Help I'm 17 trying to plan out my COH and I am so confused of the program I also have many questions if a fellow eagle scout or someone with knowledge can give me advice and some guidance can you ?
I wanna plan thw date for my coh but I'm unsure who to talk to and get it approved.
Hi everyone. I’m 17, and I’m currently trying to figure out what I want to study in college and what I want to do with my life.
I’ve been fascinated by languages and other cultures for as long as I can remember. When I was 12, I started studying Russian and eventually earned my interpretership. From there, I started learning Japanese, studied abroad in Japan, and came back not too long ago. I’m currently studying Chinese, Korean, and German.
My biggest dream has always been to work internationally with people from different countries, cultures, and backgrounds. I’d love to work in something humanitarian or international, potentially with an organization like the United Nations, an international organization, cultural exchange programs, study abroad programs, or something along those lines. I also want to host exchange students someday because I know firsthand how meaningful a good host family can be.
The problem is that I’m starting to seriously think about money and my future.
My older brother thinks I should choose a college major that will lead to a financially stable career. He’s suggested careers like medicine or law because they can provide a good income and a secure future. And I completely understand where he’s coming from. I \*do\* want financial stability. I want to be able to support myself, have a comfortable life, and eventually have the freedom to do things like host exchange students and travel.
But I’m struggling to see where I fit.
Medicine probably isn’t for me. I have a very strong sensitivity to the human body. It’s hard for me to explain, but learning about anatomy and the human body genuinely makes me extremely uncomfortable. This isn’t something I just discovered recently either. I remember being overwhelmed by it in middle school, and last year I actually had to drop anatomy and physiology because it was becoming too stressful for me.
Law also seems complicated. I’m interested in criminal justice, but I’m extremely sensitive to stories involving violence, abuse, assault, murder, and other traumatic situations. Even hearing about certain things on the news can be overwhelming for me. I’m a very empathetic person, and sometimes I wonder whether I’m \*too\* empathetic for certain careers.
At the same time, I don’t want to disappoint my family.
I’ve worked really hard throughout my teenage years to build a strong future for myself. I earned my Eagle Scout, scholarships, interpretership, participated in sports, clubs, extracurriculars, and community activities, and generally tried to take advantage of every opportunity I could.
So it’s frustrating to feel like I’ve done all of this preparation and still have no idea what career actually fits me.
The careers I naturally gravitate toward tend to be humanitarian, international, cultural, or language-related. But I worry that those careers won’t provide the financial stability I need.
And that's where I’m stuck.
Part of me thinks I should just choose something practical, make my family proud, get a degree that leads to a high-paying career, and learn to tolerate whatever comes with it.
Another part of me thinks that if I spend years studying something I don’t actually care about, just because it makes money or makes my family proud, I might regret it.
I know the obvious answer is probably “find something you love that also pays well,” but I’m having trouble figuring out what that actually looks like for someone with my interests and personality. Even I considered the military but as a skinny 5 foot 1 girl my brother said it's not smart.
So, if you were in my position, how would you approach this?
Are there careers that combine languages, international relations, cultural exchange, humanitarian work, or working with people from different countries while still providing a solid income?
Should I prioritize financial security when choosing a major, or is it better to pursue the things I’m genuinely passionate about and figure out the financial side later?
I’d really appreciate advice from people who have been through college/career decisions themselves, especially anyone who works internationally or has built a career around languages.
Hi, im looking for a college in Japan or Korea to study at 4 years for college for either international business or project management.
I'm from the USA and want to do this as it can help especially job wise linguistics wise and to be fair I just naturally would like to I have done my research but want more suggestions. Of collages that offer good scholarships especially.
Hi! I'm 17 and currently trying to figure out what I want to study in college and what kind of career I could see myself doing. I don't expect to have my entire life figured out yet, but I want to start exploring some realistic options.
A little about me
* I really enjoy traveling and I'd like the possibility of living abroad someday, so I'd prefer a career that isn't extremely tied to one specific country.
* I'm pretty good with organization and I actually enjoy planning things.
* I don't mind meetings and I don't mind working with a team. I can also work independently if I'm given something to accomplish.
* I like being able to give guidance or help people figure things out, but I don't necessarily want a job where I'm constantly dealing with people all day.
* I enjoy drawing and I'm somewhat interested in architecture/design, although I'm not sure I'd actually want to pursue it.
* I'm not a fan of math. A little math is fine, but I wouldn't want a career that's heavily based around advanced math.
* I'm not particularly interested in science/medical careers, especially anything involving anatomy/physiology.
* I'm not interested in manual-labor careers like carpentry, construction, etc.
* I'm also not interested in police work or similar careers.
* I'd like a career where I can potentially move up over time and eventually make a comfortable income. I don't need to become insanely rich, but financial independence is important to me.
* I'd prefer a major that gives me **multiple career options** rather than something extremely specific that basically prepares me for one job.
* I've been looking into Business Administration and Project Management, but I'm not completely sold on them and I'm trying to see what else is out there before I settle on anything.
One thing I've realized is that I like the idea of having a goal or task given to me and figuring out how to actually make it happen. Planning, coordinating, organizing, and occasionally working with other people sounds appealing to me.
So, based on all of that, what majors or career fields would you suggest I look into that I may not have considered?
I'd especially appreciate answers from people who are already working in the careers they suggest. I'd love to hear what you studied, what your job is actually like, how you got there, and whether you would recommend it to someone like me.
Yes btw I have done research before this I just want more ideas.💡
Hi! I'm 17 and currently trying to figure out what I want to study in college and what kind of career I could see myself doing. I don't expect to have my entire life figured out yet, but I want to start exploring some realistic options.
A little about me:
* I really enjoy traveling and I'd like the possibility of living abroad someday, so I'd prefer a career that isn't extremely tied to one specific country.
* I'm pretty good with organization and I actually enjoy planning things.
* I don't mind meetings and I don't mind working with a team. I can also work independently if I'm given something to accomplish.
* I like being able to give guidance or help people figure things out, but I don't necessarily want a job where I'm constantly dealing with people all day.
* I enjoy drawing and I'm somewhat interested in architecture/design, although I'm not sure I'd actually want to pursue it.
* I'm not a fan of math. A little math is fine, but I wouldn't want a career that's heavily based around advanced math.
* I'm not particularly interested in science/medical careers, especially anything involving anatomy/physiology.
* I'm not interested in manual-labor careers like carpentry, construction, etc.
* I'm also not interested in police work or similar careers.
* I'd like a career where I can potentially move up over time and eventually make a comfortable income. I don't need to become insanely rich, but financial independence is important to me.
* I'd prefer a major that gives me **multiple career options** rather than something extremely specific that basically prepares me for one job.
* I've been looking into Business Administration and Project Management, but I'm not completely sold on them and I'm trying to see what else is out there before I settle on anything.
One thing I've realized is that I like the idea of having a goal or task given to me and figuring out how to actually make it happen. Planning, coordinating, organizing, and occasionally working with other people sounds appealing to me.
So, based on all of that, what majors or career fields would you suggest I look into that I may not have considered?
I'd especially appreciate answers from people who are already working in the careers they suggest. I'd love to hear what you studied, what your job is actually like, how you got there, and whether you would recommend it to someone like me.
Btw yes, I have done research on jobs and majors, tho I wanna get ideas.
Hey! I’m currently in high school and trying to figure out what I want to major in and eventually do for a career. I’ve been looking into a few different fields, but I’d really like to hear from people who actually work in them instead of just reading job descriptions online.
The careers I’m currently looking at are:
* Project Management
* Management Information Systems (MIS) / Information Systems
* Finance / Financial Management
* Human Resources / HR Management
If you work in one of these areas, I’d really appreciate it if you could answer some of these questions!
About your career:
* What is your current job title?
* What degree/major did you get?
* What was your first job after college?
* How did you get from your first job to your current position?
* How old were you when you started working in this field?
Money & lifestyle:
* What was your starting salary? (If you're comfortable sharing)
* What do you make now, or what salary range are you currently in? (Also optional)
* Do you feel financially comfortable with your career?
* Do you think your career gives you a realistic opportunity to become financially independent or retire early?
What the job is actually like:
* What does a normal workday look like for you?
* How much of your job involves working with other people?
* How much can you work independently?
* What do you actually enjoy about your job?
* What do you dislike about it?
* Is the job stressful or overwhelming?
Looking back:
* How difficult was it to get your first job?
* If you could go back to being 18 and choose again, would you still pick this career?
* Is there anything you wish you had known before choosing your major?
* What would you recommend a high-school student do now if they were considering your career?
I’m not expecting everyone to answer everything. Even just answering a few questions would help me a lot. I’m basically trying to figure out what these careers are REALLY like from people who actually do them.
Thanks!!
Hey! I’m currently in high school and trying to figure out what I want to major in and eventually do for a career. I’ve been looking into a few different fields, but I’d really like to hear from people who actually work in them instead of just reading job descriptions online.
The careers I’m currently looking at are:
* Project Management
* Management Information Systems (MIS) / Information Systems
* Finance / Financial Management
* Human Resources / HR Management
If you work in one of these areas, I’d really appreciate it if you could answer some of these questions!
About your career:
* What is your current job title?
* What degree/major did you get?
* What was your first job after college?
* How did you get from your first job to your current position?
* How old were you when you started working in this field?
Money & lifestyle:
* What was your starting salary? (If you're comfortable sharing)
* What do you make now, or what salary range are you currently in? (Also optional)
* Do you feel financially comfortable with your career?
* Do you think your career gives you a realistic opportunity to become financially independent or retire early?
What the job is actually like:
* What does a normal workday look like for you?
* How much of your job involves working with other people?
* How much can you work independently?
* What do you actually enjoy about your job?
* What do you dislike about it?
* Is the job stressful or overwhelming?
Looking back:
* How difficult was it to get your first job?
* If you could go back to being 18 and choose again, would you still pick this career?
* Is there anything you wish you had known before choosing your major?
* What would you recommend a high-school student do now if they were considering your career?
I’m not expecting everyone to answer everything. Even just answering a few questions would help me a lot. I’m basically trying to figure out what these careers are REALLY like from people who actually do them.
Thanks!!
I'm 17, and does God take away blessings when we sin.
For instance, if someone has sinned, but then do you think a good thing such as idk something good or an opportunity would god take that way from you.
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I’m a 17-year-old exchange student in Japan, and tonight I think I accidentally overshared with my host family.
During dinner/cake, I told them that I had to work for some of the money to make this trip possible. I mentioned doing things like raking and shoveling snow, and that I received a scholarship. I also mentioned that my father doesn’t live with me and that my family isn’t wealthy and i didn't wanna make my mom and family have to pay.
Now I feel really embarrassed and exposed. I originally wanted to keep those things private, and afterward I started worrying that they’ll see me as poor, feel sorry for me, or think differently about me.
I’ve also cried a few times during my exchange—once when I was having a difficult time socially and was told to do a small introduction infront of people but i got to scared and cried then at another place in the car since i was sad at the thought of leaving also a diffeent day bc i was shy about school, and tonight I cried during the cake because I felt really grateful. I’m worried that my host family is going to start thinking I’m overly emotional or a crybaby.
I know I can’t take back what I said, but I’d really like some honest outside perspective. Did I actually overshare badly, or am I overthinking how much other people care about this?
What would you think if an exchange student told you these things?
Hey I'm an exchange student in Japan I have already got my mom a few things like chopsticks and bamboo roller a photo album with photos of me in Japan and a small plush key chain bit I don't know what else I was thinking of buying her a bunch of snacks and foods but is that enough. Like she likes really nothing tho she uses almost nothing like makeup kitchen stuff she doesn't really have a favorite TV show so I'm completely lost what to get her and I feal bad since I'm her daughter I feal I should come back with a ton of things for her but idk.
Hey so I'm studying abroad right now and im 17 f and my host parents they are nice a good family anyway a few days ago the younger sister asked me to let her sleep in my room I said sure then she just keep doing it finnaly I asked my host parents can I sleep alone as I prefer prefer it( being in a forgan country I find sleeping is my only real quite time and time to turn off from the day but when her daughter 10 years sleep in there she listens to her phone in the morning moves around trys to play rct also idk I just really don't like sleeping with someone if worked for like one night before the daughter was back and since then has been and I talked to the parents again and I apologized to the host mom and said if needed I can but would it be possible she said in Japan there is a cutter of sleeping together but she will try to allow me to sleep alone. But she also asked if, like some nights or special nights can I sleep with there daughter I said ya special nights to be polite but I genuinely don't like sleeping with someone idk maybe I'm just not used to it but I find it uncomfortable because I can never fully turn off and be myself I don't wanna be difficult to them especially in their own home I always try to be flexible but this is the first real thing I had to sort of push a bit I hope the parents don't see me as trouble bc of it.
Hey so I'm 17 f and I have been in Japan a few weeks and today we had a biking trip so my host mom and little sister we go to the meeting spot here I see all the other kids and families here and I know like only one person the rest are all new and idk what happend but I was completely afraid and shy my mom said sorry we were late bc we there half way and so all the students had to stand in the front and introduced themselves in Japanese when it was my turn I was completely shy and I stood up went to the front and froze my host mom tryed to help me from the side lines but all came out were brief studders before I teared up and went to my host mom.
I'm thankfull she helped me and acknowledged I was scared but I feal like such a cry baby I don't know sometimes I just get so sensitive anyway later on I tryed to talk to others ect my host mom said I should try talking to a friend and I did a some.
Anyway as an outsider view what do you think about this do you think my host mom now sees me as a crybaby what about the others.
I know some Japanese but based on my tears most people there thought I known little to none and used English with me I feal embarrassing a little but not really I mostly just am thinking about my host family what may they think of the shy teenager why froze up and cried and can barely talk to people mind you this is not the first time there was also a time like 2 weeks ago or so I was scared at school since it was sports day and I wasn't sure what to do and I was embarrassed that I called my host mom then before that I cryed and told my host mom about how school was difficult ect ughh but on the flip side it's not all bad I have made friends and go to school everyday gotten better on the bike and made friends I have shown pictures of to my host family and even have a trip coming up with 2 of them. But still idk Asian culture and if it was seen as rude for me to do that tho I didn't want to it just sort of happend.
Okay im 17 year old f and staying in Japan randomly my 10 yr old host sister got attached to me and one day asked to sleep with me I said okay thinking it was just one night nope another and I asked her and she was like just for the summer? I'm here for the summer and like I dont wanna eanna be dramatic but I don't know if I can do it all day im active then at night I like to unwind and just be alone now suddenly she is right there watching my phone talking to me being super close and I'm not sure what to do i genuanly don't wanna sleep with her evey day.
And it's a host family so I don't wanna say no but not to be dramatic but I genually don't think I can continue with no privacy during my day im I'm so active during the say my social battery like a phone needs to re charge.
Btw littirally idk when she became so attached like I'm a boring 17 tr old that barely talked to her bc the age gap then randomly she is now right next to me littirally I just came into the house and she lied directly next to me watching my phone and me text bro
Update told the parents they talked to her. I felt a bit bad tho low key bc bro she is just 10 and trying to be nice and I understand in her mind we are like best friends and she may not see many forganers like me but also like I feal so bad low key I was looking in her sketchbook and saw a drawing of a girl with curly hair like mine Idk if that was me or not but it made me feal guilty lol
Hey I'm 17 f currently staying in Japan and a lot of people want me to bring back soveners but like I understand some people wanting something or bringing back something for someone like my mom or someone but bruhhh littirally some people like one of my friends for instance littirally wants be to buy and bring her back a bunch of stuff and like bruh ugh also like I wanna be nice and caring and bring back for say my youth pastors and teachers things but also being real first I'm not really Made of money also what do I even bring them? Littirally I noticed how much during my trip each time I go into a store I naturally look for something to gift someone but I sort of Wanna just buy all the gifts now and get it over with since it's starting to feal more like a task then anything.
Ignore my spelling . I'm about to go to school. This is reddit
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Hi everyone.
I'm an exchange student from the U.S., and I've been in Japan for about a week. I absolutely love Japan, and I'm so grateful to be here. My host family has been kind, and there have been many wonderful moments.
At the same time, I'm having a much harder time emotionally than I expected.
School has been the biggest challenge. During class, everyone already has their own friends, so when there's free time or people are talking, I usually end up sitting or walking alone. Some classmates have been very kind—a girl even gave me chocolate and helped translate something for me, and a few students say hello or goodbye but I still feel very isolated most of the day.
One thing that really upset me happened when a teacher came into class, asked if I knew Chinese, and after I said no, he started speaking very quickly in Japanese about it. The class laughed, and I couldn't tell if they were laughing at the situation or if I was misunderstanding everything. It left me feeling embarrassed and confused.
Sometimes I also feel like a few teachers don't really know what to do with me. In one class I just sat quietly in the corner most of the period without much interaction. I know they're busy, but it made me feel invisible.
The loneliness built up so much that I cried in the school bathroom on my first day, and today I ended up crying again when my host mom asked how school was. Thankfully, my host family was incredibly supportive and comforted me, which I'm very grateful for.
I guess what I'm wondering is:
\* Is this kind of loneliness normal during the first week of an exchange?
\* Did anyone else spend the first week mostly alone?
\* How long did it take before you started feeling like you belonged?
\* Is there anything that helped you make genuine friends?
I don't regret coming to Japan at all. I really do love being here. I just feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and honestly scared about going back to school tomorrow because I don't want to keep feeling so alone.
I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who's been through something similar.
I'm a 17-year-old exchange student from the U.S. staying with a host family in Japan, and I've noticed something that I'm curious about.
My host mom is really kind. She smiles, talks with me, helps me, and has been very patient while I adjust. But I've noticed that while she's talking to me she's very expressive and smiling, and then as soon as the conversation ends and she turns away, her face immediately becomes completely neutral.
I'm not trying to criticize her at all—I'm just wondering if this is something other people have noticed in Japan, or if it's just her personality. In the U.S. it feels a little abrupt to me, so my anxious brain keeps wondering if I've done something wrong.
Has anyone else who lived with a Japanese host family or in Japan noticed this? Is it a common social habit, or am I just overthinking it?
PLEASE READ I simply came here to ask so I know if it's a cultural norm maybe or something I as an American was blind to and didn't know about not sure why people think I'm stereotyping them?? I'm a confused 17 year old in a forgan country if I knew the answer I would have not come here if she was black white anything and did that I would ask the same question??
Hi im a 17 yr old extange student studying in Japan today was my first day and as a person with brown skin and curly hair and clearly a forganer it was so embarrassing. Everyone there was Japanese except one British teacher and I understand sure people will look you are different but bro and one point it was so embarrassing about the seclusion the laughing the pointing that during lunch I hid in the bathroom and cried hopefully no on noticed my eyes from after I cried but it was just so embarrassing tho as the day went on more girls started trying to talk with me and show me around and seeing the British man helped so much It pulled me back to reality that I'm not the only one who stands our and ya school was fun but also I felt like such an alien and well I wondered did Japanese students really like me did they really even want me in there school?
Don't correct me idc if my post anything is spelt wrong I just want advice or something on the actual situation not post
Guys I leave for Japan tmr and buying gifts for my host family has been so hard so far I have a liek 7 packs of amarican candy a note and like 2 pa booklets and I have matching tissue paper for the bag bruh 🙃 and for my little host sister I have a note and anaime braclet and anime stickers idk bruh where I am there is littiraly 0 actuall my state themed items am I cooked anyone have any ideas of what do do if anything more btw I'm an exchange student so I don't know them yet
Hey so I'm 17 yr old F growing up when I was younger I always thought I was on the taller side or more mature but as I got older I realized i haven't grew like at all since 12 littirally same hight and weight no changes infact for some reason I look younger then 8th grade me.
I'm short not very big and and I was at the doctors not to long ago they showed me my updates from growing up and after 2020 I just stayed the same some how and I'm not really sure how I mean it's not that I wanna be super old or anything but even my voice too sounds like I'm 12 sometimes when I'm playing online games people automatically think of me as younger or freands ect say I look around 12 and idk how to feal about it I mean I'm glad I can still fit my clothes from when I was much younger but idk. Also, sometimes friends comment on my appearance or jokes about it. Sometimes it's a bit funny but sometimes makes me think about it.
Summery, is it weird not to grow much and still look 11 or 12 at 17.