) but I decided to give her another chance when I was 21. Since that we've had some ups and down let's say but now she is threatening me : she wants to kill herself because she is'nt happy with. her situation. She lives in a shared flat but she wants her own appartment with like separate bedroome, kitchen and living room, with a garden etc the problem is that she doesn't have the money for that (budget of 700 euros in Paris) so when I tried to tell her that it's not possible and that she needs to be more relaistic she said that her life had no sense of and that she was gonna kill herself. She refuses to seek medical help and she refuses to lower her expectations plus she says she wants the new appartment in max 3 months but she doesn't want to be the one too look for it. She says that if she doesn't have her new appartement she will either come live in my flat and that if i don't accept it she will end up in the street and kill herself. I absolutely don't want her to live with me but I also don't want something bad to happen to her.... any advices please ? I'm so sad with this situation, I also suffered from PTSD and depression because of what she made me go trough, I've battled with these two mental health issues for quite a long now and at this points I just want a normal and happy life

I (24, F) and my mom (55, F) don't have a great relationship. She used to verbally and physically abuse me (not SA, "just" to beat me a lot). She was never there for me, for example when I was 12 one of my friend killed himself and when I was crying about it she just gor angry at me. She is also addict to marijuna. We got estranged during many years (from my 15 to my 21) but I decided to give her another chance when I was 21. Since that we've had some ups and down let's say but now she is threatening me : she wants to kill herself because she is'nt happy with. her situation. She lives in a shared flat and suddenly she wants her own appartment with like separate bedroome, kitchen and living room, with a garden etc the problem is that she doesn't have the money for that (budget of 700 euros in Paris) so when I tried to tell her that it's not possible and that she needs to be more relaistic she said that her life had no sense of and that she was gonna kill herself. She refuses to seek medical help and she refuses to lower her expectations plus she says she wants the new appartment in max 3 months but she doesn't want to be the one too look for it. She says that if she doesn't have her new appartement she will either come live in my flat and that if i don't accept it she will end up in the street and kill herself. I absolutely don't want her to live with me but I also don't want something bad to happen to her.... any advices please ? I'm so sad with this situation, I also suffered from PTSD and depression because of what she made me go trough, I've battled with these two mental health issues for quite a long now and at this points I just want a normal and happy life

I (24, F) and my mom (55, F) don't have a great relationship. She used to verbally and physically abuse me (not SA, "just" to beat me a lot). She was never there for me, for example when I was 12 one of my friend killed himself and when I was crying about it she just gor angry at me. She is also addict to marijuna. We got estranged during many years (from my 15 to my 21) but I decided to give her another chance when I was 21. Since that we've had some ups and down let's say but now she is threatening me : she wants to kill herself because she is'nt happy with. her situation. She lives in a shared flat and suddenly she wants her own appartment with like separate bedroome, kitchen and living room, with a garden etc the problem is that she doesn't have the money for that (budget of 700 euros in Paris) so when I tried to tell her that it's not possible and that she needs to be more relaistic she said that her life had no sense of and that she was gonna kill herself. She refuses to seek medical help and she refuses to lower her expectations plus she says she wants the new appartment in max 3 months but she doesn't want to be the one too look for it. She says that if she doesn't have her new appartement she will either come live in my flat and that if i don't accept it she will end up in the street and kill herself. I absolutely don't want her to live with me but I also don't want something bad to happen to her.... any advices please ? I'm so sad with this situation, I also suffered from PTSD and depression because of what she made me go trough, I've battled with these two mental health issues for quite a long now and at this points I just want a normal and happy life

i have doubts if me (24F) and my gf (26F) should stay together because of her helicopter parents.

her parents control all of her life, at 26 she has never taken her own plane tickets or pay her own bills like she genuinely doesn’t know how that even works

the problem is that this lack of independence reflect in our relationship : since she was never able to make her own choices she simply doesn’t know how to. for example she can call me for 20 minutes because she doesn’t know if she should eat a cookie or no

she also dumps a lot a her responsability on me like i have to remind her all the time of the things she has to do or else she doesn’t do it and ends up in difficult situations, or she dumps all of her stress on me and asks me to reassure her and don’t get me wrong of course you should support your partner and be there for them but… every day i lose up to 1 hour, somme days even more, because i need to help her and mange her stress and it’s kinda becoming exhausting

we are both in med school and i used to be a pretty chill person and not stress too much for the exams but being with such anxious person and having to make choices for two persons all the time has completely changed me and i now struggle with a lot of anxiety

i feel like this is heavily related to her parents being way too protective of her

we try talking about it but she just don’t seem to want to reclaim her freedom from her parents ?

and she said that it’s mean of me not to accept to help her deal with her anxiety when i try to tell her that she has to stop dumping this on me everyday, she says that if she can’t do that it means that i don’t accept her for who she is

does anyone has similar experience and can gove me some advices ? also maybe i m wrong and it’s indeed not accepting her as she is if i refuse to deal with her anxiety as well ?

and for the helicopters parents how do you deal with that as a partner ?

thank you :))

hello :))

I (24F) have always been pretty confident about my sexuality !

well, i used to be 😅 that was until i had my first wlw relationship with someone from a very homophobic familly and who had a lot of internalized homophobia, i tried to help but hearing all day long so much homophobic stuff kindda rubbed on me

now i have trouble accepting my sexuality so if any of you have advices to be a proud queer woman again, please tell me :))

hello everyone 😊

3 years ago I (21F) fell in love with my bestfriend (23F) and confessed my love to her, at first she said she wasn’t feeling the same but a few months after she kissed me at a party ! I was so happy and in love but what I thought would be the perfect love story ended being a very messy relationship

we dated for 6 months and she broke up with me 7 times because she felt too much pressure from her very homophobic familly (she hasn’t tomd them anything but the mere idea of them knowing about us make her litteraly sick). I tried to be as supportive as I could but unfortunately nothing helped, she couldn’t stand the idea of being with a girl 😕 so on our last break up i decided to tell her that this was the last time, and that from now on I wouldn’t let us get back together until she seeked professional help.

we stayed very good friends and kept seeing each other every day (because we are colleagues at work) but she has expressed multiple times her desire to get back together, the problem is that she hasn’t seeked profesional help at all

she says it’s too hard, that she doesn’t want to talk about our relationship to a professional because it’s too much pressure

the problem is idk what to do because i m affraid i will get hurt one more time 😅 but in the meantime, i feel like i m in the wrong for asking her to seek profesional help in the first place ? like i totally understand that it’s not an easy thing to do so it’s probably not something you should expect someone to do ?

then how to manage a relationship with someone whose familly is homophobic ?

any advices help, she is the first and only person i ve ever loved and i don’t wanna lose her

Bonjour, je me demandais si certaines/certains avez des astuces pour économiser ou se faire de l'argent tout en étant étudiant en médecine ? malheureusement je n'ai trouvé aucun job qui collait avec mon emploi du temps (si vous avez des pistes je suis preneuses) et mes dépenses sont déjà assez basses ::

-je ne mange jamais dehors (même café ou boire un verre)

-je n'achète pas de vêtements

-je prends un seul repas par jour

-je n'ai pas d'abonnement à des plateformes de streaming

-je marche au lieu de prendre le bus tant que le trajet fait moins de 1h45 à pieds

-j'ai déjà vendu toutes mes affaires/livres/autres qui ne me servaient plus

voilà je ne sais pas trop comment faire + d'économies ou comment trouver un job compatible avec médecine, si vous avez des suggestions merci beaucoup

Bonjour, je me demandais si certaines/certains avez des astuces pour économiser ou se faire de l'argent tout en étant étudiant en médecine ? malheureusement je n'ai trouvé aucun job qui collait avec mon emploi du temps (si vous avez des pistes je suis preneuses) et mes dépenses sont déjà assez basses ::

-je ne mange jamais dehors (même café ou boire un verre)

-je n'achète pas de vêtements

-je prends un seul repas par jour

-je n'ai pas d'abonnement à des plateformes de streaming

-je marche au lieu de prendre le bus tant que le trajet fait moins de 1h45 à pieds

-j'ai déjà vendu toutes mes affaires/livres/autres qui ne me servaient plus

voilà je ne sais pas trop comment faire + d'économies ou comment trouver un job compatible avec médecine, si vous avez des suggestions merci beaucoup