u/Major_Conflict

As in do Singaporeans look down on Malaysians because of their perceived first world status? Is it more nuanced than that?

I'm just wondering if I'll be a competitive candidate for secondary CRT work once I graduate. How tough of a market is it? I hope to get booked most days. Is that possible? I live on the lower north shore but I'm willing to drive to wherever the work is. Just want to get an idea of whether my plan is realistic or not.

I've been to most countries in SEA and EA and I was wondering if it's worth going or not.

I mean they're completely free now I thought that would be a good incentive but apparently not? The bus network isn't even bad either you can get anywhere you want in a reasonable amount of time. Frequent buses, etc. the buses often have AC, etc. But I guess people would rather pay dear prices for petrol for their bikes and risk death by truck if they drive on the roads long enough?

I went to the food court in the basement of low yat and I bought chicken rice there and the one I received was really pink. It was really bloody. When I went to complain that it was basically raw, the seller told me that it's not meant to be hot (as if I didn't know that). Eventually they redid it and it was cooked through that time but they made me out to be the difficult person.

Anyway is it normal for it to be pink? If it was a little pink I would be fine with it but it looked raw to me. I wish I took a photo of it to post.

In NSW an experienced CRT earns 582 dollars a day. That's 582 dollars for 6 hours of work since lesson prep, marking, dealing with parents, admin and meetings are not part of the job. It's a true 9 to 3.

I imagine at the secondary level most of the job is just classroom management. At least when I was in highschool the substitute teacher just sat at the back of the classroom, told us to finish the work our regular teacher left us, and made sure we weren't gaming on our laptops That seems pretty easy. I imagine the worst of it is getting called slurs by the students and not being respected by the regular staff but I'd put up with it for that pay.

Is there some aspect of the job I'm missing? I have a large pool of assets to draw down from so I'm not too worried about inconsistent earnings. I think I could retire now if I really wanted to but I'd rather not risk it. I still have potentially a few decades left to live.

I've thought about it and I really can't think of many jobs that pay better for those hours that aren't either insanely competitive to get or require physical labour or risking your health.

Maybe this question is a bit biased but in my anecdotal experience most straight guys are ugly and could barely score anyone attractive even if they tried while gay and bisexual men, while not universally attractive, have a higher proportion of attractive men than the straight population. Is there something about being more open to novel sexual experiences that comes with being attractive?

I heard teaching was an employee's market but there are only 6 teaching jobs listed on the primary temporary opportunities section of JobFeed. I'm starting to worry that I might not be able to find work in the sector after I finish my MTeach (primary). Would it help if I'm male? I heard that can be advantageous as many schools want to maintain a balanced proportion of male and female teachers.

I paid 12 ringgit for a kilogram of longan is that a fair price?

I've been to Penang, Malacca, Ipoh and KL so far.

A week ago I was in Bukit Bintang at a pedestrian crossing and a city bus driver went full speed through the crossing while honking me and if I hadn't immediately run to the other side I would have just died there. Where do I go to report behaviour like this? Unfortunately I wasn't able to take note of the number plate. This behaviour is extremely ridiculous.

I'm doing an MTeach (Primary) at the moment, but I might want to teach secondary English later.

My undergrad was in Linguistics. As I understand it, I'd need three Linguistics units and three English units above first-year level to meet the subject requirements for English. Is that correct?

If I complete those units, is that enough, or would I have to do an MTeach (Secondary) as well?

I've also heard that some people get into secondary by taking temporary contracts teaching a subject they aren't formally approved for, then after teaching it for a while they can get approval. Is there any truth to that?

I've looked online but can't find a clear answer. If anyone's done this or knows how it works in NSW, I'd appreciate any advice.

What I enjoy is standing at the front of a classroom, explaining ideas, answering questions, and interacting with students. I find it genuinely rewarding to see a concept click or to have a good discussion with a class. That's the part of the job I like. It's the profession itself that has disappointed me.

In my experience, teaching seems to attract a disproportionate number of people with an inflated opinion of themselves. There's often a sense that because they're teachers, they're somehow more compassionate, enlightened, or morally superior than everyone else. That attitude gets tiring very quickly.

I've also noticed a sanctimonious streak. Some teachers talk as though teaching is uniquely difficult or emotionally draining, as if no other profession has unreasonable workloads, difficult clients, poor management, or burnout. Teaching can absolutely be hard, but so can nursing, retail, hospitality, social work, construction, customer service, and countless other jobs. Suffering isn't a competition.

The biggest surprise for me, though, has been how incredibly gossipy the profession can be. I'd expected teachers to be more collaborative and professional, but instead I've seen endless whispering behind colleagues' backs, speculation about people's personal lives, and staffroom conversations centred on who isn't pulling their weight or what someone else did wrong. For a profession that often talks about empathy and respect, the amount of gossip and cliquish behaviour I've encountered has been striking.

To be clear, I'm not saying teachers shouldn't be paid well or shouldn't have strong unions. I support fair pay, good working conditions, and the right of teachers to advocate for themselves. My issue isn't with teachers asking for better treatment. It's with the attitude some have that their profession is uniquely virtuous or uniquely difficult compared with everyone else's.

I know there are plenty of wonderful teachers, and I'm not saying this applies to everyone. But I've consistently found that I enjoy the act of teaching far more than I enjoy the culture of the profession.

I have never understood why oral sex is treated as a completely normal, expected part of a healthy sex life rather than a specific sexual preference. To me, it belongs in the same category as BDSM, foot fetishes, or other kinks. If people enjoy it, that's their business, but I don't understand why society treats it as "vanilla."

The biggest reason is that I find it inherently disgusting. You're putting another person's genitals in your mouth and often swallowing bodily fluids. People are grossed out by far less. Most wouldn't lick a stranger's feet, drink from the same cup as someone they barely know, or put other bodily fluids anywhere near their mouth. Yet somehow putting genitals in your mouth is considered completely ordinary. Even if someone is clean, that doesn't suddenly make the act appealing to me.

The second issue is that it is fundamentally one-sided. During intercourse, both people are generally receiving direct physical pleasure at the same time. With oral sex, the receiver gets the overwhelming majority of the physical stimulation while the giver gets little or none. People often say, "I enjoy pleasing my partner," but if that's the case, why is reciprocity so commonly expected? If giving alone is so rewarding, why is receiving considered important too?

Finally, I don't buy the idea that oral sex is some neutral, ordinary act. Society itself has long associated it with submission and humiliation. "Suck my dick" is one of the most common insults in the English language for a reason. The act has obvious cultural associations with dominance and degradation, and I find that incredibly unappealing. If anything, that makes it seem even less like a standard sex act and more like a specific fetish that people have normalized.

Before anyone calls me a prude, I'm not anti-sex. I enjoy sex, and I'm not saying consenting adults shouldn't do whatever they want in private. My point is that oral sex shouldn't be treated as something everyone is expected to enjoy or perform. If someone doesn't want to do it, they shouldn't be viewed as inexperienced, selfish, or sexually repressed.

People are free to enjoy whatever consensual acts they like. I just think society has normalized one of the strangest, most unhygienic, and most one-sided sexual acts imaginable and now treats it as though it's simply part of "normal" sex. I just don't see it that way.

I was crossing at a pedestrian crossing and the bus didn't even stop or slow down for me to cross. It just honked at me and kept going at full speed and if my brain was a bit slower and I decided to stop instead of running for the footpath for whatever reason it would've just killed me. Why are drivers so crazy here? Their lack of self-preservation instincts aside, why do they have so little social awareness?

As I understand it, you don't need these qualifications to get a job doing EAL/D right? So therefore it makes little sense to get any qualification beyond an ITE right since Australian employers place little weight on credentials unless it's required for the job?

Would getting an education master's help to get the job? How do people get in?

I've generally enjoyed my time in Malaysia, but one thing that's stood out to me is the customer service.

A lot of service workers seem completely disinterested, act like you're inconveniencing them by merely talking to them, or have a dismissive, sometimes disrespectful attitude towards customers.

For example, I asked the receptionist at my hotel if I could have a plastic bag. She immediately gave me a dirty look, like I'd asked for something outrageous. When I asked if I could have two, she replied, "I only have one," despite there clearly being a whole stack behind the counter. It wasn't about the bag, it was the attitude.

I've had some genuinely great service too, so I know this doesn't apply to everyone.

Has anyone else noticed this? Is it just bad luck on my part, or is there a reason customer service often feels this way here?

The thing is, I don't think it's really about the hair.

Throughout our relationship I've accepted things I don't personally like because they mattered to her, such as revealing neon pink clothing and temporary tattoos. I also turned down the chance to move to another city for a course that would have helped my career a lot because she didn't want to move. Later, when she received a scholarship to study overseas, I took a job in the same foreign city so we could stay together.

More generally, I feel like I'm usually the one compromising. Even on relatively minor disagreements, it's difficult to get her to meet me halfway.

For example, she doesn't believe in modern medicine. She has told me that if we have children, she refuses to vaccinate them or send them to school. I strongly disagree with both of those views and found them very upsetting, but I stayed because I cared about the relationship and hoped we could work through our differences.

When I asked her not to dye her hair green, she said, "It's my body, I can do what I want."

I agreed that it was ultimately her decision, but I also felt like this was the straw that broke the camel's back. It made me feel like my preferences and the compromises I'd made throughout the relationship didn't seem to matter to her. I told her that if she dyed it green, I would end the relationship. She just said, "Okay."

I know she has every right to do what she wants with her body, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise. I guess I'm wondering if I'm overreacting by seeing this as the final straw, or whether it's reasonable to end a relationship when you feel like you're always the one compromising.

Am I overreacting?