u/MudRemarkable732

I can understand why diarrhea happens.
But sometimes diarrhea is classified as “explosive.” This is when it erupts out of the anus with force.
Genuinely asking - why the force? What purpose does that serve? What signals are happening in the body telling it that forcing the poop out is best?

Regular diarrhea already leaves the body so quickly.

my mom had a specific dream. she said she had to give up the dream to raise me. as a result, from a young age she started pressuring me into entering this career path.

part of this involved constantly guilt tripping me over her own regrets, invading my privacy, and calling me selfish whenever i showed resistance to entering the career path.

mind you, the career path is famously NOT LUCRATIVE. so it's not even like i was being tiger parented into something that could give me financial freedom.

now i am broke, with a degree in something i have no interest in, and no other skills other than for this nonlucrative career path.

all of my peers that i was in grade school classes with are buying property. i had their abilities, just not their family guidance.

the recession and AI isn't helping.

i deal with a tremendous amount of guilt for not making good on my mom's dream. but also, i have so much fury at my life situation. i can't help but blame her for it.

are there any books about this?

i often hear about "tiger parenting," but that's usually for stuff that's actually lucrative. i have never heard about anyone being "tiger parented" into a famously low paying, nonsensical career (arts). the closest i can think of is kids who are forced into showbiz from a young age (like jeanette mccurdy and her book.) but are there any other examples of this? i feel alone.

i went to an ivy league school for a humanities degree.

recently i've realized i didn't actually want to pursue the humanities, i only did that because my parents have some type of chip on their shoulder about stem and strongly discouraged me from it (long story)

i feel so behind because i feel like i didn't take my stem education seriously as a child, since i never thought it would be for me.

yet i know i have a natural inclination for it, hence how i was able to be a well-rounded student without really trying.

how can i re-explore the sciences? math, biology, chemistry (not physics. i feel secure that i don't like that, lol)... how do i go back to basics and learn what i like?

my mom had a specific dream. she said she had to give up the dream to raise me. as a result, from a young age she started pressuring me into entering this career path.

part of this involved constantly guilt tripping me over her own regrets, invading my privacy, and calling me selfish whenever i showed resistance to entering the career path.

mind you, the career path is famously NOT LUCRATIVE. so it's not even like i was being tiger parented into something that could give me financial freedom.

now i am broke, with a degree in something i have no interest in, and no other skills other than for this nonlucrative career path.

all of my peers that i was in grade school classes with are buying property. i had their abilities, just not their family guidance.

the recession and AI isn't helping.

i deal with a tremendous amount of guilt for not making good on my mom's dream. but also, i have so much fury at my life situation. i can't help but blame her for it.

are there any books about this?

i often hear about "tiger parenting," but that's usually for stuff that's actually lucrative. i have never heard about anyone being "tiger parented" into a famously low paying, nonsensical career (arts). the closest i can think of is kids who are forced into showbiz from a young age (like jeanette mccurdy and her book.) but are there any other examples of this? i feel alone.

i also welcome thoughts from any asians who have gone through the same. it's a bit unusual, being raised amongst model minorities, but being the only person who doesn't fit into the mold, not through my own volition.

my mom had a specific dream. she said she had to give up the dream to raise me. as a result, from a young age she started pressuring me into entering this career path.

part of this involved constantly guilt tripping me over her own regrets, invading my privacy, and calling me selfish whenever i showed resistance to entering the career path.

mind you, the career path is famously NOT LUCRATIVE. so it's not even like i was being tiger parented into something that could give me financial freedom.

now i am broke, with a degree in something i have no interest in, and no other skills other than for this nonlucrative career path.

all of my peers that i was in grade school classes with are buying property. i had their abilities, just not their family guidance.

the recession and AI isn't helping.

i deal with a tremendous amount of guilt for not making good on my mom's dream. but also, i have so much fury at my life situation. i can't help but blame her for it.

are there any books about this?

i often hear about "tiger parenting," but that's usually for stuff that's actually lucrative. i have never heard about anyone being "tiger parented" into a famously low paying, nonsensical career (arts). the closest i can think of is kids who are forced into showbiz from a young age (like jeanette mccurdy and her book.) but are there any other examples of this? i feel alone.

A zoo director named Larry Parrott
A drummer named Michael Bang
A hairstylist named Sheila Head

We are 28F.
She is one of my best friends. We have been growing apart for a couple years but still have good moments together.
A couple months ago,
I asked her to schedule her bday party for a Saturday because I would be OOT until very late that Friday evening.
She came to me and said that most people couldn’t make Saturday so she might do Friday. I said that was okay.
Then a week or two before the Friday, she said she might not have a party at all. She said she was too tired to do anything, she was never in the mood to go out on Fridays and didn’t enjoy it, and besides, I wouldn’t be there.
A week before the Friday, I found out I would be able to attend after all. I would not be OOT.
Because I would be in town, I told her I could make her bday party. She was excited and immediately sent out an invite for 7pm on a Friday. The description was vague, it just said “something for my bday.”

I also decided to commit to a Pride event that started late that night, like at 10pm. I do feel guilty about not booking out my whole evening for her bday, but I thought it was a special chance to celebrate Pride in my city, and I was certain I’d be able to make both. I figured I could spend 2-3h at her bday party then head to the Pride event.

2 days before her bday, she texted me complaining that the folks who asked her to reschedule to Friday in the first place couldn’t even go out later. She said “if you can’t go out then don’t bother showing up…I feel like it’s a vibe killer when people leave before the main event.”

I had not known she had considered going out to be the “main event.” I told her I wouldn’t be able to go out either, as I had booked tickets for a Pride event.

Specifically what I said is
“Ok, tbh I can’t go out on Friday either. Don’t hate me 😭 I thought we were doing something chill cause u said u wanted to do something minimal. So I booked tickets to a big sapphic event. I’m part of the problem. I could go out on Saturday though”

She immediately cancelled the 7pm digital invitations to everyone, and told folks she just wanted to go out at 10 pm instead and to text her if interested.

I texted her the next day, wished her a happy bday, and offered to get brunch or dinner w her to celebrate.

In the past week, she has ignored 99% of my texts and me asking if she’s mad. I am confounded. What gives?

Are my actions so inconsiderate to warrant a week of silence? I genuinely want to know. I am so confused and stressed.

Could it be that she misinterpreted my texts? Or am I the problem?

She likes Zohran, progressive politics in general (it’s her career,) and pottery …and she owns cats

I’m kinda broke so nothing too expensive pls
We’re late 20s

I don’t know any team sports. Is there any place where an adult can learn and participate in a team sport?
I am decently coordinated- have done individual sports my entire life.
Would love to try out a team sport like soccer or basketball.

Summer’s here. I wanna be outsideeee
I’m in need of new clubbing tops. Backless preferred. I’m also genuinely broke. Where can I thrift or buy some cute, unique backless tops? I’m in my late 20s.

Bonus points for cute cargo pants

Do you think folks will somehow link this win to him?
Do you think somehow this could move democratic socialism forward in this country?
Do you think there will be no impact?

Brand new to fishing.
Bought a pair of $1.25 polarized glasses from the dollar store.
Walked the perimeter of my local pond twice with them on.
At noon, a quite hot noon, I could see schools of fish by the banks, standing still or darting around.
At 8pm, I didn’t see any.

This contradicts with what I’ve read that fish are more active at dawn/dusk, and retreat to deeper water during midday when it’s hot.

What do?

Also, how am I supposed to spot fish in the water when it gets darker, my polarized glasses are too dark, and the fish are no longer by the banks but in some mysterious location in the bowels of the lake?

i swear to god, the only demographic that routinely isn't into me is my demographic (asian americans.) the only two asians who have shown a reciprocal interest to me are baddies who grew up in asian countries (china and korea, respectively.)

out of every asian american woman who i've pursued, most of them don't date other asians, and they ended up with a non-asian after i pursued them.

i do just fine with other demographics. i am a catch, if i say so myself. but it's so frustrating, feeling shut out of the community i want to love most.

i want to shake them and shout that their internalized racism is so obvious. why would i feel like "a sibling" to them? all we have in common is our race. and there's billions of asians, lol.

now im over here feeling like an idiot for wanting too much or caring too much...

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i'll update you guys ...

ugh, don't like being in this situation.

we are both bisexual. they have dated women before. i have hooked up with women before but not really had feelings. for some reason, me being interested in my friend romantically feels really gross of me. i know it's internalized homophobia, but another part of it is, i have never liked when male friends confessed feelings for me and i worry i'm doing the same thing to our dynamic.

i get a flirty vibe in our friendship and i have no idea how to read into it. they do things to me that seem flirty, but then they pull away. i would love to hook up with them and cuddle with them and kiss and hold hands just for a short time, even if we can't date. there's a number of reasons why i'm not sure if we would work as a couple. one of them is that they live across the country and we only see each other once every few months. the other is that i feel we have different relationship needs. but i'd be happy even with just a kiss, mostly to confirm that i was right about our vibes.

to be honest, i dont know if i ever felt "just like friends" towards them. i always thought they were really hot, even when we first met. lol. but it didn't turn romantic until later.

i want to tell them something, because it's getting to the point where i'm torn up about it, and freaking out/getting nervous and jealous whenever they tell me about whatever cute person they met that day.

if i was being fully honest, i'd spill my heart out and be like "I HAVE A HUGE CRUSH ON YOU. I'VE BEEN INTO YOU SINCE THE DAY I MET YOU, YEARS AGO." but i don't want to come on so strong.

i want to say something like, "i know we are friends, but to be honest, i still get a homo vibe sometimes and i would like to explore that. im sorry if this freaks you out."

the issue with this is, it doesn't really capture how invested i am, and how heartbroken i will be if they say no. and if they do, i will crash out to an extent that they are surprised by. which will be embarassing for me. and we have plans to travel together for a couple days next month. rip

maybe i'll add: "i think our friendship is very special and i usually would not want to violate that unless i am seeing clear signs. the only reason i am bringing this up is because first of all i realized i am pretty bad at detecting clear signs. second of all, it's gotten to the point where i crash out a bit when i hear u expressing interest in other people." but then that also kind of reveals how down bad i am.

this is half a cry for help, half just a vent. i always heard about bi people having homoromantic friendships that change their brain chemistry, but i didn't have those. this is because for much of my life, i was only physically attracted to women. this is now happening to me. it's really hard for me and i am struggling. i feel like i have betrayed them by not being honest about my feelings for a while. and i feel silly for being the "secretly lovesick 'best friend'," a dynamic i have been on the other side of before, that made me super uncomfortable, and that i swore i'd never do to anyone else.