u/MaryDoogan91

I lost my Dad two months ago. The pain is like no other and I’m just taking it one day at a time. He’s always been there for me and looked out for me the best he could, and he did it one more time by leaving me a little bit of money that is honestly life changing to me right now, even though it would likely be considered inconsequential to most.

I love you, Daddy. I’ll miss you forever. Thank you for helping me one more time❤️‍🩹

There’s a lot that doesn’t make sense to me about the existence of God, the afterlife, etc. I’m not totally sure what I believe most days, but there’s one thing I just can’t wrap my head around, and it’s the idea of a complete ceasing of a conscious existence. The closest thing we have to it while we’re alive is sleeping, but even then, there’s some stream of consciousness and awareness. Atheists say “It feels like nothing, because you’ll just stop existing” but I just can’t wrap my head around that concept.

I tend to still lean towards there being something after death, and something out there bigger than myself. I’m not sure what that is yet, but I just can’t help this feeling in my gut that there’s something.

They're all fabulous and interesting in their own ways--the writers did a great job of giving them all distinct personalities that played off of each other well. But I always found Blanche to be the most...interesting? I loved her stories about her life, where and how she grew up, her marriage to George, and later her complex relationship with her family and children. Rue also played her grief for George so well; Blanche was all at once a very confident, vivacious woman, but was also vulnerable and feeling things deeply underneath all of that. She so deeply still grieved for George, and then later Big Daddy, in such palpable ways. And her regret over the type of mother she was was so visceral at times. Rue did such a great job with Blanche.

1. The Case of the Libertine Belle

2. Sick and Tired (Pt. 1&2, yes i'm putting them both in one slot because it's a continuous storyline)

3. Scared Straight

4. Break In

5. You Gotta Have Hope

6. The Artist

7. My Brother, My Father

8. To Catch a Neighbor

9. Sisters and Other Strangers

10. Ebbtide's Revenge

Got a lot of good advice on this sub. I'm 35 and just starting over in life following a series of very difficult events. I'm starting completely over with savings and 401k, am slowly rebuilding my credit, and have my few debts on a manageable payment plan. I have a good job now and feel positive about where I'm headed. I'm starting over later than a lot of people, and some things are still not ideal, but that's life. It's finally looking up though.

It was always funny to me the lack of mentioning other characters when the girls were interacting with people other than each other. For example, in the episode where Blanche's daugher Rebecca was getting inseminated and then later giving birth, I don't think there was a single mention of George--the husband Blanche adored and Becky's FATHER?? Like, it seemed like he'd be on their mind at least once during the process of Becky having her first baby--a child her father will never get to meet. And Clayton wasn't mentioned at all when Big Daddy died despite Blanche being close to her brother. Neither Kate nor Michael came or were mentioned when Dorothy married Lucas. Idk, I do realize there's only so much time in one episode, it'd probably be too many characters to balance at one time, etc, so I understand the logistics and accept that continuity wasn't the show's strong point, but there are times where things like this is just a little more obvious lol.

I lost my father last month. I'm struggling emotionally and grieving deeply. Even before dad passed, I was struggling with my faith and struggling to reconcile things that don't make sense. I'm not sure I believe in an afterlife. It just doesn't seem to make much sense. Like, we spend our whole lives here, and then we go to a magical place forever after we die and continue on like we never died? Seems like either heaven or life on earth would be a moot point or redundant then? But aside from that, it's just becoming very farfetched to me to believe that there's a God, or that there's an afterlife. At this point I'd call myself and agnostic, though I'm not totally uncomfortable continuing to identify as Christian.

How do ya'll maintain your faith? And why? I've never felt that deep sense of God, have never had any sort of epiphany, have never felt "spoken to" by God, even when I was much more faithful and religious and attended church regularly. My life does not seem to change at all believing or not believing. I can't seem to access or feel that thing that others say they can. I still have hope and some level of faith that keeps me from being full on atheist; I think the fact that most of the world believes in *something* counts for something. I still can't shake the feeling that there is something out there bigger than all of this, and I can't quite wrap my head around our entire being just winking out into nothing when we die, even if the idea of a Heaven is also something I can't quite wrap my head around. I'm hurting and grieving, but also even before that I was starting to really question things. I know people will say "just have faith, it's about faith, not absolutes" and I understand that, but even when I try to nurture my faith, I just can't engage in the optimism or blind faith like I used to. Any feedback or even recommendations for media, books, podcasts, youtube channels, TED talks, etc would be helpful and appreciated.

I experienced a devastating loss recently and am struggling with intense grief. I have made an appt with a grief counselor. I've never felt so alone and so regretful of my choice to be single. I keep looking at my family and friends who have partners with them through their losses, and they seem to cope better, feel better quicker, and just not seem so...alone. I have no one in my immediate life on a day to day basis, even though I have loving friends and family. I know a lot of this is just the raw pain talking, and I know that grief on some level is inherently lonely no matter what. I'm not looking for advice on how to be happy single, I know that's not what this sub is for and that's not what I'm looking for. This is just my first big loss as a single person and I'm just wondering how you all deal with that or have dealt with that?

Which one of the main 4 do you think would've eventually struggled the most in life if they hadn't moved in together? I think Blanche, tbh.

I think Dorothy would've been lonely and I can see her slipping into being a bit of a recluse, but would've focused on teaching, her kids, her mother. Sophia would've either moved in with Dorothy or moved to another assisted living home; she would've been bored and possibly deteriorated more quickly, but would've been okay and taken care of. Dorothy would've made sure of it.

I think Rose would've had a hard time finding people who "got" her and accepted her quirkiness. But, I do think she ultimately could've moved back to St. Olaf if things got too hard. She had family and friends and roots there.

But Blanche had very few people. She had Clayton and her father she was close to until Big Daddy died, but tbh I think she would've been the most affected by not having the other girls. I think Blanche already realized how completely alone she was without George, but I think it would have been much worse without Dorothy, Rose, and even Sophia. She had strained relationships with her sisters, and her children were also estranged from her. Blanche also struggled to make friends with women, and I just think she would've been very lonely and possibly even would've hurried up to marry the wrong guy just so she wouldn't be alone.

I'm embarrassed about this at my age (35) but I'm only just now starting to rebuild my finances and credit score after a very rough period which pretty much wiped me out. I'm basically starting over from scratch. I find that a lot of the online financial help calculators aren't super helpful, but I'm hoping maybe I can get some feedback and tips? I live in a low cost of living state and my pay is hourly. I get paid once a month, same day every month. Here's a breakdown of my monthly finances:

Net Pay: $3,500-$3,800 (Fluctuates slightly at times, but I can generally count on that range pretty confidently)

401K Contribution: 3%

Rent: $650

Car payment: $400

Car insurance: $180

Groceries: $350

Gas: $300 (My commute is 40-45 minutes each way, 4 days a week)

Credit card payment: $150

Personal loan payment: $100

Savings: $300

Streaming services/entertainment: $25

I am still pretty new to this stability and getting back on my feet. How's everything look overall so far? I'm probably being too conservative with savings and retirement, but I'm really trying to work on creating a good cusion for myself in my checking account before I contribute more to those areas. I only get paid monthly, which does make it a bit hard to budget at times. TIA.

I'm a 35f. I was reaised Christian and still identify loosely with that concept, however, I have started leaning more "optimistic agnostic" in recent years. I've tried to look into faith communities and joining up with a church to nurture and explore those parts of myself more, but the reality seems to be that churches are rapidly shrinking and mostly full of older people. Fewer and fewer people my age and younger are attaching to Christianity or any religion at all. Identifying as atheist or spiritual but not religious is rapidly gaining popularity. I just feel lonely, and also it makes me doubt my faith even more, because if God is real and if Christianity in particular is the true religion, why are so many people leaving the concept in droves?

I am single and childless, by choice and intention at least for this season of my life. I've been very happy with that choice, but I also know that there are pros and cons to any lifestyle choice. I've experienced a devastating con recently. I lost my Dad last week. I live near my parents and saw them often, usually weekly. I'd even spend entire weekends at their home with them. I'm an introvert with a small but supportive friend group, and I don't want to say Mom and Dad were all I have but in some ways they were/are. I can't deny that they made up such a big part of my primary social support circle, and they were my main people. I am hurting and sad, and as family--including my brother, who I'm close to and is also deeply grieving--went back to their lives with their own families, spouses, children, etc, I feel left with this overwhelming sense of lonliness. I'm very close with my mother, and that won't change, but while my brother loved Dad too, he lived 3 hrs away, didn't see Dad nearly as often, and got up the next day after the funeral with a whole other life to get back to (wife, kids, etc). I feel so stuck in the visceral part of this. My brother for example has lost a very important person, but Dad wasn't a day to day part of his primary inner circle or priorities. I have lost a primary person, and it makes me feel lonely, stuck, and sad as a single childless person in ways I have never felt before.

Anyway, this is not a knock against singledom, I am still single and happy, but how do ya'll cope with things like this? I'm trying to expand my friend group and support network, but it's hard when you're an introvert in your 30s lol.

Lost my Dad recently. Today was my first day back at work. I would’ve liked a couple more days, but I just couldn’t afford to miss any more. I hope/think that I’ve presented well today, but my heart felt like it has broken and re-assembled a hundred times today. It’ll hit me like a wave, even while talking to clients, and I have to just actively push through the awareness of it until it passes. I’m just sad and shell shocked, and I’ve never felt so lonely while being in a room with another person before. It’s so hard to show up for others when you’re absolutely devastated but have to compartmentalize.