u/IcyFrostyWarmth

Not hair loss but severe dryness like I can’t even run my hand. will this resolve and how long?

When I was growing up, I developed body dysmorphia at some point. Despite being a really cute kid with people always telling me I was pretty, during puberty I felt like some of my features didn’t fit me. I would have a breakdown about my appearance, not want anyone to take pictures of me, throw pictures away and delete them, and just obsess. As I got older, people started to compliment. My looks a lot, telling me I was crazy to think I was ugly and basically saying that they thought I was so beautiful that life must be so easy. Of course there were rude people who were either jealous, or just nasty people, but the overwhelming majority was positive.

Despite this, I can never take a normal picture of myself without using a filter. In the last five years, I have only two or three pictures of myself without a filter. One is a professional photo, shoot, and one is just a picture at home because I wanted to document something about my skin.

I know there are filters that make it look like you have lip, injections, cut your nose down, half the size, put on heavy eye makeup, and extremely smooth skin, but I don’t feel that I am using anything extreme like this.

This is the weird thing, I already have nice lips, I’ve learned to feel that my nose fits my face, people always tell me I have nice eyes, I have smooth skin with no acne. Yet I just feel “off” when I take a pic with no filter. People have told me I’m beautiful in person so I don’t think I’m a “catfish” or ”fake” or look dramatically different. When I posted the raw photoshoot with no filter people said it looked great and didn’t think it looked different than my normal pics. And that picture actually gets better reactions than the filtered.

I know the base of the picture is still me, yet I worry that it’s warping my view of myself. I am so used to the filtered pictures that this is how I imagine myself. I hope and bet on the fact that I look way better in person, but at the same time I literally can’t take a picture without a filter because I feel that I look tired and no matter what way I pose, I just feel like the picture doesn’t have that thing that looks really eye catching and nice. Like it’ll look more rough and boring.

If I take a picture of myself from far or in different lighting, or from the side, it’s not really an issue, but front facing the camera it just feels so rough to snap a pic. It feels like if I don’t use the filter it takes all the life out of my face.

How do people take unfiltered pictures??

How can I stop this habit?

I’ve experienced many kinds of OCD. Repeating something again and again mentally, asking questions in different ways and never getting satisfied and repeating that loops, somewhat germaphobe, health ocd and illness anxiety.

One thing I’ve noticed is needing everything on me being perfect, untouched and “in place”. I don’t mean always dressing in fancy clothes and looking put together. Maybe this has to do with having some hair and teeth trauma but I’ll give you examples.

I scratch my head or my glasses snap a hair out of my head that didn’t naturally fall out. I start freaking out, feeling doom, writing in my phone “No hair snagging starts tomorrow“ taking a bunch of vitamins and massaging scalp to make it grow back quicker. Yes this is annoying, but a normal person would realize that it’s just one single hair and move on, but it drives me absolutely insane.

Most people will have broken nails, or very damaged nails, and try to glue them with nail glue. For me, if my nails are in perfect strong condition, but I get one little tiny scratch on the surface, I will cut them down to the in my mind, I need to start over and have them perfect. If it’s too deep, I’ll consider that month a nail improvement month and can’t have fun or put myself together because in my mind I’m just working on nail growth to get rid of the scratch. I forget about it in a few days but sometimes it will still bother me.

If I get a bruise on my leg, I consider that week a write off. I don’t really dress up or do anything formal until the Bruce heals, because in my mind, my body has to be perfect.

hi everyone, I’m a 26 year-old girl living in North America, I currently don’t have a relationship, and don’t have many friends, but I am trying to change that. Lately, something I’ve experienced is extreme boredom. I am off work, for the summer, and you would think that this would be luxury for me. I really really don’t want to go back to work even though in the thing I love to do and I already barely work. However, I feel so bored that it hurts. How many times can you go to the grocery store, the mall, exercise, dance, ballet, go out to eat with a friend?

How many times can you take walks in your neighborhood, or go out downtown once a month, every day it’s the same boring life.

I want to travel so bad, and I never have gone alone before, but I have no one to go with. I literally can do absolutely anything I want in this world, yet I feel trapped in the four walls of my room. What the hell do I do??

im also correcting vitamin d and iron deficiency so that may be why I feel low energy

Hi everyone, this recent dating experience I had is nothing serious and I’m not really upset about it, but I am trying to understand the psychology behind it.

I met this guy on hinge and we started talking. He seemed nice and although maybe a little bit too flirty and asking for a few too many pictures of me, he seemed genuinely interested in me. In our first conversation, he was talking about if I drink or not because he was saying that he would want to bring me around his friends at parties and gatherings, and wanted to know if I would drink or not saying that he respect it either. I was surprised he was already imagining us together like that.

The day of the date came, I thought he was a little awkward at first, but I was nervous too. I was surprised to find out that he had done so much research about my background, and other interests I have. When I said that this was impressive to me, he said well yeah of course, I like you. One thing that has happened to me multiple times, is on a date a guy will tell me a traumatic or really personal story about something that has happened to someone in his family or something like that. When I said, you don’t have to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable, he said well you will meet my brother anyway so you might as well know now. (it was about a bad breakup)

i’m going to be honest, the date felt a bit lackluster. Like he did seem interested in me, but I was honestly just bored of him. I was debating if I wanted to see him again. Anyway, he expressed that he wanted to see me again and I left on a positive note.

I wanted to keep an open mind and was open to seeing him again to get to know him and maybe I will like him more this time. Now this is one thing that me, since our first conversation when we matched, his response time is sometimes like eight hours. Now I don’t want someone who is glued to their phone, but it’s really frustrating when we can’t even get through one conversation when every message is eight hours apart. I honestly wasn’t feeling too attached to him, but it was really irritating me so I decided to give myself a break.

After the date, he texted me and just started talking to me and then asked when we should plan our next outing. I had made a joke saying that I needed to work on some of my driving skills and we should go together, so he suggested that, and I said let’s do something else this time.

He invited me to this party on Sunday and it really just isn’t my kind of thing, but the thing is, I wanted to create some distance because I was just so tired of waiting eight hours for a response, I’m used to guys pestering me to respond right away.

so I waited about a day and a half, almost 2 days as I was really busy, and then responded saying thank you, but I wouldn’t be able to make it on Sunday. Since then, he hasn’t said anything and I’ve already deleted the conversation and moved on. I really didn’t feel strongly about him, but I’m trying to understand his thinking. He seemed very interested in me, and he took really long to respond, so why has it bothered him so much that I took a while to respond to the point where he just gave up. Now don’t take this as me wanting him to come after me, I would only want that if it was a guy I really desired, and I wouldn’t even want to be in a situation where he would have to do that. I would want us to be in communication anyway.

However, it’s interesting to me how when I return the same thing he did, all of a sudden it was . I am assuming maybe he thought that I wasn’t interested. I’m really not sure.

26f looking to make new friends

Hi everyone, over the last few days I’ve been seeing multiple posts from women living in Markham and Toronto expressing that they don’t have many friends and that they don’t know how to make new friends. Although I think it’s great to communicate with people online sometimes, I don’t think that this can replace a true friendship where you spend time together and can call and talk about anything.

This doesn’t have to be a major commitment, but it can open a door to meeting people who we may really enjoy spending time with. I have always been really cautious about Reddit specifically, because I think with other social media platforms you kind of get an idea of who the person is, and I’ve never really thought of meeting through here.

BUT Since this is a local community, I thought we could try to move to another social media platform and if anyone gets along, they can (with safety precautions) make plans to meet.

To give you a little background about myself, I am 26 years old and a girl, I am a ballet dancer and I work as a dance teacher and choreographer. My dance season has ended and so I basically have the whole summer free. I have been thinking about traveling, but I’m not really sure yet and I want to make the most of it. I do spend time with my family and have one or two people that I see sometimes, but I just don’t think that it’s enriching enough so I want to expand and meet new people. I like to take walks, I like to go out and eat, I like to go to the mall, and I’m open to learning new hobbies.

If you would like to be in a group chat, I’m thinking of making it on Instagram, but it doesn’t have to be there for sure, please send me a message and let me know. Again, I think it’s wonderful to make friends online, but I want this group specifically to be for local people who want to meet. it doesn’t mean that on the first day we have to absolutely meet in person, but I’m trying to make the intention that we will actually find a new friends to be a part of our lives.

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Hi everyone, over the last few days I’ve been seeing multiple posts from women living in Markham and Toronto expressing that they don’t have many friends and that they don’t know how to make new friends. Although I think it’s great to communicate with people online sometimes, I don’t think that this can replace a true friendship where you spend time together and can call and talk about anything.

This doesn’t have to be a major commitment, but it can open a door to meeting people who we may really enjoy spending time with. I have always been really cautious about Reddit specifically, because I think with other social media platforms you kind of get an idea of who the person is, and I’ve never really thought of meeting through here.

BUT Since this is a local community, I thought we could try to move to another social media platform and if anyone gets along, they can (with safety precautions) make plans to meet.

To give you a little background about myself, I am 26 years old and a girl, I am a ballet dancer and I work as a dance teacher and choreographer. My dance season has ended and so I basically have the whole summer free. I have been thinking about traveling, but I’m not really sure yet and I want to make the most of it. I do spend time with my family and have one or two people that I see sometimes, but I just don’t think that it’s enriching enough so I want to expand and meet new people. I like to take walks, I like to go out and eat, I like to go to the mall, and I’m open to learning new hobbies.

If you would like to be in a group chat, I’m thinking of making it on Instagram, but it doesn’t have to be there for sure, please send me a message and let me know. Again, I think it’s wonderful to make friends online, but I want this group specifically to be for local people who want to meet. it doesn’t mean that on the first day we have to absolutely meet in person, but I’m trying to make the intention that we will actually find a new friends to be a part of our lives.

💗💗💗💗💗

Hi everyone, over the last few days I’ve been seeing multiple posts from women living in Markham and Toronto expressing that they don’t have many friends and that they don’t know how to make new friends. Although I think it’s great to communicate with people online sometimes, I don’t think that this can replace a true friendship where you spend time together and can call and talk about anything.

This doesn’t have to be a major commitment, but it can open a door to meeting people who we may really enjoy spending time with. I have always been really cautious about Reddit specifically, because I think with other social media platforms you kind of get an idea of who the person is, and I’ve never really thought of meeting through here.

BUT Since this is a local community, I thought we could try to move to another social media platform and if anyone gets along, they can (with safety precautions) make plans to meet.

To give you a little background about myself, I am 26 years old and a girl, I am a ballet dancer and I work as a dance teacher and choreographer. My dance season has ended and so I basically have the whole summer free. I have been thinking about traveling, but I’m not really sure yet and I want to make the most of it. I do spend time with my family and have one or two people that I see sometimes, but I just don’t think that it’s enriching enough so I want to expand and meet new people. I like to take walks, I like to go out and eat, I like to go to the mall, and I’m open to learning new hobbies.

If you would like to be in a group chat, I’m thinking of making it on Instagram, but it doesn’t have to be there for sure, please send me a message and let me know. Again, I think it’s wonderful to make friends online, but I want this group specifically to be for local people who want to meet. it doesn’t mean that on the first day we have to absolutely meet in person, but I’m trying to make the intention that we will actually find a new friends to be a part of our lives.

💗💗💗💗💗

I‘m not even sure how to title this post. Let me start with the facts. I’m a 26 year old female, I am a ballet dancer. I teach and choreograph dance, I choreograph for my students shows and competitions. I have been successful with this and have a good reputation. I am very in shape, I try to eat healthy, I dance.

BUT

I only work 15 hours a week and it’s really hard to find more jobs. I live at home which has allowed me to save up a good amount of money, but home life is kind of toxic. Despite my attempt at relationships, I have not found the right person and dating has been extremely weird for me. Ever since I finished high school I have never been able to have one solid friend in my life, they were either guys who hit on me eventually, and even the few female friends I’ve had, we see each other like once a year and there is just not enough effort.

SO

From the outside, I feel like everything looks good on paper. People would assume that my life is so easy.They think you can just go talk to anyone, get everything you want, and have so many friends. Be surrounded by people who want to be in your life. This is something I've heard other people accuse me of. However, I literally don't have anyone to talk to on a regular basis. I have almost no friends. There are one or two people that I was hanging out with at one point, but again, those are guys and it wasn’t consistent.

My one female friend, she checks on me and is very nice, but like she can never plan anything with me. Like she will make effort to plan something, but it’s only once a year. We are just in very different kinds of places in life.

I often get attention from men, I don’t use social media much, but I will get many messages from men going on and on about how beautiful I am, how lucky they would feel if they could get a chance with me, yet it literally never goes anywhere. People assume that dating apps should be so easy for a girl like me, but again, it’s not that I don’t get likes or dates, but finding a good quality guy is so hard, and the apps are made to slow down and keep you single.

Yes, I am not getting out of my suburbs much, like I go to the mall, I go walk in nature, I go out to restaurants, but it’s not like I’m in places where I can socialize with people.

I don’t know what to do. Every day I wake up, and just think that this loneliness is so painful. I never myself a lonely person, I like to be alone and do my own thing, but when you literally have no one to spend time with what do you do? I am free all summer and I want to enjoy it, I want to travel, I want to have fun, but I literally have no one to do anything with on a daily basis.

A lot of people who want to improve themselves, they start to healthy, they work out, they improve their appearance, I’m not all about but I feel like nothing for me to do to change my life, I just feel like this unlikeable girl. I think I’m a nice person and I don’t see why people wouldn’t friends with me, but when people have their own things going on, it just feels impossible.

I honestly feel pathetic even writing this, I don’t know what to change and usually I’m in a better mood but the last few days it’s really been hitting me.