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Not a specific instance of female violence I know, but still a very compelling and informative questioning in government about the rampant bias skewing official studies to claim men are responsible for the overwhelming majority of violence, even when its proven that the "studies" can only claim thst because they carefully and deliberately exclude the experiences of male victims.

Businesses lying and defrauding customers for a quick dollar... theres no place quite like our home.

Car Works want to threaten customers with law suits for speaking out about their downright fraudulent tactics, time to share this far and wide.

I (F18) don’t have laundry in my apartment, so I have to go to a laundromat a couple of blocks away. I needed four washing machines, but they were all occupied. There’s about 20 washing machines in total, varying in sizes. I waited my turn, and when I arrived, no one else was waiting for machines. As people started taking their clothes out, I put mine in. I had three washers going and only needed one more.

I was waiting for a machine that was about to finish when this lady walked in and parked her cart in front of it. I told her I was waiting for that machine and had already been waiting for about half an hour. She said she only needed one machine. I replied, “You can wait your turn then. I’ve been waiting for a while.”

I turned around for literally one second to grab my detergent, and she started loading her clothes into the machine. I walked outside because I could feel myself getting really frustrated and needed a minute to cool off. After about five minutes, I went back inside and ended up waiting another five minutes for a different machine to finish.

Side note: Most of the women in the laundromat were in their late 50s to 70s. I was the youngest person there. When I came back inside, it was obvious they were talking about me. They were trying to speak in code in Spanish, but I speak Spanish pretty well, so I understood what they were saying.

Eventually, my three washing machines finished, but now all the dryers were occupied. I put my clothes in a cart and waited. There were already people waiting for dryers before me so I let them go first. I noticed a couple of dryers only had a few minutes left, so I stood off to the side, waiting.
The same lady who had taken my washing machine came over to the drying area and started talking to a woman whose dryers were about to finish. It was obvious they were friends. I watched them glance at me, and then I heard the woman say, “I’m going to give you both of my dryers.”
I immediately spoke up and said, “No, I’ve been waiting here. I at least need one dryer so I can start drying my clothes.”

Instead, the woman taking her clothes out blocked my path with her cart and let the lady who had originally taken my washing machine take both dryers. At this point I was furious, but I kept it to myself. The frustration was definitely very visible on my face, but I didn’t say anything. Another dryer finished a minute later, so I walked around them and put half of my clothes in it. I could feel them glaring at me.
I still needed one more dryer. I noticed another dryer had been finished for about five minutes, but no one had come to get their clothes. I asked the laundromat attendant if she could remove them so I could use the dryer. She wanted to make sure the owner wasn’t still inside, so she started asking around.

While she was doing that, someone else emptied another dryer, so I thought, Perfect, I’ll just use this one. I started loading my clothes when the same woman who had blocked my path grabbed the dryer door, got right up in my face, and said in Spanish, “You need to wait your turn. I was here before you and I need that dryer. You’ve had a bad attitude this whole time.”

She was basically snarling at me with this gross passive aggressive grin. What she said sounds more insulting in Spanish than it does in English.I told her there was no reason to speak to me like that. At that point, I was seeing red. I regret this part, but I just let her have the dryer. I knew I had to calm myself down because I was getting so frustrated to the point that could’ve started to cry.

A few minutes later, my mom showed up to help me fold my laundry, and I told her everything that had happened. Coincidentally, she actually knew the woman who had been nasty to me. My mom confronted her (not disrespectfully) but she assertively and loudly asked why she had been treating me that way. The woman replied that she didn’t know I was my mom’s daughter. My mom said, “So you wouldn’t have treated her like shit if you knew she was my daughter?”

They started arguing, and the woman accused me of lying. She claimed the friend she gave the machines to had been there before me and that her friend had to go to work, which was why she let her cut in front of me. I told her I had things to do too, and I didn’t care if her friend had to work. First of all, if she wasn’t even done with her own laundry, why was she giving her dryers away to someone else? Second, I know she saw me waiting for the washing machines. She knew I was there way before her friend. We made eye contact multiple times, so that excuse was complete bullshit.

I finally lost my cool and said to her in Spanish, “You’re too ugly to be acting like the laundromat mafia. You have nothing else to do with your life so this makes you feel important.” It sounds a lot less cheesy in Spanish.
She immediately says back, “Who are you to call me ugly when you’re fat?” For context, yes, I’m overweight. I responded, “I can change that I’m fat. You can’t change that you’re ugly and a bitch.”

My mom had my back the whole time and another lady who in the laundromat (not involed) was quietly signaling to my mom that I was not lying about what happened. The whole argument lasted maybe two minutes. After that, everyone went quiet. We folded our laundry and left, but I could still hear her gossiping with the friend she had given the dryers to.

I told this story to my friend afterward, and she thinks I went too far by calling the woman ugly. I felt a little bad afterward, but overall I don’t regret standing up for myself. AITAH?

I have had my Bumble account for many years, I have made many matches and have met many people from all walks of life. Some I have engaged in conversation and continued off platform as expected. I have never had any issues, no provocative pictures or crude content on the platform, upheld all of the rules and picture requirements. In fact I have only recently returned to Bumble after being away from the platform for nearly a year.

On return I made a match and we continued talking off platform, we talked for about 2 weeks and by that point I did not have any connection or attraction to the person so I informed her and we mutually split ways. The next day I go onto Bumble to find my account had been fully blocked. I have attempted an appeal and received determination that they will uphold the account due to "Reports made against my account". I am in full belief that it was from the individual I was speaking to after I ended things and the appeal content has further lead me to believe that this is the truth.

I am wondering how the determination for bans is so one sides on the platform? I have ensured to follow every rule with my only crime to Bumble being that I have not purchased their premium tier or boosts. Has anyone else had any success in a successful appeal or getting in touch with someone to figure out how to get access to the account after being banned?