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This is random and idk if this is the right place to say this, but WHY have problems with the LGBTQ community? Like, it's such a happy, loving, beautiful, accepting community (of course there are exceptions but that goes with any community) but I feel like living in a society where we as humans are free to love whoever without a social stigma, or identify and call ourselves whatever we want, is that not cool? Like wouldn't it be cool if in our society it wasn't a THING to come out, we just LOVED whoever we wanted? And wouldn't it be cool if we just expressed ours and identified freely without the restraints of gender norms?

That's what he queer community DOES that's what we're fighting for! Is that not beautiful? Does that not sound awesome sauce? Humans are such beautiful, wonderful, cool, creatures, what the queer community is fighting for is just more freedom and happiness for all. Freedom for humans just to be humans. I would argue it is more natural for us to be like THAT than just: Man fuck woman, only boy and girl, and boy do this, girl do that.

The queer community is beautiful. That's all.

This is random and idk if this is the right place to say this, but WHY have problems with the LGBTQ community? Like, it's such a happy, loving, beautiful, accepting community (of course there are exceptions but that goes with any community) but I feel like living in a society where we as humans are free to love whoever without a social stigma, or identify and call ourselves whatever we want, is that not cool? Like wouldn't it be cool if in our society it wasn't a THING to come out, we just LOVED whoever we wanted? And wouldn't it be cool if we just expressed ours and identified freely without the restraints of gender norms?

That's what he queer community DOES that's what we're fighting for! Is that not beautiful? Does that not sound awesome sauce? Humans are such beautiful, wonderful, cool, creatures, what the queer community is fighting for is just more freedom and happiness for all. Freedom for humans just to be humans. I would argue it is more natural for us to be like THAT than just: Man fuck woman, only boy and girl, and boy do this, girl do that.

The queer community is beautiful. That's all.

This is random and idk if this is the right place to say this, but WHY have problems with the LGBTQ community? Like, it's such a happy, loving, beautiful, accepting community (of course there are exceptions but that goes with any community) but I feel like living in a society where we as humans are free to love whoever without a social stigma, or identify and call ourselves whatever we want, is that not cool? Like wouldn't it be cool if in our society it wasn't a THING to come out, we just LOVED whoever we wanted? And wouldn't it be cool if we just expressed ours and identified freely without the restraints of gender norms?

That's what he queer community DOES that's what we're fighting for! Is that not beautiful? Does that not sound awesome sauce? Humans are such beautiful, wonderful, cool, creatures, what the queer community is fighting for is just more freedom and happiness for all. Freedom for humans just to be humans. I would argue it is more natural for us to be like THAT than just: Man fuck woman, only boy and girl, and boy do this, girl do that.

The queer community is beautiful. That's all.

I'm writing this in hopes that I can finally get up and do what I have to do today. I've gotten a few things done but I keep coming back to my bed. I'm incredibly sad and unmotivated despite having a list of things I need to get done today.

I'm sad because I'm lonely. Thai has been an issue for me for the first time in years, and I don't know how to handle it. I'm 18 and just graduated high school, and about 3 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. Right after we broke up, I ended up in the hospital (you can look at my profile to find out why lol) so I was focused on that, and then prom, graduation, my birthday, ect. For the past month or so I've been able to focus on the fact that I'm alone for the first time in over two years, and it sucks.

I miss having someone to love, and having someone love me. I miss being able to share parts of myself and my life with someone. I miss hugging and kissing someone. I miss being held. I miss loving and being in love. It feels like there's a hole in me where he used to be and I don't know how to fill it.

For context, I left HIM, because he had a lot of issues we had spent a lot of our relationship working on, and at some point I just couldn't handle it anymore. He had depression, and had attempted at one point, and we just weren't the same after that. It inevitably crashed down. I tried to do everything I could to help, to keep us afloat, but I had to leave for my own well-being. He was a good boyfriend though, I know for a fact he really loved me.

I got a job, and I'm saving up for a car and I'm going to finish my college registration this week. But there's just this part of me that aches for someone. I've tried to fill it with masturbation and porn. I've messaged several men online and sent pictures of myself, just to have that feeling of validation, and admiration. But it only does so much, it's not what I want. (No I'm not open to messages anymore, don't message me)

I feel so pathetic because this isn't something I've struggled with for so long, I'm a social person, I have people. I'm better than laying in my bed moping about it. I must be starting my period soon or something, because this has to pass soon

.this isn't that big of a deal. But I've felt this weight on me for the last 48 hours and it's not easing up. I have shit to do, it's really inconsistent. I was hoping writing this out would help.

I have a few friends I talk to every now and then, but it's not the closeness and connection I crave. To be honest I don't even remember how me and my ex got so close in the first place. We just clicked, we fell in love so quickly, I didn't even want a relationship but he just fell into my lap and I loved him so much.

I'm hoping once this passes, maybe it'll happen again. Maybe once I go back to school and my life becomes more independent I'll meet someone. Being alone isn't the worst thing for me right now, I think some time to work on myself would be good.

But God I have this love and this ache in my heart and I want someone. What if no one loves me like he did? What if no one can tolerate me?

I'm also an age regressor so that adds another layer of difficulty on this. He accepted that part of me, he loved it, he was my daddy when I needed it. And now I don't have that. I crave being held, and protected, I don't have that anymore now. I paid for a subscription on Patreon for this very sweet guy who makes audios for littles, but again, it's not the same.

I feel absolutely pathetic. I sent pictures to those guys because they call me sweetie or good girl and my heart will race for the next five minutes. This is so dumb. I have a life, I have things I need to do, things I want to do, this isn't that much of an issue. But it's weighing on me like 1000 pounds so I just hope it's hormones and I hope it passes.

Thank you for reading, have a good day :)

Hi! I need to buy some new jeans and I know old navy has some good plus size options. I really only like very baggy wide leg ones and they have some good options but I wanted to know if anyone has bought some like that there, what kind they were and what your reviews are :)

Hi! I need to buy some new jeans and I know old navy has some good plus size options. I really only like very baggy wide leg ones and they have some good options but I wanted to know if anyone has bought some like that there, what kind they were and what your reviews are :)

Hello! I'm nonbinary (AFAB) and I'm open to making some new friends of all ages :) I'm very talkative and I'm kind of going through a rough time, so if you don't mind I'd like to talk about it, but if you're also struggling I'd love to listen! I love meeting new people of all walks of life, so if you love talking my DMs are open :D

I've always hated reading, but now that I've just graduated high school I actually have the urge to read and further educate myself. This may be a shot in the dark but if you would like to read my likes and dislikes, and know of anything I may like, I would love to hear!

Since I've disliked reading for so long, I'm not too sure what my favorite genre is, but from what I HAVE read this is what I know:

• I don't like mysteries

• I don't like sci-fi

• I don't think I'd like horror, but I could give it a try?

• I've read some dystopian books I thought were good.

• I'm not too fond of like, Lord of the rings fantasy but maybe something more like Renaissancey, game of thronesy stuff would be nice though

• I like romance/ dark romance, ESPECIALLY queer romance :)

• I like more action than cozy, although I'm not a big reader, I don't think I know enough to know. You know?

And while I think I would prefer a fiction story, I'm open to non fiction books as well! I'm into topics like:

• Philosophy

•Psychology

•Gender studies

•Anything to do with art? Lol

•Feminism

I also follow an author Gwenna Leithland online and wanted to read her books: The Souls Guide To The After death, and Thinky Thoughts. Let me know if you've read them and what you thought! I think that's were my starting place for reading will be :)

That's all I can think of, let me know if you have any recommendations! :D

I've always hated reading, but now that I've just graduated high school I actually have the urge to read and further educate myself. This may be a shot in the dark but if you would like to read my likes and dislikes, and know of anything I may like, I would love to hear!

Since I've disliked reading for so long, I'm not too sure what my favorite genre is, but from what I HAVE read this is what I know:

• I don't like mysteries

• I don't like sci-fi

• I don't think I'd like horror, but I could give it a try?

• I've read some dystopian books I thought were good.

• I'm not too fond of like, Lord of the rings fantasy but maybe something more like Renaissancey, game of thronesy stuff would be nice though

• I like romance/ dark romance, ESPECIALLY queer romance :)

• I like more action than cozy, although I'm not a big reader, I don't think I know enough to know. You know?

And while I think I would prefer a fiction story, I'm open to non fiction books as well! I'm into topics like:

• Philosophy

•Psychology

•Gender studies

•Anything to do with art? Lol

•Feminism

I also follow an author Gwenna Leithland online and wanted to read her books: The Souls Guide To The After death, and Thinky Thoughts. Let me know if you've read them and what you thought! I think that's were my starting place for reading will be :)

That's all I can think of, let me know if you have any recommendations! :D

Hey y'all! My parents just talked to me and told me they want to offer to buy me a whole new wardrobe for graduation! As happy as I am, I am a bit anxious. I haven't shopped (for specifically, jeans) in person in years, because the last time I did it was pretty miserable. For the past few years I've (sadly) been shopping on shein for all of my jeans. They make really good plus size wide leg jeans that are honestly pretty durable, I've had some for about 2-3 years without any issues.

Things are a bit different now, I'm working out and loosing a bit of weight and have so much more body confidence now. But I'm wondering if y'all have recommendations for a store that sells good plus size wide leg jeans. I hate skinny jeans I typically only ever feel good in wide legs lol and I've only ever really shopped at JCpenny, that was the last store I would frequent at.

If y'all have any more advice for in person plus size shopping too that'd be great! Thank you <3

Ive always been overweight, and recently I was in the hospital and because I was so sick I actually lost some weight. So once I got out, and was able to be happy and healthy after not being able to be active for so long, I figured the lost weight is a great starting point to lose MORE weight. I've had some weight drops before but they were products of unhealthy methods, but this time around I am older and wiser and I've done real research on nutrition and exercise and losing weight actually feels obtainable and like a change I want to make for myself, without harming myself.

My partners are characters, because it feels like every other week they're like, "kids, we hate to break it to you but we're gonna make some real changes around here! No more of this junk food, and we're gonna work out!" Then they go to the store and buy soda and cake and ice cream, they'll buy fast food for us every other day, or when they cook, it's something fatty and oily. I'm just in a difficult position because I know in my head the kinds of foods and lifestyle changes I would have in my life, but I can't because all they do is talk about how healthy they want to be, and then give us all of these foods.

I'm not looking to be like, an almond mom or whatever but simply cutting out the exssive fast food and fried foods I feel would significantly help things lol.

I'm not trying to be snobby, GOD it's so frustrating. So I'm just waiting until I make enough money to be more independent.

Anyways thanks for reading lol I guess I just want validation that this is a difficult position. I try to do what I can, I try to cook for myself when I can, and make it to the gym when I can, but it's hard to be in control when youre not fully in control of your life yet.

I've always had issues with my weight, self image, and food. I've always been pretty overweight, like a size 18-20 womens. I used to have a lot of issues with it, I used to self harm and have suicidal thoughts, as well as lean twords a binge purge cycle. Things used to be rough, but I kind of broke out of it on my own. I have my good days and bad days. About a month ago now, I got very sick where I was temporarily bed-ridden and was absolutely unable to recognize my own body. I can't remember how I was before then, because I was so sick for so long, but I vowed to never take my body for granted again, or hurt it. My confidence in the past couple years has gone up but that definitely sealed the deal. In the last year or so, instead of taking more harmful routes to “lose weight” or "discipline myself” I've done real research on nutrition and exercise. I've learned that you don't have to be miserable and mean to yourself and lose weight. It actually can be fun if you find what works for you. I've enjoyed finding all of the ways I can move my body, and learning and making new recipes of low calorie high vitamin meals. When I was in the hospital, I ended up losing some weight because I was so sick. And now that I'm better and the healthiest I've ever been, I thought this would be a great starting point to keep losing weight. I don't have a goal weight (I've found that it really stresses me out) I'm just attempting to kind of listen to my body. From what doctors told me I'm almost as healthy as a horse, she just wants my cholesterol a little lower, but I don't have any other health issues. But of course, I don't want to develop any so I've been trying to lower my cholesterol as much as possible, and find times and ways to exercise.

Okay here's the reason I'm upset and writing on here right now. I've eaten TERRIBLY today. I basically ate two dinners today. I had WAY more than 2000 calories and absolutely did not exercise enough to balance that out. And the issue is that this isn't a once time occurrence. Every once in a while I have days where I will eat anything and everything I can get my hands on, I feel insatiably hungry, and it makes me really upset when I eat when I know I don't need to. Some days are good health days, and some are not. Today was AWFUL, I don't want to take the time to explain why but I basically ate two meals for dinner, and I had breakfast and lunch today. I lost count of my calories but I know it had to have been like 3000. I was only able to take a 40 minute walk today. Not only do I have bad days sometimes, but it's really hard to lead the life I want to currently. I am 17 (18 in two weeks, as well as graduate) and I know what kind of schedule I want to exercise and eat on, I know what kind of meals I want to make, based on what I like and what nutrients I need. But I still live and follow my family's routine mostly, and it's not very health conscious at all. And that's totally fine, my parents are the ones who make the decisions they can do whatever they hell they want, no judgement. It's just difficult when we go out to eat and take out food (when we really don't have the money lol) and it's hard to pick something that's a somewhat healthy option. And what is THE MOST FRUSTRATING is they always talk about how healthy they're gonna be, and how we're gonna do weight watchers as a family. They've been saying this for months and yet I feel like I am the only one who's trying to be the most logical with my health choices! My father will literally shame me for eating, when he's the one who bought the meal. I feel like he has this idea that to be healthy you have to just eat salads and workout at the gym till you're numb, but it doesn't have to be like that. We would literally lose weight if we stopped eating out so much.

I really don't want to come across like I'm better than them or anything, I'm absolutely not, it just is difficult to make my own decisions when I still have to eat and do what they do, I don't really have my own life yet, and it sucks all the more because they (mostly my father) are hypocritical. Hopefully with me about to graduate, and work more often, my schedule will change and I can find more time to work out, and actually cook for myself .

I'm a firm believer that you can't hate yourself for loving yourself. I don't think hating your body will get you any progress, but with everything that I ate and did today, and how things feel like they're going, I'm terrified of gaining my weight back, and then some. I've been struggling a lot today with the intrusive thoughts of hurting myself, thinking of everything I deserve because I absolutely did not need it. I feel like ripping my insides out because I want to take back everything I put in my mouth, I really just want to throw everything up.

I know things are gonna be okay, it's just hard to not feel this way. I think I just need some validation because what's done is done, and tomorrow can be better but now I'm concerned that I'm just going to make it through this night without hurting myself. Which is weird because that hasn't been an issue in a long time. I just wish this was easier.

Thank you for reading all of this if you did. Have a happy and a healthy :)

I don't really think this is the right subreddit for this, my sh thoughts aren't too bad right now, I think I'll be okay, but reddit won't let me post this anywhere else since I mentioned it lol, this is more a rant about my issues with food and my own health journey

I've always had issues with my weight, self image, and food. I've always been pretty overweight, like a size 18-20 womens. I used to have a lot of issues with it, I used to self harm and have suicidal thoughts, as well as lean twords a binge purge cycle. Things used to be rough, but I kind of broke out of it on my own. I have my good days and bad days. About a month ago now, I got very sick where I was temporarily bed-ridden and was absolutely unable to recognize my own body. I can't remember how I was before then, because I was so sick for so long, but I vowed to never take my body for granted again, or hurt it. My confidence in the past couple years has gone up but that definitely sealed the deal. In the last year or so, instead of taking more harmful routes to “lose weight” or "discipline myself” I've done real research on nutrition and exercise. I've learned that you don't have to be miserable and mean to yourself and lose weight. It actually can be fun if you find what works for you. I've enjoyed finding all of the ways I can move my body, and learning and making new recipes of low calorie high vitamin meals. When I was in the hospital, I ended up losing some weight because I was so sick. And now that I'm better and the healthiest I've ever been, I thought this would be a great starting point to keep losing weight. I don't have a goal weight (I've found that it really stresses me out) I'm just attempting to kind of listen to my body. From what doctors told me I'm almost as healthy as a horse, she just wants my cholesterol a little lower, but I don't have any other health issues. But of course, I don't want to develop any so I've been trying to lower my cholesterol as much as possible, and find times and ways to exercise.

Okay here's the reason I'm upset and writing on here right now. I've eaten TERRIBLY today. I basically ate two dinners today. I had WAY more than 2000 calories and absolutely did not exercise enough to balance that out. And the issue is that this isn't a once time occurrence. Every once in a while I have days where I will eat anything and everything I can get my hands on, I feel insatiably hungry, and it makes me really upset when I eat when I know I don't need to. Some days are good health days, and some are not. Today was AWFUL, I don't want to take the time to explain why but I basically ate two meals for dinner, and I had breakfast and lunch today. I lost count of my calories but I know it had to have been like 3000. I was only able to take a 40 minute walk today. Not only do I have bad days sometimes, but it's really hard to lead the life I want to currently. I am 17 (18 in two weeks, as well as graduate) and I know what kind of schedule I want to exercise and eat on, I know what kind of meals I want to make, based on what I like and what nutrients I need. But I still live and follow my family's routine mostly, and it's not very health conscious at all. And that's totally fine, my parents are the ones who make the decisions they can do whatever they hell they want, no judgement. It's just difficult when we go out to eat and take out food (when we really don't have the money lol) and it's hard to pick something that's a somewhat healthy option. And what is THE MOST FRUSTRATING is they always talk about how healthy they're gonna be, and how we're gonna do weight watchers as a family. They've been saying this for months and yet I feel like I am the only one who's trying to be the most logical with my health choices! My father will literally shame me for eating, when he's the one who bought the meal. I feel like he has this idea that to be healthy you have to just eat salads and workout at the gym till you're numb, but it doesn't have to be like that. We would literally lose weight if we stopped eating out so much.

I really don't want to come across like I'm better than them or anything, I'm absolutely not, it just is difficult to make my own decisions when I still have to eat and do what they do, I don't really have my own life yet, and it sucks all the more because they (mostly my father) are hypocritical. Hopefully with me about to graduate, and work more often, my schedule will change and I can find more time to work out, and actually cook for myself .

I'm a firm believer that you can't hate yourself for loving yourself. I don't think hating your body will get you any progress, but with everything that I ate and did today, and how things feel like they're going, I'm terrified of gaining my weight back, and then some. I've been struggling a lot today with the intrusive thoughts of hurting myself, thinking of everything I deserve because I absolutely did not need it. I feel like ripping my insides out because I want to take back everything I put in my mouth, I really just want to throw everything up.

I know things are gonna be okay, it's just hard to not feel this way. I think I just need some validation because what's done is done, and tomorrow can be better but now I'm concerned that I'm just going to make it through this night without hurting myself. Which is weird because that hasn't been an issue in a long time. I just wish this was easier.

Thank you for reading all of this if you did. Have a happy and a healthy :)