u/OrangeIslandKing

Basically, i met this girl, and I asked if she is seeing anyone else. She said yes, that she was seeing this guy consistently for like 3ish months now. She told me before she is dating with serious intent, so I can assume she is dating this guy seriously.

I didn't want to push for more info, but honestly I decided to end things. Feels too much like starting the race when it's on the final lap tbh.

See, you hear this advice all the time in social media. And you know what? It's absolutely true. If he wanted he would, or at least he should, you definitely don't want a man who wants but is too lazy to try.

HOWEVER, you also play a part in this, see, you gotta give him something to want, and no, I don't mean sex.

I mean you gotta give him attention and care too. You gotta give something to want.

For example, if a woman does not respond to me, is flaky, or seems like she doesn't care, I'm not gonna "want to" so I'm not gonna.

So Chainsmoker Cat is... well it's something, but it touches upon the subject of discrimination. In this anime, Catgirls are said to be discriminated against in Japan.

My favorite example is in last names.

See, in this anime, Catgirls don't always have last names, it's simply not part of their native culture.

One of the characters reveals that they got their grades marked down for not writing their last names on their schoolwork, EVEN THOUGH THEY DON'T HAVE ONE.

I loved this detail, and it's actually pretty accurate.

This anime is based on irl Japan, more or less, and the Japanese education system is notorious for discrimination like this. In some schools, you can actually get marked down for having... HAIR THAT ISN'T BLACK.

So getting marked down for not having a last name would totally be a thing.

It's such a small detail that I loved.

I have a personal plan on first dates, I ask a woman out for coffee or something smaller like that. If I like her and the vibes are there, i ask her if she wants to grab a proper bite to eat. It's worked out pretty well for me, as most of the time, the woman is open to dinner if I ask (though I haven't always offered)

My question is, should I reveal this plan from the go or just keep it to myself until I decide i do actually want to have dinner with her?

I got a text from a woman i dated like a month ago who broke things off with me. I didn't know why until I saw online She was posting pics with another dude.

I asked her to confirm if she was dating him and if that's why she broke things off, and she said yes and things didn't work out. I told her no thanks then. She hasn't texted me back.

Not gonna lie, I feel offended that she thought she could just pick me up like I was on layaway or something.

So something i learned to do is if I'm having sex on a regular basis with a woman, I ask her what happens if she gets pregnant.

Now, this doesn't apply to me because I don't sleep with women unless we are exclusive, but I imagine if y'all aren't exclusive, then it's important to ask if she's willing to take a pregnancy test if she's sleeping with others.

Anyways, in my own cases, I ask her and we have a convo. I let her know I'd like to be involved if she keeps the pregnancy, but I am pro choice and would support her if she decides to have an abortion.

This is also a great opportunity to talk about your standings when it comes to abortion, something I believe should be discussed eventually.

So, if you're regularly having sex with someone, it's very important to talk about potential pregnancies, as uncomfortable as that sounds.

So i went out with a girl for the first time. The date was going well, so I asked her if she wanted to have dinner after meeting for coffee.

We went to a Mexican place a family friend owns. Someone I knew worked there. She is a friend who was our waitress.

We spoke Spanish for a bit (I'm Mexican btw) and just laughed. My date seemed upset. The date ended and I'm pretty sure she's ghosting me now.

So I met a woman who seems pretty nice. We talked and she says she is wants to be a top influencer. She says she streams a lot and is learning a lot of the skills she thinks are necessary.

Now... I REALLY don't want to date someone like that. While there's nothing wrong with wanting to be an influencer imo, just based on what I know, I don't want anything to do with that world, from the constant travel to being in the limelight.

However... it's not all that likely she would make it to the top... but she wants to ... I feel I should just break things off because I simply won't be supportive of her goals, as unlikely as they are.

So I am done with the Greed Island Arc in Hunter Hunter and watched a few episodes of the chimera ant arc, and two things I noticed so far that I liked.

1. For a Shonen, the arcs rarely focus on heroics. So let me explain. In other Shonen, like DBZ, MHA, Naruto, etc. Arcs tend to focus on "stop evil guy, save people" even early on, and there's a general sense that the main characters are heroes.

Now, don't get me wrong, so far the main characters in Hunter Hunter are far from evil, but most arcs aren't inherently "heroic"

Sure, they sometimes do heroic things, but that's far from the focus. Let me elaborate

Hunter License arc: Focused on getting a license, Gon even lets an old dude get killed by Hisoka and he doesn't even bat an eye.

Zoldick Forest arc: Now this one is heroic in a way, since they try to save killua, but in the end, Killua is let go by his father, so not really necessary for Gon and Co to save him.

Heaven's Arena: Purely a training arc, I don't even remember a single heroic thing Gon and Killua did

YorkNew: Now, while stopping the Phantom troop could be considered heroic, I feel like the characters care more about their own reasons as opposed to "stop the phantom troop from killing innocents"

Heck, you could argue they aren't even saving innocents, since the only victims are the mafia... not exactly an innocent group.

Greed Island: Similar to heaven's arena.

The second thing I liked is the powerscaling. More spec, how Gon and Killua are STILL well below all the previous antagonists when Greed island ends.

Hisoka is well stronger than them,

The Zoldicks are well stronger

Chrollo is well stronger (he only lost because Kurapika is basically his Kryptonite)

The closest character to their level is the bomber, and even then it's beat into our head he's still stronger than Gon and Killua.

And yet, neither Gon or Killua feel weak. Their power is steadily increasing.

I'm seriously enjoying how this series is structured so far.

I feel like people are desperate to get relationships nowadays. Like it's the end of the world if you're not finding a partner.

But honestly, when it comes to it, it's ok to be single. I have my friends, I have my family, I have my dog. I'm actually pretty happy with my life right now.

If I wasn't happy, or at least content, a gf wouldn't magically fix it. If anything I might make things worse for the girl.

And this lack of fear makes me feel pretty confident about going on dates. I don't fear "not being good enough" for my date.

My point is that being single is nothing to he afraid of, nobody is born with instructions of finding the perfect relationship.

It's funny really. I brought home a date the other day to meet my dog. And something that always cracks me up is the fact that my dog is a jealous little menace.

I have a little beagle, and she is very jealous. She will insist in sitting between us and demands my attention way more. She will bark at me when I'm talking to my date, and paw at me.

She is absolutely harmless by the way. I've had her for 5 years and she has never even so much as growled at anyone. She's extremely sweet, but also extremely jealous