u/Realjacao

I genuinely like her music and even went to her city Cinderella concert. All of her songs and features get diamond status in my house.

I just keep noticing a pattern with her where she loves to idolize white women and whiteness. Especially like white models. It’s really weird and also sad. Has anyone else noticed this?

I think Isaiah Jay did a great job but Natalie was on one. Any question he asked she would override it and ask another or set up a fight. What she was saying didn’t even make sense. You tell Noel and Jayda to fight then say never mind sit down let’s talk. Was I the only one?

John whooped his ass so bad he walked off then passed out and had to be hospitalized. Why is Jayda on the new season and not John. I get Jayda being on the show but John missing is crazy.

She is a content creator on yt and she makes videos about bravo shows and made two about M2M.

Married to Medicine has a problem nobody talks about
What rewatching M2M exposed | The B-sides

Her videos are well thought out and explore the misogyny within the cast.

I am not Kristen so this isn’t self promotion I just watched her video.

These are some of my thoughts after watching her video.

Eugene isn’t the best husband on bravo he just doing the best he can as Toyas husband. Also Toya and Eugene are very misogynistic as is most of the cast. Quad doesn’t sit on mute but the way the cast and fans allowed Eugene to talk about quad and to her because she doesn’t have a husband/boyfriend was disgusting and not okay.

Also Toya stopping the girls from negotiating a better contract together because she gossiped to production is so Toya.

The cast is very anti black and misogynistic because of their unwavering loyalty to upholding the idea of black excellence.

Simone and Cecil should have gotten a divorce a long time ago and I post it almost yearly when the show airs and we see their dynamic. Kristen was very diplomatic about it and I loved the way she analyzed why Simone decided to stop the divorce proceedings based of season 5 reunion. I’ve always said that was a horror scene and if my friends did that they wouldn’t be my friends.

I’ve been saying for years Mariah was done wrong by Simone but she wasn’t done wrong. She has a HBIC mentality on an ensemble cast. Production wasn’t right for how they did her but she didn’t do herself any favors.

I loved her analysis on heavenly. Heavenly is very progressive but displays trad wife views to stick out and paint her self a way she actually isn’t. Toya and heavenly are also very similar in personality but the difference is toya really lives the misogynistic lifestyle heavenly only raps about.

I also will say Heavenly calls her husband daddy because of her son. It was The Daddy because both the son and dad have the same name but the “the” dropped and it’s just daddy. I can relate because what I call my mom now is a multiple year changed version of her real name that stuck. I feel like that’s something used against her when it really is innocent in nature and shows how she is unwilling to let a show change how she moved in her relationship.

Finding out heavenly experienced anti fatness before getting on the show by the producers telling her she didn’t fit the look and to lose weight then experiencing it again from Jackie her first season on the cast just confirming why I never liked Jackie.

Overall I loved both videos and I HIGHLY recommend. I also recommend if you really dislike someone like a heavenly to go back and rewatch the show because your views might change.

I saw a post that said Jada didn’t actually contribute anything to the show other than fighting people that did not want to fight him and also taking up for a man that wouldn’t claim him.

I do think that Jayda contributed a lot of the fighting that we saw and then also the comedic relief so I don’t think that that’s fair to say, but I do think that Jayda really minimized himself to only being the protector for seis and put himself into a bully role when I feel like Jayda’s a lot bigger than it.

Jada should come in with looks standing on business and almost like the mature one in the group that’s the OG.

People are mixing up two completely different things Shamea said and then calling her a liar.

Shamea has always said the reason she didn’t become a Housewife sooner was because Gerald didn’t want to be on the show. Production wanted them as a package deal, and he didn’t want to film. She has said this consistently for years.

That is not the same as her saying Porsha didn’t want her on the show. She didn’t say Porsha kept her from the show. She’s just outlining that Porsha did not want her on the show. And if you can find where she ever said that Porsha kept her from being on the show, I will give you $1 million.

Kandi has said Porsha didn’t want Shamea to join and that she advocated for Shamea. Kenya has also said she heard Porsha tell Shamea she didn’t want her on the show. Those are separate claims.

When Andy recently brought up Gerald, he remembered it as Gerald not wanting cameras in the house. Shamea simply clarified that it wasn’t about the house. Gerald didn’t want to be on the show at all. That’s not changing her story, it’s correcting one detail. If anything, look at this season. Gerald barely films now and when he does, he’s in and out of scenes. That lines up with what she’s been saying all along.

What I find funny is that Porsha immediately tried to turn that into “you’re calling Andy a liar.” No, she wasn’t. She was correcting one detail of a story about her own life. Porsha is trying to get Shamea kicked off the show and fired. Porsha knows how to play the game she isn’t going to say Shamea shouldn’t be on the show to the big boss of the messiest reality networks. She said that Andy but told her friend the real.

And let’s not act like it’s impossible that Porsha wouldn’t want someone on a show. Nene and Porsha got into it a couple years ago because Porsha refused to film with Nene for their Netflix project. So we already know she’s willing to say, “I’m not filming with this person.”

Y’all don’t have to like Shamea, but the “she got caught lying” narrative doesn’t really work when you separate these into the two conversations they’ve always been.

You mean to tell me Angela sat there and TOLD that women your husband messing with shamea precedes you and she was mute. Girl hell nawl. This ass whooping precedes you Angela. My husband didn’t mess with shamea and that’s that. Then Shamea saying let’s get him. You dummy. Your response should have been George proceeds her and me because we never slept together. Shamea grow a back bone. Jesus. End the season. Throw the girls away.

Poodie is older than Landon. I woulda swore Landon was older than poodie. I’m questioning life now lol.

I want to know if I am the asshole in this situation so my friend and I are planning a cruise together. My friends credit isn’t the best so we use my credit and through Upgrade we have a payment plan where we each pay $100 every month.

The problem is that I’m having to remind my friend literally every single month that hundred dollars is due. I’m messaging like hey you haven’t sent the hundred dollars yet or just a reminder like this is due. Initially, I tried to send a scheduled reminder text through the iPhone, but they only allow you to do one and it’s a couple of days ahead so I couldn’t do that. I also thought with that why am I having to send schedule a reminder text to a grown adult? Whenever I owe someone money, I make sure that I send it immediately if not the day before if I’m able to because I just don’t like owing people money and also I want to be a responsible person and get people with their owed.

The last time that they forgot, I will admit I did send a text message and I let them know like I’m taking you off the cruise. This is the umpteenth time that you have not send me the money when it was supposed to be due and you’re off the cruise. Magically the money was sent immediately right after that.

The schedule was supposed to be that they will send it a couple of days before the actual due date so that I could just go ahead and send the money to my bank so that the payment comes out with my payment and then I’m not having to cover their portion and then pay myself back later which has been happening but is what I wanted to avoid. It’s also something that we both agreed to a specific date. The first date we agreed on changed because they said that it didn’t align with how they were paid and I said OK go ahead and just do it closer to the actual day that it’s supposed to come out because with banks and sending the money through Apple Pay, it takes like three days max if that so I was like OK. You can just send it on this day instead. Even been a problem.

The other thing that’s really bothering me and that I really wanna know if I would be an asshole for is that we do have another trip coming up and this would be for my actual birthday trip. I do want to say that I didn’t actually ask them to come on the trip. I just mentioned that I was planning on going to Vegas for a concert that was happening around my birthday and they invited themselves on a trip and I didn’t say no, which is my fault. So we started playing in this trip and everything is being paid but something that is really irritating me is that they keep acting like I’m lying about the payment amount or how much things cost. My main issue with this is that most of the time we’re on FaceTime looking at everything together so I don’t understand why there’s an issue when I’m saying like hey this price actually went up because my friend said that they needed a couple of days for the check to come in and yes, we’re going to Vegas the price is gonna go up.

I also wanna say like I’ve been very transparent about the whole cruise and any trip that we go on this time for the cruise I made a whole spreadsheet that literally keeps track of every payment date. You know how much we’re paying towards the actual trip and then I have our individual payments and it literally deduct every single time to show how much is left. Of course my friend doesn’t use the spreadsheet but I do keep sending like screenshots and things like that. Just showing like hey this is how much you know it was left and everything like that and also I do keep talking about it like OK you know every time you pay I’m gonna go ahead and you know deduct $100 from the spreadsheet.

Like even with all that though they still act confused about how much is old so on one time we were talking on the phone I mentioned like oh yeah so we’ve paid you know this amount total and they were like oh we’ve paid a lot and making it seem like I’m like lying about the total and I’m like I can literally give you the login that I’ve tried to do before to the upgrade and you can see for yourself how much is still owed and you can literally divide that by two and you can see how much you still have to pay for this cruise you know with Upgrade it’s a fixed amount no interest is being added, and I’ve made that very clear, but they’re still making it seem like like the money is being lied about and it’s just coming out of nowhere and it’s very frustrating because I’m like are you gonna just say you don’t wanna pay anymore and then just show up for the cruise?

At this point, I really just don’t know what to do. You know I feel like I’ve done everything that I have to do on my end, but I just don’t feel like as a friend they are reciprocating you know and just literally paying that’s all that they have to do.

I’m at the point this month where I don’t even wanna remind them that the amount is due and I just wanna see if they do actually pay. If they don’t then I’m thinking that I’ll just go ahead and refund them all of their money it’ll be coming out of my pocket and I don’t have anybody else to come on the cruise but at least I’ll have peace of mind and I can just you know try and work extra at my second job and pay the cruise off and try and make that money back.

So I just wanna know if I would be the asshole if I waited until after the birthday trip to tell them that they can’t come on the cruise because they did not pay and send them all their money back or if I should just be transparent and just do it before hand?

ETA I did voice to text if this is a lot and seems all over the place I’m very irritated so I may go back and edit some parts for clarity.

The patrons of planet fitness need serious home training and gym etiquette. Why are you all taking lifts from one place and NOT PUTTING THEM BACK. The gym employees were able to find them but I guess not now. Now I can’t use free weights I need because they are missing. Are y’all stealing the weights? I would blame this on kids but I think it’s adults too. The mats left on the floor with weights next to them. Used equipment tissue on the floor. Leaving bottle of water on the treadmill.

I feel like everyone is getting wrapped up in picking one side or the other, but honestly they both suck.

Shamea is emotionally manipulative while also being very emotional and insecure. She weaponizes how she feels. She doesn’t have everything, but she does have a lot.

Instead of listening to her best friend and not joining RHOA, she joined anyway knowing how Porsha felt. Then, when Porsha wasn’t the friend Shamea wanted her to be, she threw that conversation back in Porsha’s face.

Shamea knows Porsha doesn’t want to be her friend anymore, and instead of accepting that and moving on like an adult, she’s acting like a child and throwing a fit. I do think her being iced out isn’t fair, but she also plays a major role in these situations and then hides her hands. Drew and Angela not forgiving Shamea for her part in things while forgiving Porsha is wack, but Shamea also keeps these beefs alive.

If Shamea wants another season, she needs to learn to forgive and move on like Angela did with Phaedra and, to an extent, Porsha. Also, bringing up Porsha’s daughter was trash. I don’t think anyone believes Gerald or Shamea would ever harm Pilar, but if I don’t want to go somewhere, then my daughter isn’t going either. Shamea used that moment to make Porsha look bad, but to me it just made Shamea look manipulative. It came across like, “I’ll shame you into being my friend.”

Porsha, or should I say Whoresha. The Kandi situation, stealing that woman’s husband (although you can’t steal a man who wants to leave), saying she would sleep with Charles, meeting up with Ralph behind Drew’s back, threatening to keep Pilar from Dennis if he filmed with Drew. The list goes on.

Porsha allowed Phaedra to create the narrative that Shamea slept with Kandi while Shamea was engaged to be married. Then she stood by Phaedra almost the entire time until the reunion. When Shamea went to comfort Porsha at the reunion, Porsha basically told her to just stand there and be supportive. Then Porsha didn’t even attend one of Shamea’s wedding ceremonies because of a flight. After all of that, she’s confused about why Shamea got closer to women like Kandi and Kenya, who were actually there for her. And let’s not talk about Porsha showing up late, interrupting Shamea’s moment when she was being gifted the car, and making it about herself. Over the years, Porsha has consistently shown Shamea that the friendship isn’t a priority to her and that she doesn’t see Shamea as an equal.

Porsha is incredibly selfish and only does what benefits her. I think she and her mother want to be taken care of, and they see Shamea and Mama Morton, who have that from their husbands, as a threat. Porsha is jealous of Shamea and treats RHOA like it’s hers, as if she’s saying, “This is my thing. Go find your own.” It’s very childish.

I think there was a way for Shamea and Porsha to be on the show together and both come out on top, but Porsha isn’t the type of person who can see beyond what’s best for herself. She’s a nasty person overall and seems to live by the idea that she’s pretty enough to always be forgiven for the things she does.

TLDR: Shamea is emotionally manipulative, and Porsha is a horrible person and an even worse friend.

I just want to come in and do my job. This is a very independent role where I can do my work without constantly communicating with other people. I’m not antisocial. I’ll communicate when I need to, but it’s just not necessary, especially when every day the conversations are about rates.

What I don’t understand is why every time something needs to be corrected, it comes with this joking, talking-down-to-you tone. Y’all need communication training again because it’s rude. Just rude.

It’s even worse for me as a Black neurodivergent person. I feel like a lot of Black managers expect all Black people to respond the same way and have the same communication style. We don’t. It feels like I’m expected to laugh things off, joke around, and respond a certain way when people talk down to me. Then when I don’t, and instead ask a clarifying question, suddenly I’m the rude one. No. Talk to me the way you talk to the older white women, with some respect.

Then another manager came over to “correct me.” First you introduced yourself, cool. Then you explained what was done and ended it with, “So do it,” in the rudest tone possible. How is that supposed to be okay? It was completely unnecessary.

Y’all have lost the plot. Watch the computers, talk about the rates, do whatever you need to do, but the way some of you speak to people is disrespectful. Then to add in I’ve worked for Amazon twice now and both times all rules aren’t explained but I’m being threatened to be written up on my second day. (right after getting out of training and getting on the floor) I don’t need compassion just understanding that this is my second day and you need to let me know the rules minus the threats. I’m at the point where I’m seriously considering making complaints to HR because this isn’t normal.

Why is he acting like he is the biggest bitch in charge. You were scary your season and snuck someone. You are lame and are acting like this big fighter for what. Trying to allude to catching someone outside. Nigga I’m from Dallas oak cliff to be exact. You not doing nothing mamas. Just big for nothing light skinned play acting

It’s the fact that house b is allowed to destroy davas stuff but when dava goes into their room it’s a problem. House b is allowed to jump but for all the other girls it’s a problem. House b is allowed to make a plan to throw water at the girls when they come in but the other girls would have to disperse. It just wack af

The way they are doing Dava is disgusting and the way g baby, Lulu, and Kutta are blaming Lauren, Dava and Tyson for it is weird. I really want to know how they feel watching themselves look dumb af.

Everyone isn’t lying. They all keep saying when you get drunk you become a whole other person. They also are saying when you get into it you keep going and won’t stop. You are the problem. Just because you are fucking Jayda and Lynx for protection doesn’t mean you aren’t wrong.

I do think biggie is whiny and annoying although I love her music and want her to win. I’m just seeing a lot of her and tesehkis friends make an issue with biggie. It’s wack and biggie needs to leave for her own mental. Them girls is not your friends. Especially tink funky ass and Mariah beaver teeth ass