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Recently finished making the top part of a blanket and I need semi-fluffy fabric to line the back. How would I get my hands on fabric with the right width? Should I just buy a blanket and sew it on?

I’m not anywhere near the blanket for a while so I can’t say how wide I need it to be but it’s about from my left fingers to my right if I how my arms out (I’m 5”6/ 168cm)

For the longest time I have had a need to label what I went through in 2021-2023 and I would call it human trafficking and psychological torture but loosely since that wasn’t exactly what I went through and it wasn’t a clear enough description. I recently remembered about the TTI and I’m scared to call it that since it wasn’t exactly like the stories I have read from other survivors.

What would you classify as a TTI camp/“boarding school”? I’m just trying to figure out how I got to where I am and trying to unlearn learned helplessness and deal with my ptsd. I hope that having a more clear label would make it easier to talk about it with other people but I want to make sure I’m not mislabeling myself and taking away something from TTI survivors.

Thank you!

I’m not sure if this breaks rule #4 since it had some leeway at the end.

Just got the approval letter from UDI and it says I need to go to a police station to get my picture and fingerprints taken within 7 days of landing but I can’t find a way to make an appointment. Can I just walk in or should I call to make one?

Takk!

I have been learning Ukrainian and I have been practicing reading the Cyrillic letters by writing English words in Ukrainian, from doing that I ended up doodling fish “glub”ing to each other and it so deeply entertaining to me. I wanted to make a more linguisticly diverse school of fish. What other language should I do other than English and Ukrainian and what type of fish/aquatic animal would you like to be paired with it? So far I got a fishly ambiguous fish speaking English and a badly drawn beta fish speaking Ukrainian (ґлоб).

Thank you!

Edit: I’m making a Norwegian eel

It was so peak. I remember she used angle hair pasta, sun dried tomatoes, maybe soy sauce or something similar since the color of the pasta was darker than usual and I think thin green beans. I don't remember much else other than it was SO good. My friends mom used to make it for me whenever I came around and I have been craving it so bad recently. My friend and I lost contact around 5 years ago so I can't ask her for the recipe or what it's even called, I appreciate any help ☺️

I’m so pissed. I have a fear of going to the doctor and I think part of it stems from living in the US and the few days of anxiety waiting for the bill to show up. I completely resist going to the doctor because of it and so does most of my family. The only reason I broke my 5 year long streak was because I was in grueling pain in my abdomen for over 24hrs. I couldn’t eat, sleep, drink, move, anything. I would have gone to the er but I called the nurse hotline thing and they said I could go anywhere as long as it’s in the next 4 hours. I got dropped by my pediatrician because I haven’t been a pediatric for a while but I have never met my new doctor since I refuse all healthcare, I can’t make an appointment with her for a while since I’m a new patient so my options were either the er or urgent care, ofc I would pick urgent care over the er.

I get there and I have to wait 1hr. After denying being pregnant or the possibility, I was told I needed to take a urine sample. I thought they were actually going to check something since it’s an abdominal issue and they want to check everything, I stupidly didn’t ask what it was for since I was in pain and I couldn’t think straight. MY BAD. Apparently they still did a pregnancy test. What else did they test you might ask? NOTHING ELSE. Just the one fucking thing I knew.

I was completely ignored by the doctor and was told “ya you might have gallstones, go to your doctor” during the 7 minutes I had with her. She palpated my stomach, ordered bloodwork, and ASKED if I wanted to be prescribed something that I could get over the counter. I said no and later I found that she prescribed it either way. My sister has gallstones and we were able to brainstorm together and there is no possible way I have it.

I WAS going to try making an appointment with my doctor but I saw my bill a few days ago and I don’t think I’m ever getting medical attention ever again. I have school in August, I have no way to pay medical bills while saving up for school. My bill for bloodwork was $197, luckily insurance covered it in full. Insurance covered $24.22 out of my $630 appointment bill. I need to pay $605.78 now. I really think that a funeral would be maybe less affordable but a one time payment whereas living like this is going to cost more and more money the more the years pass. I can’t keep doing this, I can’t get adequate care because what if I have cancer? What if I need surgery?

The medical tests and possible surgery and/or treatment is going to kill me slower and more painfully than just waiting for whatever is going on in my abdomen to catch up with me and I am realizing that I have to come to terms with that. I am not going to make that appointment or any appointment in the next 100 years and I’m thinking of skipping school this year and wait for next year.

TLDR: My love language is being remembered and my best friend forgets a lot of what I say because she has adhd.

We have been friends for about 5 years. Horrible mix for people, she has adhd and forgets things all the time and my love language is being remembered. She has never remembered a single one of my birthdays and whenever a special day comes up I have to remind her. I wouldn’t be so uptight about it but it really hurts when I have to remind her every time. I wanted her to remember my birthday and remember a recent national holiday I was ecstatic about but every time the day comes around, she completely forgets. When I remind her she even forgets what it is or that I ever spoke about it.

Sometimes I get a little petty and I let the day go by without hinting that something is going on because I want to see if she will eventually remember it but it always leads to me blowing up and crying because I feel forgotten and not cared about. All I wanted was her to at least text “happy birthday!” Or more recently, “happy vyshyvanka day” (I didn’t tell her she missed it yet and it’s what’s leading to me writing this) but she misses it every single time. If I would keep my cool for my birthday I think she would forget that I even have one.

This time, not only did she forget it was vyshyvanka day (Ukrainian national holiday), she forgot what it was although I texted her about it and she texted back replying to almost everything.

I understand she has a hard time remembering things but knowing that makes it so much worse for me. There’s nothing to fix in this situation if it’s because she has adhd, if she were doing it on purpose there would be something to fix. I don’t know what to say to her since she constantly complains and vents about forgetting things outside of our friendship and I don’t want her to feel any worse.

I love her to death but these past few years have put me down in the dumps and I’m just so tired of being left behind. I haven’t ever brought this up since I thought it was obvious because I remember ever little detail of her and I express it constantly. I thought that by now she would have been able to understand that I put more emphasis on remembering than the other people around her.

We haven’t talked for 18 hours and the last thing I said was when I was upset over everything and I snapped a tiny bit. I want to break the silence by telling her but I’m not sure how to since I feel really hurt right now.

How in the actual hell could there only be 5? My number 1 love language is in no way categorizable by any of them. If you can put a word to what you feel, then congrats, you feel that way. You don’t have to be packaged neatly in a box to be understood or loved. Shutting it down to only 5 possible categories is erasing peoples uniqueness and self expression. How can you tell me there are more than 10 people in the entire world and we only have 5 love languages?

I have ex soviet Ukrainian immigrant parents and I am in the process of relearning our culture because of ruzzias colonialism. Is there any phrase said today similar to saying “merry christmas” or “happy new years”? Thank you!

I’m really excited got today even though I haven’t gotten a vyshyvanka yet, I made them cookie part of oreshkis and I’m filling them up in the morning and hanging out with my siblings at a scenic creek nearby. Happy vyshyvanka day!!! Слава Україні!

It's been uncomfortably long and I have called 3 times now to see if something changed but every call leads back into telling me that I need to email them but they never email me back. The one call that worked said it was still in my country and I’m not sure how much time I have left since I will be going to school. I gave this application in a while ago and I am so overwhelmed at the fact that it's either still here or it’s lost.