u/bzzzzzzlightyear

Didn’t have anyone around to help soothe my 1.5 week newborn, she was getting hungry but can’t hold a pacifier, im at a friends house for my rough c section recovery…..and I had a lunch that was disagreeable with my bowels which had an imminent exit time…..so…I diarrhea-ed on the toilet while breastfeeding her. sigh I know this is SO unhinged and SO gross. But I’m telling myself that most poop spreads via the flushing and baby was definitely not in the bathroom for the flush.

I’ve thought of different things being a SMBC but this was not one of them lol 😂😂😂

Please tell me. What unhinged scenarios have you been in that’s bc you’re a SMBC?

I used Fairfax and was told there’s about 20 families with other successful pregnancies (so could be 20+ siblings if a mother had siblings from same donor ). Sperm bank says best way to connect is via their forums but that’s been unsuccessful.
Any tips? And actually not sure how my child would feel about it. I just wanted to see how to even do it in case my daughter one day wants to connect with them

I just had to go to the OB ER postpartum and they said they required another person to be with my baby (1 week old) while I went to get scanned. I just so Happened to have a friend give me a ride so the friend could come…but if the friend couldn’t, I was going to drive myself and not have anyone available with me to watch baby so idk what would’ve happened then?
(Added context: it was not an emergency. OB just told me to go to ER to expedite order. This ER visit was unexpected. Was originally just supposed to be a quick outpatient clinic visit).

Are there any unexpected things like that that came up? (At least for me it was unexpected, I thought I could just bring my baby everywhere and I didn’t think there’d be any issues)

Curious what your experience and recovery was like. Holy hell I’m in an excruciating amount of pain even on day 4…..

I didn’t have the option to choose whether I wanted it or not, and at the start of surgery I did not have DR. my OB just made the decision for me during surgery

Was the staff ok with it or really annoyed? Are you happy that you were able to decline it?

I’m so thrilled to have my little one here soon! But I’m guessing that means my dating life is over for at least a few years? Obviously baby will be my priority, but if there is room to try to find romantic love, I’d like to try

I know people probably mean well with these comments and trying to applaud single moms, but these comments kind of rub me the wrong way. It kind of feels like (kind of but not really) someone being like, “idk how people take the bus, I could never, that’s so inconvenient.” Idk, maybe someone can’t afford a car and you just suck it up and do it?

While I’m super stoked and feel very blessed to be able to choose the SMBC route, I wouldn’t have hated having a loving, reliable, supportive partner that would make a great partner in life + coparenting.

Anyway, just wondering if it’s just me that feels that way or I’m just being a Karen with this minor annoyance