
Any advice on swim diapers?
We are going to a public pool and I’m not sure what to buy? Disposables? Reusable? They are 4 1/2 months so probably won’t be back in a pool before they size up.
Thanks.

We are going to a public pool and I’m not sure what to buy? Disposables? Reusable? They are 4 1/2 months so probably won’t be back in a pool before they size up.
Thanks.
Trader Joe’s Bulgogli
Mushroom and broccoli
Follow Your Heart Blue cheeze dressing and crumbles.
This was better than I expected!
Today is my birthday. ❤️
On my 21st birthday, I went vegan. Until I had my twins this year, it was the most important decision I’d ever made.
I’m incredibly grateful not only for the amazing vegan friends who have encouraged, taught, and inspired me over the years, and for the guys I’ve dated who made special “vegan only” shelves in their kitchens for me—and, on a few occasions, even went vegan with me—but also for my understanding, and honestly incredibly generous, family.
Especially my mom.
From day one, she was all in. It happened so quickly I never even had to ask. Every time I came home, she’d veganize whatever she could. At Thanksgiving that meant stuffing, mashed potatoes, mushroom gravy, pie…the list goes on. She never made me feel like an inconvenience.
Once, early on, she got into an argument at a health food store over whether vegans could eat the cocoa *butter in a candy bar she was buying for me. 😂 We’ve all learned so much!!
On random visits I’d find my favorite freezer foods, mayo, and other staples waiting in the fridge. She makes French onion dip with *my* sour cream and still reads ingredient labels almost as fast as we do.
I realize how uncommon that kind of support is. I know so many vegans have had very different experiences with the people closest to them.
It was a little different 2 decades ago. I honestly didn’t think I could make the jump from pescatarian (though I’d tell people I was vegetarian). It wasn’t until I met someone who had been vegan for over 10 years—and had all the things I wanted: a partner, a child, a career, and a life full of travel—that I realized it was possible and got the confidence to do the damn thing.
So on both my BIRTHDAY and my VEGAN ANNIVERSARY, I’m especially grateful—not just for the over half a life of being vegan, but for everyone who quietly made those years so much easier❣️
In the picture is a vegan version so bastardized we’ve turned it into a kind of southwestern cheezy dip. The recipe also makes a great omelette if you follow it more closely.
I put all kinds of things in it. Rice/beans/potatoes. Soycurls/tempeh.
It’s my birthday and I’ll pump when I want to…
Pump when I want to…
Pump when I want to…
Just kidding, I’ll pump when I’m supposed to.
LOL 😂
I turn 43 today. As a single mom I’m so incredibly happy to have these littles to celebrate with this year.
What spoons are you using? I’m not prepared, they are 4 months so I’m surprised, and very excited, to introduce foods! I’m thinking bamboo bowls because they don’t hold heat or smells??
I think I want to avoid cereal, did anyone start with soft steamed veggies they can hold like broccoli? It’s mostly for fun now anyways, right?
I’m thinking steamed veggies, avocado, tofu, nut and seed butters (one at a time and spaced out). What about things like pickles? Too much salt?
I had a goal: pump 60 ounces in 24 hours.
Today, with my twins exactly 4m, 1w, and 1d old, I pumped 60.36 ounces.
Yesterday I pumped 48.69 ounces, so I’m definitely not expecting this to become my new normal. My 30-day average is 52.08 ounces, every day I hit 50, I breathe a little easier.
It’s never been and won’t become enough to exclusively breastfeed my kids, but I’m incredibly proud of it.
I’m proud that I stuck with the hours every day and every night. Most people never see the work behind the bottles.
No one in my everyday life is likely to understand why today feels like such a big deal, but I know many of you will.
So today I’m celebrating!
And while I’m at it: good job to every one of you who keeps showing up and pumping. Whether you made drops or donated some today, this is hard work, and it deserves to be recognized.💕
I just sized down for the 5th time and I’m not sure but the 15 mm might be too tight? I THINK my output is lower but it’s been 3 pumps. The nipples are sliding in the tube but it is super tight. And my lower output nipple is spraying like I’ve never seen. It also feels much more aggressive?? It’s far less pleasant than the 17 mm. It’s messed up but I’m willing to be this uncomfortable if it’s doing a better job. My output fluctuates so I’m worried if I try the 17 next pump and get a larger yield it’ll be circumstantial and I should be where I am…
Pumping is the loneliest thing I’ve ever done.
The other day a close friend told me, “You chose to have these babies. Nobody owes you anything.”
This is a friend who, when my twins were born, told me to text her pictures of my milk output and she’d send back a gold star because she knew how invisible pumping felt. She then suggested I make myself more scarce in order for the house to be as comfortable as possible.
My twins turn 4 months old in a few days. I pump the equivalent of a part-time job every day and every night. What I hate is how completely unseen it is. I’m treated as too much. I do almost all the dishes and someone will complain about the parts or milk in the fridge. I pump and feed my twins alone in my room. I don’t talk about my body or complain. I just keep doing it.
I heard over and over that breast milk was the gold standard. That it mattered. That it was important. People told me women that didn’t nurse were lazy. Now that I’m actually doing it, the message seems to be: “Breast milk is great, but if it’s too much for you, do whatever you want.”
But —it’s not too much for me. I don’t make enough for two but I make way more than enough for one.
I can do hard things.
And I find myself wishing that one person who sees me every day would say:
“That thing you’re spending hours doing? That thing that structures your entire day and night? That thing nobody sees? It’s worthwhile. It matters. You’re doing a good job.”
I don’t need permission to quit. But I wish it wasn’t true that milk will ALWAYS provide benefits to these kids. Ugh!!!
The same world that told me breast milk is so important seems completely uninterested in the work required to make it happen.
Edit: PS. I’m also mad that my nipples keep changing. No one explained this to me. I’m downsizing falanges in the middle of the night for the 5the time in less than 4 months. This is insane. And the people around me see the delivery and are like ‘Oh you need something else, again?’… like I’m sending myself flowers.
Edit2: Thank you everyone, this is exactly the support I really hoped for last night when I was feeling so defeated.
Also, I responded to another twin mom with a pretty detailed description of how I feed and pump at the same time with a picture for some reference.
I was going to make this recipe but also had the crumbs at the bottom of a bag of soycurls and thought I’d just make twice the marinade and see if one was better than the other. Honestly the soycurls were better. I didn’t pre soak or coook them. I just made the marinade soupy enough to hydrate the curls and sprinkled on top of the pizza before baking. It’s very good.
The sheet pan has tofu blended and spread out to bake and I skipped cutting them into cute circles and crumbled instead.
I froze some tofu because I opened too many tubs for something and panicked I wouldn’t use it in time… I then remembered I dislike the texture of thawed tofu. I don’t think I’ve used it in over ten years. I remember in the beginning people said that spongy consistency was like chix or something… idk. Yuck! But it does absorb flavor and I wanted a BLT and hate wasting food so… I marinated for a day the fried in coconut oil then put basically a whole cube of tofu on one sandwich.
It was ok.
Have you ever as a sandwich that got better as you ate it? That was this experience.
I had twins three months ago and as a single mom I rarely get to sit and eat.
Broccoli sautéed with Zhoug
Balsamic and olive oil toast
Chix with blue cheeze
I’m really loving this!
When my little want held they insist I stand. Often they want to be walked but always insist I don’t sit down. I can stand still, exactly where I was sitting, holding them in the same position and the difference in altitude calms them??? REALLY?!!! It’s the one thing that drives me crazy. I’ve figured out how to hold them both sitting but even wearing one I can’t hold two standing (when I do I look like I’m sacrificing him, it’s transport only, not for comfort).
I’m not just venting, single mother, any advice would be welcomed!
I use dishes like these to clean out the fridge.
Bottom layer - Meat-y - an open bag of meatless meatballs and an open bag of veggie burgers made into grounds and seasoned with herbs and chili flakes
Middle layer - Cheeze-y - tofu, nutritional yeast, a bag of shreds, and all the open cheese like spreads I use for snacking or baking… whatever works
Top layer - Veg-y - I had a ton of mushrooms in the fridge and some frozen chopped spinach
I had open jars of sun dried tomatoes, Kalamata olives and capers, I roughly blended those with their juice and stirred it into cheep sauce and a can of diced tomatoes for texture. It made the most ridiculously delicious pasta sauce. OMG.
The new Morning Star wings (mehh..) and TJ gyoza.
Anyone know good and widely available wings?
I change these up every time but the basics are tofu, breakfast sausage, veggies, quinoa, beans, and cheeze.
These have broccoli, mushrooms, and onion.
These succulents are sentimental and most have died. I was down to one plant but stuck a few leaves in the dirt and kept it wet and have two new plants but the last two times I’ve tried the start died. Is there a more full proof way to propagate succulents? A leaf has torn and I’d like to use it if possible, also can I cut the top of the big one with more luck (I don’t like how it’s taller than bushy), and under a bottom leaf there is a sprout I’m considering using as a start?? Is any of this a good idea? Thanks for any advice❣️ (I have twin newborns and very little time or I would research this on my own or go to a nursery but this plant will die before I get to those options.)