u/bzzzzzzlightyear

So many of them

Baby is usually on my right side. Feeding with right boob I have figured out . How do I feed with the left boob? Do I need to move my body or move baby? Or is there a way to position baby or me without us moving sides

My current one is 3 months and I’m in heaven. I love being a mom so much. I have an amazing setup where my job is technically full time but has part time, flexible hours and I can bring her to work when maternity leave ends when she’s 4 months.

Anyway, I’m really soaking it all in with baby and sooo grateful, but also SO sad all the time that it’s going by SO quickly. Each phase seems like it’s gone in a second- she was only cross eyed as a newborn for 5 seconds figuring out how to use her eyes. Shes already stopped the newborn head bobbing while breastfeeding . I’m so sad each of these things will be my last time as it’s happening.

Here are my concerns holding me back from
Number 2, even though if I was gonna have a second, it wouldn’t be til 6-7 years later bc pregnancy sucked and I can’t imagine being pregnant with a toddler.

- everyone I know with Sibs say their parents had obvious favorites. I was the middle child and the least favorite and that was so painful. I hate for my child to feel that.
Even if I try my hardest, I’m human and maybe can’t help but favor one even if I try my hardest.
Plus they’re gonna be diff ppl and therefore need diff things. I’d hate for one to feel slighted.
But an example would be, in my will , if I had 2, I’d leave more money to #2 bc my goal is for both to be set financially until mid 20s. Older one would be closer to that so I’d be leaving her less.
Once they both reach mid 20s then would prob leave same amount for both.

- I’m afraid with 2 it’ll be so much chaos, I would not be able to enjoy motherhood as much if I’m stressed all the time.

- I always thought if I had a partner and multiple kids, we’d do solo dates with each. I can’t do solo dates when I’m just with both all the time.

- I really want to do a lot of fun things and give my kid(s) a magical childhood. I’m so worried I can’t do that as well with two having less time, energy, money

- If I had #2, it’d be another girl. I’m so afraid they’ll get compared by everyone and I won’t be able to stop it. Who’s the smart one, who’s the pretty one, etc.. I’d really hate for one to feel that and would be worried they’d be competitive with each other. I don’t do compare myself to other women and am not competitive and will try to raise them to not be competitive, but I can’t stop outsiders’ comparing comments.

- I have guardians (friends) lined up for my bb should anything happen to me. It’s ok having frds be guardian for one kid but 2 is a lot for them and im scared to even ask. Granted I shouldn’t plan based on unlikely scenario…
- I don’t want to work til im 80

Most of my worries are the first ones though.

TLDR; really love kids and would like two, but worried if one feels any hint of favoritism/different treatment, worried I won’t enjoy motherhood as much with more stress,and them being competitive with each other.

Can I get both sides of the argument? Whether these concerns are valid, and or counter arguments to these things for why I should just chill out ? And those worries will be fine if I have 2?

Sorry for the novel.

My 3 month old whose EBF tracking great along the growth curve wakes every 2-3 hrs, closer to 2.5 on average. There’s minimal benefit sleep wise if I follow safe sleep 7 with her on her back and In the c shape compared to being in the bassinet. I’ve tried the sidecar bassinet and that doesn’t get more sleep time either.

The only way to get her to sleep more is if she’s laying on my chest . So I usually start the night in her bassinet then by the 4am ish wakeup time I bring her into bed with me.

I don’t feel great about it and keep having nightmares about me accidentally killing her. Would love tips

Do you have a tripod? Just ask people to take it?

Please share all tips if you’re taking them yourself.
I came across instagram account “golden aura photography” with guides but it costs a pretty penny and not sure if it’s worth it.

My baby is 2.5 months now which is early, but Hoping to be her primary caregiver until age 2 or so and am wondering where to find ideas for enrichment activities, templates for schedules (ie how many play dates, how many music classes, etc) and such?

Daycares I’m looking at have different ways of dividing age groups. One daycare has a 3 mo-18 mo class with 3:1 ratio, and another daycare has newborn to 12mo class then a 12-18mo (I think latter is 5:1). Curriculum for is the same within each age group .

I’m wondering if benefit of having more older kids, or a better teacher kid ratio, or smaller divide in age differences is better? Is there any research on this?

These are poops in my backyard. I have a Great Dane so these poops cannot be ignored and I def don’t want him to step on them when he’s zoomie-ing

I’m mostly topless at home because either BFing or leaking all the Time. Some dogs can tell when their owner is leaving the house when they grab their keys or purse or whatever, mine apparently tells by when I put on a shirt 🤷🏻‍♀️😅😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m 3 lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight but somehow my pants don’t fit and I have a pooch even though I had a flat stomach pre pregnancy . How can 3 lbs make THAT big of a difference? It seems that I need to be maybe 10 lbs below my pre pregnancy weight for my clothes to fit?!

I’m so perplexed. I worked out until my due date. Postpartum started slow with exercise but have been building up and have not been stagnant so I can’t imagine THAT much muscle loss.

Anyone have this experience or insight into this matter?

Can someone tell me the components of how to safely attach it?
How do I safely secure it to the adult bed? What are the pool noodles people are talking about for- how do I know if I need them and how to use them?
TIA. Single mom sleep deprived and trying to figure this all out

And how old do they have to be for floor bed?

When did you start a schedule? How do you know when to set nap time?

While I noticed that my 6.5 week old seems to sleep from 1-230pm the last 2 weeks, my schedule on maternity leave is crazy because I try to sneak in sleep when I can. Some days I sleep in til 1pm (as in stay in bed til then. I’m a single mom so taking care of baby this whole time and only sleeping when she sleeps), some days I wake up at a normal time and take a 3 hour nap at a crazy time like 5-8pm..therefore no idea what her schedule is other than the 1-230pm nap.

Is 6.5 weeks old enough for a schedule? Do I need to be up all day to know what her nap schedule is? Or do I set her nap schedule by when I feed her?

Worked out a good bit up until I had my c section including a 6.5 mi hike. I get the core being weaker post delivery, but I’m feeling weaker everywhere including lower body and arms?
my PT says she sees it a lot and suspect it’s from all the hormone changes.
Anyone else experience this? The body is wild. Not upset, just perplexed!

I’m probably going to get hate for this idk.
My last Dane was the perfect dog and I was obsessed with her. She never went through a teenage phase and was always an angel. I unfortunately lost her to a fire.

Regrettably, I got another Great Dane puppy 2 months after the last Dane died (long story short, it was the only thing that made sense time wise at that point bc I was planning for a human baby. I figured It would be impossible to have a newborn and puppy at the same Time so went ahead and got the puppy).

Now the puppy is a little under 1.5 years and it’s been a huge struggle. He is well taken care of, I love him and made a commitment to him, but I don’t like him. He’s been really crazy,naughty, unwieldy and difficult from the beginning . Even the vet staff have a really hard time handling him. He is sometimes a struggle to walk and I literally have to carry a large cardboard (to use as a shield) anytime I take him out the house in case he jumps or bites me. He gets very easily stimulated and will see red then respond by jumping and sometimes biting. When he’s at home, he’s chill 90% of the time. I’ve used multiple trainers which have helped but they also all think he’s crazy.

I get so annoyed by him even though he’s probably just being a teenager. I feel so guilty that I love him but I don’t like him, and often wonder if he’ll be better off in another home if someone else isn’t so annoyed by him. For now though, I’m not able to rehome him bc i made a commitment to him and I take that very seriously.

I don’t know if I’m looking for reassurance or advice or something else? But I’m ridden with guilt either way and struggling a lot with my pup.

Sigh I gave myself a free pass esp during first and third trimester, but it seems like the trend has continued onto the newborn phase. It is so easy to justify when I’m sleep deprived AF though. RIP my bank account.