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I talked to her online 2 years ago, and I still cannot move on. I know we have no future, and I do not even like her at all. Infact I even hate her. But somehow I still cannot let go.

I do not want to delete her pictures or stop checking her profile. I know I should, but I do not want to. This has never happened to me before, and I am 25+.

What is wrong with me?

Everywhere it's written once a day. I already told him this he told me there is a reason behind it you won't understand . One in morning and another one after 8 hours

Since childhood, my brother has exhibited repetitive and unusual behaviors. He used to jump while holding his hands, make strange sounds such as “pee pee tee,” show odd facial expressions, and quietly repeat words or phrases right after saying them. He has poor social skills, struggles to read social cues, and tends to become overly excited about minor things.

At 20 years old, he still cannot tie his shoelaces and generally behaves more like a 10-year-old in many situations. Because we repeatedly told him to stop these behaviors, he now secretly makes low-volume sounds in his room when he thinks no one is watching. We were not previously aware that these could be symptoms of an underlying condition.

After studying psychology, I suspect this may be related to a neurodevelopmental disorder (such as autism spectrum disorder or ADHD), though he has not yet been professionally evaluated. I suspected he is ASD level 1 with mild to moderate ADHD.

When I went to the UAE, I thought I’d be able to tolerate the heat. But once the real summer arrived, it became unbearable. That’s when I realized I have zero heat tolerance for such weather. I was sticky, cranky, and angry all the time, with zero interest in anything.

Age and Gender: 28, Male

Preferred Age Range for Prospect: 18–26

Location / Open to Relocating: Currently based in North India. I previously lived in the GCC and moved back to India for personal reasons. InshaAllah, I plan to relocate abroad in the future for permanent settlement.

Ethnicity / Openness: North Indian (specific ethnicity can be shared privately). Open to all ethnicities.

Marital Status: Single, never married, no children.

Ideal Marriage Timeline: Not in a rush; open to the right connection developing naturally.

Five Qualities You Look For: Deen-conscious—not necessarily perfect, but sincere in growing in faith. Family-oriented, emotionally mature, and someone who values traditional gender roles.

Level of Religiosity: Actively trying to improve and grow in deen.

Education: Bachelor’s degree in Business. I chose not to pursue higher education, as I did not see it aligning with my long-term goals.

Current Job Status: Freelancer, currently building my own venture.

Want Kids? InshaAllah, yes.

Three Hobbies / Interests: I enjoy studying psychology, human behavior, and personality patterns—understanding what drives people beneath the surface.

What Makes You Stand Out: I am working toward building a career focused on mental health content for Muslim men. My long-term vision is to achieve financial success, maintain strong physical and mental health, and contribute positively to the deen.

I am a Muslim guy who used to see a male psychologist. I preferred male therapists because being alone with a female one is not permissible in Islam.

But I have noticed that male psychologists are often less competent and show less empathy towards male patients. They seem more helpful, kind, and patient with female patients. I have also read that female psychologists tend to be better at therapy in general. It feels like male therapists are sometimes biased towards other men and do not give their full effort with male clients.

In my area, there are mostly female psychologists. The few male ones do not give much attention and treat male patients differently.

Would it be okay for me to see a female psychologist in this situation? What is the Islamic ruling on this, especially since it would involve being in khalwa (seclusion) with her?

Any advice from brothers who faced something similar would help.

I am a Muslim guy who used to see a male psychologist. I preferred male therapists because being alone with a female one is not permissible in Islam.

But I have noticed that male psychologists are often less competent and show less empathy towards male patients. They seem more helpful, kind, and patient with female patients. I have also read that female psychologists tend to be better at therapy in general. It feels like male therapists are sometimes biased towards other men and do not give their full effort with male clients.

In my area, there are mostly female psychologists. The few male ones do not give much attention and treat male patients differently.

Would it be okay for me to see a female psychologist in this situation? What is the Islamic ruling on this, especially since it would involve being in khalwa (seclusion) with her?

Any advice from brothers who faced something similar would help.

My therapist keeps pushing me to try different breathing exercises every single week. But I just can't stick with them, no matter what. He repeats the same thing over and over: “If you don’t do these, how will you ever feel better? You have to follow through, or you’ll stay stuck like this forever.”

It started to feel like therapy was nothing more than a weekly lecture. I wondered, is that really all there is to it? I’m already very self-aware. If doing these exercises was that simple, I would have done them long ago. At some point, it all began to seem pointless, so I decided to stop going.

I can learn the same breathing tips and mental health advice from Instagram reels and books anyway. What new thing was therapy really offering me?

My therapist keeps pushing me to try different breathing exercises every single week. But I just can't stick with them, no matter what. He repeats the same thing over and over: “If you don’t do these, how will you ever feel better? You have to follow through, or you’ll stay stuck like this forever.”

It started to feel like therapy was nothing more than a weekly lecture. I wondered, is that really all there is to it? I’m already very self-aware. If doing these exercises was that simple, I would have done them long ago. At some point, it all began to seem pointless, so I decided to stop going.

I can learn the same breathing tips and mental health advice from Instagram reels and books anyway. What new thing was therapy really offering me?