u/Icy_Cherry_

My husband and I are currently renting an all inclusive apartment from a private landlord, previously we were renting from a corporation and had no issues.

This past month my husband suddenly started taking showers all of the time. He wakes up and has a shower, has a shower when the baby and I wake up, showers after breakfast, again before we leave the apartment, showers again after we get back to the apartment and will take more showers throughout the night until he goes to bed. Before this month his usual showering was only 2-4 times a day depending on our activities or the weather.

The showering is constant, and I feel like I'm constantly waiting for him to finish showering before we can do anything, like he will shower before we watch a movie even though the snacks and everything ready. When his mom and sister came to visit he showered before they arrived and 20 minutes after they arrived and again after they left. I'm starting to think it might be a medical issue he's not talking about but I don't know because he also won't admit the showering is excessive. I also often get left with the baby all day because he's constantly going in and out of the shower.

The landlord contacted us recently asking us about the usage and why it suddenly tripled. My husband started looking around for leaks and the landlord even hired a plumber to look at the apartment to make sure nothing has been leaking. I mentioned to my husband it's most likely his constant showering that's causing the increase but he's refusing to believe me and is saying there is no way it's him that's causing the issue.

They have now turned our water off to make sure the tank is emptying properly. I feel like this is all such a waste of time. My husband has also suddenly stopped his constant showering since I mentioned it's probably him and I'm just waiting for the landlord to let us know the usage suddenly went down.

I just wanted to vent, this situation is so weird and crazy.

My 8.5 month old has been having weird wake windows lately and I'm not sure if our sleep is just really messed up or I'm doing something wrong.

We recently did a big international move and the time difference is 6 hours. We moved over a month ago now and she is mostly used to the difference I think.

Bedtime is still a bit late around 9-11pm depending on her naps and how long she slept but wake up is around 1130am-1230pm. I haven't minded the late bedtimes because we are usually out at my husband's parents for a while

Lately though her sleep has been really weird. She will wake up 4/5am and stay awake for 2 hours and then sleep again which is also contributing to us waking up late.

Then 2 hours after she wakes she sometimes naps again and sometimes does not. There have been some days this week she has no daytime nap until 6/7pm because she will refuse all attempts even if she's repeatedly putting her head on my chest and seeming sleepy she won't nap but she's also not that fussy either.

A few days ago she had no nap and just slept at 9pm.

When she sleeps at 6/7pm she will still go to bed at 10/11pm.

It's just weird because she's always been a strict wake window baby but she's also been a big sleep fighter too. Just wondering if this is normal at this age?

My baby is now 8 months old and this past week she's been very moody. She whines so much during her wake windows, it's constantly mmmmm mmmmm mmmmm mmmmm unless we are actively entertaining her.

It's so hard to go out or do anything these days. Lately shes also refusing all solids and I don't really know what to do. I've tried fruit, I've tried yogurt, and baby cereal. She refuses everything even things she loved 2 weeks ago. I've been slacking on solids and wanted to make a better effort with them this week and now she refuses everything.

I'm so exhausted. Shes having trouble sleeping at night and our upstairs neighbors are doing construction and are drilling, sawing and hammering all day.

I'm just hoping this gets better soon because I don't know how much longer I can last like this.

I recently moved from Ontario to Saudi Arabia, we have been here for 2 weeks and I hate it here.

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I miss my old life, baby had a bedtime at 8/9pm woke up at 8/9am with a few wake ups during the night. We were starting solids, had a nighttime routine and I felt very connected and in tune with her. My husband and I didn't really get any breaks unless she was asleep as my family was 3.5 hours away and his was in Saudi Arabia.

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He talked for a while about moving, he didn't really like it in Canada, less to do, food not as good, and missed his family. For all of those reasons plus inflation and the job market we decided to move, his parents were always saying how much easier it would be in Saudi and they would help us.

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They have helped us immensely, they got us an apartment, furniture, job interviews and a rental car and his mom loves baby sitting every day.

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But apart from this it's been so hard. Baby was jet laged the first week so she slept well but this week she has separation anxiety and has been so hard to get to sleep even with cosleeping and nursing to sleep she will get really upset and refuse to sleep. I've been exposing her to daylight and winding down at night but it's a slow process.

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My milk supply has dropped I think due to lack of sleep, stress and dehydration, it's 40 degrees and up here. I can barely get 1-2 ounces pumped for her and she refuses bottles. I'm finding it hard to start solids again because I'm just so exhausted, I've only been able to give her cerelac, banana and yogurt lately once a day or every other day.

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There has been construction above us as well, we live in a new building built this year and whoever bought the upstairs unit has decided to demolish it all week starting at 7am every day except Fridays which is the law here. Baby is not as jet lagged so she's not sleeping through it anymore making the days hard to get through because she's not getting enough sleep so she's fussy all day and struggles to sleep at night.

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My husband and I aren't getting any sleep.

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I miss my old life. I miss my old routine. I feel so disconnected from my baby now. Sometimes I wish I wasn't a mom anymore, sometimes I really don't like my baby anymore. I just hate my life now.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have no idea how long they were ripped or if anyone even saw. They ripped all the way down my left butt cheek. I only noticed because I went to the bathroom.

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Thankfully we only live a short drive away so I told everyone I was just grabbing something from my apartment and will be right back.

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Those jeans were new too and were baggy when I tried them on at the store but shrank a bit in the wash. $80 down the drain 😔

My baby is 7 months old, before now she always fought sleep as hard as she could. Before we travelled I got some advice to increase her wake windows until shes super tired out and that worked for 2 weeks. Her wake windows were 3.5-4 hours and she was doing well.

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We traveled this week to Saudi Arabia, it was a 22 hour trip including driving, layovers and flying. She slept in the car before the flight and a bit when we took off but after 6 hours of flying she couldn't sleep, the plane was noisy, another baby cried every time she fell asleep. I tried to take her to the back of the plane but the noise of the toilets flushing, and people asking if we were waiting for the washroom woke her up.

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The first flight was 13 hours and during the second flight of 2 hours she tried to sleep again but this other kid was screaming the whole flight so she kept waking up and getting more and more irritable. By the end of the flight she was screaming crying. She did fall asleep at security and during the drive to the apartment

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All week she has been sleeping so much. We traveled Wednesday. Ever since then she's sleeping 2-3 hour naps during the day, early bedtimes and late wake ups 8-9pm bed and 11am-12pm wake up.

She's getting tired after 2-3 hours of awake time.

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Is this normal? I'm getting worried about her.

2 months ago we paid for our seats when we booked our tickets. We paid for extra legroom seats for myself, my husband and my 7 month old baby (we bought her own seat).

Today once the online check in opened, our seats had been moved to random seats. They had my baby sitting alone at the back of the plane, my husband in the middle and me in my original seat we paid for.

We called etihad to try to resolve it and it took over an hour for them to figure out we had been moved because the baby is not eligible for extra legroom. We were also told we cannot ask for a refund until after the trip is completed.

WHY did the system even let us book the seats if we cannot sit there!?! We paid an extra $600 or more for these seats and are told last minute we aren't eligible. Why is the refund not automatic!?! Why would we even have to request it, we have been completely downgraded to free seats.

This airline is a scam.

My husbands uncle invited us for dinner tonight and as usual forgot I'm lactose intolerant and ordered pizza for everyone. I didn't want to be rude and just not eat so I had 2 slices and just picked off the cheese.

They saw me pick it off and asked so I told them I'm intolerant (I've told them before) and 10 minutes later they served us dessert, waffle with ice cream, which I have to my husband.

I was hoping picking off the cheese was enough but my stomach is turning 😓

My family is flying from Pearson to Saudi Arabia in a few days via etihad airways and we are confused as to what to do with our car seat base.

We have contacted the airline several times and the agents also don't seem to know what to do, we get generic answers that aren't related to the question. I also can't find any information on their website.

So I'm wondering if anyone has experience with international flights? We have bought an infant in seat ticket so she will be in her car seat on the flight. We are also bringing our stroller and plan to gate check it. Would we check the base with our luggage?

My husband and I have both been really stressed lately, we are moving internationally next week and have been trying to prepare everything for the move. All month I've been selling our furniture, sorting things into donation piles, packing for myself, our 7month old and our cat, and removing things from the walls like picture mounts and command strip hooks. He has been applying for our visas, taking things to the donation and selling his car. He finished our visa applications a few weeks ago and sold his car as well around the same time so he hasn't had much to do except help me move furniture and meet with buyers.

This week he started the process to get the visa for our cat, Monday and Tuesday he met with the vet and this morning he just had an appointment with the food inspection agency to finalize everything before applying for the visa. I asked him before making my appointment if today would be ok for me to go get my nails done and get a massage and he said yes.

When he got home from his appointment he took a nap for an hour, when he woke up I reminded him I was leaving and he was still ok with me going and was ok to take care of our baby. He had told me the visa application would be easy and had a fast track to process in one day so I wasn't worried and figured he would probably apply for it once I got back home. I fed the baby, changed her diaper, took out the garbage and left.

Instead he tried to apply for it while he was supposed to be watching our baby. An hour after I had left he started texting me asking how long I would be because he thought the baby was hungry. I told him there was breast milk in the fridge, to get her bottle out of the grey bag I packed her stuff in (I forgot to take it out before I left) and just warm it up in hot water. He texted me back that he couldn't find the bottles and was getting angry, I told him to keep looking they may have gotten mixed with the clothes but he still couldn't find them and just texted me back wtf.

I texted him back that I would need a few minutes to finish up and I would cut my appointment short and not get my nails done, but that she shouldn't be hungry already since I had fed her before I left and also he could try giving her the baby oatmeal cereal in the pantry before I get back. He texts me back that I shouldn't have left, that I cannot leave when he has things to do and shouldn't be going out anyway when we are trying to get ready to move.

He texted me again a few minutes later to not worry about cutting the appointment short, he was able to calm her with some songs and things were fine, she wasn't hungry just bored.

I'm kind of pissed off. I made this appointment to try to destress, I've been so stressed all month trying to pack and plan, buy things for our trip and see what we will need to get once we are there, as well as taking care of the baby 90% of the time, doing all the nights alone and almost all diaper changes. I almost never leave without the baby, I've been out alone twice this month and it was to run errands for our trip. I also never get my nails done or get massages, this is the third time in my life I'm getting them done and my second massage. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in 3 days. I just wanted some me time and he just made me feel bad for taking it and stressed me out more.

When I got back home, he told me he punched a hole in the bathroom door because he was mad about the application taking long and the baby was crying. Now he's also saying the cat application doesn't actually have a fast track and will take 5 business days and we leave in 5 days.

I'm more stressed now than when I left. jd we are probably going to be charged for the door once we move out.

I didnt say much about the door once I got back but I also don't really know how to talk to him about it, he's acting like he didn't do anything wrong.

My baby is not a good sleeper at all and I'm just exhausted. She is 7 months old now but it's been a struggle since 5 weeks old. When we first brought her home she slept well, slept in her crib no problem and would nap for 2-3 hours and sleep at night for 5-6 hours. At 5 weeks old she started refusing her crib, I could not and still cannot transfer her at all, she always wakes up as soon as I put her down and can't resettle unless i nurse her to sleep.

We started co sleeping because I wasn't getting any sleep at night, at 5 weeks she would only sleep if I held her and I ended up almost falling asleep several times because I could not get her into her crib until 6/7am and then I'd only get 2-3 hours of sleep.

Then during the day she started crying before every nap, she would cry for 20-60 minutes and fight sleep like her life depended on it. There were times I just didn't even want to wake up because the day felt so hard, she had to nap after 40-60 minutes of awake time, she would fight it for 20-60 minutes and then sleep for 20 minutes max no matter how hard I tried to save the nap. I watched her wake windows like crazy, if I tried to wind down early she would fight it, if I waited to wind down until I saw sleep cues she would fight it, it didn't matter. Every nap I had to hold her or baby wear her depending on her mood.

This continued from 5 weeks until 3.5 months, the only good thing was that she slept 6-7 hour stretches at night and only woke 1-2 times during the night. Then at 3.5 months for 2 weeks she slept well, she would sleep for 40 minutes and wouldn't fight it or cry for an hour before each nap. But then the sleep regression hit and she started waking every 1-2 hours at night and then fighting naps again and only sleeping 20 minutes, I would get 40 if I was really lucky. I couldn't read j was so sleep deprived. At 5.5 months things got a bit better, she finally started sleeping at night 2-3 hour stretches and stopped fighting naps as much and also finally started doing independent naps. But at 6 months she started fighting bedtime, naps were still ok but it would take 1-2 hours to get her to sleep. We have a bedtime routine, but she would just fight sleep no matter what.

Now at 7 months she's fighting her naps and bedtime. She's not crying the whole time but just refuses to sleep, she would rather roll around like crazy. I try to nurse her to sleep but she gets fussy so I'll walk around with her or baby wear her but sometimes she gets fussy doing that too and it ends up being this up and down, bed to walking to bed to walking until she finally falls asleep, she fights it the whole time she will start to fall asleep and then wake herself up and get upset. Her wake windows now seem weird too sometimes she wants to sleep at 2.5 hours of awake time and sometimes she doesn't get tired until 3.5 hours of awake time. She doesn't have many sleepy cues other than rubbing her eyes or yawning.

I'm just tired of fighting with her to go to sleep, I waste so much time just trying to get her to sleep. I can't put her down drowsy but awake or she will cry and fully wake up. I can't let her cry it out because she will just cry and cry and cry and never calm down until I pick her up. Even if I just lay beside her or stay near her she just cries until I nurse her or walk with her.

I just don't know what to do or what I'm doing wrong. I just wish she would just go to sleep easily.

I found out recently from my dad's ex-wife that she and my dad had saved up $25k for each of their 3 children's education. I don't talk to her and don't initiate conversations with her but she will text me from time to time giving advice or asking about my life and then dropping information that I didn't care to know.

I have a complicated relationship with both of my parents, they had me at 25 but neither of them were really ready to be parents. I am much older than all of my siblings so at age 10 I was expected to help with the child care and cleaning. My parents split up before I was born and my dad remarried when I was 10, my mom stayed a single parent but had 2 more children with a deadbeat father. Because my mom was single I had to do all of the cleaning, making lunches and breakfast for my siblings and I and by 15 I was cooking dinner and doing all of the laundry.

My dad and his wife had their first when I was 10 and from that day forward I was treated much differently at his house. I had to give up my room, my bedframe, dresser and nightstand as they were his ex wife's furniture and had only been given to me until she had a baby (which they did not tell me until they wanted to take it all away). I asked for a new dresser just to put my clothes in when I came to visit but they refused and told me I was just a visitor and it would be a waste to get it for me.

His ex wife refused to take photos of me during family vacations, she cut me out of a few family photos and gave me the peices, and at Christmas or my birthday she would gift me clothes that were obviously too small and then tell me to give them to her daughter since they didn't fit. She would sometimes tell me even before I opened the gift that it would be too small. My dad ended up telling her to stop buying me gifts and ended up doing it himself but she would still come to me before we opened gifts telling me that my gifts would suck.

My dad's children often got name brand clothes, went to gymnastics, dance class and summer camps, and had a huge house with a heated pool. I lived in poverty with my mom who hoarded garbage, we sometimes didn't have heat or hot water and I had to buy my own clothes and shampoo/conditioner and soap with baby sitting money. My dad had decided to only pay my mom half of the child support as he needed the money for his other kids. My dad and his ex-wife constantly complained about me wasting their money, they would get upset when I took a shower or ate some snacks and most food were off limits for me as they were for my sisters.

My mom ended up forcing my dad to help me when I went to university by telling him she was either taking him to court over the missing payments or he could give me the money he owed her while I was in school. Every month I had to remind him to send me money and every month he and his ex-wife would complain about how it was so unfair they had to help me.

I've really tried to move on and forget all of this. I've forgiven them and have a decent relationship with my dad and I'm friendly to his ex-wife who still comes to our family events despite being divorced from him for 10 years.

But my sister started university and it's opened old wounds. My dad's ex wife came to visit me the year her daughter started university to ask me how much my dad was sending me because she thought her daughter would need double what my dad sent me and came to try to see if he had actually given me more than he told her so she could convince him to give her daughter more.

I knew my sister was getting money from my dad monthly and it hurt because I was heavily guilted when I took that money but they give it to her freely.

Now I've found out that more than half of her education will be paid for and she will graduate with much less debt while I drown in it. They have saved for all of their children plus given monthly allowances.

It makes me feel so worthless. Why wasn't I worth helping, why wasn't I worth saving for. Part of me just wants to never see them again.

It's not like his ex wife makes a lot of money. She makes minimum wage. My dad is the high earner. So why am I treated so differently. It feel like because I was born out of wedlock I mean nothing.

Edit to clarify: my sister is getting $1000 every month as an allowance plus $25k to pay for her tuition I only got $500 for the first 2 years and then $250 for a year until I stopped asking for help and had to make out loans to pay for my tuition

I got married last year in April and decided recently to sell my wedding dress to make some space in my closet. I had originally bought it for $2600 and was selling it for $900 with a veil included.

I had posted it on Facebook marketplace and on stillwhite. After 2 months of it being listed, someone messaged me at 7am interested in buying it. I woke up at 830am, saw her messages but also saw that she had asked me to drive 3 hours to her house so she could try it on.

I was still half asleep so I started getting ready for the day, signed into work and made some coffee before I responded back to her. I wanted to think it through, I didn't know if I was just going to reject her or try to let her know I can't drive out that far. Part of me wanted to block her because it just felt really entitled to me that she even asked me to drive that far away (city was listed in my listing) just for her to try it on.

She saw that I had read her messages and started sending more messages asking why I hadn't responded back to her yet and sending ??? Over and over.

I let her know that I wasn't going to be able to drive out that far for the sale, and that I also would not be allowing her to try it on. My dress was unaltered, and I let her know that the bridal shop I had bought it from was in her city and suggested she try it on there (I had the dress shipped to me from the store without trying it on).

She let me know she had already tried on the dress at that store a month ago and knew it fit her but wanted to try mine on. I let her know that I wasn't comfortable with that as it could get damaged and I also didn't want to leave someone alone with a dress they hadn't paid for yet. I blocked her and moved on because I got bad vibes from her.

A couple of hours later she starts messaging me on stillwhite asking why I blocked her and begging me to unblock her so she can buy the dress and will drive to me to pick up the dress. I regret it now but I did unblock her. She then sends me paragraphs about how she doesn't trust me, she wants me to lower my price because of this and doesn't feel comfortable driving to me anymore and wants me to bring the dress to her. I couldn't block her again for 24 hours so I was stuck getting her ranting messages for a day before I blocked her again and reported her on stillwhite for harassment.

I did end up selling the dress to another buyer and shipped it to them with no issues.

But was I wrong for blocking her the first time?

Most of the people I have met with this month have showed up on time or just a few minutes late. But I've had 10 people show up 2-4 hours after our agreed meet up time.

It gets frustrating because they don't message and say hey I'll be a bit late or anything, they sometimes don't respond to messages I send, but suddenly hours later will say hey I'm 10 minutes away and expect that I'm home sitting by the door waiting for them.

Lately I've had several buyers say they are 5-15 minutes away, then an hour passes and I ask if they are still coming, they say yes only 5 minutes away and then another hour passes and I'm messaging them asking if they are still coming, what's up, and they say oh just stopped for gas 3 minutes away and 40 minutes pass and finally they show up.

It's so frustrating.

Last week I also had a lady show up an hour early at 7am when we had agreed to meet at 8am. I had just woken up and she texts me im here.

I can't wait to sell all of my stuff. I'm only selling so much lately because I'm moving out of the country, most of my stuff Is in great condition and whatever isn't I'm donating but half the time I wish I could just donate it all and make it easy on myself. Although meeting people for free stuff seems just as hard as selling.

Yesterday I sold a bathroom cabinet to someone over marketplace. It was in good condition, I cleaned it thoroughly, and we took the bottom half off to fit in the buyers car.

The buyer set up a time to meet within an hour of me posting the ad and when I put it as pending I had 5 other potential buyers that I had to turn down.

My husband met with her, he let her examine the cabinet, confirmed that she still wanted it and then loaded it in her car. She gave him $100 cash and he had to get her change for it so he came up to our apartment got her the change and then she left. The transaction took about 20 minutes.

About 10 minutes after she left she messaged me to come out and take the cabinet back because she realized it was too small. I had all of the dimensions on the listing, with several photos.

I told her no, that I wasn't going to take it back now, my husband had made 2 trips down to the lobby and we wasted 20 minutes dealing with her, plenty of time for her to say no while we were with her. I refused mainly because we didn't have time to waste that day, I had to meet with 5 other buyers all coming 1 hour after each other and still needed to prep and clean everything we were selling while taking care of a 6 month old baby. We are selling everything in our apartment as we are moving internationally and it's been really overwhelming.

But I still kind of feel bad because I did have plenty of people interested in the cabinet I could have probably taken it back but I just wasnt in the head space to waste more time, messaging people back that it was available, setting a new time and loading someone's car again.

Was I wrong to tell her no?

How can I keep her calm during the flight?

How do I entertain her and prevent a meltdown?

Is screen time okay during the flight? She doesn't normally get any.

I am planning to baby wear when possible and necessary, we have some toys we are bringing on the flight and currently breastfeeding so I have a cover to feed her under

I am 12 lbs away from being the weight I was at 40 weeks. No matter what I do I'm gaining weight.

A month ago I started going to the gym, cut out junk food, only snacked on fruit or yogurt, walked 4 days a week, went to the gym twice a week and walked there and back. I gained 2 lbs.

I just want to stop breastfeeding but I can't because baby refuses bottles and I do enjoy breastfeeding, I enjoy how easy it is to feed her and I like bonding with her. It's been really easy for me and I'm really grateful that I've had a good experience so far.

But it's been 6 months and I can barely fit into my jeans that used to be baggy. I don't want to buy anything new because I don't want to stay at this weight.

I just hate how I look and feel and it's really getting me down, every week my clothes are getting tighter and I'm dying a little more inside.

I'm moving internationally in a month and need to sell everything, all my furniture is in great condition relatively new and anything that's not new I'm selling for cheap. Scratches, dents, imperfections are all listed in the description.

But there have been more than a few buyers that negotiate for less, I agree on the amount they suggest and then they show up with $5-10 less than we agreed. I usually just take it because I'm in an apartment and moving the furniture down the elevator is a hassle and I'd rather they just take the item but it's so annoying.

Like I've already agreed to less than I wanted, I also price my items so that people can negotiate and I still get around what I wanted or a bit less, and yet these people take advantage and just come knowing they do not have enough.

I had a guy come this morning for an automatic rising desk I got 6 months ago, I agreed to $80 for it, he shows up with $70.

It's just so annoying.

Every time I order doordash the delivery tracker page will show the dasher has 1-2 other orders and my order is 1-2 stops away. I've never even once been the first delivery. I tip 20-25% on every order and I always get it 1-2 hours after it's been picked up.

My husband and I have lately just been ordering pick up orders or finding places that have their own delivery service and it's so much faster.

This honestly just makes me feel like not tipping at all or just not using doordash or Uber eats anymore. what's the point.