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I have no appetite, extremely nauseous dizzy, I quit my job recently, even the thought of walking to the kitchen and getting water feels too much. I have headaches behind my eyes and feel paralyzed when I wake up. Anxiety is through the roof,I’m not truly sure if I have uars but in my watchpat I had 12 RDI and almost 0 AHI. I just got a bipap but can’t fall asleep w it yet. I tape my mouth every night now and keep my tongue in the roof of my mouth just fine.

Honestly it feels like I’m slowly dying. My nose and eyes are running, my throat hurts (not normal illness sickness but just long term feeling slightly sick. I’ve gone to urgent care many times and my primary and they say nothing is wrong…

Has anyone’s symptoms truly been this bad? I’m honestly extremely concerned with the state of my health. I’m only 25F.

I went to ent and he said he doesn’t think my nos is causing sleep issues, but they did say I have perforations and enlarged turbinates

I feel like I’ve sabotaged my relationship. In the past I would get so anxious and ask for reassurance and make my boyfriend answer questions and then keep asking it again and again not hearing his obvious answers. I’ve greatly reduced it, but it’s never enough. Now he won’t share anything personal with me and seems very nonchalant about the relationship ending.

Every day I’m under so much stress. I have to hold my breath not to cry. If I accidentally ask one reassurance question or make a mistake and get triggered by something for a moment and quickly apologize, it’s a bad day. Even though I had been working so hard to fix things and I did for months. Then one stressful conversation began (which he started) while I was having ocd and he was upset and it triggered me to ask the questions all over again and I became suicidal. Then he needs a week to recover and doesn’t want much to do with me. Because I’ve been so stressed out trying not to let him see my emotional pain, I’m under tremendous stress. I also am dealing with physical health issues. I try to do a lot for him like care for him and do things for him. But I guess I ruined everything bc of my ocd in the past and every little things that comes up reinforces these things for him. Things can be going so wonderfully then one bad day like that and he starts saying we only have 15% of a connection and we don’t have a safe place and I’m just exhausted. He thinks so highly of me then I have an accident and it all goes down the drain. This last incident just crushed me with exhaustion because I worked so so hard. And I haven’t been the same since due to his reaction. He also doesn’t respond to my ocd well like often times he’ll come over with rolled eyes and a pillow on his face in exhaustion before I’d even said anything. I’d do anything for him to just hold me and have empathy, but it seems like he hates my ocd. He says it’s so repetitive and that I just need to be okay. But this environment is making it worse.

I’m worried I ruined everything. I know what I did in the past wasn’t good and I’ll probably never get rid of this pattern and things won’t work out. I so badly want to just be told that he doesn’t want to lose me and hear about how much I mean to him, to have an emotional connection again. But idk if that’s possible anymore. But I fear I’ll always be too much for people, no one will be able to handle me. Even if I try so so hard. I truly do. Is this always the case? I need hope

Hello everyone. I have a nasal mask and just started using cpap machine. I took a sleeping pill last night, one that usually gets me to fall asleep right away and I just couldn’t fall asleep with the cpap on. Right when I took it off I fell asleep 10 min later. I noticed I was beginning to drift off maybe a little but I’d wake up. I think maybe because it just feels uncomfortable? Like there’s a tube you have to keep adjusting and it just feels like I can’t relax. At first I felt that “air hunger” but then I adjusted the pressure setting and honestly got used to it. Maybe I was anxious about it working and was just super aware of the mask on, I’m not sure. I really have hope for this but I have to fall asleep first! Thanks!

At the beginning he was very very affectionate. And anxiously attached. He’d ask me to message me every hour when I was out ,ask me for reassurance, get super jealous about my past experiences. It was very clear that he was anxious about things ending and didn’t want that to happen. It was like that for the first 8 months I’d say

Now, after some relationship issues where I had struggled w mental and physical health myself and he said he was emotionally drained. He had also moved in with me which changed his energy even more. Now he doesn’t seem to care that much about the relationship ending. He seems very nonchalant about things ending like “yea we probably have a 50/50 chance of working out”. He also used to get anxiety about not experiencing other people but he didn’t want to lose me. I’m sure if he gets anxious about that now but I’m told not to ask anymore. Whereas before like he’d act like losing me was the last thing he’d ever want to happen. I’ve taken accountability for the things that drain him and when things have been good I notice his energy towards me becomes a bit different slightly but even after weeks it still isn’t the same. But once we have a difficult conversation (no screaming or calling each other names) just frustration about us not understanding each other , or if I relapse with some of my mental health for 1-2 days and am crying a lot (without asking for much support now) he will become drained all over again. I feel like he’s checked out and I’m not sure what else to do, one “bad” day can start over everything I had worked towards for our relationship, and I’m feeling really exhausted. He goes cold for like a week and he’ll stay that way unless I have really good energy the whole time, and because we live together it’s just a lot of expectation. It’s just a lot of pressure. Im struggling greatly with many things in my life and I want to feel like I can slowly get better on my own time. I’m not sure what happens or what else to do. Yes I’ve communicated and really all he says is my energy and bad mental health days drain him and we need to have consistent good days. But I feel like we will go weeks having good days and no fighting. The once a bad day happens, it’s all bad and he forgets everything before. My energy might be low but I do a lot for him… I love him very much and he knows that, so it feels like it’s never enough. I’m so tired of the back and forth, finally feeling like he’s excited to be with me again and then him being distant and having negative things to say about the relationship. I don’t know what’s true anymore. I know he’s drained but it’s hurtful and stressful

My boyfriend had become so drained fromy questioning and my low energy from sadness that he began to become more emotionally numb or be able to say I’m the love of his life anymore. He says that he hopes we work out but it’s unsustainable for him. But the thing is is that I’m trying so so hard. I’ll go two weeks without asking him more than one question a day and he’ll start saying things like “I always want to take care of you” and other stuff and then one day (usually during my pms) we will have a disagreement, some disagreement where I get anxious if he will leave me and he gets frustrated that my OCD is coming through and his frustration makes my anxiety even worse. Amd then all the progress goes down the drain. He will then need weeks to recover and start thinking negatively about our relationship again. I do so much for him I’m always making sure he’s okay and show him that I love him, I don’t know what more he could ask for. Yes I’m low energy a lot and have health issues too but I’ve never put him down and I’ve loved him with everything I have. I know he’s drained but it’s just hard. He said that if I was completely ocd free for 3 weeks, my energy, everything, that he’d be able to say the things he used to and feel the things he used to. But it’s so hard when every little energy or thing that I do can drain him and make him want to marry me even less. He does a lot for me and I appreciate him but I’m just so stressed out and feel like I have to start over every time I have a “bad” day. I’m not saying him being drained isn’t valid just venting about how hard this is. I don’t know how much more I have left to keep trying after starting over hundreds of times.

My palette is normal, it’s narrow but my maxilla is recessed. I’ve gotten used to mewing. I do chin tucks and have attempted to fix my posture throughout the day. When I sleep my tongue is often still mewing most of the time. I hear people saying you can’t get results unless you remove your retainer is that true? I’m 25 F,so maybe results aren’t even possible… I have a plastic retainer I only wear every other night. I never had a misaligned bite just my teeth were a little crooked as a teen

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. At the beginning of the relationship, we connected extremely deeply and it was amazing. Eventually he said he’s certain of me he wants to marry me and I’m absolutely the love of his life. He’d tell me how special I am and how he couldn’t imagine his life without me. Unfortunately soon I developed pretty bad mental and physical issues which I still struggle with. I don’t really know the end to either of them now but it was hard on him at the beginning. I’d stress him out and be unable to do most things with him because of my severe fatigue. But I’ve worked my ass off, took accountability for all my stuff, and have greatly kept him out of my issues (before I’d ask for too much support which emotionally drained him). I work hard every day going to doc appointments to address my health. A few months after these things had started he started saying he was emotionally drained and numb and that he’s uncertain if I’m the love of his life because he wants things to be sustainable. But now, even when I give him all the space in the world, rarely ask for emotional support, he’s still uncertain of me. He said we have a 50/50 chance of working out because he still feels emotionally drained. I think it’s because I’m low energy form my health issues and depression but we still laugh and have fun together every day, but I’ve cut out all the other behaviors he’s explicitly told me that drained him. But now that I worked to get rid of them, he now adds more things. He says he needs me to be happy to be confident and have passions again for him to know if I’m the love of his life. But something doesn’t sit right with me about that, you know things feel so unstable. I do so much for him too like I make him meals, support him when he’s sad, tell him how proud I am of him, i love him unconditionally despite his financial struggles, I make him homemade gifts and love letters . It hurts me that with all the love I have for him and the love I give to him, that he still doesn’t want to be with me as badly as I do. I understand that people become uncertain sometimes, but now it’s been over 6 months, and I’ve always desired a relationship where someone wants to marry me and be together forever as much as I do. He says he loves me that I’m beautiful and appreciates me every single day, he obviously cares about me and he wants to spend time with me, but just knowing that I have no idea where this relationship is going really affects me. There’s nothing really bad about our relationship, we do things for each other, we laugh together. But Sometimes I think maybe he wants me to be someone I’m not. He acts like he can’t be certain unless I’m completely happy and healthy and that (unintentionally) puts immense pressure on me as I am desperately trying to figure out a solution to my health issues. My greatest fear is waiting years and years pouring my heart out to this man and him still being uncertain. I’m starting to just feel jaded about this relationship, maybe this feeling isn’t warranted because overall he’s a great man, I just would like some advice. I’ve tried to communicate but he says he can’t force feelings, which I completely undertand, I’m not trying to change who he is, I’m just trying to think of the next steps for myself .

TLDR: been through mental and health issues that drained my boyfriend, said he’s uncertain, now feel lost about where things are headed.

Went to ENT and was told I have one large posterior perforations and one small anterior perforation. He said it can’t really be fixed.

I shared my sleep study here and my symptoms and many of you thought it showed UARS. (Elevated RDI, etc)

I have trained my tongue position and mouth tape to the point that I consistently nose breathe throughout the night, does that mean that the septal perforations aren’t the cause of my UARS? I am a little congested but don’t have any crusting or bleeding. I’m usually breathing out of one nostril because one or the other gets clogged, but again my nasal breathing is good enough to where I can nose breathe the entire night.

I am immensely struggling with fatigue, nausea, etc and could use some help. I’m getting a bipap soon (with nasal pillow mask) and also concerned that the treatment will be less effective with the perforations

I have two septal perforations, a deviated septum, and enlarged turbinates, as well as runny nose (no allergies)

ENT said surgery wasn’t necessary because I don’t have obstructive sleep apnea. He saw all my heart rate spikes and my elevated RDI but he wouldn’t listen. He just said my nose would droop over time 🙃 and he said that nasal breathing doesn’t really affect sleep 🙄

Will ENTs not perform surgery unless you have sleep apnea? I don’t get it

I stopped feeling much sexual desire after stopping ssris after 2 years ago. I have been with my boyfriend of one year and I feel like I’m disappointing him. I can feel pleasure but only if I (only me) use manual stimulation and then I’ll feel pleasure for a short while and then climax really fast. Before the manual stimulation I don’t feel much of anything. I also have ocd and I’m just scared. I want to be normal bc I think my boyfriend is craving passion and I can’t give him that. Feels like my mind and body are severed

Hello! I had jaw surgery 6 years ago when I was 19, 25F now, it fixed some of my issues but noticed maybe I recessed back and bit and perhaps that was from poor posture. My cheekbones are less prominent and have a less defined face shape from the front. I have developed clicking noses in one of my tmjs the past couple years as well as increased numbness in my chin from time to time when the clicking got worse

Since learning about mewing, I realized I put the tip of my tongue on my front teeth and let the rest of my tongue hang low, I’d keep my mouth super open too. I realized I have an anterior pelvic tilt too as well as ate really fast without chewing and used my cheeks a lot. The clicking noses have stopped since mewing

I’m still wearing my retainers to wait to perfect everything. Throughout the day I’m keeping my tongue suctioned easily and feels as though my whole tongue is on the roof except maybe my teeth touch my tongue in the back. I don’t think my palate is necessarily narrow so it’s easier. When I wake up though , half the time I notice my jaw is very wide open and my tongue is touching my front teeth. Half the time, I wake up still with the suction hold. I am having trouble swallowing and gathering my food to my tongue without using my cheeks. I notice the hyper awareness is making my jaws sore, I think my TMJS and it radiates to the back of my nose. Sometimes I get neck pain too. Once I stop hyperfocusing, it goes away, but it’s really hard to stop, would love some advice in that. As well as any advice on how to swallow and chew, especially gathering the saliva and food without moving cheeks. And any exercises that have helped you!

Teeth don’t clench, I keep a space between them, so I’m not sure what’s activating my tmjs. No tongue thrust that I know of. I could have asymmetry in my jaws but not sure how to know exactly if I’m mewing in a way to make it worse

When I mew without thinking about it, my jaw feels fine like even my previous tmj symptoms improve. But oftentimes I’m so absorbed in every swallow exactly how I’m eating, hyper focusing on where my tongue is, and my whole face starts to get tense and sore. I don’t have my teeth together and I don’t clench. So I don’t know what’s going on, any ideas?

My eyes are a lot smaller and puffy, my face is puffy, I have dark circles like you’d think someone punched me in my eyes and my skin is textured, all started from getting lack of quality sleep. About to get a bipap soon and wondering if anyone has been able to reverse these effects. I’m only 25 and feel like I already look a decade older!

Hello I’m new to mewing and could use some help!

Background is I’m 25F and I notice my face is a lot softer than how to used to be as a late teen. I used to have visible cheekbones and a more defined jawline and now I don’t. There’s only a slight difference in profile, it very well could just be puffiness as well.

I realized I’ve been holding my jaw extremely slack (like right to the point of where I have to open my mouth and my tongue had been resting at the top but touching the top teeth and not suctioning. I have an anterior pelvic tilt and overall my face is very undefined. I have UARS and can tape my mouth, but my jaw completely downswings every time I fall asleep. I wear a retainer still and waiting til I actually nail this down before removing.

I’ve been mewing for the last month and now it’s second nature to have my entire tongue in the roof of my mouth, even when I sleep. However it’s not second nature to keep my mouth more shut (I don’t want my teeth touching just slightly apart). J feel like I always have to put in effort all the time to keep it more closed then letting it relax. I think I’m swallowing correctly and I’m being more aware of how arched my back is now and trying to fix it. I do chin tucks whenever I can.

It feels like an effort to keep my mouth shut and my whole face kind of feels sore. My soreness goes away as soon as I forget about mewing but once I’m aware again then it’s uncomfortable. A lot of it’s in my nose and the masseter area (maybe TMJ ) and a little in my cheekbones.

Any advice?

So my skin is relatively sensitive and blemish prone and it’s strange to me because I’ll use super hydrating products and my skin will feel goof for quite a bit, no irritation at all, then out of the blue my skin will feel irritated again, it doesn’t really matter what products I use. Maybe I notice if I cry or go swimming or am with my boyfriend and I’m leaning my face on him a lot but otherwise I’m not sure! It’s nothing severe it’s like a very tight dry feeling and a slight feeling of irritation when I put my creams on. I really want to use tret again but I know I need to wait.

My current routine:

Cleanse with just water in the morning
Softymo oil cleanser (night)
Isntree vegan yam root milk cleanser (night)
Safe me p:rem relief essence toner
Ample n ceramide ampoule shot
Aestura atobarrier 365 cream
Isn tree hyaluronic acid watery sun gel (morning)
I’ll put Vaseline over my eyes and eyelashes at night
I also use lion pair cream at night as a spot treatment if I have inflamed spots

I have been mewing for the last couple months, don’t really see much results, but the suction hold is second nature to me now to the point where I wake up from my sleep with a suction hold. Only this past week have I focused more on chin tucks and correct posture. I’m 25F btw. Lately I’ve been feeling a bit sore in my tmjs or massetter muscles, not sure which, and the side of my face that’s more recessed. On the right side of my face everything up to my eyes there’s a slight pressure. More of the pressure goes to the right side of my palette because it drops lower. I’m just worried about feeling sore, I don’t clench or practice hard mewing at all. My teeth are pretty far apart though like 4 mm, that’s where I’ve always been most comfortable. But sometimes I notice myself constantly adjusting how far to keep my teeth from each other and that makes me feel more sore. Idk. I’m just practicing proper tongue posture didn’t realize it would make my tmjs so sore and now I’m a bit worried as I don’t want any complications

I have felt intense emotions in my relationship before but once this started, when the intrusive thought “what if you lose these beautiful emotions out of your control” popped into my head, I haven’t felt the same since. I have had mild sparks of these emotions, but mostly I don’t feel anything. Sometimes I’ll feel things when my partner is at a distance or not there but then when they get physically close it goes away. I love hard with my actions and feel plenty of negative emotions (ie: anxiety about losing partner, sadness about what I’m going though) but those romantic feelings feel like they’ve never felt the same since that intrusive thought. Im worried I’ll never be able to feel these full emotions again. Even when I go through long periods of obsessing about something else and I’m not avoiding affection or anything, it still feels this way. I’m under tremendous stress lately with my life too but idk it feels like I’m broken. I also feel no sex drive anymore for anything and I’m just worried. I’ve had ocd themes before where I just no longer saw normal things the same for a long time. It’s been a year at this point. Looking for stories of hope thoughts advice or emotional recovery. Yes, I know that we choose to love someone and that’s what love is and I’ve heard that advice, but I think it’s valid to not get down about not experiencing these feelings.

We have gone through a rough patch where I [28F] was at my lowest physically and mentally for a quite a few months and I guess I had asked for too much support during that time. We’ve been together for a little over a year. I guess my low energy and the stress has made my bf [30M] emotionally numb and he seems to be experiencing burnout. He says he gets emotionally depleted really easily even though he doesn’t know why and doesn’t feel much feelings for me right now. But I try everything to give him space and it’s been a couple months doing that. He no longer says super romantic things like he used to or tells me I’m the love of his life (he says he wants it to work out but he’s unsure right now because things have been hard). That uncertainty makes me a bit unsafe and I’ve noticed our dynamic change a lot. He does say he loves me deeply but that we are missing passion and the spark right now, he says he wants it to work but he’s like 50/50 uncertain about things. We don’t laugh as much, conversations seem more strained. I can’t really laugh genuinely anymore or feel like myself. Emotionally there feels like a wall. I’m trying to be the best gf I can and give him everything he needs but it never makes things better. I try to just forget about how he’s feeling but it’s hard to be myself when there’s this lack of security and this new awkwardness. Before we had an incredibly deep connection, like we were one, and I felt more like myself than ever before, but I had some things happen to me that were really challenging, and now things just feel… weird. Any advice on how to get this spark back?

Tldr: stress made relationship lose its spark, can I get it back?

Muscle twitching/aches
Runny nose, sinus pressure
Extreme fatigue
Headaches
Feeling worse after doing small things (ie: going for a walk)
Weakness in muscles
Vertigo
Nausea
Anxiety
Waking up constantly
Dry skin
Watery eyes

It feels like so much and like it can’t possibly all be UARS. My average RDI is 12 on my home test with tons of respiratory events, wake ups, and heart spikes throughout the night. No signs of AHI though.