Please keep the suggestions strictly to certificates, short training programs, or online skills. NOT college degrees.
I’m a mom in a small town and lately I’ve been feeling stuck. I keep thinking a move could help me mentally, financially, and just give me a better environment overall.
BUT, then I look around and most people I know, seem perfectly happy staying around here. I don’t understand it. It’s starting to make me question myself and wonder if I’m romanticizing moving too much.
lol & before anyone says you need therapy or moving won’t fix your mental healthI’ve already done the self-work. This isn’t some random impulse decision. I’ve been thinking, planning, researching, and saving for this for almost 2 years now.
I also understand the world is kind of going to shit right now lol, so I’m not expecting some magical perfect life. I just want a better environment, more opportunities, and a chance to grow instead of feeling stagnant all the time.
About 2 weeks ago, I bought a Honda from a small shady dealership for low, because I was trying to get something reliable. I’ve never bought a car from a dealership or a cash car for that matter. lso want to add that I really do not have much support when it comes to this stuff. I do have a godparent who has been trying to help me, but she kept telling me I needed to find a Honda or Toyota because they tend to last longer and hold their value better. Every time I would send her other cars I was considering, she would immediately shut them down. She’s also the type of person where if you don’t take her advice, she feels like, “Well, why should I help then?” I’m not saying that to bash her because she has helped me, but it definitely added pressure for me, though though she said she couldn’t find a time to come with me
So when I found one in my budget, I jumped on it because I was honestly DESPERATE for transportation.
The dealership already felt kind of shady, The dealership was in a rough area, and when I got there it was me and the person who drove me surrounded by a group of men, so honestly I already felt a little uncomfortable and overwhelmed walking into the situation but I ignored some red flags because I needed a car. And I thought I was getting a great deal. (Y’all I already know please don’t come for me in the comments)They told me they would send me the title, and at the time I didn’t really understand how salvage/rebuilt titles worked. I was under the impression the vehicle had already been rebuilt when I bought it.
And he would it mailed to me in my name. Stupid yes I freaking know 😞
After I left, I checked the Carfax and saw the vehicle was still showing salvage. (And yes, I know I should’ve done this prior. I’m fucking dumb). That’s when the rebuilt process was explained to me. I later contacted the clerk’s office myself, and they confirmed the car is still showing a salvage title and that the rebuilt process can take months.
The problem is I still do not have ANY title in hand at all. Communication from the dealership has also been very inconsistent. There’s even a different business name on the bill of sale versus other paperwork I received, which has made me even more confused.
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I know I may eventually have to go back out there to handle this situation in person, but honestly I’m nervous about going by myself. I don’t really have family members who can go with me, and I also don’t want to drag friends or family into the middle of all of this.
At this point I feel like I may have been misinformed or rushed into something I did not fully understand. I do like the car itself, but I’m uncomfortable not knowing when or if I’ll actually receive proper title paperwork.
How should I go about the situation and please don’t come in comment attack me. I know I fucked up very bad. I’m stupid. I understand that. I’m thinking I would have to take it to court, but I’m so damn embarrassed and may even lose because obviously a normal person would’ve walked away instantly.😞
I’m thinking about asking for a refund at this point. I was going to send multiple messages, but he hasn’t really been responding consistently. The only time he replied quickly was after I told him I contacted the clerk’s office, and then he asked me to call him.
Part of me feels like it’s smarter to keep everything through text/messages so there’s a clear record of what’s being said. I honestly don’t know what the best move is anymore. Should I try to fight this situation and wait it out, or should I just try to return the car and get my money back? I’ve already replaced a few simple parts like spark plugs, it needed a new air intake boot. And new power steering reservoir/fresh oil. I got a fresh oil change, air filters, and a complete diagnostic on it so that even works in his favor
I’m curious about things like:
job opportunities
cost of living
safety
diversity
making friends/community
things to do
whether it actually feels peaceful or just boring
if you feel stuck there or if it helped you grow in any ways.