u/LooseBluebird6704

Io amo le uova. Senza creare drammi, ma ne mangio almeno due al giorno. Le amo in tutti modi, anche se ammetto di prediligere quelle modalità che mi permettono di lasciare il tuorlo meno cotto.

I usually don't think about it much. I don't really see the point in dwelling on the past or getting stuck in a negative mindset. I'd rather focus on being healthier every day and doing what I can to take care of myself now.

But sometimes I wonder whether there are things I won't notice until years from now. I spent many years living with obesity, and I can't help but wonder if it may have caused any permanent damage, even after losing the weight. I'm not scared, if something comes up, I'll deal with it like any other challenge in life. I'm just genuinely curious about other people's experiences.

Maybe this is an indelicate question, but have you experienced any long-term consequences? I'm thinking about things like joint problems, cardiovascular issues, or anything else that you believe was related to your years of obesity.

Personally, my irregular periods improved after I lost the weight, and I have a lot of loose skin. I don't really consider the loose skin damage, but more of a side effect. I'm fortunate that it hasn't caused rashes or other skin problems, because that would be a different story. However, I did need a great saphenous vein stripping and three phlebectomies at 28, and I still have varicose veins.

I started with that famous protocol you can easily find on other subs that said to use Klow and Glow in cycles. I'd get some skin tone improvement, but by the time I get these results, it's time to stop and I never get the results everyone raves about on here. Should I stop cycling?

Maybe it's just the circles I'm in, but what I see online and irl doesn't match the narrative that thinness is becoming the only accepted body type.

If a slim woman posts a picture, the comments are often full of assumptions: "You definitely have an eating disorder," "Hope you recover soon," "You look sick," or "I can see your bones." Apparently having visible collarbones is now enough for strangers to diagnose you with malnutrition.

At the same time, my feeds are constantly filled with posts saying things like, "This is what a real woman's body looks like," or "Society convinced us we were supposed to be small." More often than not, the examples being celebrated are people who are medically overweight or obese.

I've also seen the trend where people post themselves saying, "This is what BMI calls overweight," while they genuinely fall into the overweight or obese range.

Now, I know social media are shit but I'm noticing the same shift in real time too.

To be clear, I'm not saying people should be shamed for their weight. Everyone deserves respect regardless of their size. What concerns me is when a medical condition with well-established health risks starts being framed as something that is simply another equally healthy body type.

Premessa: sono un ex obesa grave che ancora oggi si porta gli strascichi sulla salute e che non vorrebbe che nessun altro viva quello che ho vissuto io.

Per anni, quando sentivo dire che si sta normalizzando l'obesità, pensavo fosse una polemica tipicamente americana che da noi non avrebbe mai trovato modo di attecchiare. Mi sembrava una di quelle discussioni che vedi solo online, tipo stanno rendendo i ccciovani gay o simili. Anzi, in TV, nella pubblicità e nella moda si vedevano quasi esclusivamente persone magre.

Negli ultimi tempi, però, ho notato un cambiamento, soprattutto a livello social. Vedo sempre più spesso, sotto a video e foto di gente chiaramente in forte sovrappeso/obesa, commenti come *"*questo è il corpo che una donna dovrebbe avere" o "finalmente un corpo normale e sano" o "come hanno fatto a convincerci che questo non è salutare" o "le donne non dovrebbero consumare meno di 2000 calorie (e se sono bassa?) e così via. Sappiamo che i social sono una cloaca, ma ho iniziato a notare questo cambiamento di vedute anche nelle persone con cui interagisco nella vita reale.

Un'altra cosa che ho notato è il modo in cui vengono trattate le ragazze magre. Se una ragazza pubblica una foto ed è magra, è pieno di commenti che l'accusano di avere un disturbo alimentare, che sicuramente è malata.

Ovviamente credo che ogni individuo dovrebbe essere rispettato a prescindere dal proprio peso e che la stupidità personale sia un problema individuale, ma allo stesso tempo è una situazione che innegabilmente influisce anche sulla comunità, ad esempio con l'aumento della spesa pubblica che deve coprire gli effetti dell'obesità sulla salute.

I’m currently 140+lbs down and I’ve been maintaining for a few months.

Something I’ve noticed is that there are endless spaces for weight loss. Forums, books, videos, programs, apps, posts, communities... everything is about how to lose weight, how to stay motivated while losing, how to deal with plateaus, hunger, calories, exercise, etc.

But once you actually get to maintenance, it feels like the conversation kind of disappears.

Now I get it, maintenance is technically simple. I raised my daily calories and I’m mostly doing the same things I was doing while losing like tracking, moving, keeping my habits, trying to stay consistent.

But in practice, I still sometimes run into situations where I’d really like another opinion and it feels like there’s so much support for the losing phase, but not nearly as much for the part where you have to actually live with the results long term.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s because maintenance just isn’t as marketable. Maybe there’s less money in telling people, “You’re done losing, now let’s help you live your life,” compared to keeping everyone in a constant weight-loss mindset (not saying that in a conspiracy way, it’s just something I’ve been thinking about). Probably it has to do with people giving up before reaching their goal.

Do you know any good spaces, communities, books, podcasts, or resources focused specifically on maintenance? Did you have the same impression?

Io sono a quota -65 e in mantenimento da qualche mese. Una cosa che ho notato, però, è la mancanza di spazi dedicati a questa fase.

Siamo sommersi da contenuti, spazi, forum, libri e qualsiasi altro mezzo su come dimagrire, ma ho trovato che una volta arrivata all'obiettivo non ci sono più gli stessi spazi. Forse perché è meno lucroso, forse perché in pochi ci arrivano, non saprei.

Da un lato il mantenimento è semplice, ho aumentato la quota calorica giornaliera e continuo in egual maniera nei restanti ambiti, però a volte ci sono situazioni pratiche su cui vorrei il parere di qualcuno con più esperienza o che ci sia già passato.

Personalmente, da quando ho preso seriamente l'aspetto fitness, non mi sono mai posta il problema. La fortuna è che i miei extra sono una pizza/cena/ghiros fuori una volta al mese, quindi si, vado sopra il budget giornaliero ma è poca cosa che si risolve da sè. Solo che ieri avevo già fatto un pranzo abbondante e poi c'è stato un evento a cena e mi sa che ho superato il mio mantenimento di 3k. Sono un po' titubante sul fare una settimana a -500 e mettere tutto in pari o fare come ho sempre fatto fin'ora e continuare dritto. Sarei molto propensa per la seconda, così da non dover modificare la mia routine, mi pesa tanto l'idea di un deficit (pure se molto breve) per diversi motivi, ma allo stesso tempo c'è una vocina che continua a ripetermi che ste 3k extra devono andare da qualche parte e la cosa più matura sarebbe occuparsene.

Voi cosa fate in queste situazioni?

I think this is something worth remembering in weight loss spaces.

A lot of people here are genuinely helpful. I’ve received kind, practical, reassuring advice over the years, and I’m grateful for that. But at the same time, I think we should be honest about the fact that many of us are here because we have complicated relationships with food, weight, our bodies, control, or all of the above.

So sometimes the advice you receive may be technically “correct,” but still come from a very rigid or disordered place.

I’ve been obese since childhood, I’ve been on Reddit for over 10 years, and I’ve used subs like this through multiple attempts, failures, restarts, and eventually a 65 kg loss. I know the basics. I know CICO. I know tracking works. I know consistency matters.

But I’ve also noticed that some comments in weight loss communities can be weirdly aggressive, black-and-white, or almost punitive.

If someone has a plateau, the immediate response is often: “You’re eating more than you think.”

And yes, sometimes that’s true. But sometimes weight loss just isn’t linear. Water retention exists. Hormones exist. Stress, constipation, sodium, training, medication, and random fluctuations exist.

If someone eats more for one holiday or one dinner, some people react like they’ve committed a crime against their diet.

And yes, patterns matter. But one day, one meal, or one holiday is not the same thing as “losing control” or undoing months of work.

If someone says they’re scared after overeating, they may not need a lecture about how they failed. They may need perspective and not to project our deeper fears on them.

I think the problem is that a lot of us are trying to lose weight while also carrying fear, shame, binge eating tendencies, perfectionism, or past regain. And sometimes people give advice from that place without realizing it. I also believe there has been an influx of people who never had to loose weight but are in the fitness area who come there and act quite arrogantly.

That doesn’t mean the advice is always wrong. It means the tone and mindset behind it can be unhealthy.

CICO works. Tracking helps. Accountability matters. I’m not denying any of that. I lost 65 kg because I took those things seriously.

But there’s a difference between structure and obsession, between being consistent and treating every normal human moment as a disaster, between “this may be slowing your progress” and “you messed up and you’re doomed.”

So my point is: be careful what you absorb here.

Take the useful advice. Ignore the cruelty. Be especially cautious with people who sound absolutely certain, because confidence doesn’t always mean wisdom. Sometimes it’s just someone else’s anxiety wearing a lab coat.

Weight loss is hard enough without turning every fluctuation, holiday, plateau, or imperfect day into evidence that you’re failing.

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I've been in maintenance for a couple of months after losing 65 kg over the course of a little more than a year.

I also have a history of binge eating. Thankfully it's much more under control now: these days it's anywhere from zero to two episodes a month instead of being a regular occurrence. Most of the times they're pretty minors incident too, to the point they don't make a dent in my weight log.

Today I was out with friends and let myself go a bit more than I intended. By my estimate, I ended up eating around 3,500 calories above my maintenance.

The math in my head immediately kicked in. To "cancel it out," I'd have to eat about a 500-calorie deficit for a week.

The problem is... I genuinely love maintenance. After spending over a year in a calorie deficit, I've finally built a routine that feels sustainable. I enjoy my breakfast with my two eggs and a piece of 85% dark chocolate, my afternoon snack, and the fact that food no longer feels like a constant restriction. The thought of deliberately going back into a deficit honestly makes me feel miserable and being miserable makes me more prone to binge.

So I'm wondering what people who have maintained for a while would do.

If I simply accept that today happened, go right back to my normal maintenance calories tomorrow, and move on as if nothing happened, how much damage am I realistically doing? Have any long-term maintainers found that this approach works better than trying to "pay back" every overeating day? I worry that chasing the math might be more likely to trigger another binge than just getting back to my normal routine.

TO BE CLEAR, IF THIS STARTED HAPPENING REGULARLY, OR IF I NOTICED MYSELF REGAINING WEIGHT OR SLIPPING BACK INTO OLD HABITS, I'D IMMEDIATELY GO BACK INTO A DEFICIT. I never want to be obese again or return to the place I fought so hard to escape after losing 65 kg. This is genuinely a once-in-a-blue-moon event, which is why I'm wondering whether the healthiest approach is to simply accept it, get back to my normal maintenance routine tomorrow, and move on instead of trying to pay it back.

Io si, con Carglass. Mi hanno fatto pagare un trattamento che in realtà era gratuito. Contattata sede centrale e ottenuto il rimborso.

Già preparato iceberg e pollo, rucola e bresaola, valeriana e tonno, lattughino e feta/mozzarelline. Ho bisogno di nuove idee.

Nessun prerequisito. Che sia iceberg, spinacino, lattuga o valeriana o che del verde non ci sia proprio, tutto è ben accetto.

Giuro che ci provo a non essere la persona che si lamenta di tutto. Anzi, è una cosa che mi dà abbastanza fastidio, se c'è un problema, cerco di risolverlo e non rimuginarci sopra.

Però a volte mi sembra di essere la persona più sfigata che conosca.

Parcheggio l'auto fuori dal lavoro: due volte me la ritrovo ammaccata. Una volta mi lasciano il bigliettino, ovviamente il numero era falso.

Faccio un intervento chirurgico: errore medico.

Ieri provo a togliere un portalampada per pulirlo: lo rompo. E vivo pure in affitto, quindi ottimo.

E queste sono solo le prime cose che mi vengono in mente. Sembra che ogni giorno ci sia una rottura di coglioni nuova pronta a presentarsi.

Razionalmente lo so che non c'è nessuna maledizione, nessun complotto cosmico e che queste cose succedono a tutti.

Però ci sono periodi in cui gli eventi sembrano concentrarsi tutti insieme e inizio a chiedermi se non dovrei kkk