u/Gleefulfella

the guy that i like, my childhood bestfriend and i have been really close since childhood, he’s a bit older than me, and lives in a different city, we were acquainted because of our families being super close, and we meet every once a year minimum and get to stay together for 4-5 days.

i’ve liked him for a while but it wont lead anywhere so i’m very normal with him, like i always used to be, however since the past few years, his demeanour around me keeps changing a lot. One thing that has started is that he has stopped hugging me, because we met very occasionally every year, 4-5 hugs were always mandatory but now he avoids that, it’s not like he has stopped hugging people, it’s just me.

whenever they come to our city or vice versa, we stay at each other’s place, when they arrive, everyone hugs each other, and when they leave, the same thing, however my friend, hugs everyone but me, and if sometimes i offer first it is a very avoidant sort of side hug, never a proper hug, he even hugs my older cousin sisters normally but not me.

nothing between him and i has changed in terms of our relationship dynamic, but his body language towards me is very weird, i really wanna know why. He avoids seeing me in the early morning when we stay together, and at night also he prefers not stay up late with me, when a few years back we would be alone and up till 3 in the morning, it’s very weird to me because he does it with others just not me specifically.

i would love an analysis on why this is happening, is it my fault or smth, and how to fix it i guess. Do let me know if y’all need any more details about him and i.
for more context, he’s 19 and i’m 17 as of now, and this change in demeanour started 2-3 months before he turned 18

i might be in a slump… i’ve not watched anything since the past 10 days i think… what to do lol

so, i’m a 15 year old female, i weigh 72kg and my height is 157cm, i feel very disappointed and dis-gusted with my looks and body, 2-3 years ago, i lost 4-5 kilograms of weight and even maintained it for a long time and i was happy but then i got sick and gained a lot weight again.

As of now, according to BMI, i’m obese and to go to the overweight category i’ve to be 62kilogram, with how much I’m disappointed even losing 5-7 kilograms would be enough for me as of now, but i wanna be below 60 (59kg) by January 1st 2027, i know it’s ambitious but i also know that 2-3 kilograms of my weight would be water weight and if i worked hard enough i could losw the weight.

Here is my plan, i just wanted people to advice me on how to make it better to lose weight in a healthier way:

i plan on doing 10-12K steps everyday (mostly indoors because i dont get permission to go out alone)
i plan on doing 30 minutes of cardio home-work-out (emi wong) x6 a week
and 15-20 minuof hiit home-workout x3 a week
i plan on drinking 3-3.5L of water daily (big step for me considering i barely drink 1.5L water per day)
and on eating i plan to consume 1200 calories, more protein and fibre, less carbs, no sugar

now, i wanna ask, will walking indoors affect the calories i burn?
and is 1200 a bad amount for me? If i eat homecooked food 1200 would be more for me, the only reason why i gained weight is because i am addicted to soft drinks and sugar, i barely eat food i only consume soft drinks and sugar, so i think i’d be more than full by having 1200 calories and wanted to lessen that but i read on the internet that it’ll be harmful for me and some articles even suggest for me to eat more — now my bmr calculations gave me 1700 something as my maintaining so i thought a 500 calorie deficit would be good

and about the 4-5kg weight loss a few years ago? I was fasting due to religious reasons for 30 days and along with that i did 6-8k steps everyday and 30 min hiit after opening my fast, and i was able to maintain it by doing 8k steps everyday with only homecooked food, i stopped exercising after that, had i not stopped I mightve lost more weight.

please give me your insights

earlier i posted how ive had a crush on my long distance childhood friend since ‘24 and now he even has a gf
so my crush didn’t go away, i just shut down my mind, i stopped talking to him, thinking about him or even talking about him to my friends but
he’s my male bestfriend and i am his female bestfriend, he frequently texts me to take advice for his gf, and istg i always give him the best advice ever but over the years we’ve been really free with each other considering we’ve been bestfriends since i was 5 and he was 7, sometimes he ends up telling me about their kisses and more stuff

i cant handle it, tbvh, i really try to pretend like idc and stuff because the thing is, that girl is so gorgeous and amazing, she makes him so happy and therefore im really happy about his relationship and have very obviously given up but i don’t want the details 😭😭😭😭

im open to giving advice and stuff but i cant explain the way my heart churns everytime he gives me the details of their kisses and stuff but i cant say that to him
what do i even do, i reply extremely late to him and stuff but its hard not to reply because numerous times he’s told me that im the only one with whom he shares stuff like this..

earlier i had the mindset that, i’ll wait for him for a few years but even that mindset has died down, i love him but his girlfriend is soooo nice, i dont want him to leave her ever, she’s literally perfect and neither do i want to fuck up my friendship w him because no matter what my feelings he is my friend first but even when i speak to him i feel like im betraying the girl..
What do i do?

earlier i posted how ive had a crush on my long distance childhood friend since ‘24 and now he even has a gf
so my crush didn’t go away, i just shut down my mind, i stopped talking to him, thinking about him or even talking about him to my friends but
he’s my male bestfriend and i am his female bestfriend, he frequently texts me to take advice for his gf, and istg i always give him the best advice ever but over the years we’ve been really free with each other considering we’ve been bestfriends since i was 5 and he was 7, sometimes he ends up telling me about their kisses and more stuff

i cant handle it, tbvh, i really try to pretend like idc and stuff because the thing is, that girl is so gorgeous and amazing, she makes him so happy and therefore im really happy about his relationship and have very obviously given up but i don’t want the details 😭😭😭😭

im open to giving advice and stuff but i cant explain the way my heart churns everytime he gives me the details of their kisses and stuff but i cant say that to him
what do i even do, i reply extremely late to him and stuff but its hard not to reply because numerous times he’s told me that im the only one with whom he shares stuff like this..

earlier i had the mindset that, i’ll wait for him for a few years but even that mindset has died down, i love him but his girlfriend is soooo nice, i dont want him to leave her ever, she’s literally perfect and neither do i want to fuck up my friendship w him because no matter what my feelings he is my friend first but even when i speak to him i feel like im betraying the girl..
What do i do?

i had an older brother who would always play mcu movies, so i got annoyed by them and intentionally never watched them as a kid, then i saw spider-man, doctor strange (both in a random order) and wanda vision, and so i realised that i’ve been sleeping on it.

now I’m trying to get into it but i dont even know where to start, recently i decided to start with the Iron Man (2008) movie, it was pretty great, i liked it too but now I’m confused what to watch, i searched a bit and got told to watch Captain America (2011 one) but there’s movies in between 😭
can some die hard mcu fan help me out?

so, i (16F) have a male bestfriend (18M), i’ve known him since the day i was born, basically our families are very close, his mother is like a daughter to my grandmother and therefore like a sister to my father, his family resides in a different city than ours, and we have yearly minimum 2 trips, sometimes we go, sometimes they come, and when we visit we stay together for minimum 4-5 days,

we had always been inseparable as kids, and we only grew closer always..
our dynamic is very idk how to define— he’s my comfort person and i’m his advisor, he’s said to me several times that even though i’m younger, i’m way more emotionally smarter than him, and he is the one of the few people who treat me in the best way possible!
our dynamic has always been a bit like when people who dont know us see how we are with eachother they’d think we’re in a relationship because of how we are with each other, infact, both our mothers have asked me if we are in a relationship or smth😭😭 and he doesn’t help it either, i’m not saying he likes me but that guy has never ever raised his voice at me even though im freakin infuriating asf, he has raised his voice on his father, my father, my cousins (male & female) but never on me, even though i fuck w him the most, litr everyone in our families think he has a soft spot for me (so did i.. but he rejected me so i was wrong)

i’ve had like negligible male interaction all my life, i study and have been studying in an all girls school after pre-school, even my tuitions didn’t have any boys, so this guy and his older brother were the only male interaction i had apart from my father, older brother and relatives whereas he had always been in a co-ed school, has a lot of girls in his neighbourhood so maybe we have a different thought process when it comes to things like this..

2 years ago, i realised that i’m in love with him, and barely 6 months after, he realised that i’m in love w him and confronted me, i accepted the fact that i liked him, because i genuinely thought he used to flirt w me (which is why i specified the co-ed school thing) and even my grandmother once told me that she thinks he likes me (although back then we both were very young, that’s like 5-6 years ago) and he liked me too but he very politely rejected, he told me that “youre wayyyy too young and i’ve always only looked at you like a sister” (i was 15 back then and he was 17)
i accepted the rejection but the feelings were very obviously there..

in about a month or so, he moved for college, the city that he went to for college is like very far from my city, it takes him almost a day to reach his city by plane, so the visits were halted.. but we always kept in touch, we had our daily late night talks turn into weekly and it didn’t change our relationship, a month after that i texted him about how “i was naive, i didn’t like you, i just got carried away” and “please dont ever bring it up” and stuff and he obliged he never brought it up, back then i hadn’t moved on but i just didn’t wanna feel embarrassed

then a few months later, moved on.. ( i was convinced i moved on)
now in this junw we finally met, after around 14 months, before my june trip, we got into an argument basically he said a silly thing and i got wayyyy too mad at him, i didn’t wish him on his birthday and when he wished me on mine i lashed out and scolded him alott unnecessarily (i was angry at him😭) but he didn’t say anything about it, then he had a family emergency in april end (6-7 days after my birthday) so i texted him, “even after everything that happened in the past few months, i’ll always be a text away”, he was troubled so he just liked it and left

so when we met in June, i maintained my distance because i knew i went overboard and felt a bit embarrassed abt what i did on my birthday, on my first day there, he tried to give me a hug but i ignored him😭😭😭 then that evening his mom told him to take me out for shopping and coffee (these type of hangouts were very normal for us) even there he tried to talk to me but i ignored mostly..

then the next two days he maintained hus distance, and when we finally got that we ‘bestfriends’ spark back it was the night before i was leaving, we even wanted to play games but it was too late so our parents sent us to bed.. and that is how we got our weekly night convos back, now even after this trip, i didn’t feel like my feelings had resurfaced.. but

in july, they came over at our place and idk he was just so soft and nice w me like always idk how i fell for him again, but.. as i said, our dynamic has been very cool since childhood, one fine day he told me he wanted to ask me a few things.. (him and i always had this dynamic where we would talk about litr everything, i even told him about my crushes after him and vice versa) so that night he told me about the situationships that he’s had in college and how he has one now that he see’s going very well.. he took my advice and i gave the best advice too even though i liked him, and now theyre in a relationship and his girlfriend is the most precious and cutest person ive ever seen, and theyre really cute together too but i still like him…

and in the past few days ive even had dreams about how they break up in a few years and then him and i get involved a few years later, idk in my mind i dont even feel jealous its like in my subconscious i know that they’ll break up anyways and that we’re the one for each other..
and i feel so weird because his gf is so nice i feel like im a very disgusting person…
is this really bad?
the reason why im sure theyll breakup is because she’s not v serious about him, she told him herself apart from that, they both come from very different backgrounds and religions, and i know his family they’ll never accept her

even though i have litr cut off my bestf (he went back to college) i litr dont text and reply very dryly, i decided to wait for 3-4 years (i’ll be 19-20 by then) and if he’s broken up, i’ll maybe make a move again if i still have feelings and therefore
i really try not to think about this, because everytime i think about things like this i feel like i’m a disgusting person.. but i cant stop thinking about this whole situation
help me navigate through these feelings

so, i (16F) have a male bestfriend (18M), i’ve known him since the day i was born, basically our families are very close, his mother is like a daughter to my grandmother and therefore like a sister to my father, his family resides in a different city than ours, and we have yearly minimum 2 trips, sometimes we go, sometimes they come, and when we visit we stay together for minimum 4-5 days,

we had always been inseparable as kids, and we only grew closer always..
our dynamic is very idk how to define— he’s my comfort person and i’m his advisor, he’s said to me several times that even though i’m younger, i’m way more emotionally smarter than him, and he is the one of the few people who treat me in the best way possible!
our dynamic has always been a bit like when people who dont know us see how we are with eachother they’d think we’re in a relationship because of how we are with each other, infact, both our mothers have asked me if we are in a relationship or smth😭😭 and he doesn’t help it either, i’m not saying he likes me but that guy has never ever raised his voice at me even though im freakin infuriating asf, he has raised his voice on his father, my father, my cousins (male & female) but never on me, even though i fuck w him the most, litr everyone in our families think he has a soft spot for me (so did i.. but he rejected me so i was wrong)

i’ve had like negligible male interaction all my life, i study and have been studying in an all girls school after pre-school, even my tuitions didn’t have any boys, so this guy and his older brother were the only male interaction i had apart from my father, older brother and relatives whereas he had always been in a co-ed school, has a lot of girls in his neighbourhood so maybe we have a different thought process when it comes to things like this..

2 years ago, i realised that i’m in love with him, and barely 6 months after, he realised that i’m in love w him and confronted me, i accepted the fact that i liked him, because i genuinely thought he used to flirt w me (which is why i specified the co-ed school thing) and even my grandmother once told me that she thinks he likes me (although back then we both were very young, that’s like 5-6 years ago) and he liked me too but he very politely rejected, he told me that “youre wayyyy too young and i’ve always only looked at you like a sister” (i was 15 back then and he was 17)
i accepted the rejection but the feelings were very obviously there..

in about a month or so, he moved for college, the city that he went to for college is like very far from my city, it takes him almost a day to reach his city by plane, so the visits were halted.. but we always kept in touch, we had our daily late night talks turn into weekly and it didn’t change our relationship, a month after that i texted him about how “i was naive, i didn’t like you, i just got carried away” and “please dont ever bring it up” and stuff and he obliged he never brought it up, back then i hadn’t moved on but i just didn’t wanna feel embarrassed

then a few months later, moved on.. ( i was convinced i moved on)
now in this junw we finally met, after around 14 months, before my june trip, we got into an argument basically he said a silly thing and i got wayyyy too mad at him, i didn’t wish him on his birthday and when he wished me on mine i lashed out and scolded him alott unnecessarily (i was angry at him😭) but he didn’t say anything about it, then he had a family emergency in april end (6-7 days after my birthday) so i texted him, “even after everything that happened in the past few months, i’ll always be a text away”, he was troubled so he just liked it and left

so when we met in June, i maintained my distance because i knew i went overboard and felt a bit embarrassed abt what i did on my birthday, on my first day there, he tried to give me a hug but i ignored him😭😭😭 then that evening his mom told him to take me out for shopping and coffee (these type of hangouts were very normal for us) even there he tried to talk to me but i ignored mostly..

then the next two days he maintained hus distance, and when we finally got that we ‘bestfriends’ spark back it was the night before i was leaving, we even wanted to play games but it was too late so our parents sent us to bed.. and that is how we got our weekly night convos back, now even after this trip, i didn’t feel like my feelings had resurfaced.. but

in july, they came over at our place and idk he was just so soft and nice w me like always idk how i fell for him again, but.. as i said, our dynamic has been very cool since childhood, one fine day he told me he wanted to ask me a few things.. (him and i always had this dynamic where we would talk about litr everything, i even told him about my crushes after him and vice versa) so that night he told me about the situationships that he’s had in college and how he has one now that he see’s going very well.. he took my advice and i gave the best advice too even though i liked him, and now theyre in a relationship and his girlfriend is the most precious and cutest person ive ever seen, and theyre really cute together too but i still like him…

and in the past few days ive even had dreams about how they break up in a few years and then him and i get involved a few years later, idk in my mind i dont even feel jealous its like in my subconscious i know that they’ll break up anyways and that we’re the one for each other..
and i feel so weird because his gf is so nice i feel like im a very disgusting person…
is this really bad?
the reason why im sure theyll breakup is because she’s not v serious about him, she told him herself apart from that, they both come from very different backgrounds and religions, and i know his family they’ll never accept her, even though i have litr cut off my bestf (he went back to college) i litr dont text and reply very dryly, i decided to wait for 3-4 years (i’ll be 19-20 by then) and if he’s broken up, i’ll maybe make a move again if i still have feelings and therefore
i really try not to think about this, because everytime i think about things like this i feel like i’m a disgusting person.. but i cant stop thinking about this whole situation
help me navigate through these feelings