u/aimtobelionhearted

How do you handle the fact we need a revolution so badly?

How do you deal with the frustration?

What steps are you taking in your life?

What steps can we take together?

We are so disconnected from humanity. I don't know how much more research we need to do before something radically changes.

I'm frustrated even typing this on a device that replaces real connection and keeps us in addictive neurochemical loops. I'm so sick of it. I want to sit with people, work with people, plant trees and eat their fruits. Do something meaningful before we all die

With every person I meet, the pattern is as clear as day and it points to me being the common denominator. Because I am.

I love humanity. I love how diverse people are and it enriches my life to get glimpses into someone else's thinking. That being said, I've been longing for close souls ever since I was a kid and I am so alienated.

With most people I don't even attempt to get to know them deeply, after they've shared a few thoughts of theirs out loud, I simply close the door to any hopes we could understand each other and be the friend that other person needs. Some recent, tangible examples:

1. “I've never really discussed politics with friends, it tore the group apart when we did so to be friends again, we declared we won't bring up who we're voting for haha.”

2. “I talked to that problem child and for the first time I thought she could be from, like, a bad family.”

It's always something like this. Actions match as well.

When I do get past something, in order to work with a version of me that ends things prematurely, I still end them. Just later.

I've befriended 2 people in recent years and both have experienced my “It would feel unjust from my end to continue being close friends when we don't feel close” talk. Phrased stupidly for simplification here.

The reaction was the same, oftentimes is. People just don't perceive those differences.

I'd love to hear other people who share this experience. This alienation has been weighing on my heart all my life, I would so love to just have a close friend :')) Does it ever change? What did you do to lessen the feeling of being so alien? / Where did you find close people?

With every person I meet, the pattern is as clear as day and it points to me being the common denominator. Because I am.

I love humanity. I love how diverse people are and it enriches my life to get glimpses into someone else's thinking. That being said, I've been longing for close souls ever since I was a kid and I am so alienated.

With most people I don't even attempt to get to know them deeply, after they've shared a few thoughts of theirs out loud, I simply close the door to any hopes we could understand each other and be the friend that other person needs. Some recent, tangible examples:

1. “I've never really discussed politics with friends, it tore the group apart when we did so to be friends again, we declared we won't bring up who we're voting for haha.”

2. “I talked to that problem child and for the first time I thought she could be from, like, a bad family.”

It's always something like this. Actions match as well.

When I do get past something, in order to work with a version of me that ends things prematurely, I still end them. Just later.

I've befriended 2 people in recent years and both have experienced my “It would feel unjust from my end to continue being close friends when we don't feel close” talk. Phrased stupidly for simplification here.

The reaction was the same, oftentimes is. People just don't perceive those differences.

I'd love to hear other people who share this experience. And people who have been “doorslammed” by us as well. This alienation has been weighing on my heart all my life, I would so love to just have a close friend :'))

Hi everyone! 🌟

I'm offering free readings to people in order to practice my reading skills with a Thoth deck. Please ONLY message if you're okay providing back feedback in the form of at least a few sentences:)

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Send a DM and/or comment under the post. Share your initials + your question(s), nuanced topics aren't a problem. If it's hard to put into words, describe the situation and I'll do a reading for the vibes surrounding it.

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❎ I don't use cards to predict the future, it's not a part of my practice.

✅ I do vibe based general spreads for different outcomes, but only along the lines of "what do I need to embody to xyz.." or "what energy should I leave behind if I choose xyz..".

❎ I also cannot do readings for people who assign them UNHEALTHY importance; not just because I'm a beginner, but because I view tarot as a guide to better CONNECT to different angles of a situation & explore new perspectives. YOU are the one in charge of your life.

I understand different levels of intellect don't have to affect therapy quality, I'd assume it's completely normal and oftentimes irrelevant.

I'm asking about the cases where it CAN and DOES interfere with the therapeutic process.. what's the approach there? Does anyone have an experience with that?

Looking for a recomendable therapist specialized in eating disorders. Can be private or insurance covered. Other tips for resources or help centers welcome as well.

Thanks in advance!

Hi everyonee!

I'm moving to Vienna in a few days and will be in between Austria and Czechia during the year:))

I'm missing a sense of community in my life and it really gets lonely. I would kill for a friend / group of friends who have a similar outlook on life and want actual, deep friendships rooted in honesty, growth and unlearning shame 🙏🌱.

I'm 21, studying to become a psychologist. I'm queer and learning to fully embrace that, so I'm more than open to making more friends from the community too:). I also look specifically for people with feminist values! 🏳️‍🌈✨

I would absolutely love to befriend people who are also set on becoming more present in their own life. I'm far from having any mastery over that, but it's what I come back to when things feel tough. It helps. I want to learn more:)!

Above all, I'd like to meet as human beings. If any of this speaks to you, reach out to me in comments or private messages with a bit about yourself?

Hi everyone:)

I'm moving to Vienna in a few days and will be in between Austria and Czechia during the year.

I'm missing a sense of community in my life. A friend / group of friends who have a similar outlook on life and want actual, deep friendships rooted in honesty, growth and unlearning shame 🙏🌱.

I'm 21, studying to become a psychologist. I'm queer and learning to fully embrace that, so I'm more than open to making more friends from the community too:). I also look specifically for people with feminist values!

I would absolutely love to befriend people who are also set on becoming more present in their own life. I'm far from having any mastery over that, but it's what I come back to when things feel tough. It helps. I want to learn more.

Above all, I'd like to meet as human beings. If any of this speaks to you, reach out to me in comments or private messages with a bit about yourself? ❤️

Title:) Any amount of detail is appreciated, I'd love to hear some concrete things or the "hows" of something abstract

Words of advice or anything you've done/do.. all is appreciated:)

Words of advice or anything you've done/do.. all is appreciated:)

i spent quite a lot of money ordering food for my bf just earlier today, not a CRAZY amount but a fancy brunch. we had an amazing weekend and he helped me and my parents w some things, last night traveled back home with delayed trains and unexpected public transport obstacles.. i just felt like it'd be a sweet gesture.

he received the order and one of the first things he texts besides thank yous is just complains about me spending too much money on this, getting "one drink more than needed" etcetera.

it's hot as hell outside, he's in the office with a colleague so i thought it'd be sweet if he has one more cool drink to share with her. or just take home! idk

im just sad and demotivated. this is literally no big deal AND like ive said, he thanked me too, said i am the best and that it's sweet. still, these things just get so overpowered by multiple complaints on how it was too pricey and too much and how i shouldn't do things like this. im sad and annoyed with myself for being sad about sth so small

Hello, does anyone know a good psychiatrist in Vienna or somewhere close? Ideally a woman but anyone trusted would do 🙏. Issues include anxiety, depression, past addiction problems, disordered eating. Please share any and all experience, detail of your journey welcome! Thank you!

Hey yall,

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My bf will legitimately start crying from how beautiful he thinks I look, but even when we cuddle and he's rock hard he just.. goes about his day.

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I've expressed to him that I feel unwanted when I initiate every time. Since the start of our relationship, I could count the times he'd imitated on ONE of my hands.

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I love his closeness, I love his smell, I love how he compliments me all the damn time and get turned on real easily. Multiple times a day for sure. He responds to it, but it's always like he's "not opposed" instead of actively desiring me

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It's confusing. He's a great listener and invests so much into me I know for a fact I'm his biggest priority and he is mine. When I told him this makes me feel unwanted a while ago, whenever I initiated next.. he put my hand on his rock hard dick and say this is how much he desires me, that it's sad I ever even doubt it

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Still, he admits that initiating is a problem. That he's not entirely sure because he experiences the thoughts and the desire, but he doesn't follow through on it. I don't know what to do about that tbh. It's a mental battle because I'd hate to pressure him since he's already an overthinker, but the fact I just never feel like my boyfriend wants to have sex with me gets to me a lot.

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Might be relevant to mention he's not on any medication, that we are super open with our communication and when discussing our ideal sex frequency, we both agree once a day or every two days works best for us.. We also aren't huge fans of the porn industry as a whole so I strongly doubt he's got a secret addiction or something. He's just overall a hard worker with tendencies to stress too much.

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Occasionally he also goes soft mid sex and the more he overthinks that, the harder –I wish I was being literal here– it gets. Idk man. When I ask, he's very emotional because he hates that this affects how desired I (don't) feel by him. I'm never mad or sad but together with the lack of initiation I feel like he just doesn't want me as much as I want him

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Any thoughts, tips or personal advice comes to mind?

Hello!

My lover and I have a fun relationship dynamic. Our love is lowkey an unspoken competition in which we always try to exceed every standard ever. It's like a little "how can I show my love for you eeeven more" game everyday:))

He's taking me on a roadtrip soon, one he had planned entirely based on a wish of mine. He's a map freak, so I only point my finger at some things I want and he loves to plan the rest. I've done my best to take care of a few things on the way, but I really want to up my game with this and be the BEST travel companion and passenger ever ;D

So far I've thought of this:

- Get drinks and snacks he loves, also chewing gum to help him stay awake 🍿 🍓 ✨

- Put together a favorite music playlist 🎶💫

- Offer massage at the end of the day after every long drive 💆 🛏️ 💤

-Stack the car up on practical items such as hand sanitizer, wet wipes, blanket, easily accesible hygiene kits, car trash bags (anything else comes to mind here?) 🫧 🪥

-Clean the car before we leave, hopefully also change oil LOL 🚗

- Quickly accessible cash pouch for border control, parking, shopping carts.. 🪙 👛

- I'm thinking of keeping a little travel memories book, in which we save everything from postcards to parking tickets :P 🎟️🏝️ ✨ 📖

- Any other ideas???

I want to make my lover's life as easy as possible, because that's what he does for me.

ANY input is appreciated. From practical roadtrip and travelling tips — any drivers here who could tell me what would make your day when behind the wheel?✨ — to just little habits or cute things I could do? On this trip, in accommodations on the way, at home?

I'd write him things, buy or make him gifts too — if anything comes to mind given the context:) But gifts aren't really his love language, so of course he'd appreciate something like a nice pair of sunglasses.. but he's just the type who'd rather get them on the way with me.

Thank you so very much!

Hello!

My lover and I have a fun relationship dynamic. Our love is lowkey an unspoken competition in which we always try to exceed every standard ever. It's like a little "how can I show my love for you eeeven more" game everyday:))

He's taking me on a roadtrip soon, one he had planned entirely based on a wish of mine. He's a map freak, so I only point my finger at some things I want and he loves to plan the rest. I've done my best to take care of a few things on the way, but I really want to up my game with this and be the BEST travel companion and passenger ever ;D

So far I've thought of this:

- Get drinks and snacks he loves, also chewing gum to help him stay awake 🍿 🍓 ✨

- Put together a favorite music playlist 🎶💫

- Offer massage at the end of the day after every long drive 💆 🛏️ 💤

- Stack the car up on practical items such as hand sanitizer, wet wipes, blanket, easily accesible hygiene kits, car trash bags (anything else comes to mind here?) 🫧 🪥

- Clean the car before we leave, hopefully also change oil LOL 🚗

- Quickly accessible cash pouch for border control, parking, shopping carts.. 🪙 👛

- I'm thinking of keeping a little travel memories book, in which we save everything from postcards to parking tickets :P 🎟️🏝️ ✨ 📖

- Any other ideas???

I want to make my lover's life as easy as possible, because that's what he does for me.

ANY input is appreciated. From practical roadtrip and travelling tips — any drivers here who could tell me what would make your day when behind the wheel?✨ — to just little habits or cute things I could do? On this trip, in accommodations on the way, at home?

I'd write him things, buy or make him gifts too — if anything comes to mind given the context:) But gifts aren't really his love language, so of course he'd appreciate something like a nice pair of sunglasses.. but he's just the type who'd rather get them on the way with me.

Thank you so very much!

Hey loves! I have been thinking a LONG time about legally changing my sex marker from F to M and I need help. I am very androgynous with my looks.

Here are some of my concerns:

- Does it limit travels aboard? I'm not from the US.

- Does it complicate your experience with health care? I don't want to be medically treated as a man while preserving my reproductive organs. Could these mistakes happen more often? Or in a scenario in which I'm in need of urgent care.. will the procedure not be potentially threatening to me if my birth sex is M in my documentation?

- Do you have fears in gendered public spaces due to safety? With or without having that legal documentation to back up you're in the right bathroom/showers/gym if anyone forces you to prove it?

Overall, please share your experience. I'm not from the most progressive European country, but recently this had become an option for us and I keep weighing pros and cons, fears and reality.

I'm in a relatively new (not a full year) relationship with a cis gay male. He's never dated anyone of my anatomy, knew he was gay all his life. I'm post top surgery, took testosterone for a little while and now I'm on and off T depending on how i feel about my presentation. I look very androgynous and identify as somewhat transmasc NB, i don't care too much as long as I get gendered "male-ish", which I do more often than not AFTER (!!) i speak.

I had this belief that majority of cis men suck, that no cis person can also understand a trans partner enough for their support to be great.. I've lost these beliefs, because my boyfriend is an answered prayer. He's always hated gender stereotypes, finds it dividing and reducing, he always says he sees me as "me". Never once misgendered me, not in one language (and he speaks about 5 of them with me).. He's perfectly supportive, I feel like he gets me much more than some people from T4T friendships and relationships of my past.

Before we were intimate for the first time, he was also honestly answering my questions — saying he doesn't know how he will work with a different anatomy, though he assumes it will be completely fine. It turned out to be very unproblematic and I love that he is honest and said he couldn't promise what he doesn't know for sure.

These things cultivate so much trust, but then there's my stupid dysphoria. My boyfriend's past relationships were with cis men only (dating, intimacy, all of it). This was very scary at first, but turns out to be information I rely on when I'm in a dysphoric spiral. Still, I get stupid.

I have yet to meet his family and I keep putting it off for later, as I'm worried I wouldn't be masculine enough to pass in front of his father or siblings etcetera. It's draining. My fear / dysphoria prevents me from fully living.

Bad moments and dysphoria inducing situations have me all paranoid about how my boyfriend sees me.

He's once said he hopes his family will "respect" me (in the context of gender), which turned my stomach upside down. I shared how that wording sounds like people can't look at me and SEE who I am, that it takes RESPECT to use the right pronouns. He was honest, said he doesn't have enough trust in the world to feel like they'll "get it". That was awful. I brought it up later again, and he was disappointed I underestimate with how much nuance he's viewing gender and sexuality. He was shocked to hear my fear — and what his words sounded like to me — was that his family would see me as a girl. He clarified he never thought that, but that there's a good chance they won't understand my gender.

That's different to me. I'm already used to that, because yes I present in a very androgynous way and don't label myself much. It clicked what he meant by the "world not getting it". But still, these situations have my heart jumping out of my chest in fear that he somehow sees me as a woman. Even with intimacy, I sometimes question if I'm too girly for him.

Please, share any thoughts. I'm sure there are people who have been in similar situations, too dysphoric to allow themselves to rest in someone else's perception of them. Too dysphoric to stop questioning things:(. I LIKE how I am, but it's the external world that makes me feel like I'm never enough of this or that. It's limiting.