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What is something that gives you a purpose in life? How do you find meaning in your life these days? What makes you want to get up everyday and enjoy your day?

Or is life just supposed to feel completely meaningless at our age?

Looking for answers that can help me a little.

I have tried everything under the sun to lose weight but nothing works. Anything I do, it just makes me more obsessed with food and my weight. I have noticed tho, that if I do intuitive eating and stop obsessing over my calorie intake and weight loss, then I don’t spiral out and binge for a few weeks.

But even intuitive eating isn’t something I can do consecutively without binging after some time, as I again start the cycle of obsession and calorie counting. I think exercise works well for me too, but it’s only a short term solution to a long term problem.

So how were you guys able to stop your obsession with food and eat and think in a normal way, as other normal people do. What was the strategy or the
mindset shift? It’s been exactly a decade since I have been trying to lose weight (I lose and gain the same weight again and again, and that too within a few months, which led to my extreme hyper fixation on food)

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live my life without waking up everyday and strategising how
I’m gonna stay in a calorie deficit today to lose weight (which I ultimately fail at). Honestly, any advice and/or life story is welcome at this point.

I have tried everything under the sun to lose weight but nothing works. Anything I do, it just makes me more obsessed with food and my weight. I have noticed tho, that if I do intuitive eating and stop obsessing over my calorie intake and weight loss, then I don’t spiral out and binge for a few weeks.

But even intuitive eating isn’t something I can do consecutively without binging after some time, as I again start the cycle of obsession and calorie counting. I think exercise works well for me too, but it’s only a short term solution to a long term problem.

So how were you guys able to stop your obsession with food and eat and think in a normal way, as other normal people do. What was the strategy or the
mindset shift? It’s been exactly a decade since I have been trying to lose weight (I lose and gain the same weight again and again, and that too within a few months, which led to my extreme hyper fixation on food)

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live my life without waking up everyday and strategising how
I’m gonna stay in a calorie deficit today to lose weight (which I ultimately fail at). Honestly, any advice and/or life story is welcome at this point.

I have tried everything under the sun to lose weight but nothing works. Anything I do, it just makes me more obsessed with food and my weight. I have noticed tho, that if I do intuitive eating and stop obsessing over my calorie intake and weight loss, then I don’t spiral out and binge for a few weeks.

But even intuitive eating isn’t something I can do consecutively without binging after some time, as I again start the cycle of obsession and calorie counting. I think exercise works well for me too, but it’s only a short term solution to a long term problem.

So how were you guys able to stop your obsession with food and eat and think in a normal way, as other normal people do. What was the strategy or the
mindset shift? It’s been exactly a decade since I have been trying to lose weight (I lose and gain the same weight again and again, and that too within a few months, which led to my extreme hyper fixation on food)

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live my life without waking up everyday and strategising how
I’m gonna stay in a calorie deficit today to lose weight (which I ultimately fail at). Honestly, any advice and/or life story is welcome at this point.

I have tried everything under the sun to lose weight but nothing works. Anything I do, it just makes me more obsessed with food and my weight. I have noticed tho, that if I do intuitive eating and stop obsessing over my calorie intake and weight loss, then I don’t spiral out and binge for a few weeks.

But even intuitive eating isn’t something I can do consecutively without binging after some time, as I again start the cycle of obsession and calorie counting. I think exercise works well for me too, but it’s only a short term solution to a long term problem.

So how were you guys able to stop your obsession with food and eat and think in a normal way, as other normal people do. What was the strategy or the
mindset shift? It’s been exactly a decade since I have been trying to lose weight (I lose and gain the same weight again and again, and that too within a few months, which led to my extreme hyper fixation on food)

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live my life without waking up everyday and strategising how
I’m gonna stay in a calorie deficit today to lose weight (which I ultimately fail at). Honestly, any advice and/or life story is welcome at this point.

I have tried everything under the sun to lose weight but nothing works. Anything I do, it just makes me more obsessed with food and my weight. I have noticed tho, that if I do intuitive eating and stop obsessing over my calorie intake and weight loss, then I don’t spiral out and binge for a few weeks.

But even intuitive eating isn’t something I can do consecutively without binging after some time, as I again start the cycle of obsession and calorie counting. I think exercise works well for me too, but it’s only a short term solution to a long term problem.

So how were you guys able to stop your obsession with food and eat and think in a normal way, as other normal people do. What was the strategy or the
mindset shift? It’s been exactly a decade since I have been trying to lose weight (I lose and gain the same weight again and again, and that too within a few months, which led to my extreme hyper fixation on food)

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live my life without waking up everyday and strategising how
I’m gonna stay in a calorie deficit today to lose weight (which I ultimately fail at). Honestly, any advice and/or life story is welcome at this point.

Hello. I’m looking for a male orange cat and a female black cat to adopt. If anyone has any available, please reach out to me. My location is Islamabad.

Hello. I’m looking for a male orange cat and a female black cat to adopt. If anyone has any available, please reach out to me. My location is Islamabad.

So I’m a 24 year old female whose parents have been looking for rishtey since the past 2 and a half years. In the first 2 years, I of course vehemently resisted them, but unfortunately that would only disrupt my home life and everyone in it, including my parents and siblings, and my mental health of course. So in the past 6 months, I decided to accept a friend’s advice and to let my parents be, let them do what they want and I’ll just do as I wish. They can invite whoever they want, and I’ll just reject them later as I don’t wanna get married for now.

So for the past 2 and a half years, since I never liked the arranged marriage way and the rishtey my parents brought, I decided to look on my own too, but so far, that hasn’t worked out. I didn’t want to look for any rishtey by myself or through my parents, but unfortunately my hands were tied and perhaps that’s why so far, I haven’t been able to find anyone as the men could probably sense my urgency and lack of interest in marriage.

The thing is, I went to a psychiatrist 6 months ago and am on antidepressants right now, and also need to take sleeping pills just to sleep as the stress is eating me alive. I can’t sleep, my eating habits are bizarre, I can’t focus on my career or my goals. Most of all, I have no sense of identity left, and go through frequent mood swings and extreme outbursts of anger around anyone and everyone whenever even the rishta process is remotely mentioned around me. I have seen so many families and talked to so many men (though they were only talking stages that barely lasted a few days to a week), my head has gotten completely messed up.

The reason this is happening is because my parents are under the belief that in Pakistan, women expire after 26 in regards of marriage, and then their options are limited once they cross that age as they are only left to marry divorced men, men twice their age, or men who have some serious issues with themselves.

I can understand where they are coming from, as I’m seeing this happening around me, as are my parents, and they are also kinda conservative and backward minded people as all desi parents are, which is why we are all worried. But at some point, I guess a parent should have the decency to understand when to put their children first, and when to not bow down to societal pressure.

My psychiatrist told me that I should tell my parents to stop, as it’s triggering me really bad, that I should have a sincere talk with them and let them know my issues.

I don’t even recognise myself anymore. My personality in the past 2 years has drastically changed, and I have completely lost myself. I see some women around me who marry after 27 or 28 and are happy and fine in their marriages, but my parents aren’t willing to take that risk.

I have asked my psychiatrist to increase my dose of medications as i can’t fucking cope without them anymore. Anytime I forget my pills, I get extreme suicidal thoughts as I don’t see a way out of this except through suicide. I have talked to my parents in more way than one, countless of times, told them all about my issues, fought with them, gotten advice from multiple people. I even posted here before to get advice but nothing worked. Every time I bring up the fact that I’m not ready for marriage and just wanna focus on my career, they fucking lose their shit and emotionally blackmail me.

I don’t wanna get married right now. I’m not mature enough for it. I don’t even want to think about it. I wanna get married after 27 or 28, not right now. But I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to do or what language my stupid parents will understand so they will finally leave me alone and let me be until I’m ready for marriage. I mean it’s my fucking life, I should be able to decide when and who I wanna marry, not them just cause they are my parents.

I don’t see any way out. I used to do so well before this all started. Now I have become a shell of a person compared to what I was before. I can’t get out of bed or motivate myself to do anything from the past 2 years. My life as I see it is not in my hands anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. So I’m posting here again to reach out for help. Any type of help or advice is welcome.

So I’m a 24 year old female whose parents have been looking for rishtey since the past 2 and a half years. In the first 2 years, I of course vehemently resisted them, but unfortunately that would only disrupt my home life and everyone in it, including my parents and siblings, and my mental health of course. So in the past 6 months, I decided to accept a friend’s advice and to let my parents be, let them do what they want and I’ll just do as I wish. They can invite whoever they want, and I’ll just reject them later as I don’t wanna get married for now.

So for the past 2 and a half years, since I never liked the arranged marriage way and the rishtey my parents brought, I decided to look on my own too, but so far, that hasn’t worked out. I didn’t want to look for any rishtey by myself or through my parents, but unfortunately my hands were tied and perhaps that’s why so far, I haven’t been able to find anyone as the men could probably sense my urgency and lack of interest in marriage.

The thing is, I went to a psychiatrist 6 months ago and am on antidepressants right now, and also need to take sleeping pills just to sleep as the stress is eating me alive. I can’t sleep, my eating habits are bizarre, I can’t focus on my career or my goals. Most of all, I have no sense of identity left, and go through frequent mood swings and extreme outbursts of anger around anyone and everyone whenever even the rishta process is remotely mentioned around me. I have seen so many families and talked to so many men (though they were only talking stages that barely lasted a few days to a week), my head has gotten completely messed up.

The reason this is happening is because my parents are under the belief that in Pakistan, women expire after 26 in regards of marriage, and then their options are limited once they cross that age as they are only left to marry divorced men, men twice their age, or men who have some serious issues with themselves.

I can understand where they are coming from, as I’m seeing this happening around me, as are my parents, and they are also kinda conservative and backward minded people as all desi parents are, which is why we are all worried. But at some point, I guess a parent should have the decency to understand when to put their children first, and when to not bow down to societal pressure.

My psychiatrist told me that I should tell my parents to stop, as it’s triggering me really bad, that I should have a sincere talk with them and let them know my issues.

I don’t even recognise myself anymore. My personality in the past 2 years has drastically changed, and I have completely lost myself. I see some women around me who marry after 27 or 28 and are happy and fine in their marriages, but my parents aren’t willing to take that risk.

I have asked my psychiatrist to increase my dose of medications as i can’t fucking cope without them anymore. Anytime I forget my pills, I get extreme suicidal thoughts as I don’t see a way out of this except through suicide. I have talked to my parents in more way than one, countless of times, told them all about my issues, fought with them, gotten advice from multiple people. I even posted here before to get advice but nothing worked. Every time I bring up the fact that I’m not ready for marriage and just wanna focus on my career, they fucking lose their shit and emotionally blackmail me.

I don’t wanna get married right now. I’m not mature enough for it. I don’t even want to think about it. I wanna get married after 27 or 28, not right now. But I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to do or what language my stupid parents will understand so they will finally leave me alone and let me be until I’m ready for marriage. I mean it’s my fucking life, I should be able to decide when and who I wanna marry, not them just cause they are my parents.

I don’t see any way out. I used to do so well before this all started. Now I have become a shell of a person compared to what I was before. I can’t get out of bed or motivate myself to do anything from the past 2 years. My life as I see it is not in my hands anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. So I’m posting here again to reach out for help. Any type of help or advice is welcome.

So I’m a 24 year old female whose parents have been looking for rishtey since the past 2 and a half years. In the first 2 years, I of course vehemently resisted them, but unfortunately that would only disrupt my home life and everyone in it, including my parents and siblings, and my mental health of course. So in the past 6 months, I decided to accept a friend’s advice and to let my parents be, let them do what they want and I’ll just do as I wish. They can invite whoever they want, and I’ll just reject them later as I don’t wanna get married for now.

So for the past 2 and a half years, since I never liked the arranged marriage way and the rishtey my parents brought, I decided to look on my own too, but so far, that hasn’t worked out. I didn’t want to look for any rishtey by myself or through my parents, but unfortunately my hands were tied and perhaps that’s why so far, I haven’t been able to find anyone as the men could probably sense my urgency and lack of interest in marriage.

The thing is, I went to a psychiatrist 6 months ago and am on antidepressants right now, and also need to take sleeping pills just to sleep as the stress is eating me alive. I can’t sleep, my eating habits are bizarre, I can’t focus on my career or my goals. Most of all, I have no sense of identity left, and go through frequent mood swings and extreme outbursts of anger around anyone and everyone whenever even the rishta process is remotely mentioned around me. I have seen so many families and talked to so many men (though they were only talking stages that barely lasted a few days to a week), my head has gotten completely messed up.

The reason this is happening is because my parents are under the belief that in Pakistan, women expire after 26 in regards of marriage, and then their options are limited once they cross that age as they are only left to marry divorced men, men twice their age, or men who have some serious issues with themselves.

I can understand where they are coming from, as I’m seeing this happening around me, as are my parents, and they are also kinda conservative and backward minded people as all desi parents are, which is why we are all worried. But at some point, I guess a parent should have the decency to understand when to put their children first, and when to not bow down to societal pressure.

My psychiatrist told me that I should tell my parents to stop, as it’s triggering me really bad, that I should have a sincere talk with them and let them know my issues.

I don’t even recognise myself anymore. My personality in the past 2 years has drastically changed, and I have completely lost myself. I see some women around me who marry after 27 or 28 and are happy and fine in their marriages, but my parents aren’t willing to take that risk.

I have asked my psychiatrist to increase my dose of medications as i can’t fucking cope without them anymore. Anytime I forget my pills, I get extreme suicidal thoughts as I don’t see a way out of this except through suicide. I have talked to my parents in more way than one, countless of times, told them all about my issues, fought with them, gotten advice from multiple people. I even posted here before to get advice but nothing worked. Every time I bring up the fact that I’m not ready for marriage and just wanna focus on my career, they fucking lose their shit and emotionally blackmail me.

I don’t wanna get married right now. I’m not mature enough for it. I don’t even want to think about it. I wanna get married after 27 or 28, not right now. But I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to do or what language my stupid parents will understand so they will finally leave me alone and let me be until I’m ready for marriage. I mean it’s my fucking life, I should be able to decide when and who I wanna marry, not them just cause they are my parents.

I don’t see any way out. I used to do so well before this all started. Now I have become a shell of a person compared to what I was before. I can’t get out of bed or motivate myself to do anything from the past 2 years. My life as I see it is not in my hands anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. So I’m posting here again to reach out for help. Any type of help or advice is welcome.

So I’m a 24 year old female whose parents have been looking for rishtey since the past 2 and a half years. In the first 2 years, I of course vehemently resisted them, but unfortunately that would only disrupt my home life and everyone in it, including my parents and siblings, and my mental health of course. So in the past 6 months, I decided to accept a friend’s advice and to let my parents be, let them do what they want and I’ll just do as I wish. They can invite whoever they want, and I’ll just reject them later as I don’t wanna get married for now.

So for the past 2 and a half years, since I never liked the arranged marriage way and the rishtey my parents brought, I decided to look on my own too, but so far, that hasn’t worked out. I didn’t want to look for any rishtey by myself or through my parents, but unfortunately my hands were tied and perhaps that’s why so far, I haven’t been able to find anyone as the men could probably sense my urgency and lack of interest in marriage.

The thing is, I went to a psychiatrist 6 months ago and am on antidepressants right now, and also need to take sleeping pills just to sleep as the stress is eating me alive. I can’t sleep, my eating habits are bizarre, I can’t focus on my career or my goals. Most of all, I have no sense of identity left, and go through frequent mood swings and extreme outbursts of anger around anyone and everyone whenever even the rishta process is remotely mentioned around me. I have seen so many families and talked to so many men (though they were only talking stages that barely lasted a few days to a week), my head has gotten completely messed up.

The reason this is happening is because my parents are under the belief that in Pakistan, women expire after 26 in regards of marriage, and then their options are limited once they cross that age as they are only left to marry divorced men, men twice their age, or men who have some serious issues with themselves.

I can understand where they are coming from, as I’m seeing this happening around me, as are my parents, and they are also kinda conservative and backward minded people as all desi parents are, which is why we are all worried. But at some point, I guess a parent should have the decency to understand when to put their children first, and when to not bow down to societal pressure.

My psychiatrist told me that I should tell my parents to stop, as it’s triggering me really bad, that I should have a sincere talk with them and let them know my issues.

I don’t even recognise myself anymore. My personality in the past 2 years has drastically changed, and I have completely lost myself. I see some women around me who marry after 27 or 28 and are happy and fine in their marriages, but my parents aren’t willing to take that risk.

I have asked my psychiatrist to increase my dose of medications as i can’t fucking cope without them anymore. Anytime I forget my pills, I get extreme suicidal thoughts as I don’t see a way out of this except through suicide. I have talked to my parents in more way than one, countless of times, told them all about my issues, fought with them, gotten advice from multiple people. I even posted here before to get advice but nothing worked. Every time I bring up the fact that I’m not ready for marriage and just wanna focus on my career, they fucking lose their shit and emotionally blackmail me.

I don’t wanna get married right now. I’m not mature enough for it. I don’t even want to think about it. I wanna get married after 27 or 28, not right now. But I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to do or what language my stupid parents will understand so they will finally leave me alone and let me be until I’m ready for marriage. I mean it’s my fucking life, I should be able to decide when and who I wanna marry, not them just cause they are my parents.

I don’t see any way out. I used to do so well before this all started. Now I have become a shell of a person compared to what I was before. I can’t get out of bed or motivate myself to do anything from the past 2 years. My life as I see it is not in my hands anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. So I’m posting here again to reach out for help. Any type of help or advice is welcome.