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I can barely walk to the bathroom I’m so tired. Why is this hitting so hard now?

About a month on the stuff and I’ve gone from a super high-achieving busy body to someone who just spent a full day reading in bed. 🫠 I could care less about cleaning or hitting work deadlines. I know it’ll get done eventually.

I feel like my T talks in riddles. I get that they shouldn’t tell you what to do, give you advice, etc. But a lot of times I think they’re being so vague and esoteric, I honestly have no clue what they’re even saying. I consider myself a somewhat intelligent person, so I don’t think it’s a me problem.

I spend about 40 percent of my time in client meetings and I’m so over it. Not sure how my boss expects me to get anything done. Between the meetings and client fire drills, I’ll have maybe two focused days per week where I can tick things off my to do list. Otherwise, it’s just meetings to talk about things I need to do, though I don’t have time to do them. Over it.

I’m hoping to volunteer 2-4 hours a week after work. Any ideas?

I’m looking to volunteer somewhere 2-4 hours/week on a week day after work. Any ideas?

I’ve been in therapy for about two years, started taking an SSRI about a month ago for anxiety. Since then, I’ve felt very disconnected from my therapist. My attachment issues have, for the most part, evaporated and I feel very apathetic towards my T. Whereas before, I would panic over our time coming to an end, now I feel pretty apathetic. I’m also realizing that my T’s advice/coaching isn’t super helpful - that they don’t say anything of substance during sessions. Is this normal?

I’ve felt called to begin using my financial resources in a way that better aligns with my Quaker values. What are some immediate changes I might consider? For example, canceling certain subscriptions, investing my money with specific companies, and so on?

I’m hoping to adopt a sweet, chill adult cat, preferably female. I know all the usual spots to look (Asheville cat weirdos, shelters, etc.) but just thought I’d put out feelers on here, too!

Is this a doable walk for an event? Not super interested in taking the shuttle

I’ve considered myself an atheist for almost all of my life, even as a child. About a month ago, I started Lexapro. Since then, I’ve noticed some religious rumblings. I think being calmer and more at ease is awaking me to the magic of the world. With that comes the realization and maybe acceptance that there might be a larger power at play. Has anyone else experienced this? Or am I just manic? lol

Day 20ish on 2.5mg. (I’m sensitive to meds so my psych decided it was best to slowly titrate up.) My period is about a week late, but I’ve been having period symptoms - cramping, bloating, cravings, etc. - for this entire week. My period is normally very regular and I can time it perfectly. Anyone else experience this? (Also, pregnancy isn’t a possibility.)

I (29) live in a high-ish cost of living area (about 7% higher than the national average) that’s notorious for low-paying jobs. My spouse (35) makes about $40k pre-tax and I make around $100k pre-tax. We owe $90k on our home at 4% APR and are projected to pay it off in nine years. Our home is valued at $240k or so. (It’s much, much smaller than most homes in our area.) We have roughly $45k in savings. No retirement accounts yet. We have two vehicles - both are about 20 years old. Monthly expenses are around $4,500, our house payment ($1k) and health insurance (another $1k) being the biggest expenses. We have no children and don’t plan on it. No pets.

Okay, the crux of my post: I’m currently working a very intense position that requires 50+ hours per week. I might take a few hours off each Saturday but am otherwise working every single day of the week, often into the evenings. I’m considering making the jump to a slower position but it’s unlikely I’ll find anything in my city and field that pays more than $50-$60k. Though, I might be able to find a position with benefits, which would save money.

All this to say, can I afford to make the leap? A big part of me is hesitant and wants to keep grinding until we have maybe $75k in savings and at least one (new to us) car.

Thoughts?

Edited to add other monthly expenses:

Mortgage: $1000
Health insurance: $1000
Gas: $250
Groceries: $600
Car insurance: $75
Homeowners insurance: $40
Property taxes: $60
Internet: $125 (we have limited internet options)
Streaming: $60
Home maintenance: $400
Counseling: $300
Toiletries/paper products: $50
Medical: $150 (prescriptions, chiropractor, psychiatrist, etc.)
Cell phone: $60
Power: $80

I’m looking for a Quaker memoir to read. Any suggestions?

I’ve been seeing a therapist for nearly two years now. I tend to think about them a lot. I’ll think, “XXX would love this” or “What would XXX say about this?” I know my therapist has faults, but I tend to idolize them. I feel a rush of excitement when they message me between sessions and will sometimes watch a video of them online just to hear their voice. I’m not sure if this is normal, or if I should maybe terminate to protect myself.

Currently working at a small firm juggling going on 10 clients, with the owner planning to add more. I make a decent living for my MCOL area, but I constantly feel like my brain is overheating from the task switching, fire drills, etc. At any time, one client has anywhere from two to 12 open projects, so in effect, I’m juggling 100+ simultaneous deliverables. Every weekend, I’m working to catch up and I’m always behind. It shouldn’t be this way.

Last week, I had an IBS flare up triggered by anxiety. I had diarrhea probably x10 in one day, which was a bit annoying because I’ve been able to manage my IBS through a low FODMAP diet for the past few months. Today, three days later, I’m experiencing bladder spasms, increased need to urinate, etc. This has happened more and more frequently, to the point my PCP will place me on a UTI antibiotic. Has anyone else had this experience?

What are some must-visit spots?

I remember reading an article a while back (maybe in Mountain X?) about a novel a local author wrote about an all women’s colony? I can’t find the article again and now I think maybe I’m imagining it.