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Mom to be!! I am due in December and my baby shower hostesses have officially sent out baby shower invites for my November shower. A couple of people have bought some things which makes me realize it’s really time to officially finish my registry. I am mostly done, also known as I can’t think of anything else to add but I feel like I may be missing some stuff….

Would some moms or dads be willing to share what your most used items were in your baby’s first year? Or maybe what you thought you would use but never did… Things worth the money…. Really any recommendations 😁

Today one of my good friends had the chance to come visit me. As stated in the title, she informed me today that she had an abortion.

Me and her have been friends for years, well before adulthood. We are the same age but in totally different stages of life. I am married, totally settled down with a baby on the way. She is living at home still and enjoys going out every weekend with a few of her bar hopper friends. I’ve never faulted her for how she wants to live. She has always been supportive of my dreams as I have been of hers. We talk off and on but that’s just adulthood. We both have our own lives we have to tend to.

She told me after feeling my baby kick. Told me how excited she was for her arrival. To have a mini me to love. The news took me totally off guard. I felt like I was a bad friend to her for not being someone she could come to for it. I wish she would have so maybe I could have convinced her to keep her baby. She told me it was a deeply personal decision that she contemplated for weeks before she moved forward with it. She said she wants to bring a child into the world under the circumstances I am in (married, settled down, etc). I told her I didn’t judge her and that I loved her. But I was really speechless and I truly didn’t know how to respond. She said she has 0 regrets and was not ready for a baby.

I couldn’t help but feel like the mood of our visit was off after that because really, it made me uncomfortable. Her baby would have been born just a couple weeks before mine. I feel like it has hit me harder considering I’m pregnant. I don’t really know how to feel.

I love her and always will but I do wish I could’ve been there in that moment and can’t help but wonder if maybe something could have changed. If her baby could have lived had I talked her out of it. I will just pray tonight for guidance on this. But wanted to share to get this off my chest.

I am seeking advice from my fellow women on this sub who have HS who are also mothers!

I 23F am pregnant with my first baby. Unlike a lot of women I have read on, my HS has gotten significantly worse while pregnant, so I am concerned about how manageable it will be while postpartum. I was on Cosentyx for nearly a year, but was advised while trying for a baby to get off. My doctor is also weary about putting me back on it post delivery because I want to breastfeed. I am really not sure if my HS is worse right now solely because of pregnancy or if it is a mix of that + quitting my Cosentyx treatments…

Do any of my fellow moms with HS have advice for how to manage it? How was your post partum with HS? Would love to hear from HS mom’s who also did breastfeeding, even if it was for a short amount of time. I flare most under my breasts, my armpits, and between my thighs.

Hi friends. I have two packs left off the Rosè Buldak, so when I went to the grocery store yesterday I bought another pack. Looks like I grabbed Carbonara flavor on accident. The packaging is super similar so I didn’t realize.

Is Carbonara a lot spicier than Rosè? I can usually add the whole spice pack to Rosè no problem but I do add a spoonful of cream cheese, a splash of milk and a boiled egg to it usually, I’m sure that cuts some of the heat. Just curious if I might should not use the whole spice pack with the Carbonara. Also what is the flavor profile of the Carbonara compared to Rosè? What’s good to add to it?

Thanks for all the suggestions! I’m excited to try it. If I don’t like it I’m sure I can give the rest of the pack to my brother. He is like a garbage disposal bahahaha.

Hi friends. I have two packs left off the Rosè Buldak, so when I went to the grocery store yesterday I bought another pack but looks like I grabbed Carbonara flavor on accident. The packaging is super similar so I didn’t realize.

Is Carbonara a lot spicier than Rosè? I can usually add the whole spice pack to Rosè no problem but I do add a spoonful of cream cheese, a splash of milk and a boiled egg to it usually, I’m sure that cuts some of the heat. Just curious if I might should not use the whole spice pack with the Carbonara. Also what is the flavor profile of the Carbonara? Cheesy? What’s good to add to it?

Thanks for all the suggestions! I’m excited to try it. If I don’t like it I’m sure I can give the rest of the pack to my brother. He is like a garbage disposal bahahaha.

I will start. Shredded chicken. I miss the Mini Shredded Chicken Quesadilla Melts and the Shredded Chicken Burrito almost daily. I was in high school when they discontinued it and worked as a waitress. Taco Bell was the only thing open by the time I got off, so if I was hungry I would go through the line and order two of the melts and give the cashier a $5 bill out of my tips from the night (can’t do that anymore either lol). My favorite meal to go home and eat while I did my homework for school. I wish they would bring it back so bad!! Even if it was for a limited time. And no the Cantina Chicken is not the same.

Second would have to be the Cool Ranch Dorito Locos Taco.

Hi everyone! Today I am 12 weeks pregnant.

I want to preface by saying that I am absolutely overjoyed to be pregnant, and I am amazed at my bodies ability to grow our daughter.

But I am having a hard time, mentally and physically. I have a doctor’s appointment and was going to talk to my doctor about the possibility of PND… I have never really struggled with mental health problems in the past but I am have at times overwhelming thoughts of sadness and that I am a burden to my family and husband. I also have intense food aversions and nausea. I embarrassingly threw my lunch up in the work parking lot the other day bc I could not make it to the toilet. I could not enjoy supper with my husband last night because of how badly his food disgusted me, and then I sobbed in the car over it. I have never felt so out of control of my emotions and body before!

It makes me feel guilty sometimes to think these things because me and my husband are truly so excited to welcome our baby girl and there have been a lot of things I have loved about pregnancy. Listening to her heartbeat on a doppler, ultrasounds, picking her name out. It has truly been lovely. But I am not sure how keen I am on doing this again. It makes me sad to think about not giving my daughter a sibling, because I am so close with my sister and same with my husband and his siblings. But truly, I couldn’t imagine feeling the way I feel most days while trying to care for my child. Some days I feel I can barely care for myself!

Anyway, that is my rant for the day. Pregnancy is hard so pat yourself on the back! We are all doing our best.

I see the above quote a lot and it makes me very sad.

I used to be pro-choice, even though I hate to admit that. I listened to what social media had to say before doing my own research and studying. But the thing that radically changed my opinion the most about abortion was when my sister got pregnant with my niece. I was 17…. And watching that life grow everyday in my sister’s belly was an indescribable feeling. I loved something before I even knew her. I will never forget going to a firework show for Independence Day when she was in her third trimester, and everytime a firework popped my niece would jump in my sister’s belly. It truly made me realize that IS A LIFE, a SOUL, that my sister was blessed to carry. Holding my niece for the first time after watching her grow those past 9 months through ultrasounds or feeling her kick was an absolutely indescribable feeling.

I am now pregnant, me and my husband are expecting our daughter this December, and we are over the moon. And I absolutely challenge the above quote. I thought I was on FIRE for being against abortion, but I am even more now… I didn’t even know that was possible. I am 10 weeks but seeing her grow at every ultrasound, hearing her heartbeat, and knowing that me and my husband were picked to be her parents, well it’s a feeling I can’t quite describe. And I have not had an easy pregnancy. I experienced some pretty intense cramping and bleeding in the beginning that prompted me to get ultrasound and blood work early. My bloodwork for the first two draws was not promising. I have been sick and exhausted as well. Although as of now the problems have resolved and as far and me, my husband, and doctors know she is growing healthy and right on track. But sometimes it makes me sad to think that even though I am so thankful to be pregnant, that I may not want to go through this for a second time. (As in me and my husband would not actively try for a second child like we did for this child.) but through every uncomfortable or less than ideal moment, she is MY DAUGHTER, and I’m so thankful and blessed that my body will provide a home for her for the next few months. I will never ever forget seeing her at my 8 weeks scan and seeing her heart flicker on that screen. It is truly an amazing feeling knowing my body is what sustains her body.

My question to the above quote, is how? How can you find out you’re pregnant, feel them grow day by day, see them on an ultrasound, hear their heartbeat, wonder what they will look like, and still continue to think “I support women killing their child!” Genuinely, it baffles my mind.

Anyway, that is my story for the day. Right now I am baking a cake for a Memorial Day picnic I’m going to later so while it cooks I would love to hear your stories or just your opinions on the quote. Have a great day!

Didn’t know what else to put for flare….

This Sunday is my husband and I’s first wedding anniversary and I think we will be taking the road trip to Hot Springs for a small getaway! I haven’t been to Hot Springs since I was in high school… so I am looking for recs!

couple things -
I am pregnant, so unfortunately no hot springs/bath houses or wine tastings.

We are just staying the day so overnight accommodations aren’t necessary.

Hi everyone! Me and my husband are expecting and recently found out we are having a baby girl!

That being said, we have both decided that her first name will be Corinne. We both love the name but we are having a hard time picking a middle name for her. Any suggestions would be great! We are at a loss!

Names we have discussed but ultimately said no to -

Corinne Elaine

Corinne Allison

Corinne Olivia

Corinne Juliette

Corinne Noelle

Corinne Audrey

Corinne Marie

Corinne Renee

Corinne Grace