u/Technical-Future-466

Items like basal tempature thermometer, ovulation strips , but maybe some things I've never heard of.

I am so disgusted. I was logging into my FASA account to see if there were any updates for me to be able to start college this year and I saw that in 2015 , I was granted $5775.00 and was never told about it. I only remember getting abused because my mother's husband tried to take the money in cash but they couldn't because they found out that it's grant money , and if unused , it just goes back to the government. I didn't know I was given that much money for college because my mother pretended to be my guardian per SSI , she pretended I was too stupid to do anything for myself. She has manged to withhold this information from me for a decade. So a few minutes after finding out , I blocked her on social media for good. Actually, for good. I am so turned off of ever wanting to reconcile with my mother anymore. She has truly ruined it for the very last time and she doesn't even know. I will never speak to this woman again. This is disgusting. I am SO grossed out that anyone could do this to their own child.

6 months into when I was 19 , my mother forced me to drop out of college and I didn't want to be abused and bullied so I just complied.

Her husband made her force me to do this.

She never told me that I was awarded $5775 by FAFSA for school back then.

Today I log into my FAFSA account because I've decided I'm ready to go back to college. At this point I already haven't seen my mother in 4 years. At this point my mother has stolen an additional $100,000 from me in SSI , work checks plus hundreds of dollars that her son stole from me and my husband because he was logged into our Amazon account at one point.

I'm turning 30 in 6 months. So I log into FAFSA to check on any current updates and I don't see any but I DO see that in 2015 I was given $5755.00 for college.

I was never told about this. All I know was that I was bullied severely by my mother and her husband after the fact. The entire 6 months I was bullied and abused over some fucking money. I just blocked my mother a few minutes ago. I am not confronting her about this. Her husband died last year.

Hi my family hasn't seen me in four years and whenever I think maybe I should reconcile with them I literally become physically sick and my body and brain "freeze" Bec my body is literally telling me No. Don't go back. Don't see those people ever again in your life.

I just think it's interesting how your body PROTECTS you when it doesn't want something. That is the best way I can explain it for now.

I would seriously love to be able to answer these questions. Ask me everything.

Would really appreciate it. TIA.

When I was 19 I got an exact copy of a tattoo that my dad had , dad passed away when I was 21. Even though I haven't actually liked the tattoo for years since then , I made a vow to keep the tattoo to spite my mother's husband and remind him that he will never be my dad.

My mother's husband was abusive to everyone around him , he was an admitted pedo who never served any prison time. He passed of a brain aneurysm last year. My mother protected him from the law for 15 years , but she couldn't stop me from purposely pissing him and declaring him my lifelong opp off until the day I went no contact in 2022 and they never saw me again.

I've been pregnant twice back to back and you can't get tattoos when you're pregnant so now that I know I'm not pregnant currently , I am going to a tattoo shop today to make plans to cover up the dreaded tattoo.

It's time to get rid of my dead dad's tattoo and take care of my mental health.

Another good thing about this is when I post the new tattoo coverup on social media it will really piss off my family , who's only link to me is reminding me that "technically" they're my blood. I do believe they're counting on me to feel bad for cutting them off at some point , and me covering up our dad's tattoo will just be one more message to them that I am taking huge steps away from them.

This is a good one , I promise. Read on.

So when I was 19 , I got a disability based grant so I could go to college. I was in college for about 5 months when my mother's now deceased husband decided that I was going to drop out of college so the money could be better used elsewhere than on me getting an education.

My mother allowed him to do this to me .

she enforced it and bullied me after the fact not to tell anyone about it because she would be attacked if anyone knew.

It's been 11 years. Today I filled out a FAFSA form and applied to college. I will be going back and getting a degree. They tried , but they couldn't take anything away from me. I haven't seen my mother in 4 years , I REFUSE to let her near me , and her husband passed away last year. Everything they THOUGHT they took away from me , I am taking back.

And now my mother will never see my success , or my family , everything I will have regardless of what she took away from me.

My MILS husband earns a lot of money per year. Personally I've seen more money on a table at a party full of gang members when I was a kid.

However my MIL likes talking shit about her son and how he doesn't wanna work at a "better job" to "earn more money" so we can "have nicer things"

My husband provides for me and our daughter just fine and I have no complaints.

She just sent me a message talking about money saying that she doesn't understand why my husband won't get a job with his stepdad and "maybe one day he will wake up" . She also just texted me about the "25 year old kid who bought the house across the street" AGAIN. Nobody was even talking to her about money. She started it out of the blue a few minutes ago. Her and her husband are in debt and have several unpaid bills. Nobody cares how much money they earn , they literally OWE a LOT of money and I look at the mail as we all live together. I can see the stacks upon stacks of letters of unpaid bills that my MIL and her husband both owe , but the problem in her eyes is that my husband won't get a labor union job.

I wanted to come post about how my 56 or 57 year old mother is presenting after her husbands death. They were married for 15 years until he passed away in 2025.

So after that I'm like okay well now you're gonna apologize for even being married to him , right? Because as your child that's what I deserve. Well , she didn't. Instead she played victim and played the grieving widow.

She acted like she was the widow of an abuse man when she acted participated in the abuse , took it for 15 years and forced everyone to suffer through it.

Nobody should have to wonder if they wake up one random day and their mother isn't alive anymore but constantly refuses to leave the person who could literally unalive her.

Her and her husband did a lot of evil things to a lot of people , actually. They begged and stole when they could've both just gotten jobs. They were a huge drain on me and my siblings and her husbands family as well.

So I'm waiting for her to say what she should say : I acknowledge what me being Married to him did to you and I am so sorry I put you through that

Nothing. She's proud she was married to this man.

And I used to think after he died I would get my mother back. I don't even want her anymore especially with how much of an innocent victim she's been pretending she is since his death. Anything that I say about them is a "false accusation" and I'm crazy and "making it up"

Except now at every single family gathering she has she has to make up a reason why she's so upset I'm not there.

Even now I'm thinking aren't you gonna come out with a public confession that you and your husband were horrible parents and horrible people and that your kids have severe mental trauma bec of you??

I mean , that's the LEAST she can do.

I'm wondering why she wouldn't do voluntary character assassination just to save her relationship with me . Care about saving face with ME, not the entire world.

I've seen videos of her since her husband passed away. She's still the same evil she was white he was alive. She has not changed. She has not weakened. She was on video threatening to abuse her 4 year old grandson , screaming at him. (The kids mother was standing right there watching) Thank God I saw that video , because now I know that even her husbands death wouldn't even make her change.

For years and years , I was all she had and now she will never see me again.

If your parent has a spouse and you're thinking the spouse is the problem, they'll change and become my mom/ dad again after that person they're married to dies : no. Bec after they die , your parent will become someone that you hate. After years of abuse and sucking the life out of you , they will pander to the public as an unfortunate, sad widow. I didn't get my mother back and I don't want her back. But most of all having to face that she's a horrible person whether or not she's married to her husband.

I 29f have been hard of hearing since I was 3. My mother explanation was that it was the Drs fault because he kept rescheduling the surgery I needed to drain fluid from my ears. Dr said I had a runny nose. So I asked my mother why didn't she just make sure I didn't have a runny nose anymore so I could get the surgery? I'm your child . It's not that hard to make sure I get necessary medical care. Anyways she ended up telling me that it's because she hates me and she was right to hate me because I don't like the fact that her mother allowed her to be SA'd by her stepdad. I actually disowned her mother when I learned what she did to her own daughter and upon learning that I was very spiteful towards her mother for letting her own daughter be SA'd and watching it and staying with that man after the fact ...my mother promptly disowned me as her daughter and never really loved me afterwards like normal people love their kids

She denied me

Basic survival

Mental health improvements such as therapy and being a better parent to me

Dental health and checkups

And medical health and checkups

So I went to an audiologist appt yesterday with my husband and daughter and the Dr told me that I have a profound deafness, I only have %3 of my hearing. I told her that my hearing loss was due to medical neglect on my mother's part.

I cannot believe my own mother would do this to me. If I thought my baby had a problem I would run as fast as I I could to the Dr to fix it.

I would never do to my kids or spouse what my own mother did to me.

I am never going to tell her about this , I have her blocked , and I don't need problems with her and her family.

Hi , I haven't seen my family since 2022. And I live with my husbands family. Nh husband and I are married with one child and largely since 2023 after a slip up when I became pregnant with my daughter I realized that my priority should be protecting my new family instead of waking up everyday to expose the family I came down for everything they did to me. I am mentally freer , I'm settled , I know I made the right decision but something just keeps eating at me about it especially since my half sister messaged me on mother's Day indicating that she knows absolutely NOTHING about why I stay away from my family , she probably just thinks I'm doing it for fun. The truth is if I didn't get away when I did , I might be completely mentally gone right now had i not gotten pregnant with my second baby and decided to finally let my husband marry me.

I wanted to know if anyone else is struggling with having to stay away from their families AND also not talk about everything thier families put them through just to keep your new family safe. I don't want anyone harrassing my husband's family so I've been keeping my mouth shut since 2023. This is exactly what they wanted and they got it , and I'm finally free of them and the weight of constantly thinking someone's gonna bust down my door and try to fight me for telling the entire internet what they did to me.

Still something's eating away at me about staying silent about this but my silence is literally keeping me and my family and my husband's family safe from my family's wrath so it's wierd and I don't know why I'm even having the "its eating away at me feeling" since keeping quiet is literally saving my life and my standing in my husband's family as a good wife and mom who doesn't bring trouble around.

On mother's day when my half sister told me in a message "maybe someday we can all get together"

And I just didn't answer the message.

Knowing how abusive my family is it was best that I didn't even respond. My half sister , she's stupid. She wants a family so badly she doesn't even want to admit how evil they are. I don't want any problems with these people and I don't want them harrassing me and my husbands family so I just don't say anything bad about them.

I haven't seen my family in 4 years and I never will again.

Half sister doesn't know what they all did to me , including my mother and her husband.

All SHE knows is everyone told her they miss me , but nobody talks about why I don't come around anymore and neither do I , Bec I don't need anyone harrassing me at my husband's familys home over "false accusations" I made about them.

When she told me that "maybe someday we can all get together" with a heart and a smiley face I wanted to tell her the truth so badly. I wanted to say NO , none of you will ever see me again. I went no contact for a reason. I don't just purposely avoid my entire family FOR FUN. But she would've started a fight with them. She would've shown them the messages. And I'm just not evil like that. I wasn't going to ruin anyone's mother's day and make my family get into a fight. this has really been blowing me since then. I can't stand the entire situation especially the part where she tries to reunite me with a family I'm OBVIOUSLY staying away from just because she's been sucked into their bullshit.

And I was like you know what , yeah . It is . I hadn't thought of that. Because usually you're so focused on what a shitty parent they are and why , you haven't even realized how LUCKY you are that they just walked out of your life. No harassing and bullying you and your family and your spouses family. She just gave up. I am INCREDIBLY lucky. I do realize that. I am actually VERY happy that this is the case.

I'm a very happy girl after realizing that perspective.

So far , no drama over here.

Half sister said she was at my mother's house for mother's bday but nobody else has attempted to reach out to me .

Mother messaged me earlier today to say happy mother's day , her first message the month of May.