u/Substantial-Basis260

so i read thru some of this sub and i've seen mixed reviews on if its sufficient for self defense...

the thing is, i know i am not comfortable with 'contact' sports for lack of another word and i think i would freak out because of trauma reasons if i was in like active combat even in a consensual setting like a class. this is why capoeira has always really intrigued me because it would give me similar tools while not actively engaging in contact fighting.

so tbh this is me doing something like capoeira or nothing in terms of prep for self defense, so i think even if it's not gonna be the same as if i do fucking krav maga, it still has to be pretty good right??

for context, i am a 30yo woman who was a dancer for a decade (its been many years since i last actively was) and practicing yoga intermittently for a bit over a decade (currently actively practicing)

i don't think i've heard of anything quite like capoeira and i think this is the right fit for me, but would love any thoughts/feedback/recs anyone has!

i am in the bay area, so also would love some studio recs!!

i alsooo dont think i would do it like a lot weekly, if anything realistically 1-2x/wk if possible. is that horrible? i think i get a lot of similar form and flexibility from yoga so i dont think i would necessarily like lose momentum in that way, but i know form and muscle memory take awhile. maybe at first i can take more classes, i just dont think i want it to be my primary form of exercise

okay ugh i'm doing a rewatch and i'm on s3 now. it makes NO SENSE why forensic analysts couldn't find evidence from the crime scene etc to determine that Ryan did not shoot Trey...

like wouldn't they find clothing fibers, look at where Trey was shot and how his body was at the scene etc? i know they took him away quickly in an ambulance, but still... there would be blood stains and other evidence of the scene and where the bullet went (or did it stay in his body?), location of it, range/distance, what weight someone likely was who shot it or whatever, idk cant they figure this stuff out?

i've always hated julie cooper,but oh MAN my blood is fucking boiling rn with her trying to get Trey to fucking lie. go back to your fucking trailer town you piece of shit woman

i have A LOT to say about this.... he SUCKS and i HATE that they had both Sandy and Kirsten cheat on each other ugh. they were such an idyllic couple

but the reason for this post (didn't wanna spoil it in the title for first time watchers) is, did Carter prompt her alcoholism? i feel like she was already on her way there, but that could've been situational/fleeting, but after he left she started really going off the deep end and then Caleb dies and it's game over. i'm on a rewatch and i'm just trying to think haha currently on s2e22

and if he is, why? does she feel remorse for cheating on Sandy? or does she wish she had an affair with him/left Sandy or something?

wish happened:

• julie getting in trouble for Caleb's death
• kirsten's alcoholism
• jimmy and haley dating if they weren't gonna end up together
• kirsten AND sandy cheating on each other SMDH
• getting a better sense of how things were between s1 and s2, particularly seth living in portand and how it was for sandy and kirsten. we already got a sense of how it was for ryan so i was okay with that
• kirsten and sandy owning their home (still a bit iffy on this since they get to keep it, but its mentioned that caleb owns it)
• marissa losing her virginity to ryan
• seeing jimmy and sandy running their restaurant together
• jimmy not leaving
• sandy's mom sticking around and not having cancer

wish didn't:

• Anna different when she came back
• zack becoming mean
• luke getting all this awesome character development just for it to be ruined with him hooking up with julie and then leaving the show
• marissa and ryan getting back together after everything happened with oliver (i loved them together initially, but it just felt wrong after that. although in my earlier rewatches i think i was still rooting for them, idk maybe its becauseim older now or have changed)
• teresa hiding that she kept the baby
• them not doing a paternity test for teresa's baby MUCH sooner
• the oliver arc going on so long
• lindsey being mean in the beginning (although understandably so
• julie becoming head of the company instead of kirsten
• seth and summer's first time and couple times after that being weird
• kirsten continuing at the company after caleb's financial debacle
• that one lady sandy worked with
• sandy leaving his job and selling out

some of this i recall from memory fully, others occurred during rewatch. will keep posting more as i continue this rewatch! there are def others i have to add but i wanna get to the point of watching it so i can remember all the details before making a full statement

>!why didn't Kirsten or Sandy or someone say something to fucking Julie when she said all that shit to Ryan at the hospital?! there's no way they didn't hear and even if they didn't, they obvi know Julie and i feel it's in their character to step in when shit like that happens, esp when it's another adult doing that to their child!<

just watched it and it topped fave romcoms for the year hands down holy shit

anyone watch this show? i already streamed all of it and would like to discuss lol

my old lifetime dentist doesn't take medi-cal so now i have to find someone new! any recs? haven't been to the dentist in a few years due to insurance issue and need treatment for TMJ disorder as well as routine dental care

for context, i went to a top 50 school for undergrad, worked in research/data analytics mostly in public education and dabbled in 2 FAANG companies over the last 8 years. it's been extra rough recenlty so i was like fuck it lets do grad school. thought about CS, but with AI, i'd rather do a more social science ISH masters

anyway, would just love to know where folks are who have a masters in engineering management! what did you do before, what are you diong now, how was the program for you and did it help you with finding jobs, staying employed even when experiencing layoffs (finding jobs quickly etc) and having a decent/bare minimum livable salary etc

i was thinking of doing the MSCS, but i don't need as much of the technical coursework for my career and there isn't an ideal program so now i'm thinking maybe the ME-EM will do

are there online forums or communities at all for the program similar to the OMSCS?

what are your current or prospective careers and why did you choose this program?

if you're alum, how successful was this in achieving your goals and elevating you professionally since you now have a masters?

how are the professors? how's the general curriculum and overall experience?

any general tips etc are also much appreciated!

HAHAHAH i know drunk foods don't have to mean no healthy grubs, but i've found that i always need to make my shrooms the day of or next day. so i wouldn't possibly be able to have the shrooms when i get home from the club drunk and then manage to put mushrooms in something lol. let alone cut up a ton of veggies and prepare some nice grubs lol but thats just me

i'm doing a rewatch and i'm wondering if they saved up and purchased the home by themselves, received help with down payment, or inherited the house from family?

i don't think it's ever mentioned and at this point i'm in the later seasons

also idk when they purchased the home either. we know they ROUGHLY had DJ at 20, Steph at 25, and Michelle at 29. so that added significant expenses, and i'm ASSUMING Pam was a SAHM once the kids were born but if not we have no idea what she did or how they kids were taken care of beforehand. the SAHM seems most plausible, otherwise Danny wouldn't have needed Jesse and Joey to disrupt their lives and suddenly move in with him because whoever was helping him before would have just continued watching the girls probably just more frequently

i don't know if he ever mentions experiencing significant financial burden or anything. i know he prob got life insurance after Pam died, but still that will only help so much. yes he prob made a decent amount of money, but was it enough to maintain an upper middle class lifestyle for 3 daughters alone and own a pricey home?

yes at first Jesse and Joey don't pay rent and costs are 'subsidized' for them in exchange for caring for the girls and household for free and that ends quickly when their careers take off/get more stable, but still!

i know it's been bad for AWHILE. i haven't been in a serious long term relationship since end of 2022

i'm born and raised in the bay and have been here most of my life. i guess it could be bc i'm older now (30), but i feel like it's been god awful for awhile now. i don't meet people as often, and when i do (IRL no apps), they will act like they're interested and then ghost or come up with some stupid emotional unavailability a couple weeks in

i feel like men weren't as bad before but now i feel like all i'm dealing with is god awful men... i know there are some other dating posts in this sub, so apologies for the redundancy

i'm feeling super discouraged and bummed out. i'd essentially mostly opted out of dating because it's dangerous for women and becausethe options are horrible i'd honestly rather be alone. but every once in awhile, i'm only human and want companionship and to be planning a life with someone

i planned to quit a few weeks ago. it's been mostly going well, smoked a couple here n there when i saw friends. but otherwise it was pretty easy. except i smoked a lot tonight. i'm about to get my period and thats always the hardest time to resist

i've found optimism in how easy it was to just stop in general. so i think a blip here n there is okay and that i'm still on a good journey to properly quitting. i thought i would be okay being around typical temptations, clearly not. so i will now stay away for a few weeks or even months if need be to properly quit

any motivations are much appreciated!!

i'm 30 and was a casual social smoker/passive smoker for many years since early 20s and in last couple years due to dating a smoker it got worse. i already always planned to quit at 30, but didnt plan to be smoking so much by this age. i know cancer is hard to decipher at this age, so i just wanna be healthy in general so i can live on many years from now

basically ive been mostly entirely sober since december. the cigs slower than the drinking, but nonetheless. was completely sober for a minute there

i let myself have 'one night' where i go all out

it's so easy to be entirely sober now after somewhat limiting and then going fully sober. now i'm having a surprisingly adverse affect where i'm thinking, if not zero, how do i manage? any and all tips much appreciated!

i know it was in the episode where the time ghost guy takes him back in time etc, but i thought that their moment was outside of that and i thought it would carry on in future episodes

she's known since early s1 and i'm surprised they don't let her be in the know by s2 a few eps in tbh. i was really hoping we would know

i watched the show on tv as a kid and am rewatching now, so i really don't remember what goes on after lol. sometimes i'll have my memory jumped when i'm watching episodes but for the most part not really