is it fetishistic to be okay with fucking cis people, but not dating them?
i’m a trans guy & i’ve always described myself as t4t, on the reasoning that i can’t imagine being romantic with someone or being sexual with them & then talking about some horrible transphobia-related news & not having them know that same grief ifykwim? i hope that makes sense.
but lately i’ve been finding myself tentatively open to engaging in sexual activities with cis people. i’m still not so sure i would date a cis person for the same reasons listed above, but like as a hookup or fwb ive been feeling open to it.
what do yall think? is this different from the reverse of a cis person wanting to fuck but not date trans people? does the reasoning actually matter?
kind of for cis & trans people. & also as a larger question beyond myself.
thanks!