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Hey everyone! I'm an international student and I'm new to this, I'm looking for any advice regarding accommodation, I'll be pursuing my master's. Please let me know anything, I'm a clueless 1st generation student.

Thank you so much! Open to sharing too.

Hey everyone! I'm an international student and I'm new to this, I'm looking for any advice regarding accommodation, I'll be pursuing my master's. Please let me know anything, I'm a clueless 1st generation student.

Thank you so much!

Asking here because I get pretty great advice here.

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TL;DR: Recent graduate in an industry research role. Struggled on a difficult project outside my background, had some communication issues with my supervisor, and now feel anxious about my performance. I've been offered a funded master's program abroad (official paperwork pending) and may need to resign soon despite having a 90-day notice period, program starts in 2 months. Should I wait for the official offer before informing my manager, and how can I resign professionally without burning bridges?

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I'm a recent graduate working in an industry research role. When I joined, I was assigned to a project in an area where I had very little prior background. I informed my supervisor of this from the beginning and was told that it was okay and that I could learn as I worked on the project.

Over the past several months, I've been trying to make progress on a difficult research problem. I've spent a lot of time reading literature, implementing ideas, running experiments, and exploring different approaches, but progress has been slower than expected and I haven't produced the kind of results the team hoped for.

Along the way, there have been a few incidents that affected my confidence. Earlier this year, I left work early while unwell and had a disagreement with my supervisor about communication and expectations. There were also concerns raised about responsiveness and workplace habits. At one point I considered asking for a team transfer to the HR.

Later, I had a discussion with my supervisor who reassured me that learning takes time and that I should continue developing my skills. More recently, I directly asked my supervisor how I could improve because I had heard concerns about my performance. She told me that my progress was acceptable for someone at my experience level and encouraged me to continue learning.

Even so, I often feel anxious around my supervisor and worry about making mistakes. Small issues sometimes seem to escalate, and I feel like I'm constantly trying to avoid doing something wrong. I've been called out many times, even though I do the work?

At the same time, I've been applying to master's programs after these incidents. I have recently been informed that I've been selected for a funded master's opportunity abroad that I am very excited about. I'm still waiting for the official paperwork, but if everything goes through, I would likely leave my current job within the next few months.

The complication is that my employment contract has a 90-day notice period. I also have an upcoming meeting with my supervisor and manager to discuss the next phase of work, which is expected to span several months.

My questions are:

1. Should I participate normally in long-term planning discussions even though I may resign soon?

2. Should I wait until I receive the official admission paperwork before telling anyone?

3. How would you handle the 90-day notice period in this situation?

4. From an outside perspective, does this sound like underperformance on my part, or more like a mismatch between expectations, experience level, and management style?

5. What's the most professional way to resign without damaging relationships?

I'm looking for honest feedback, including criticism if you think I've mishandled parts of the situation.

Asking here because I get pretty great advice here.

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TL;DR: Recent graduate in an industry research role. Struggled on a difficult project outside my background, had some communication issues with my supervisor, and now feel anxious about my performance. I've been offered a funded master's program abroad (official paperwork pending) and may need to resign soon despite having a 90-day notice period, program starts in 2 months. Should I wait for the official offer before informing my manager, and how can I resign professionally without burning bridges?

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I'm a recent graduate working in an industry research role. When I joined, I was assigned to a project in an area where I had very little prior background. I informed my supervisor of this from the beginning and was told that it was okay and that I could learn as I worked on the project.

Over the past several months, I've been trying to make progress on a difficult research problem. I've spent a lot of time reading literature, implementing ideas, running experiments, and exploring different approaches, but progress has been slower than expected and I haven't produced the kind of results the team hoped for.

Along the way, there have been a few incidents that affected my confidence. Earlier this year, I left work early while unwell and had a disagreement with my supervisor about communication and expectations. There were also concerns raised about responsiveness and workplace habits. At one point I considered asking for a team transfer to the HR.

Later, I had a discussion with my supervisor who reassured me that learning takes time and that I should continue developing my skills. More recently, I directly asked my supervisor how I could improve because I had heard concerns about my performance. She told me that my progress was acceptable for someone at my experience level and encouraged me to continue learning.

Even so, I often feel anxious around my supervisor and worry about making mistakes. Small issues sometimes seem to escalate, and I feel like I'm constantly trying to avoid doing something wrong. I've been called out many times, even though I do the work?

At the same time, I've been applying to master's programs after these incidents. I have recently been informed that I've been selected for a funded master's opportunity abroad that I am very excited about. I'm still waiting for the official paperwork, but if everything goes through, I would likely leave my current job within the next few months.

The complication is that my employment contract has a 90-day notice period. I also have an upcoming meeting with my supervisor and manager to discuss the next phase of work, which is expected to span several months.

My questions are:

1. Should I participate normally in long-term planning discussions even though I may resign soon?

2. Should I wait until I receive the official admission paperwork before telling anyone?

3. How would you handle the 90-day notice period in this situation?

4. From an outside perspective, does this sound like underperformance on my part, or more like a mismatch between expectations, experience level, and management style?

5. What's the most professional way to resign without damaging relationships?

I'm looking for honest feedback, including criticism if you think I've mishandled parts of the situation.

TL;DR: Recent graduate in an industry research role. Struggled on a difficult project outside my background, had some communication issues with my supervisor, and now feel anxious about my performance. I've been offered a funded master's program abroad (official paperwork pending) and may need to resign soon despite having a 90-day notice period. Should I wait for the official offer before informing my manager, and how can I resign professionally without burning bridges?

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I'm a recent graduate working in an industry research role. When I joined, I was assigned to a project in an area where I had very little prior background. I informed my supervisor of this from the beginning and was told that it was okay and that I could learn as I worked on the project.

Over the past several months, I've been trying to make progress on a difficult research problem. I've spent a lot of time reading literature, implementing ideas, running experiments, and exploring different approaches, but progress has been slower than expected and I haven't produced the kind of results the team hoped for.

Along the way, there have been a few incidents that affected my confidence. Earlier this year, I left work early while unwell and had a disagreement with my supervisor about communication and expectations. There were also concerns raised about responsiveness and workplace habits. At one point I considered asking for a team transfer.

Later, I had a discussion with my manager, who reassured me that learning takes time and that I should continue developing my skills. More recently, I directly asked my supervisor how I could improve because I had heard concerns about my performance. She told me that my progress was acceptable for someone at my experience level and encouraged me to continue learning.

Even so, I often feel anxious around my supervisor and worry about making mistakes. Small issues sometimes seem to escalate, and I feel like I'm constantly trying to avoid doing something wrong.

At the same time, I've been applying to master's programs. I have recently been informed that I've been selected for a funded master's opportunity abroad that I am very excited about. I'm still waiting for the official paperwork, but if everything goes through, I would likely leave my current job within the next few months.

The complication is that my employment contract has a 90-day notice period. I also have an upcoming meeting with my supervisor and manager to discuss the next phase of work, which is expected to span several months.

My questions are:

1. Should I participate normally in long-term planning discussions even though I may resign soon?

2. Should I wait until I receive the official admission paperwork before telling anyone?

3. How would you handle the 90-day notice period in this situation?

4. From an outside perspective, does this sound like underperformance on my part, or more like a mismatch between expectations, experience level, and management style?

5. What's the most professional way to resign without damaging relationships?

I'm looking for honest feedback, including criticism if you think I've mishandled parts of the situation.

TL;DR: Recent graduate in an industry research role. Struggled on a difficult project outside my background, had some communication issues with my supervisor, and now feel anxious about my performance. I've been offered a funded master's program abroad (official paperwork pending) and may need to resign soon despite having a 90-day notice period. Should I wait for the official offer before informing my manager, and how can I resign professionally without burning bridges?

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I'm a recent graduate working in an industry research role. When I joined, I was assigned to a project in an area where I had very little prior background. I informed my supervisor of this from the beginning and was told that it was okay and that I could learn as I worked on the project.

Over the past several months, I've been trying to make progress on a difficult research problem. I've spent a lot of time reading literature, implementing ideas, running experiments, and exploring different approaches, but progress has been slower than expected and I haven't produced the kind of results the team hoped for.

Along the way, there have been a few incidents that affected my confidence. Earlier this year, I left work early while unwell and had a disagreement with my supervisor about communication and expectations. There were also concerns raised about responsiveness and workplace habits. At one point I considered asking for a team transfer.

Later, I had a discussion with my manager, who reassured me that learning takes time and that I should continue developing my skills. More recently, I directly asked my supervisor how I could improve because I had heard concerns about my performance. She told me that my progress was acceptable for someone at my experience level and encouraged me to continue learning.

Even so, I often feel anxious around my supervisor and worry about making mistakes. Small issues sometimes seem to escalate, and I feel like I'm constantly trying to avoid doing something wrong.

At the same time, I've been applying to master's programs. I have recently been informed that I've been selected for a funded master's opportunity abroad that I am very excited about. I'm still waiting for the official paperwork, but if everything goes through, I would likely leave my current job within the next few months.

The complication is that my employment contract has a 90-day notice period. I also have an upcoming meeting with my supervisor and manager to discuss the next phase of work, which is expected to span several months.

My questions are:

1. Should I participate normally in long-term planning discussions even though I may resign soon?

2. Should I wait until I receive the official admission paperwork before telling anyone?

3. How would you handle the 90-day notice period in this situation?

4. From an outside perspective, does this sound like underperformance on my part, or more like a mismatch between expectations, experience level, and management style?

5. What's the most professional way to resign without damaging relationships?

I'm looking for honest feedback, including criticism if you think I've mishandled parts of the situation.

TL;DR: Recent graduate in an industry research role. Struggled on a difficult project outside my background, had some communication issues with my supervisor, and now feel anxious about my performance. I've been offered a funded master's program abroad (official paperwork pending) and may need to resign soon despite having a 90-day notice period. Should I wait for the official offer before informing my manager, and how can I resign professionally without burning bridges?

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I'm a recent graduate working in an industry research role. When I joined, I was assigned to a project in an area where I had very little prior background. I informed my supervisor of this from the beginning and was told that it was okay and that I could learn as I worked on the project.

Over the past several months, I've been trying to make progress on a difficult research problem. I've spent a lot of time reading literature, implementing ideas, running experiments, and exploring different approaches, but progress has been slower than expected and I haven't produced the kind of results the team hoped for.

Along the way, there have been a few incidents that affected my confidence. Earlier this year, I left work early while unwell and had a disagreement with my supervisor about communication and expectations. There were also concerns raised about responsiveness and workplace habits. At one point I considered asking for a team transfer.

Later, I had a discussion with my manager, who reassured me that learning takes time and that I should continue developing my skills. More recently, I directly asked my supervisor how I could improve because I had heard concerns about my performance. She told me that my progress was acceptable for someone at my experience level and encouraged me to continue learning.

Even so, I often feel anxious around my supervisor and worry about making mistakes. Small issues sometimes seem to escalate, and I feel like I'm constantly trying to avoid doing something wrong.

At the same time, I've been applying to master's programs. I have recently been informed that I've been selected for a funded master's opportunity abroad that I am very excited about. I'm still waiting for the official paperwork, but if everything goes through, I would likely leave my current job within the next few months.

The complication is that my employment contract has a 90-day notice period. I also have an upcoming meeting with my supervisor and manager to discuss the next phase of work, which is expected to span several months.

My questions are:

1. Should I participate normally in long-term planning discussions even though I may resign soon?

2. Should I wait until I receive the official admission paperwork before telling anyone?

3. How would you handle the 90-day notice period in this situation?

4. From an outside perspective, does this sound like underperformance on my part, or more like a mismatch between expectations, experience level, and management style?

5. What's the most professional way to resign without damaging relationships?

I'm looking for honest feedback, including criticism if you think I've mishandled parts of the situation.

TLDR

Dating a guy online for 2 months. Got a masters. No reply for 3 days. Was supposed to meet today.

Follow up, or take the silence as my answer?

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Confused

I (23 F) met a guy online about 2 months ago. We talked regularly, got along really well, and I eventually told him I liked him. A few weeks later, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I have never dated and we both have full time jobs.

Throughout this time, we had never actually met in person due to scheduling issues on both sides, but we were finally supposed to meet this weekend. But we did do a lot of video calls.

The complication is that I've been applying for master's programs abroad. He knew this was a possibility, but neither of us knew what would happen. A few days ago, I unexpectedly received a full scholarship for a master's program starting this year.

When I told him, we had a conversation about the future. He said he doesn't really believe in long-distance relationships, especially since we may never end up in the same country. He also said he doesn't want me to feel tied down by him. I never thought that way.

I told him I understood and that communication is what matters to me. He then asked whether I still wanted to continue dating, and I said yes.

After that, I asked whether he still wanted to meet this weekend as originally planned. He never answered that question. It's now been 2–3 days with no response.

I genuinely respect whatever decision he makes. If he doesn't want to meet because he thinks it will make things harder emotionally, I can understand that. What is bothering me is the uncertainty and silence.

Part of me thinks he's taking time to process everything. Another part of me wonders whether the silence is already an answer.

Would you send a follow-up message asking directly whether he still wants to meet, or would you leave it alone and wait? How would you interpret this situation?

Also, am I being unreasonable for feeling hurt by the lack of response, even though the scholarship news changed the circumstances so suddenly?

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I (23 F) met a guy online about 2 months ago. We talked regularly, got along really well, and I eventually told him I liked him. A few weeks later, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I have never dated and we both have full time jobs.

Throughout this time, we had never actually met in person due to scheduling issues on both sides, but we were finally supposed to meet this weekend. But we did do a lot of video calls.

The complication is that I've been applying for master's programs abroad. He knew this was a possibility, but neither of us knew what would happen. A few days ago, I unexpectedly received a full scholarship for a master's program starting this year.

When I told him, we had a conversation about the future. He said he doesn't really believe in long-distance relationships, especially since we may never end up in the same country. He also said he doesn't want me to feel tied down by him. I never thought that way.

I told him I understood and that communication is what matters to me. He then asked whether I still wanted to continue dating, and I said yes.

After that, I asked whether he still wanted to meet this weekend as originally planned. He never answered that question. It's now been 2–3 days with no response.

I genuinely respect whatever decision he makes. If he doesn't want to meet because he thinks it will make things harder emotionally, I can understand that. What is bothering me is the uncertainty and silence.

Part of me thinks he's taking time to process everything. Another part of me wonders whether the silence is already an answer.

Would you send a follow-up message asking directly whether he still wants to meet, or would you leave it alone and wait? How would you interpret this situation?Also, am I being unreasonable for feeling hurt by the lack of response, even though the scholarship news changed the circumstances so suddenly?

I (23 F) met a guy online about 2 months ago. We talked regularly, got along really well, and I eventually told him I liked him. A few weeks later, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I have never dated and we both have full time jobs.

Throughout this time, we had never actually met in person due to scheduling issues on both sides, but we were finally supposed to meet this weekend. But we did do a lot of video calls.

The complication is that I've been applying for master's programs abroad. He knew this was a possibility, but neither of us knew what would happen. A few days ago, I unexpectedly received a full scholarship for a master's program starting this year.

When I told him, we had a conversation about the future. He said he doesn't really believe in long-distance relationships, especially since we may never end up in the same country. He also said he doesn't want me to feel tied down by him. I never thought that way.

I told him I understood and that communication is what matters to me. He then asked whether I still wanted to continue dating, and I said yes.

After that, I asked whether he still wanted to meet this weekend as originally planned. He never answered that question. It's now been 2–3 days with no response.

I genuinely respect whatever decision he makes. If he doesn't want to meet because he thinks it will make things harder emotionally, I can understand that. What is bothering me is the uncertainty and silence.

Part of me thinks he's taking time to process everything. Another part of me wonders whether the silence is already an answer.

Would you send a follow-up message asking directly whether he still wants to meet, or would you leave it alone and wait? How would you interpret this situation?

Also, am I being unreasonable for feeling hurt by the lack of response, even though the scholarship news changed the circumstances so suddenly?

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