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Bonsoir tout le monde, j’espère que vous allez bien je suis une femme de 29 ans et j’ai été diagnostiquée à l’âge de 27 ans et demi , on dit souvent que les autistes ont un intérêt spécifique Tandis que moi, je n’ai jamais eu un intérêt spécifique depuis mon enfance, bien au contraire, depuis l’enfance, j’ai ressenti un vide intérieur, immense que je n’ai pas les mots pour le décrire , j’ai toujours laissé la vague m’emporter et copier les autres sur ce qu’ils font Y a-t-il parmi vous des gens qui n’ont pas d’intérêt spécifique

Hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well.

I’ve been wondering why my autism feels so different from what I see in other autistic people. It feels much more severe and complicated, and I’m curious if anyone else can relate.

I’m a 29F I was diagnosed at 27 and half and the diagnosis only happened because my life completely fell apart.

Without fully understanding what I was doing or the long term consequences, I underwent cosmetic surgery. When I saw what I had done to my body, I had a complete mental breakdown. Looking back, though, the surgery wasn’t the actual problem it was just the breaking point.

Before that, I had already made countless major decisions without really understanding what I was doing. I’ve bought furniture using completely wrong measurements, been scammed multiple times, repeated several years at university, almost traveled with a complete stranger, and even went on trips without really knowing why. The list goes on.

Another thing is that I spent most of my life living in my own imaginary world. Sometimes I even tell people things that aren’t true not because I’m trying to manipulate anyone, but because I genuinely blur the line between reality and the world I’ve built in my head. I become so immersed in my imagination that the boundaries get confusing.

I also started my very first real job three months ago. Before that, in nearly 28 years of life, I’d only had two internships/apprenticeships: one lasted two months, and the other just one month.

I’ve always been isolated. I try to behave like everyone else and fit in, but somehow I always end up getting things wrong. Looking back, I feel like I spent my entire life disconnected from reality. I got into relationships without really understanding why, made huge life decisions without thinking them through, and just drifted through life.

Now that I’ve been working for three months, it’s become painfully obvious that, at 29 years old, I still don’t know how to interact with people appropriately. I often don’t know how I’m supposed to behave in social situations.

The hardest part is that I don’t even know who I am. I feel like I have a serious identity problem.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is this something that can happen with autism, or could it be related to something else as well? I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences.

Est ce que khedemtou liyoum ? Kayn khedma liyoum ou non

Hi everyone,

I’d like to hear from people who left Islam. How did it happen for you?

I’m really scared about what is happening to my faith.

For some context, I’m currently Muslim and I’ve always practiced my religion, but in a balanced way, not in an extreme or fanatical way. For example, I don’t wear the hijab.

About three years ago, I decided to get closer to God because I was going through a severe depression. As Muslims, we’re often told that when we’re struggling, we should turn to God, pray, and strengthen our faith. I genuinely believed that. I prayed constantly and begged God to help me.

But over time, I felt abandoned. Like I saw how god abandoned me,I went through things that made me feel like God wasn’t there for me, despite all my prayers and faith. Since then, I’ve found it harder and harder to believe.

It’s been exactly a year since I last prayed. I feel completely lost. I can’t bring myself to believe or pray anymore. Part of me keeps thinking that maybe none of it is true.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you deal with it?

Hello everyone, I’m 29F and I got diagnosed with autism by the age 27 and half after a huge breakdown and by quiet BPD by the age 28

Late diagnosed people will understand the severity of not being diagnosed and the impact it can have one person chronic masking , dissociation, identity issues, disconnection from oneself, retreating into an imaginary world, and so much more…

I suffered my whole life and because of autism I couldn’t understand my emotion ,what I feel , what should I do? What should I say?… I remember by the age 24 and 25 it was unbearable so I went to the psychologist but it didn’t leads to anything because I couldn’t tell her what I feel so I started to say nonsense things and escape the real problem

people around me saw the sadness in me so they told me that I have to refer myself to God and he will help me and because I have literal thinking I said OK and I refer myself to God I was praying every day talking to him every day, hoping that he will help me and I was sure that he is listening to me

And by the age 27 for the first time in my life, I went to the psychiatrist and I told her I don’t know how to express myself so ask me question and I will respond Sincerely, the psychiatrist asked me basic question and she told me that I have ahnedonia and I have to take antidepressants

My mum is a doctor and I told her about the antidepressants she was angry about it. She was like you’re 27. You don’t have a job and instead of going to the psychiatrist you must be looking for a job right now and don’t take antidepressants. I have some patients who take it and they are tired all time so you cannot take it because you will not get a job so I didn’t take it .on my second appointment I told to my psychiatrist that I didn’t take it and I will continue therapy and if I’m not feeling good after therapy, I will take it so the therapist by my second appointment she did EMDR therapy for me

Three days after that I completely collapsed and I decided to take antidepressants because it was unbearable. I planned to take it without telling anyone. So I was waiting for my third appointment.

The pain that I was feeling at that time was unbearable and I was thinking about suicide and at that moment a clinic surgery contacted me and without knowing what I’m doing without knowing what is this surgery I went and I did a consultation the clinic so my vulnerable states and they took advantage from it and I ended by doing surgery

After that I completely collapsed my mom took me emergency to the psychiatrist and I got hospitalized for one month after that psychiatrist saw that I have autistic traits and he referred me to a psychiatrist to specialized in autism and they got my diagnosis And I spent a whole year in therapy understanding how I function and stuff …

Now I’m 29 and It has been exactly a year and a half since I had the surgery. I hate the results. I hate what I did to myself, but I understood my function. I have a job right now. And I am aware about my life

But the thing is, I’ve lost my faith. I no longer hope for anything. I feel like God didn’t protect me when I needed it most.

The clinic contacted me on November 8th, right before I was supposed to take my car to the body shop on November 10th, which would have left me unable to travel. If they had contacted me earlier or later, I wouldn’t have gone.

But they reached me at a very vulnerable moment, and I still wonder why I wasn’t protected from that.

Hello everyone, I’m 29F and I got diagnosed with autism by the age 27 and half after a huge breakdown and by quiet BPD by the age 28

Late diagnosed people will understand the severity of not being diagnosed and the impact it can have one person chronic masking , dissociation, identity issues, disconnection from oneself, retreating into an imaginary world, and so much more…

I suffered my whole life and because of autism I couldn’t understand my emotion ,what I feel , what should I do? What should I say?… I remember by the age 24 and 25 it was unbearable so I went to the psychologist but it didn’t leads to anything because I couldn’t tell her what I feel so I started to say nonsense things and escape the real problem

people around me saw the sadness in me so they told me that I have to refer myself to God and he will help me and because I have literal thinking I said OK and I refer myself to God I was praying every day talking to him every day, hoping that he will help me and I was sure that he is listening to me

And by the age 27 for the first time in my life, I went to the psychiatrist and I told her I don’t know how to express myself so ask me question and I will respond Sincerely, the psychiatrist asked me basic question and she told me that I have ahnedonia and I have to take antidepressants

My mum is a doctor and I told her about the antidepressants she was angry about it. She was like you’re 27. You don’t have a job and instead of going to the psychiatrist you must be looking for a job right now and don’t take antidepressants. I have some patients who take it and they are tired all time so you cannot take it because you will not get a job so I didn’t take it .on my second appointment I told to my psychiatrist that I didn’t take it and I will continue therapy and if I’m not feeling good after therapy, I will take it so the therapist by my second appointment she did EMDR therapy for me

Three days after that I completely collapsed and I decided to take antidepressants because it was unbearable. I planned to take it without telling anyone. So I was waiting for my third appointment.

The pain that I was feeling at that time was unbearable and I was thinking about suicide and at that moment a clinic surgery contacted me and without knowing what I’m doing without knowing what is this surgery I went and I did a consultation the clinic so my vulnerable states and they took advantage from it and I ended by doing surgery

After that I completely collapsed my mom took me emergency to the psychiatrist and I got hospitalized for one month after that psychiatrist saw that I have autistic traits and he referred me to a psychiatrist to specialized in autism and they got my diagnosis And I spent a whole year in therapy understanding how I function and stuff …

Now I’m 29 and It has been exactly a year and a half since I had the surgery. I hate the results. I hate what I did to myself, but I understood my function. I have a job right now. And I am aware about my life

But the thing is, I’ve lost my faith. I no longer hope for anything. I feel like God didn’t protect me when I needed it most.

The clinic contacted me on November 8th, right before I was supposed to take my car to the body shop on November 10th, which would have left me unable to travel. If they had contacted me earlier or later, I wouldn’t have gone.

But they reached me at a very vulnerable moment, and I still wonder why I wasn’t protected from that.

I feel like I don’t believe in anything anymore

Hi everyone,I hope you’re doing well.

I’m a 29F . I was diagnosed with Autism (ASD) at 27 and half by one psychiatrist, and with bpd at 28 by another psychiatrist.

Both diagnoses came after a major breakdown. The breakdown happened after a cosmetic clinic contacted me. I agreed to the procedure without really understanding what it involved, the risks, or why I even wanted it. (At that time I was like I will be happy after the surgery ) Looking back, that experience completely shattered my sense of reality and eventually led me to seek psychiatric help.

I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember, probably since my early teens. I also have alexithymia, which means I have a hard time identifying and understanding my own emotions.

After being diagnosed with BPD, I joined support groups to connect with others who had similar experiences. However, instead of relating to them, I often felt very different from them.

Many people with BPD describe not knowing who they are. I relate to that, but in a different way. They often seem to have their own style, interests, careers, goals, relationships, and personalities. They may struggle with identity, but they still seem connected to themselves in some way.

When I say I don’t know who I am, I mean something much more literal. I’ve spent most of my life copying other people. I don’t know what I genuinely like or dislike. I don’t know what kind of person I am. I don’t have my own style, passions, or way of behaving. I mostly imitate others.

Another difference is idealization. Many people with BPD describe idealizing someone and then later devaluing them. For me, I idealize people because they seem to possess things I feel I lack: a personality, confidence, social skills, a sense of identity, or direction in life. I don’t usually go through the idealization-devaluation cycle.

I also notice differences regarding impulsivity. Many people with BPD say they know something is risky but do it anyway. In my case, I often didn’t even recognize the risk in the first place. I’ve been scammed multiple times, traveled without really knowing why, and underwent surgery without properly understanding the consequences.

Since receiving support and learning that I struggle with judgment and self-awareness, I have become much more cautious and haven’t repeated those kinds of impulsive decisions.

I also don’t relate to how many people describe emotional intensity. I’m extremely calm externally and tend to suppress and control my emotions as much as possible.i m soooo passive toooo

When people with BPD talk about feeling empty inside, I sometimes struggle to relate. My inner emptiness feels more like chronic boredom, emotional disconnection, and constantly waiting for life to finally begin. Since childhood, I’ve always thought, “Things will be better when I get to middle school… high school… university…” and so on.

I also experience a lot of maladaptive daydreaming. However, unlike many people who daydream about people they know, I usually create elaborate imaginary scenarios involving people who don’t exist or whom I’ve never met. Like actors….

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Sometimes I wonder whether these differences are related to autism, alexithymia, something else entirely, or whether others with BPD can relate to this as well.

Seriously Guys can u tell me the difference between someone niya and someone bahloul give me some examples to understand

Bonjour tout le monde J’ai une question selon vous, est-ce que l’environnement familial influence fortement notre personnalité et notre façon de voir la vie ?

Quand on grandit dans une famille où les relations ne sont pas simples (parents, frères et sœurs) dans le sens où ces relations sont bancales où y a pas de bienveillance ni d’amour …. , est ce que ça nous marque durablement ? Et est ce que ça continue même à l’âge adulte, ou bien on peut vraiment changer une fois qu’on quitte le foyer familial ? Je me demande aussi pourquoi des frères et sœurs peuvent avoir des personnalités très différentes malgré le même environnement.

Je serais curieux d’avoir vos avis et expériences.

Hi everyone I’m a 29F, and I haven’t exercised in a very long time. I want to lose around 20 kilos.

When it comes to food, I already have a general idea of what I should do, but I’m completely lost when it comes to exercise. I don’t know where to start or what kind of workouts I should be doing as a beginner. If you have any advice on how to start slowly and lose weight in a healthy way or YouTube channel or whatever … I’d really appreciate it. Thank you so much 🙏

Hello everyone I’m 29 F and I’ve been wondering what makes some people intelligent while others seem less so? I don’t really see myself as intelligent, or at least not as someone who understands things quickly or learns fast. I’d like to develop my ability to think, understand faster, learn more efficiently, and improve my mental abilities overall. Is intelligence mostly innate, or can it truly be developed? If so, how have you improved yours?

Hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well.

I’m a 29F , and I was diagnosed with Autism at 27 and a half years old. I also have other difficulties like ADHD, internalized borderline traits, underlying anxiety, and similar issues ….

The thing is, I’ve always lived inside my own imagination and inner world. I never really understood social cues or how to position myself socially, whether at school, in professional settings, or in personal relationships. Honestly, from childhood until the age of 27, I was completely lost socially and behaviorally.

When I say I did reckless things, I really mean it. For example, at 27 and a half, I was contacted by a cosmetic surgery clinic. I didn’t do proper research, didn’t think things through, and just said yes immediately. I struggle deeply with understanding boundaries, positioning, and decision-making in relationships and life situations in general.

After the surgery, I completely collapsed mentally because I realized I hadn’t fully understood what I was doing or why I was doing it. I ended up hospitalized for several months, and that’s when I finally received my diagnosis.

From 27 and a half to around 28 and a half, I dedicated myself almost entirely to therapy. I spent about a year working on myself, understanding my condition, and trying to heal.

By the time I turned 28 and a half, I was feeling relatively stable. Then in March 2026, I started applying for jobs, and in April 2026, I started working.

During therapy, my psychologist constantly encouraged me to “remove the mask” and stop masking my autism. Since I genuinely struggle to know what I’m supposed to do socially, I followed that advice exactly.

And honestly… I deeply regret removing the mask in a professional environment.

I now feel completely disorganized and socially exposed. At work, everyone quickly realized that I was “different.” People make jokes about me because I’m too naive, and I constantly hear comments like “you’re weird.”

So my advice to other autistic people is this: be careful about unmasking in professional environments. With close friends or trusted people, maybe yes. But work environments can be extremely harsh and unforgiving.

And the worst part is that even after removing the mask, social interactions are still extremely exhausting for me.

Hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well.

I’m a 29F , and I was diagnosed with Autism at 27 and a half years old. I also have other difficulties like ADHD, internalized borderline traits, underlying anxiety, and similar issues ….

The thing is, I’ve always lived inside my own imagination and inner world. I never really understood social cues or how to position myself socially, whether at school, in professional settings, or in personal relationships. Honestly, from childhood until the age of 27, I was completely lost socially and behaviorally.

When I say I did reckless things, I really mean it. For example, at 27 and a half, I was contacted by a cosmetic surgery clinic. I didn’t do proper research, didn’t think things through, and just said yes immediately. I struggle deeply with understanding boundaries, positioning, and decision-making in relationships and life situations in general.

After the surgery, I completely collapsed mentally because I realized I hadn’t fully understood what I was doing or why I was doing it. I ended up hospitalized for several months, and that’s when I finally received my diagnosis.

From 27 and a half to around 28 and a half, I dedicated myself almost entirely to therapy. I spent about a year working on myself, understanding my condition, and trying to heal.

By the time I turned 28 and a half, I was feeling relatively stable. Then in March 2026, I started applying for jobs, and in April 2026, I started working.

During therapy, my psychologist constantly encouraged me to “remove the mask” and stop masking my autism. Since I genuinely struggle to know what I’m supposed to do socially, I followed that advice exactly.

And honestly… I deeply regret removing the mask in a professional environment.

I now feel completely disorganized and socially exposed. At work, everyone quickly realized that I was “different.” People make jokes about me because I’m too naive, and I constantly hear comments like “you’re weird.”

So my advice to other autistic people is this: be careful about unmasking in professional environments. With close friends or trusted people, maybe yes. But work environments can be extremely harsh and unforgiving.

And the worst part is that even after removing the mask, social interactions are still extremely exhausting for me.

Hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well.

I’m a (29 F)and for most of my life I’ve had behaviors that people considered “strange” or socially inappropriate. I’ve always been very socially naive, struggled to understand social cues , and often acted impulsively without really understanding why(I do not understand the risks) . I also have difficulties with mentalization/self-awareness and recognizing what I’m feeling or thinking.

My parents were mostly absent because they worked a lot, so these issues were never really noticed when I was younger. As I grew older, things became more chaotic. I repeated years at university multiple times, got into relationships without understanding why, made impulsive decisions constantly, spent money recklessly, bought clothes in sizes that didn’t even fit me, and generally behaved in ways that made no sense even to myself. and also, I was living only in scenarios that I made.

Around the age of 24–25, I started seeing psychologists, but it never really led anywhere because I have alexithymia and struggled to explain what I was experiencing. Then at 27, I saw a psychiatrist who told me I just had mild depression and prescribed medication. People around me discouraged me from taking it, so I never did.

At 27 and a half, a cosmetic surgery clinic contacted me. Because of my lack of self-awareness and impulsive behavior, I agreed to the surgery without really understanding why I wanted it or whether I even needed it. After the surgery, I completely collapsed mentally and ended up hospitalized. That’s when I was finally diagnosed with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and ADHD.

After that, I spent about a year in therapy. Recently, at 29 years old, I started my first real job. Over the past year, I’ve also spent a lot of time researching psychology, the brain, and human behavior. I realized that for a very long time I was living in a state of dissociation doing things without fully understanding why or even feeling connected to my own actions.

What shocks me is that no psychiatrist or therapist ever pointed this out to me. I had to discover it by myself after years of struggling and after a complete mental breakdown.

So I wanted to ask: am I the only one who experienced this, or in your country too is it extremely difficult to find competent psychiatrists and therapists, especially for adults with autism/ADHD who were diagnosed late?

Hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well.

I’m a (29 F)and for most of my life I’ve had behaviors that people considered “strange” or socially inappropriate. I’ve always been very socially naive, struggled to understand social cues , and often acted impulsively without really understanding why(I do not understand the risks) . I also have difficulties with mentalization/self-awareness and recognizing what I’m feeling or thinking.

My parents were mostly absent because they worked a lot, so these issues were never really noticed when I was younger. As I grew older, things became more chaotic. I repeated years at university multiple times, got into relationships without understanding why, made impulsive decisions constantly, spent money recklessly, bought clothes in sizes that didn’t even fit me, and generally behaved in ways that made no sense even to myself. and also, I was living only in scenarios that I made.

Around the age of 24–25, I started seeing psychologists, but it never really led anywhere because I have alexithymia and struggled to explain what I was experiencing. Then at 27, I saw a psychiatrist who told me I just had mild depression and prescribed medication. People around me discouraged me from taking it, so I never did.

At 27 and a half, a cosmetic surgery clinic contacted me. Because of my lack of self-awareness and impulsive behavior, I agreed to the surgery without really understanding why I wanted it or whether I even needed it. After the surgery, I completely collapsed mentally and ended up hospitalized. That’s when I was finally diagnosed with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and ADHD.

After that, I spent about a year in therapy. Recently, at 29 years old, I started my first real job. Over the past year, I’ve also spent a lot of time researching psychology, the brain, and human behavior. I realized that for a very long time I was living in a state of dissociation doing things without fully understanding why or even feeling connected to my own actions.

What shocks me is that no psychiatrist or therapist ever pointed this out to me. I had to discover it by myself after years of struggling and after a complete mental breakdown.

So I wanted to ask: am I the only one who experienced this, or in your country too is it extremely difficult to find competent psychiatrists and therapists, especially for adults with autism/ADHD who were diagnosed late?