I just can’t do it and if I hold off at alllll I binge the three days leading up to my period . I feel so so so hungry if I don’t give in it feels like suffering and not only do I feel psychotic mentally but physically feel as though I am being compelled to eat…. It makes me very very upset. I feel as tho u might have lost more if not for my lead up to period week.
I just can’t do it and if I hold off at alllll I binge the three days leading up to my period . I feel so so so hungry if I don’t give in it feels like suffering and not only do I feel psychotic mentally but physically feel as though I am being compelled to eat…. It makes me very very upset. I feel as tho u might have lost more if not for my lead up to period week.
1/2 year apart - I think I’ve gotten a littllee better
The last time I argued with my father he snatched my phone(I was 25 btw) saying he had the right because he bought it ofc and he made an attempt to also take my tv that I bought and when I took it back he had raised his fist to me but didn’t hit me and he also threatened to “spank me like a little girl”. he also tried to take my sister(19 at the time) computer ( which she was using for school) and told me I had 6 months ( this was about a year ago)to leave as a threat but then later ofc told me that we could stay with him as long he lived…… all of this was because I had ignored his nagging at me and my sister to clean up after we cooked. I always clean up after I cook and had told him thousands of times he didn’t need to harass me about it but he didn’t listen ofc. He and my mother are extremely obsessive and controlling of every aspect of what we do in “their” space and no matter how much I clean it is always somehow
My fault, while mind you both my parents are messier than me. But yea what did you do?
Everytime I would try I would be heavily criticized or told to stop. “You’re not a white girl.” Said my mother to me when I simply waded and put my curls in a ponytail…. It ALWAYS had to be her who did my hair and when she finish she’d say “your hair looks so good the person who did it must really love you.” When just before this she had likely just criticized every opinion I had and disrespected/disregarded every part of me in anyways she could… it was only a compliment to herself and an attempt to make me feel grateful
I am in a very rough situation trying to escape abuse and it’s been technology that has helped me most. Even hotlines made for this exact situation have passed me along again and again and again, or even hung up or judged me…. Losing faith in people tbh
Guess the color lol
Did makeup while in a very tough situation (so I may look a bit off )
I’m so fucking pissed that I ended up with such a vile being as my mother. Yet she is the one that pretends I was evil form the start, she is the one that assumed I was trying to harm her as soon as I was unwillingly brought into this her BY HER. She looks at me as though I am the devil while she has abused me my entire life and I am defending myself from HER. She tells me that all I care about is torturing her and those around me, while she has tortured me my entire life.
Yesterday I told my mother I wasn’t going to tell her where my sister and I may go because we are adults and don’t have to. That’s where this started. She violently snatched my phone out of my hand and started going through my messages. When I tried to get it back, she scratched at me. I defended myself, managed to get my phone back, and locked her out. She then stood outside my door calling me a horrible daughter and horrible sister, saying that she hopes I “get sane,” and saying I’m going to get us both killed snd stood there repeatedly telling me over and over that there is something wrong with me and that I shouldn’t forget it.
This is part of a much bigger pattern. My mother has financially abused me my entire life, leaving me with very low savings. She isolated us from any real-life friends, raised us under cult-like conditions. She has emotionally abused both me and my 20-year-old sister for years. Now she is accusing me of brainwashing my sister, saying we’ll die or get trafficked because we’re “isolating ourselves,” (from her and my father)and claiming my sister “can’t think for herself” and is just blindly following me. In her texts she’s trying to act concerned while still guilting and pressuring me.
Yesterday I told my mother I wasn’t going to tell her where my sister and I may go because we are adults and don’t have to. That’s where this started. She violently snatched my phone out of my hand and started going through my messages. When I tried to get it back, she scratched at me. I defended myself, managed to get my phone back, and locked her out. She then stood outside my door calling me a horrible daughter and horrible sister, saying that she hopes I “get sane,” and saying I’m going to get us both killed snd stood there repeatedly telling me over and over that there is something wrong with me and that I shouldn’t forget it.
This is part of a much bigger pattern. My mother has financially abused me my entire life, leaving me with very low savings. She isolated us from any real-life friends, raised us under cult-like conditions. She has emotionally abused both me and my 20-year-old sister for years. Now she is accusing me of brainwashing my sister, saying we’ll die or get trafficked because we’re “isolating ourselves,” (from her and my father)and claiming my sister “can’t think for herself” and is just blindly following me. In her texts she’s trying to act concerned while still guilting and pressuring me.
My sister and I are adults and we’re packing right now to leave France and go back to the US. We need practical advice on safe, affordable places to stay when we arrive, flight ticket options and pricing, ways to start making money quickly (I’m open to legal online work), and any general help or resources for two sisters trying to escape an abusive home with limited savings. Any help would be appreciated.
Has anyone been through something similar? What worked for you? Any real experiences or suggestions would mean everything right now.
Thank you.
Yesterday I told my mother I wasn’t going to tell her where my sister and I may go because we are adults and don’t have to. That’s where this started. She violently snatched my phone out of my hand and started going through my messages. When I tried to get it back, she scratched at me. I defended myself, managed to get my phone back, and locked her out. She then stood outside my door calling me a horrible daughter and horrible sister, saying that she hopes I “get sane,” and saying I’m going to get us both killed snd stood there repeatedly telling me over and over that there is something wrong with me and that I shouldn’t forget it.
This is part of a much bigger pattern. My mother has financially abused me my entire life, leaving me with very low savings. She isolated us from any real-life friends, raised us under cult-like conditions. She has emotionally abused both me and my 20-year-old sister for years. Now she is accusing me of brainwashing my sister, saying we’ll die or get trafficked because we’re “isolating ourselves,” (from her and my father)and claiming my sister “can’t think for herself” and is just blindly following me. In her texts she’s trying to act concerned while still guilting and pressuring me.
My sister and I are adults and we’re packing right now to leave France and go back to the US. We need practical advice on safe, affordable places to stay when we arrive, flight ticket options and pricing, ways to start making money quickly (I’m open to legal online work), and any general help or resources for two sisters trying to escape an abusive home with limited savings. Any help would be appreciated.
Has anyone been through something similar? What worked for you? Any real experiences or suggestions would mean everything right now.
Thank you.
Yesterday I told my mother I wasn’t going to tell her where my sister and I may go because we are adults and don’t have to. That’s where this started. She violently snatched my phone out of my hand and started going through my messages. When I tried to get it back, she scratched at me. I defended myself, managed to get my phone back, and locked her out. She then stood outside my door calling me a horrible daughter and horrible sister, saying that she hopes I “get sane,” and saying I’m going to get us both killed snd stood there repeatedly telling me over and over that there is something wrong with me and that I shouldn’t forget it.
This is part of a much bigger pattern. My mother has financially abused me my entire life, leaving me with very low savings. She isolated us from any real-life friends, raised us under cult-like conditions. She has emotionally abused both me and my 20-year-old sister for years. Now she is accusing me of brainwashing my sister, saying we’ll die or get trafficked because we’re “isolating ourselves,” (from her and my father)and claiming my sister “can’t think for herself” and is just blindly following me. In her texts she’s trying to act concerned while still guilting and pressuring me.
My sister and I are adults and we’re packing right now to leave France and go back to the US. We need practical advice on safe, affordable places to stay when we arrive, flight ticket options and pricing, ways to start making money quickly (I’m open to legal online work), and any general help or resources for two sisters trying to escape an abusive home with limited savings. Any help would be appreciated.
Has anyone been through something similar? What worked for you? Any real experiences or suggestions would mean everything right now.
Thank you.
Yesterday I told my mother I wasn’t going to tell her where my sister and I may go because we are adults and don’t have to. That’s where this started. She violently snatched my phone out of my hand and started going through my messages. When I tried to get it back, she scratched at me. I defended myself, managed to get my phone back, and locked her out. She then stood outside my door calling me a horrible daughter and horrible sister, saying that she hopes I “get sane,” and saying I’m going to get us both killed snd stood there repeatedly telling me over and over that there is something wrong with me and that I shouldn’t forget it.
This is part of a much bigger pattern. My mother has financially abused me my entire life, leaving me with very low savings. She isolated us from any real-life friends, raised us under cult-like conditions. She has emotionally abused both me and my 20-year-old sister for years. Now she is accusing me of brainwashing my sister, saying we’ll die or get trafficked because we’re “isolating ourselves,” (from her and my father)and claiming my sister “can’t think for herself” and is just blindly following me. In her texts she’s trying to act concerned while still guilting and pressuring me.
My sister and I are adults and we’re packing right now to leave France and go back to the US. We need practical advice on safe, affordable places to stay when we arrive, flight ticket options and pricing, ways to start making money quickly (I’m open to legal online work), and any general help or resources for two sisters trying to escape an abusive home with limited savings. Any help would be appreciated.
Has anyone been through something similar? What worked for you? Any real experiences or suggestions would mean everything right now.
Thank you.
Im so fucking tired of people telling me to forgive my parents or to let go or that they did the best they could.
They didn’t. And it’s not fair to me.
I hate how society sees being a victim as if it is a choice on the victims part. No. It is a descriptive word to describe someone who had been victimized by someone else- society puts a lot of stress on victims to just be okay and I’d argue it’s more than people ever shame anyone for being an abuser it’s more then anyone ever shames anyone for being the victimizer. They get to get away with it.
People like to say forgiveness will help the victim or that it is for you. It doesn’t. It’s not. What it is is foolish rhetoric, and I hate how people seem to feel high and mighty when they spread it.