u/Ixz72

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 16 years and lived together for 14.5 years.

She has 4 grand kids. When the first two were born, they were absolute angels and my girlfriend and I adored them. Then her daughter had 2 more and she lost control of everything.

Her kids rule thier house. They do what they want, when they want with almost no consequence. The dad is the only one that works and when he gets home, he yells at the kids for misbehaving and not doing what their told, but they just roll thier eyes at him.

They are very disrespectful, cusses like drunk sailors and all 4 of them always want something different for meals. If they don't like what is being served at thier house, no biggie. They just walk over to the "snack pantry" and grab whatever junk food they want.

These kids don't know how to pick up after themselves and thier mom has pretty much decided she's given up cleaning the house, and her car. I've seen cleaner bathrooms in rundown gas stations.

The kids would do #2, use half a roll of toilet paper then run off and not flush the toilet.

My girlfriend and I have tried to step in and ask them to pick up or finish their food, take a bath and go to bed. Some days are worse then others. There was a time we asked the two younger kids to go to bed and they had a full blown meltdown. What did the parents do? The dad stayed on the couch playing on his phone, mom locked herself in her room.

I want to love these kids. They can be very sweet be when they want to be. But I can't stand to be around them for more than a day.

And we're spending memorial day weekend with them. 😞 😓 😩

On thier wedding night, the groom decided to ask his bride what she wanted to do first.

She thought about it, then excitedly said "69! I wanna try 69!".

Groom: "you want chicken with broccoli?"

Like I said in the title, my girlfriend's best friend's husband and I don't get along. We tolerate each other and we're civil to each other but we just have nothing in common. Our personal beliefs are as different as they can possibly be.

When we met up with them, me and the husband would say "hi, how are you? " shake hands, sit down and won't say anything else to each other until it's time to leave.

This has been going on for about 10 years. Me and him just don't vibe. We are just very different people. We disagree on everything almost 100%?

A common conversation

Me: "Have you seen so-and-so movie? I thought it was great. "

Him: "yeah, I didn't care for it".

Silence for about 2 hours.

So my question is, if both women know that it's awkward for us, why do they insists on bringing us along? I'm sure they can have a better time with out us, thier significant others.

When my son was a junior in High School, he got a job at Checkers, a drive-thru burger and fries place. He had a very out going personality and was very friendly, tolerant and very forgiving.

I saw his personality change over the year he worked at that drive thru. When I asked him how his day was, it went from "it was great" to "it's okay" to "wasn't bad" to "people suck" to "people fucking suck". The last one surprised me because my son wasn't a cusser, at least not to my face.

That particular day he told me a woman yelled at him for putting too much ice in her drink and a little later another customer complained that he put too little ice. Then another customer demanded fresh cooked fries and complained to his manager that the fries were too hot and she burned her fingers.

What do you say to your son when he has a day like that?

"People suck. Welcome to the real world. Now suck it up and get back out there".

Dads often get criticized when they tell thier kids to "suck it up" or "walk it off". But sometimes it's the only thing you can do. You can't just hold your child and protect him from the world especially when he's 18.

Today my son is active duty military. For the first time in his military career he'll get to be dropped off and extracted by a Blackhawk helicopter and he was very excited for it.

This is one of the times I'm glad that I told him to "suck it up" because it help him build his character.