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It luckily got increasingly louder with every song and had a decent sound at the end of the show (at least in general pit) but at the begining I could even hear myself louder than the music. The guys were great ofc appart of that, I hope those who go tomorrow have better luck

I (M21) met a girl (F18) around a month ago in social media, as she was looking for people who were going to a concert she was planning to attend. We have been talking everyday since and like 10 days in, she started to flirt with me (stuff like "I already know you blush and giggle every time I text you" or "I can feel you kicking your feet through the screen") even if I didnt have a crush on her, I started to follow her flirting because I thought this could go somewhere else when we know each other more. Then she casually mentioned in one of our conversations that she wasnt ready for a relationship, because she just moved to my country, broke with her ex just before moving and she is not in the right state of mind right now. I thought thats fair, but I didnt understand why she was flirting and why she continued to do it after telling me that.

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We went to a concert together (not the original from her post, but another one I mentioned I was going to attend, and as she likes the artist too, she said she was going with me) and the vibe in person was completely different, I was talking all the time and there was no flirting. She later said that she had a good time but she was anxious and nervous to meet me, specially as Im the first person she meets after moving out.

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Next day, I mentioned to her I told my mom I met someone at a concert and that she did a classic mom joke of "ohh someone has a gf" and she replied : "oki I know that was just your mama making a silly joke but I just want to be super honest with you rq. I know we've been flirting and I do really like you!! but I'm just not ready to be in a relationship right now, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. I know you didn't even say it but I just wanted to let you know. again, I have sm fun talking with you and hanging out was great! but friends is all I'm comfortable with". I told her that thats okay and as she mentioned she wasnt ready for a relationship, I wasnt expecting that either and hoped to be just friends, but I couldnt really understand what was the point of flirting then. She said "flirting over text felt easy and casual, but obviously seeing you in person made things feel more real and consequential, and made me realize it didn't really feel right for me".

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The thing is, I asked her what she meant by "I really like you" in the first message, and she said it meant just as a person. It confused me a bit, because reading it (and from the opinion of everyone I have asked) , it sounds like she likes me romantically but doesnt want a relationship now and realized flirting was not a good idea in that case, rather than her liking me just platonically. Do you think Im right and she just tried to retract from what she said or I read it wrong and she meant platonic since the begining (Or any different idea you may have)?

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Ofc I will only try to be friends with her, but I wanted to make sure if I was reading her intentions right or not

They played it in Madrid tonight for the first this tour as an encore. Jordan said he doesnt like stopping for encores tonight, but I guess our energy made them change thieir mind lol

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Also I hope nobody else got hurt from "security" after what happened in the postconcert signing

Ok this probably has been asked a lot but I wanted a personal recomendation for my case. I have only played the very first Castlevania from NES when I was a kid, an even if it was very difficult for me at that time, I had fun with it. I recently got for sale SOTN and the Anniversary Collection (which includes the NES games, SCIV and a few minor games). Which one do you recommend me to play first, the original Castlevania, SOTN or just wait to buy another game I should begin with instead of this ones? I read you can play most games without worrying about missing the plot from previous games though

I saw Big Thief in Madrid yesterday (first time watching them and it was as amazing as I thought it would be, plus the venue is stunning) and they played a new song, Mr Man. 2 seconds into the song I instantly thought about Midas by Wunderhorse and honestly the whole song is SO similar , did anyone else notice it or its just me?

Im going to see them next week, what meech are they bringing? Any vinyl/cd previous to FH?

Ive seen in the post where they announced the concerts, that theres a presale for this wednesday (tomorrow basically) , but when I went to the website who sells the tickets, it says its on thursday. Is it a mistake or there are two presales?

There was no queue until 11 am and I entered at that time and there were just a few seats left and each time I selected one it dissapeared.

It really sold out in 3 minutes?

Im 21 year old and I feel like I still havent made a real and mutual connection with anyone in my whole life. And I don't mean only romantically. I havent been lucky with relationships either, nobody has ever liked me and the closest I have been to romantic love was a bunch of weird situationships and a single date after a year of trying online dating, with someone I thought I really connected with, but it wasnt mutual.

But as I said, this doesnt only apply to romance but friendships. I always had difficulties making friends since I was little, and being bullied in school when I was 11-13 didnt help either to make me feel wanted by others. I have maybe around 3-4 long term friends who, even if I have fun with them, I feel like I cant 100% be myself around them, as they dont share any of my interests, and the same applies to anyone I personally know (not that I have very niche interests, but anyways), so I cant never talk about what I like with anyone, and that doesnt only make me always feel alone even when Im surrounded by people, but I also feel like even my closest friends dont really know me as a person.

Outside of that few friends, I have had more casual "friendships", with people I have shared common places like school, uni, neighbours etc and with them, I have always felt "used". For example, with classmates, even if we get along well,our relationship only exists because uni, it has never moved outside there and will dissapear when uni ends. It feels like they only socialize with me so they are not alone in class, and not because they genuinely like me

Also, most of my relationships (including long term friendships, short term, situationships etc) ended with ghosting. I have had friends from years who stopped talking to me without any apparent reason a random day. It always made me feel very insecure about getting attached to others and worried it could happen to me with anyone in any moment

About my family, even if I dont have a bad relationship with them and feel very privileged to have two loving parents, I dont really care about my extended family and dont think they care about me. Family meetings always felt obligatory more than desirable, hanging out with people I see from time to time and dont know much about me just because we are related

I feel like my parents are the only people who really love me and when they die, I will be alone in this world without anyone else. I think Im a nice person, others at least say I am, but I dont know. If its true, why the only two people who have showed me love are people who are biologically programmed to love me ?

Hola! Soy un chico de 21 años del este de Madrid y me encantaría hacer amigos (ya sea por mi zona o por el centro) de edad parecida para hacer planes, ya que en la uni o el gym se me hace practicamente imposible conocer gente nueva y mis amigos no tienen mucha gente para presentarme. Tambien voy frecuentemente a conciertos solo, pero no he conseguido socializar mucho alli.

Mis hobbies son principalmente la música (mas tirando para rock alternativo, aunque escucho casi de todo y toco varios instrumentos) , el cine sobretodo mas tirando a clásico, los videojuegos, la lectura (desde novelas a manga) , el fútbol (solo verlo, jugando parece que no tengo piernas lol) y también soy muy friki de historia/politica/filosofía

Si alguien quiere quedar un día para tomar algo o sabe donde podría encontrar gente o grupos para ello que me diga :)

I (M21) just had my first date ever (F20). We matched 20 days ago and in that time we talked about literally everything and it was going so well we even planned future dates without even having the first one. In person I felt the same, we spent almost 3 hours talking non stop while having a walk and later drinking. She felt very comfortable, to the point I had to leave at an specific time for a concert and we didnt look at the time and ended up leaving 30 min later.

I was suspecting that she wasnt feeling anything romantic because she wasnt responding to my flirting (she didnt look uncomfortable about it either) and when I invited her she said it wasnt neccesary and later offered me to pay her part. At the end of the date I told her "It was very nice meeting you and I would like to see you again", and she said she feels bad about it but didnt feel anything romantic and wished me luck with my matches. I asked her if we can remain friends (as she mentions in her Hinge profile she is open to friendships too), she said yes and we have chatted a bit after the date ended.

Honestly it hurt a little because in one year of using Hinge is the only date I ever got and its one of the girls I have met who were the closest to my ideal partner. I think the biggest possibility is that she didnt like me physically, even if she matched with me and saw how I look like (and honestly I think Im not very photogenic and look better in person)

Has anything of this ever happened to you? I dont know how common it is, but as someone who never had luck with this things, I dont even know if I feel good continuing to try online dating

Im having the first date of my life tomorrow with a girl and we have been texting at least a bit everyday for 20 days and we both have even discussed things we could do in future dates , so it seems she is interested in having them before even having the first one

My question is, if it goes well, should I ask her at the end of the first date, when I arrive home or a few days after?

As I have time next weekend but will be busy the rest of the month, I was planning on saying at the end of the date something like "I had a lot of fun with you and would like to see you again if you want to too" . Or should I wait a bit ?