is it fetishistic to be okay with fucking cis people, but not dating them?

i’m a trans guy & i’ve always described myself as t4t, on the reasoning that i can’t imagine being romantic with someone or being sexual with them & then talking about some horrible transphobia-related news & not having them know that same grief ifykwim? i hope that makes sense.

but lately i’ve been finding myself tentatively open to engaging in sexual activities with cis people. i’m still not so sure i would date a cis person for the same reasons listed above, but like as a hookup or fwb ive been feeling open to it.

what do yall think? is this different from the reverse of a cis person wanting to fuck but not date trans people? does the reasoning actually matter?

kind of for cis & trans people. & also as a larger question beyond myself.

thanks!

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u/OsmiumMercury — 1 day ago

URGENT: ESCAPED BUDGIE found on corner of Highland & Lowell

I have captured it safely & currently have it in my home. Will go to pet store in a few mins to get better supplies (rn is in a box with holes in it). I plan to take care of it well until the owner reaches out. I know the basics of bird care as my sister had a bird; I will also reasarch to double check.

Please dm me on here or text/call me at (781) 697-1232 if this is your pet or you know whose it is!!!! I may not respond instantly because my phone is currently in repair & my computer will be in repair once I get my phone back 7/1 (tomorrow) evening.

mods i know there’s a persdonal info rule, please don’t delete this because of that!!! just message me & i can edit it to be just my dms if needed

u/OsmiumMercury — 5 days ago
▲ 23 r/autism

i struggle a lot with interrupting people & talking over people (not on purpose) so i made this list of skills to help me try to interrupt less

i’m really proud of myself for making something that isn’t unhealthy (i think??) to help me with this! & i hope it can help maybe some of yall :DD

u/OsmiumMercury — 7 days ago

falling asleep to danny gonzalez videos helps with my ptsd

not really a dream but best flair for this i think

i have pretty bad ptsd & on worse days i cant sleep unless i have some sort of voice going beside me. white noise or music isn’t really great for this either, cuz it’s a lot less to pay attention to than someone speaking (imo) so it doesn’t kill the ptsd thoughts as much, of that makes sense.

i’ve been a greg for YEARS & have watched more or less every single one of his videos, so i know i wont miss anything new if i sleep through them. & thus his videos are a natural choice as a background voice. & it works very well! makes it much easier to sleep when i can’t do it in silence. (+ the light from my phone playing them provides a little bit of a reprieve from the darkness).

just wanted to post & shout out that this channel has helped me in that way bc i think yall might find it interesting/nice (or maybe relatable, in which case sorry you deal with that too, sucks ass).

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u/OsmiumMercury — 18 days ago

realistically how much is it to move out of state (usa)

i’m not planning on moving out of state for a while, but i do want to eventually & just curious how much that could cost & what costs (obvious or less obvious) should be factored in.

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u/OsmiumMercury — 22 days ago

started a new job (my first ever!) last week & i fucking LOVE it!!! cinnamon pretzel

i work preparing food & doing assisting stuff in the kitchen(s) of an asian market. it’s so fulfilling to me. sometimes it’s monotonous tasks (very calming) & sometimes it’s rushing about (very exhilarating). it feels more like enrichment than work. very very happy about it, major win.

u/OsmiumMercury — 27 days ago

sourdough with mayo, turkey, & cheddar—with cheesy scrambled eggs in the middle

overall 6.75/10. if i were to make it again i would add more cheese to the scrambled eggs, take off the mayo, & use different bread. i dont think i would make it again sober but it would probably be a great thing to eat while stoned

u/OsmiumMercury — 2 months ago

new to downloading mods (not new to sims 4 or cc tho) & wondering what are some fav/best mods?

been playing since ~2018 & while i’ve had cc for most of that time, i’ve never downloaded a mod & i really want to try it out!

what are some mods that you guys think add a lot to the game? or just ones that you think are fun or are personal favorites? nothing im looking for in specific! tia :))

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u/OsmiumMercury — 2 months ago
▲ 13 r/autism

i was diagnosed around 2013 (when i was ~7) & i was abused in school bc of my autism. i didnt know anybody else with autism & i couldnt connect with anybody else who had had my experience. i felt ashamed & lonely. i constantly had to explain myself because very few people knew much of what i was talking about. my parents took me to a summer camp for autistic kids & i cried being around people like me.

now, there are so many people who know & share that they’re like me. i can see so many autistic people online & see how many people relate. it feels normal to be share that im autistic. i don’t feel like im
coming out as a freak, i feel that im just sharing about something that impacts me. i have to explain myself so much less. i have so many friends that are autistic & i didnt meet them in autism-specific or even autism-centered spaces, i just met them out & about as i make my way through the world.

like i cannot explain how HAPPY 11 year old me would be to see this. it would have made the early days of healing my trauma so much easier. im so glad that autistic kids nowadays have this representation & population increase to make then feel less left out & seen & less ashamed.

just a lil positive rant

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u/OsmiumMercury — 2 months ago